A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving. ~Lao Tzu
So we all have plans and I learned many years ago that my plans never work out in ways that I expect. So I plan with an eye to the fact that my plans are really and truly only setting a direction not a destination. Over the years I never planned to be an administrator and now, here I am with ten years under my belt as an academic administrator. I never planned to be in my mid-40’s, single and childless but here I am, I did plan to be filthy rich by now and well, I’m not.
We have all heard the expression that it’s not the destination, but the journey that matters. Well, if we want to be happy, we have to live by this expression. We all plan, very rarely do these plans come out exactly the way we plan them to, so if our happiness only depends on reaching a destination and we don’t get there, then we’ll be unhappy. However if we decide to experience the journey and draw our happiness from it, then we can be happy along the way no matter what destination we reach.
So my plans have not worked out as I expected, but I have an amazing life. I may not have ever married or had children, but because my life is relatively unfettered I’ve traveled around the world and had the most amazing experiences. I was able to take off of work for eight months last year and travel to Europe, Asia and across America. I never planned on being an administrator but am currently on the edge of an opportunity as an administrator that may lead to a very lucrative job in Shanghai. That opportunity will be a significant fork in the road and decisions of this magnitude are always intimidating and filled with stress. However, whichever fork I choose, I sure it will be a heck of a trip and I’ll be smiling all the way.
So today’s message is pretty obvious, stop worrying about the destination, take a moment and understand the journey you’re on and enjoy it. Have a happy day my friends.