Happiness Resources from Positive Psychology

Happiness Resources from Positive Psychology

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Positivity is the key!

Managing expectations can make you happier http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-brain-work/200911/not-so-great-expectations

Action for Happiness, an interesting site on changing the world for the better  http://www.actionforhappiness.org/

Who knew, Huffington Post has a happiness section?!  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/news/happiness

A scientific experiment Tracking your Happiness  http://www.trackyourhappiness.org/

The benefits of curiosity  http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200608/cultivating-curiosity

Finally a little humor, happiness and laughing  http://www.happinessandlaughter.com/

Have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

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A Slower Pace of Life can Make You Happy

A Slower Pace of Life can Make You Happy

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Rev Kane relaxing in the arctic snow flurries

Slow down and enjoy life.  It’s not only the scenery you miss by going to fast –  you also miss the sense of where you are going and why. ~ Eddie Cantor

Tonight I want to talk about slowing down the pace of your life.  As I’ve been writing about the past few weeks I went through a bit of a rough patch lately.  I’ve talked many times about the process I take when I’m out of sorts.  Getting the basics (sleep, eating, exercise) in order, doing more writing, strengthening good social connections.  All of these things are important but tonight I want to focus on slowing down.  I’m someone who has a very clear sense of his mortality, I’m under no illusion that I’m guaranteed next year, next week or even tomorrow morning.  I try to follow Taoist philosophy in the context of life, planning for the future but living for the day.  It’s hard, the concept of the end of life is such a powerful fear for most of us that our minds refuse to consider it.  We always think there will be enough  time for us to do all of the things we want to do.

Understanding, truly understanding in a conscious way that there won’t necessarily be time puts a special kind of pressure on me.  I’ve really started to feel that I don’t want to waste a minute of this gift of life that I’ve been given.  The upside, it focuses you, makes you make choices that are more full of value.  Not just social value but personal value as well.  The downside for me is that it can also send Jack down the dull boy road.  You see it’s all too easy for me to get locked into the to do list of things I want/need to get done.  Working on my next book, keeping the blog current, building my social media networks, working out, marketing for my current book Appalachian Trail Happiness.

Of course, what you don’t see in that list is just relax and have some fun.  I enjoy the things on the list, but when you feel pushed it can all start to feel a little too much like a job.  So what do you do?

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Rev Kane in the Antelope Poppy Reserve

Steps to a slower pace of life

The first thing is the simplest, the easiest to do and the one that escapes our mind the quickest, just breathe.  I mean that literally, of course your breathing, but you’re not breathing correctly, and by that I mean taking deep slow breaths.  Deep breathing benefits include lowering blood pressure, relaxing you and helping clear your mind.  Just taking several small breaks each day to do a couple of minutes of deep belly breathing can pay more benefits than you would expect.  A big one, it helps create that slower pace of life by getting you to clear your head and give you space to think, instead of just doing all of the time.

A site I reference often, Zenhabits.com has some great tips on a piece about slowing down the pace of your life and they include:

  1. Do less
  2. Be present
  3. Disconnect
  4. Focus on people
  5. Appreciate nature
  6. Eat slower
  7. Drive slower
  8. Find pleasure in anything
  9. Single task
  10. Breathe

A lot of these suggestions depend on a single idea, consciously deciding to have a slower pace of life.  The proverbial stop and smell the roses if you will.  This was something I really experienced on my Appalachian Trail hike.  When you are simply walking every day, things slow down, the days get longer and life just moves along at a really amazing pace that just seems more right than the pace we normally live at.

How slowing down can make you happy

As I mentioned above, being out of sorts I work on the basics, I did that.  I had some things that were bothering my mind and I worked through a number of them.  I also got some things off of my to do list that were putting some pressure on me.  But this pace thing has been on my mind and I knew slowing down can make me happy, so I’ve been trying.  So what have I been doing?

Well first off, because it’s summer I work 10 hour days and get Fridays off.  I’ve also recently moved someplace where I have a pool.  Given that our summers here in the Mojave Desert give us temperatures that daily range over a hundred degrees I decided to make use of the pool on Fridays.  Now being the second whitest man in America and having recently shaved my head, baking in the sun is not really an option.  So I scoped out the pull and realized that around 4PM each day the sun starts to dip behind some trees near the pool and by 6PM the entire pool is bathed in glorious shade.  So I bought a couple of pool noodles and each Friday afternoon (well two in a row so far) I take my noodles and trod over to the pool.  The pool is really quiet, I have had it to myself each time and I purposefully leave my phone at the apartment.  I do a couple of lazy laps when I first get in but quickly I slide up on the noodles, lay back and just float.  I spend anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour like a napping whale in the ocean just letting the wind blow me around the pool.  I then get out and lay in the shade, it usually only takes about twenty minutes to completely dry out and start to get warm.  Going back to the house I feel incredibly relaxed.  It’s a combination of not just taking the downtime, but of also unplugging from all of my communications for an hour or so.  No email, no Facebook notifications or marketing calls are able to interrupt that time.  During that time I find myself naturally falling into deep belly breathes, a good sign that I’m truly relaxing.

There are other small things I’ve been doing as well.  I’m one of those people who eats at his desk while answering emails.  I’ve pushed myself to stop that, I’m not perfect, I’m still eating at my desk but I take the time to at least look at something not stressful on the web, a good science article, or video on hiking, a fellow hiking friend Darwin has some great ones through his site Darwin on the trail, check it out.  I’ve been taking some breathing breaks and trying like hell to single task but my job doesn’t always allow that to happen.  These are things that any of us can do, I’m also just trying to have some stupid fun and even just chill out and watch a movie here or there without being on my computer at the same time.  It all seems to be helping and definitely I’ve been feeling happier over the last couple of weeks.

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A slower pace of life can make you happy

So remember my friends, a slower pace of life can make you happy and that’s worth the effort.  So be calm, take a breath and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness Questions – Part 1

Happiness Questions – Part 1

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Yes they are!

My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it’s on your plate.  ~ Thornton Wilder

In dancing around the internet to find something to post tonight I came across the site linked below:

http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/life-on-purpose-15-questions-to-discover-your-personal-mission/

The author includes a great story about how she came around to figuring out what gave her life purpose and what made her happy in life.  During this discussion she listed the 15 questions below to ask yourself to help you consider how to live a happier life, I really like them so here they are, tomorrow I’ll share my own answers, enjoy and of course, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

15 Questions:

1. What makes you smile? (Activities, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)

2. What are your favorite things to do in the past? What about now?

3. What activities make you lose track of time?

4. What makes you feel great about yourself?

5. Who inspires you most? (Anyone you know or do not know. Family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you, in each person?

6. What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)

7. What do people typically ask you for help in?

8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?

9. What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?

10. You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you’ve developed; what matters to you most? List them out.

11. What are your deepest values?

12. What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?

13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?

14. If you could get a message across to a large group of people. Who would those people be? What would your message be?

15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute? ( to people, beings, causes, organization, environment, planet, etc.)

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Happiness and Dancing

Happiness and Dancing

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Bliss Dancing

And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music  ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Today let’s not talk about deep things, lets talk about happiness while dancing through simplicity, life can be all too complicated.  Even our search for happiness can be complicated, we can over think things, read too many books, listen to too many people in blogs spouting off about happiness.

So today do something simple and easy to make you happy.  Steal a few minutes and eat a cupcake or take a quiet moment and drink in the sunset.  Turn up the music in the car and sing like crazy, or play air guitar at traffic lights or dance.  If you can truly dance unbridled you can’t be sad, lost in the movement and the moment and the music nothing else can matter, a few minutes of unrestricted happiness can be yours.  We all know this quote and we all know it because it states the simple truth we’re talking about today.

You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth

~ William W. Purkey

And as always, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Kahlil Gibran on Pain

Kahlil Gibran on Pain

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Khalil Gibran

Happiness is found in truth and the truth of life is that sometimes we feel pain, I only wish I could express this the way the master Kahlil Gibran did, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

On Pain

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses
your understanding.

Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its
heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.

And could you keep your heart in wonder at the
daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem
less wondrous than your joy;

And you would accept the seasons of your heart,
even as you have always accepted the seasons that
pass over your fields.

And you would watch with serenity through the
winters of your grief.

Much of your pain is self-chosen.

It is the bitter potion by which the physician within
you heals your sick self.

Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy
in silence and tranquility:

For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by
the tender hand of the Unseen,

And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has
been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has
moistened with His own sacred tears.

Khalil Gibran

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Over Coming Demons to Be Happy

Overcoming Demons to Be Happy

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Rev Kane in his first year at Burning Man

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encompasses your understanding ~ Kahlil Gibran

Overcoming Demons

Today is a very special day for me my friends, it’s an anniversary for me, a pretty significant one, it’s the anniversary of the beginning of  me overcoming demons and finding a way to be happy.  You see today I have been clean and sober for 33 years, clean and sober in the photo above as well, just because I’m not loaded anymore doesn’t mean I’m boring.  This also should go a way to dispelling the idea that everyone at Burning Man is on drugs.

I want to be very clear, I was never a physiological alcoholic or addict, I’m fortunate in that respect.  My addiction was purely psychological, I was using drugs and alcohol as a way to escape from my life.  Becoming clean and sober means I climbed a hill, but nothing compared to the hill millions of physiologic alcoholics and addicts climb every day.  My struggle was initially hard but in many ways it’s over, for them, they climb that same hill over and over, day after day and they always will.  I have more respect for addicts and alcoholics in recovery than I can ever convey.

For me my thirty-year anniversary means that I’m no longer loaded day after day as I was from around October 1982 until June of 1984.  I have not been perfect in my thirty-years, I’ve been drunk from time to time, I have the occasional drink, I even had some mushrooms one night a couple of years ago and fittingly ended up on a very bad trip.  But, I don’t feel the need and most importantly when I’m angry, upset or sad my first thought is not to get drunk or loaded.   I have to admit to still wanting to do hallucinogens, I do miss them but it always seemed to me it needed to be an all or nothing sort of decision.  Recently, I’ve started to consider that I might have to lift that particular prohibition once I turn 60 should I be fortunate to live that long.

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The time to be happy is now

As I have shared in another post, recently a friend from high school who I hadn’t seen since graduation said to me, I’m glad you can be happy now.  I wasn’t happy in high school, hell I hadn’t been happy for sometime at that point in my life.  Something almost no one knows, when I was 15 I pointed a loaded shotgun at my chest and tried to pull the trigger, I couldn’t.  So I went on living fairly miserably, then once I left home and went to college I was fully able to escape in every sense of the world.  My choice of vehicle was initially booze and then I moved on to marijuana and LSD.  One unfortunate night I even did PCP by accident, a joint had been laced, it was a very crazy night.

To be a bit of a cliché my life spiraled, I got kicked out of college, faced the embarrassment of returning home a failure.  Suffered some pretty heavy psychological abuse from myself and others and eventually squarely hit rock bottom.  It was at that point that I realized how lucky I was, I wasn’t dead, I had a chance to change my life.

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Yes it does

Finding a way to be happy

After hitting rock bottom, the first part of the journey was of course self-analysis.  I’ve always envisioned my inner self as a brick house and I ripped it to the ground and took each and every brick and decided whether or not to keep it.  The process took months and on the other side of that process I started rebuilding my life.  I went back to college and have been moving forward ever since.  The slowest part of that process was finding a way to be happy.  I’ve suffered a lot of emotional ups and downs over the years and some pretty hard bouts of depression.  The best tool I found for myself was to write, I began writing about my thoughts and feelings, found my way eventually into writing poetry and it was in poems that I was finally able to really release the energy, the negative energy I held inside me.

It was still a few more years before I started really looking at the idea of happiness and the field of positive psychology.  The final step in this process for me my friends was the creation of the Ministry of Happiness and the Church of Abnormal Acceptance.  So you see my friends you are doing just as much for me, as hopefully I am for you.  It’s my anniversary of me overcoming demons to be happy and I’m proud of the ground I have covered but it has become far more important for me to help others cover that same ground.  So extend a hand and I’ll do my best to help you have a happy day my friends, and I do it in gratitude because helping others in the end, helps me. ~ Rev Kane

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Rev Kane making friends in Nepal

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Believe in Yourself and Be Happy

Believe in Yourself and Be Happy

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Believe in Yourself

Believe in yourself!  Have faith in your abilities!  Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you can’t be happy or successful ~ Norman Vincent Peale

I’ve been trying to be more active on Twitter, in addition to the retweets I typically do I’ve been posting out some of my own quotes.  Little bits of advice or wisdom or things I’ve written that I feel are worth quoting.  Last night I wrote this, I know you’re scared, I know you don’t think you can do it, but I believe you, you got this.

I wrote it as much for myself as others.  I think that in order to be happy, you have to believe in yourself.  You have to develop the confidence that you can accomplish the things you want to accomplish.  How do you do that?  Well, first it helps to do little things that you can accomplish that will help build up your confidence and your feeling of accomplishment. Then  you have to push yourself, in order to be happy I have always believed you have to stretch yourself and get out of your comfort zone.

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Do something that scares you and be happy

One of my favorite quotes is by Joe Vitale, your goals should scare you a little, and excite you a lot.  I really believe to be happy you must have goals that do this.  Most of you who are regular readers of this blog know that I’ve become a fairly accomplished long-distance hike.  I’ve walked across Scotland, done a trek to Base Camp on Mt. Everest and most recently I did a 1000 miles on the Appalachian Trail.

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Rev Kane on the Appalachian Trail at the Tennessee border.

Hiking can help you believe in yourself

I’ve always been a day hiker and had even done some impressive day hikes to difficult locations and over long, single day distances.  But when I was about to turn 45 I had decided to do something bigger.  I became enamored with the idea of going to Base Camp on Mt. Everest.  This meant a 22 day supported trek in the Himalayas, where I would spend 14 days over 14000 feet.  Prior to that trip I had never been higher than 12,000 and that was being a tourist in Lhasa, Tibet not a hiker with a pack on.  So following what I talked about, I needed to do something to build my confidence.  Working out in the gym and doing some day hikes was a given.  But step two for me was to spend some time in Bryce Canyon National Park, 3 months to be exact, I’m fortunate my family has a cabin near the park.  I spent my time there doing day hikes, many at 8000 feet and once a week hiking up on Bryan Head Mountain at 10000 feet.  So I started to feel better about hiking consistently day in and day out as well as hiking at altitude.  Not quite the altitude I would be at, but higher than I had previously hiked.

Next, since I’d never done a true long-distance hike, I went off to Scotland to do a 7 day hut to hut hike in Scotland.  The huts were BnBs, so not exactly roughing it, but similar to the hike would be in Nepal.  The next jump was of course to head off to the Himalayas.  The trek went incredibly well, I spent an amazing time in the Himalayas an absolutely bucket list worthy trip of a lifetime.

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Rev Kane and a hiking friend

Believe in yourself and you can do anything

After the success of my trip to the Himalayas and with my impending 50th birthday I had even bigger plans.  I decided  I would thru-hike the Appalachian Trial, a nearly 2200 mile, 6 month, unsupported hike.  One of the big secrets I told no one before heading out, was that in fact, I had never done an unsupported, multi-day backtracking trip before.  I had built my confidence in Utah, Scotland and Nepal but I was still afraid.  Doing anything like this for the first time will truly scare the hell out of you, that’s how you know you’re pushing outside your comfort zone.  One of my primary goals for the hike was also that I would attempt to write a book, again something I’ve always wanted to do that scared me. I’ve posted plenty here on the blog about that trip and if you want to read about the whole adventure, I did write that book, Appalachian Trail Happiness, and you can get all of the details there.

Be Happy

So to come full circle to where I started this piece.  My evolution from occasional day hiker to occasional long-distance hiker, having now hiked all over the world, should be proof of concept.  I’m over 50, over weight and have bad knees, yet starting at the age of 40 I transformed what and how I hiked.  I have found that adventure, travel and getting out of your comfort zone is a way to be happy.  First, believe in yourself, create some small success and then take a chance.  I believe in you, you got this and I know you’ll have many happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

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How to Change to Be Happy

How to Change to Be Happy

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Be happy for this moment, for this moment is your life ~ Omar Khayyam

Well tonight my friends I want to talk about what I always talk about, how to be happy.  Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been in a bit of a funk, and as I’ve often talked about during those times it is important to go back to the basics.  Are you eating right, sleeping, exercising and do you feel safe.  So as usual, I checked off the boxes and this time things really didn’t improve at all.  You hope after you make a change like that you will quickly be happy again, or at least happier and in a better place.

When the basics fail it means there is something else working on your mood and for me that was true.  I have something deeply personal weighing on my mind, something I’m not quite sure how to deal with, but something that shouldn’t have the impact on my mood that it is having.  That also is telling, you see when things are good, and the basics are in order you have resilience.   The definition of resilience, using less impressive vocabulary, is that  you have a buffer to your mood.  You can take some bumps and bruises and because of this buffer, your emotional reserve, you can handle the bumps and bruises and still be happy.  So, even though I’m doing some deeper mental work on myself, I should be doing better, obviously I hadn’t isolated the problem.

Part of what I came to realize was that I’ve had a real lack of any kind of downtime or relaxation lately.  Although I do well in social situations I truly am an introvert.  An introvert. Being an introvert, the way I charge my batteries is with time alone, time to think and write and not be drained by dealing with people.  I don’t get drained by the one on one good conversation dealings with people, but the general small talk, business interactions that we all have at work.  So what to do?

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The wisdom of change

Change

So what’s necessary to a time like this is to make some change and break the routine.  So one change that I’ve obviously just made was to shave my head.  And please, people, I’m not recommending everyone go out and shave their head or even radically alter their appearance.  This was actually something that I had planned on doing for months but was just waiting for the right time.  I do have to admit though, it’s impossible not to feel the change completely and totally every time I walk by a reflective surface.  I come to calling myself the space monkey, after a line in the movie Fightclub.

But I have made changes, I tweaked the way I’m working a little bit.  I’ve pushed myself to find opportunities for kindness like shuttling some hikers back to the Pacific Crest Trail (PCT) whenever I can make it happen. Most importantly I’ve been finding little ways right now to just, stop, rest and be happy for a few minutes.

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Moving forward to be happy

One of the other things I’m doing right now is trying to stay mindful of the present but keeping my eye on the prize.  Basically trying to do things where I’ll be happy but preparing and spending some time thinking about my next big adventure which is less than 2 years away.

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Do something that scares you and be happy

Comfort Zone

Finally tonight I want to talk about something that I’m not doing nearly enough of these days and that is getting out of my comfort zone.  I see a quote often on Twitter than says do something that scares you every single day.  I love that idea, I fail miserably at it, but what I know is that in my life, every single time I’ve pushed past my comfort zone and done something that scared me, I’ve gained great rewards.  Rewards in the sense of accomplishment or a hell of a lesson.  I’ve learned so much about myself when I’ve done that.  When I set off on the Appalachian Trail two years ago to attempt a 2200 mile thru-hike I had never done anything like that.  It taught me so much, I wrote a book about it Appalachian Trail Happiness.  But we don’t have to do big things that scare us, even the little things pay dividends.  Going up and talking to that person you’ve always wanted to.  Speaking up in a meeting and putting your ideas forward when you’re usually silent.  Doing things out of the ordinary and out of your comfort zone, more often than not, produce interesting and positive results.

So take a chance today, be happy, and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happiness Questions – Part 2 (My answers)

Happiness QuestionsPart 2

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Opus is a happy critter

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.  ~ Mahatma Gandhi

So as promised here are my answers to my post Happiness Questions – Part 1, this a great activity it really makes you go down deep, I highly recommend it but a little warning, it will give you pause about what you are currently doing with your life, have a happy day.  ~ Rev Kane

 

15 Questions

 1. What makes you smile? (Activities, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)

Children playing and laughing, writing, music, photography.

2. What are your favorite things to do in the past? What about now?

Traveling, sitting and thinking, being in the water, bicycling

3. What activities make you lose track of time?

Thinking, writing, bicycling, photography

4. What makes you feel great about yourself?

Using what I know to help other people, teaching, testing myself, experiencing new things

5. Who inspires you most? (Anyone you know or do not know. Family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you, in each person?

Charles Bukowski for writing on his own terms, My friend we call Steve for all she’s accomplished

6. What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)

I think very quickly, solve problems well, can talk my way into or out of anything, reading people, teaching, public speaking

7. What do people typically ask you for help in?

Just about everything

8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?

Science

9. What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?

I would regret not having traveled, learned other languages, creating a little home/farm, having gone into space

10. You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you’ve developed; what matters to you most? List them out.

The things I’ve experienced, the ways I’ve helped my selected family, particularly my nieces and nephews.

11. What are your deepest values?

Honesty, fairness, trying to see the world for what it is, self-reliance

12. What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?

Lack of confidence, financial difficulties, addiction – I overcame them with honest self-reflection and hard work

13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?

Sustainability, a social safety net for society, creating happiness

14. If you could get a message across to a large group of people. Who would those people be? What would your message be?

Decision makers then the world, consider the long-term implications of your actions, act as if to leave no trace.

15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute? ( to people, beings, causes, organization, environment, planet, etc.)

Teaching people, groups, organizations about sustainability & happiness in their lives.

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Books for your Summer Reading List 2017

Books for your Summer Reading List 2017

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Summer is Beach Reading Season

Tonight a little post to help you find books for your summer reading list.  The focus for the list is books that aren’t too deep, about interesting topics and not too long, basically brain candy reading for the hot, sweet days of summer, while you’re relaxing on vacation, enjoy.

Nothing brings you more happiness than reading books on the beach in the summer.

Summer Reading Books

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Borne by Jeff Vandermeer

Borne – Rachel, a postapocalyptic scavenger who finds the improbably sentient and mutable creature—who “smelled of beach reeds on lazy summer afternoons and, beneath the sea salt, of passionflowers”—while picking through the fur of the gargantuan flying bear that terrorizes her devastated city. And then things start to get weird.

Full Wolf Moon – By one of the authors of Relic, a little paranormal mystery book featuring the character paranormal investigator Jeremy Logan.  Add to that a cool location, Werewolves in the Adirondacks.

Books on Happiness

Appalachian Trail Happiness – This book comes in at less than a hundred pages and is a nice light book about hiking the Appalachian Trail.  As one of the comments say on Amazon, this book is like a great conversation with the author telling stories about the trail.

Appalachian Trail, adventure, travel, happiness

Find happiness walking on the Appalachian Trail

Potlikker Papers: A Food History of the Modern South – A book that tells stories about the culture of the south through food.  Stories including dinners cooked for civil rights leaders to the fast booms in the south, brain candy and it will make you hungry.

Books about Love

How to Fall in Love with Anyone – Mandy Len Catron provided everyone with their new favorite date-night opener in her viral New York Times piece “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.” Is it possible to create the conditions for romance armed only with 36 questions devised by a psychologist? (Try it, and let us know.) Now, Catron expands upon the themes of love and relationships in a collection of essays destined to provide more conversational fodder.

Sex and Rage – Originally published in 1979, Sex and Rage paints with Babitz’s signature hues: Los Angeles sky blue, jacaranda mauve, and cocktail pink. Its protagonist, the aimless Jacaranda, shares with her creator a bicoastal range, languid ambition, and a talent for passion.

Uplifting Books

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Waking Land

The Waking Land – Bates’s debut is the first book in a planned trilogy about a young woman who can call on the magical powers of nature.  Bates has built an extraordinary world with terrific characters in this unique new fantasy.

Reading with Patrick: A Teacher, A Student and a Life-changing Relationship – In 2004, Michelle Kuo moved to the Mississippi Delta to teach at a school in one of the poorest counties in the U.S. There she met a young man named Patrick. Patrick was thoughtful, motivated, and loved learning — he was only hampered by opportunity. Kuo worked with him until she moved away to attend law school. After learning that Patrick was in jail for murder, she moved back to work with him again. This is a story about the power of books; the issues of race, justice, and poverty; and the endurance of hope and connection. Kuo’s book is an honest and touching memoir.

Other Summer Reading Lists to check out

Washington Post’s List

Harper’s Bazaar List

JP Morgan Summer Reading List

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