Happiness and Dancing

Happiness and Dancing

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Bliss Dancing

And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music  ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Today let’s not talk about deep things, lets talk about happiness while dancing through simplicity, life can be all too complicated.  Even our search for happiness can be complicated, we can over think things, read too many books, listen to too many people in blogs spouting off about happiness.

So today do something simple and easy to make you happy.  Steal a few minutes and eat a cupcake or take a quiet moment and drink in the sunset.  Turn up the music in the car and sing like crazy, or play air guitar at traffic lights or dance.  If you can truly dance unbridled you can’t be sad, lost in the movement and the moment and the music nothing else can matter, a few minutes of unrestricted happiness can be yours.  We all know this quote and we all know it because it states the simple truth we’re talking about today.

You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth

~ William W. Purkey

And as always, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is the wisdom of dogs

We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once  ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

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Over Coming Demons to Be Happy

Overcoming Demons to Be Happy

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Rev Kane in his first year at Burning Man

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encompasses your understanding ~ Kahlil Gibran

Overcoming Demons

Today is a very special day for me my friends, it’s an anniversary for me, a pretty significant one, it’s the anniversary of the beginning of  me overcoming demons and finding a way to be happy.  You see today I have been clean and sober for 33 years, clean and sober in the photo above as well, just because I’m not loaded anymore doesn’t mean I’m boring.  This also should go a way to dispelling the idea that everyone at Burning Man is on drugs.

I want to be very clear, I was never a physiological alcoholic or addict, I’m fortunate in that respect.  My addiction was purely psychological, I was using drugs and alcohol as a way to escape from my life.  Becoming clean and sober means I climbed a hill, but nothing compared to the hill millions of physiologic alcoholics and addicts climb every day.  My struggle was initially hard but in many ways it’s over, for them, they climb that same hill over and over, day after day and they always will.  I have more respect for addicts and alcoholics in recovery than I can ever convey.

For me my thirty-year anniversary means that I’m no longer loaded day after day as I was from around October 1982 until June of 1984.  I have not been perfect in my thirty-years, I’ve been drunk from time to time, I have the occasional drink, I even had some mushrooms one night a couple of years ago and fittingly ended up on a very bad trip.  But, I don’t feel the need and most importantly when I’m angry, upset or sad my first thought is not to get drunk or loaded.   I have to admit to still wanting to do hallucinogens, I do miss them but it always seemed to me it needed to be an all or nothing sort of decision.  Recently, I’ve started to consider that I might have to lift that particular prohibition once I turn 60 should I be fortunate to live that long.

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The time to be happy is now

As I have shared in another post, recently a friend from high school who I hadn’t seen since graduation said to me, I’m glad you can be happy now.  I wasn’t happy in high school, hell I hadn’t been happy for sometime at that point in my life.  Something almost no one knows, when I was 15 I pointed a loaded shotgun at my chest and tried to pull the trigger, I couldn’t.  So I went on living fairly miserably, then once I left home and went to college I was fully able to escape in every sense of the world.  My choice of vehicle was initially booze and then I moved on to marijuana and LSD.  One unfortunate night I even did PCP by accident, a joint had been laced, it was a very crazy night.

To be a bit of a cliché my life spiraled, I got kicked out of college, faced the embarrassment of returning home a failure.  Suffered some pretty heavy psychological abuse from myself and others and eventually squarely hit rock bottom.  It was at that point that I realized how lucky I was, I wasn’t dead, I had a chance to change my life.

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Yes it does

Finding a way to be happy

After hitting rock bottom, the first part of the journey was of course self-analysis.  I’ve always envisioned my inner self as a brick house and I ripped it to the ground and took each and every brick and decided whether or not to keep it.  The process took months and on the other side of that process I started rebuilding my life.  I went back to college and have been moving forward ever since.  The slowest part of that process was finding a way to be happy.  I’ve suffered a lot of emotional ups and downs over the years and some pretty hard bouts of depression.  The best tool I found for myself was to write, I began writing about my thoughts and feelings, found my way eventually into writing poetry and it was in poems that I was finally able to really release the energy, the negative energy I held inside me.

It was still a few more years before I started really looking at the idea of happiness and the field of positive psychology.  The final step in this process for me my friends was the creation of the Ministry of Happiness and the Church of Abnormal Acceptance.  So you see my friends you are doing just as much for me, as hopefully I am for you.  It’s my anniversary of me overcoming demons to be happy and I’m proud of the ground I have covered but it has become far more important for me to help others cover that same ground.  So extend a hand and I’ll do my best to help you have a happy day my friends, and I do it in gratitude because helping others in the end, helps me. ~ Rev Kane

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Rev Kane making friends in Nepal

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Believe in Yourself and Be Happy

How to Change to Be Happy

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Believe in Yourself and Be Happy

Believe in Yourself and Be Happy

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Believe in Yourself

Believe in yourself!  Have faith in your abilities!  Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you can’t be happy or successful ~ Norman Vincent Peale

I’ve been trying to be more active on Twitter, in addition to the retweets I typically do I’ve been posting out some of my own quotes.  Little bits of advice or wisdom or things I’ve written that I feel are worth quoting.  Last night I wrote this, I know you’re scared, I know you don’t think you can do it, but I believe you, you got this.

I wrote it as much for myself as others.  I think that in order to be happy, you have to believe in yourself.  You have to develop the confidence that you can accomplish the things you want to accomplish.  How do you do that?  Well, first it helps to do little things that you can accomplish that will help build up your confidence and your feeling of accomplishment. Then  you have to push yourself, in order to be happy I have always believed you have to stretch yourself and get out of your comfort zone.

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Do something that scares you and be happy

One of my favorite quotes is by Joe Vitale, your goals should scare you a little, and excite you a lot.  I really believe to be happy you must have goals that do this.  Most of you who are regular readers of this blog know that I’ve become a fairly accomplished long-distance hike.  I’ve walked across Scotland, done a trek to Base Camp on Mt. Everest and most recently I did a 1000 miles on the Appalachian Trail.

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Rev Kane on the Appalachian Trail at the Tennessee border.

Hiking can help you believe in yourself

I’ve always been a day hiker and had even done some impressive day hikes to difficult locations and over long, single day distances.  But when I was about to turn 45 I had decided to do something bigger.  I became enamored with the idea of going to Base Camp on Mt. Everest.  This meant a 22 day supported trek in the Himalayas, where I would spend 14 days over 14000 feet.  Prior to that trip I had never been higher than 12,000 and that was being a tourist in Lhasa, Tibet not a hiker with a pack on.  So following what I talked about, I needed to do something to build my confidence.  Working out in the gym and doing some day hikes was a given.  But step two for me was to spend some time in Bryce Canyon National Park, 3 months to be exact, I’m fortunate my family has a cabin near the park.  I spent my time there doing day hikes, many at 8000 feet and once a week hiking up on Bryan Head Mountain at 10000 feet.  So I started to feel better about hiking consistently day in and day out as well as hiking at altitude.  Not quite the altitude I would be at, but higher than I had previously hiked.

Next, since I’d never done a true long-distance hike, I went off to Scotland to do a 7 day hut to hut hike in Scotland.  The huts were BnBs, so not exactly roughing it, but similar to the hike would be in Nepal.  The next jump was of course to head off to the Himalayas.  The trek went incredibly well, I spent an amazing time in the Himalayas an absolutely bucket list worthy trip of a lifetime.

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Rev Kane and a hiking friend

Believe in yourself and you can do anything

After the success of my trip to the Himalayas and with my impending 50th birthday I had even bigger plans.  I decided  I would thru-hike the Appalachian Trial, a nearly 2200 mile, 6 month, unsupported hike.  One of the big secrets I told no one before heading out, was that in fact, I had never done an unsupported, multi-day backtracking trip before.  I had built my confidence in Utah, Scotland and Nepal but I was still afraid.  Doing anything like this for the first time will truly scare the hell out of you, that’s how you know you’re pushing outside your comfort zone.  One of my primary goals for the hike was also that I would attempt to write a book, again something I’ve always wanted to do that scared me. I’ve posted plenty here on the blog about that trip and if you want to read about the whole adventure, I did write that book, Appalachian Trail Happiness, and you can get all of the details there.

Be Happy

So to come full circle to where I started this piece.  My evolution from occasional day hiker to occasional long-distance hiker, having now hiked all over the world, should be proof of concept.  I’m over 50, over weight and have bad knees, yet starting at the age of 40 I transformed what and how I hiked.  I have found that adventure, travel and getting out of your comfort zone is a way to be happy.  First, believe in yourself, create some small success and then take a chance.  I believe in you, you got this and I know you’ll have many happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

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My Polar Bear Adventure

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Don’t be Afraid to be Happy

 

 

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How to Change to Be Happy

How to Change to Be Happy

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Trying to be happy, Rev Kane sporting his new hairdo

Be happy for this moment, for this moment is your life ~ Omar Khayyam

Well tonight my friends I want to talk about what I always talk about, how to be happy.  Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been in a bit of a funk, and as I’ve often talked about during those times it is important to go back to the basics.  Are you eating right, sleeping, exercising and do you feel safe.  So as usual, I checked off the boxes and this time things really didn’t improve at all.  You hope after you make a change like that you will quickly be happy again, or at least happier and in a better place.

When the basics fail it means there is something else working on your mood and for me that was true.  I have something deeply personal weighing on my mind, something I’m not quite sure how to deal with, but something that shouldn’t have the impact on my mood that it is having.  That also is telling, you see when things are good, and the basics are in order you have resilience.   The definition of resilience, using less impressive vocabulary, is that  you have a buffer to your mood.  You can take some bumps and bruises and because of this buffer, your emotional reserve, you can handle the bumps and bruises and still be happy.  So, even though I’m doing some deeper mental work on myself, I should be doing better, obviously I hadn’t isolated the problem.

Part of what I came to realize was that I’ve had a real lack of any kind of downtime or relaxation lately.  Although I do well in social situations I truly am an introvert.  An introvert. Being an introvert, the way I charge my batteries is with time alone, time to think and write and not be drained by dealing with people.  I don’t get drained by the one on one good conversation dealings with people, but the general small talk, business interactions that we all have at work.  So what to do?

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The wisdom of change

Change

So what’s necessary to a time like this is to make some change and break the routine.  So one change that I’ve obviously just made was to shave my head.  And please, people, I’m not recommending everyone go out and shave their head or even radically alter their appearance.  This was actually something that I had planned on doing for months but was just waiting for the right time.  I do have to admit though, it’s impossible not to feel the change completely and totally every time I walk by a reflective surface.  I come to calling myself the space monkey, after a line in the movie Fightclub.

But I have made changes, I tweaked the way I’m working a little bit.  I’ve pushed myself to find opportunities for kindness like shuttling some hikers back to the Pacific Crest Trail (PCT) whenever I can make it happen. Most importantly I’ve been finding little ways right now to just, stop, rest and be happy for a few minutes.

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Moving forward to be happy

One of the other things I’m doing right now is trying to stay mindful of the present but keeping my eye on the prize.  Basically trying to do things where I’ll be happy but preparing and spending some time thinking about my next big adventure which is less than 2 years away.

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Do something that scares you and be happy

Comfort Zone

Finally tonight I want to talk about something that I’m not doing nearly enough of these days and that is getting out of my comfort zone.  I see a quote often on Twitter than says do something that scares you every single day.  I love that idea, I fail miserably at it, but what I know is that in my life, every single time I’ve pushed past my comfort zone and done something that scared me, I’ve gained great rewards.  Rewards in the sense of accomplishment or a hell of a lesson.  I’ve learned so much about myself when I’ve done that.  When I set off on the Appalachian Trail two years ago to attempt a 2200 mile thru-hike I had never done anything like that.  It taught me so much, I wrote a book about it Appalachian Trail Happiness.  But we don’t have to do big things that scare us, even the little things pay dividends.  Going up and talking to that person you’ve always wanted to.  Speaking up in a meeting and putting your ideas forward when you’re usually silent.  Doing things out of the ordinary and out of your comfort zone, more often than not, produce interesting and positive results.

So take a chance today, be happy, and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Books for your Summer Reading List 2017

Books for your Summer Reading List 2017

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Summer is Beach Reading Season

Tonight a little post to help you find books for your summer reading list.  The focus for the list is books that aren’t too deep, about interesting topics and not too long, basically brain candy reading for the hot, sweet days of summer, while you’re relaxing on vacation, enjoy.

Nothing brings you more happiness than reading books on the beach in the summer.

Summer Reading Books

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Borne by Jeff Vandermeer

Borne – Rachel, a postapocalyptic scavenger who finds the improbably sentient and mutable creature—who “smelled of beach reeds on lazy summer afternoons and, beneath the sea salt, of passionflowers”—while picking through the fur of the gargantuan flying bear that terrorizes her devastated city. And then things start to get weird.

Full Wolf Moon – By one of the authors of Relic, a little paranormal mystery book featuring the character paranormal investigator Jeremy Logan.  Add to that a cool location, Werewolves in the Adirondacks.

Books on Happiness

Appalachian Trail Happiness – This book comes in at less than a hundred pages and is a nice light book about hiking the Appalachian Trail.  As one of the comments say on Amazon, this book is like a great conversation with the author telling stories about the trail.

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Find happiness walking on the Appalachian Trail

Potlikker Papers: A Food History of the Modern South – A book that tells stories about the culture of the south through food.  Stories including dinners cooked for civil rights leaders to the fast booms in the south, brain candy and it will make you hungry.

Books about Love

How to Fall in Love with Anyone – Mandy Len Catron provided everyone with their new favorite date-night opener in her viral New York Times piece “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.” Is it possible to create the conditions for romance armed only with 36 questions devised by a psychologist? (Try it, and let us know.) Now, Catron expands upon the themes of love and relationships in a collection of essays destined to provide more conversational fodder.

Sex and Rage – Originally published in 1979, Sex and Rage paints with Babitz’s signature hues: Los Angeles sky blue, jacaranda mauve, and cocktail pink. Its protagonist, the aimless Jacaranda, shares with her creator a bicoastal range, languid ambition, and a talent for passion.

Uplifting Books

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Waking Land

The Waking Land – Bates’s debut is the first book in a planned trilogy about a young woman who can call on the magical powers of nature.  Bates has built an extraordinary world with terrific characters in this unique new fantasy.

Reading with Patrick: A Teacher, A Student and a Life-changing Relationship – In 2004, Michelle Kuo moved to the Mississippi Delta to teach at a school in one of the poorest counties in the U.S. There she met a young man named Patrick. Patrick was thoughtful, motivated, and loved learning — he was only hampered by opportunity. Kuo worked with him until she moved away to attend law school. After learning that Patrick was in jail for murder, she moved back to work with him again. This is a story about the power of books; the issues of race, justice, and poverty; and the endurance of hope and connection. Kuo’s book is an honest and touching memoir.

Other Summer Reading Lists to check out

Washington Post’s List

Harper’s Bazaar List

JP Morgan Summer Reading List

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Happiness is Acceptance, Patience and Persistence

Happiness is Acceptance, Patience and Persistence

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Dawn at Burning Man

If there is no struggle, there  is no progress ~ Frederick Douglas

There is a specific reason for the quote I used tonight, I’m struggling with happiness.  I know, the guy who writes the happiness blog probably shouldn’t admit he’s struggling with happiness.  But if I can’t be honest with your dear friends, where’s my credibility?

Now let me be clear, I’m generally pretty happy.  This journey I’ve been on over the last 20 years, to become a happier person, has certainly been successful.  I routinely used to suffer from bouts of depression, some near debilitating, but something in my blue-collar background just wouldn’t let me pack it in and stay in bed.  So I would find a way through what I used to call falling into the well.  Luckily, I’m apparently not someone with the type of chemical imbalance in the brain that can’t be fought.  Those folks can’t function without drugs to balance them out and I have incredible empathy for their struggle.  My struggle has always been purely psychological, not chemical.

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Fear is killing your happiness

Quite frankly I can’t even remember the last time I was truly in the well.  I have my dips, usually when I’m not getting enough sleep, eating badly and not exercising.  Not that I’m in some perfect bubble of happiness.  At times, my overactive brain will run down a path and for a moment I’ll get absolutely lost and the thought I should just end it crosses my mind.  The thought is immediately dismissed,  I believe that the thought is just me, for a just a second, hitting the limits of my exasperation with some of the realities I face that I’m not happy with.

Of course, part of what this journey has been, has been me working to change those realities that I’m able to change.  I’m happy with the progress I’ve made.  And generally, that progress is what keeps me happy.  Right now a couple of the realities I’m facing that are beating me up a bit are related to my eternal lack of patience.  As I get closer to understanding exactly what I want my life to be, and what I need to get there, I struggle with not being there right now!

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Patience

Like all of you, there are bills to pay, and a job to work to earn the money to pay those bills.  Add to that all of life’s realities and responsibilities and the time they consume and the time left doesn’t allow me to make the progress I want to make.  I know you know what I’m talking about, for many of you it is a job, kids, bills, household and family responsibilities.  All of this wears us down and steals precious time for our goals.  But that’s reality, and although the path through is acceptance, patience and persistence it’s not always easy.  And not always possible to do it with a smile and be happy about it.  And that’s where I am, recently I’ve just gotten worn down and am finding it hard to accept reality.

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An oldie but goody, Mork from Ork

In the end, we have no choice, so forward we go.  Acceptance, patience and persistence that is the lesson.  Then, after some time, you look back and see the progress, the goal in sight and you realize how much it was worth the work.  So my friends, accept your reality for what it is, be patient and keep moving forward, and so will I.  I’m pulling for you and wishing you a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Our Best Happiness Posts from 2015

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Remember the Sweet Things

Happiness is Not Safety

 

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Why Have You Never Been Married?

Why Have You Never Been Married?

So this question is one I get frequently.  It usually starts with the standard question, are you married? You see in America, the script we’re supposed to follow says that as an adult you’re supposed to get married.  So the question always starts there and then of course they assume that I must have been divorced.  When they found out I haven’t been divorced, I get the statement/question in that weird and confusing tone, so you’ve NEVER been married?

Now the tone of that statement is always weird and it’s a really heavily loaded statement because it packs another question inside of it, which is what the hell is wrong with you?  It’s an especially fun line to get on a first date. Because obviously I must have wanted to get married, it’s what people do, so if I didn’t there must be something wrong with me.

When people push and really want an answer to this question I have several options.  I can go with what Bukowski said:

I could go with my granny’s theory on the subject, which is that the reason I’m not married is that my parent’s codependent wreck of a recurring marriage soured me on the idea.  I loved my granny but insight into the complexities of my twisted mind was not her strength.  Happily, and luckily for me, her strength was utter and complete unconditional love.

I could go with what most people quickly assume, I have a fear of commitment.  I find this one particularly offensive if I’m being honest.

I could go with the quick answer that I often give, it’s near the truth and seems to satisfy people well enough to end the question.  That answer, is that the timing was never right, I never met the right woman at the right time.  And that answer is pretty close to the truth.  The added layer is that marriage was never a priority for me.  You see that script I mentioned at the beginning, that society has set out for us, well I’ve never really bought into it.  Had I found the right woman at the right time I would have been happy to have gotten married.  Of course, anyone who knows me, knows that any marriage I would have been part of would have not been standard fare.

But given that marriage wasn’t a priority, and the realities of my nomad existence, that I never got married is no real surprise.  I wrote a piece a last night about Marriage and Love and talked about how to me true love is true acceptance.  I’ve been blessed enough to feel that once, but the situation and the timing were unfortunate and so it never happened. But I can tell you, that level of acceptance was magnificent and changed my life.

What my point is in doing this post tonight comes down to this.  We don’t all follow the standard script.  Because someone has taken a different path doesn’t make them wrong or weird and we should stop making them feel that way.  And please, stop saying to women who aren’t married, “but don’t you want to have children.” It’s such a loaded statement, what they rightfully here is, my god if you don’t have children soon you’re a complete loser who has wasted their life. Please stop making people feel bad because they’ve made a choice different from the one you made, or the one society tells us should have been made.

We are all individuals and the best thing we can do for each other is give each other love and support and help all of us have happy days. ~ Rev Kane

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Are You Noticed, Valued, Loved?

Happiness is Love and Unconventional Wisdom

Love, Happiness and Words from my Favorite Writers

Dalai Lama on Love  and Compassion

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Happiness, Wedding and Love

Happiness, Wedding and Love

No relationship is all sunshine, but two people can share an umbrella and survive the storm ~ Unknown

So this weekend I had the honor of officiating the wedding of the two fine people pictured above. It was a lovely wedding and went off without any significant hitches.  I’m happy to say the ceremony will not be showing up on America’s Home Videos.  It was a lovely ceremony and I was quite happy to be part of it.

For my part of the ceremony, not really sure what to call that actually, I spoke about the courage of love.  To me, what true love really comes down to is acceptance.  Not just the type of acceptance extended to us by colleagues and friends but true acceptance.

You see we all wear masks, we don’t show ourselves to each other, not really.  We all have secrets we never share, with anyone.  So when I say true love is acceptance, I mean the acceptance that occurs when you take the ultimate risk.  When you drop all of the masks and defenses and let someone see the real you.  When you show them what you really think, all of your strengths, your fears, the horrible parts of you.  When you truly show the person you love the monster inside.  Of course it’s only really us who sees what’s inside as a monster.  We’re never as truly awful or as ugly as we believe.  But when we stand there naked and defenseless before another, in all of our perceived ugliness, and that person accepts us, that is true love.

When two people can truly accept each other it’s a beautiful and magical thing.  At the end of the day, it’s what we all want for ourselves, what we all hope we will find with another.  I hope you have found it my friends and it’s brought you many happy days. ~ Rev Kane

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Are You Noticed, Valued, Loved?

Happiness is Love and Unconventional Wisdom

Love, Happiness and Words from my Favorite Writers

Dalai Lama on Love  and Compassion

 

 

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Change is the only Constant

Change is the only Constant

Just when I think I have the way to live, life changes ~ Hugh Prather

Hello friends, man it’s been a busy few weeks and it’s not quite over yet.  I’ve been very busy at work, the end of the school year is always a hectic time.  However, it’s also a really uplifting time, an excellent reminder of why we do the work we do in education.  A great time of year to hear some truly remarkable stories about how people’s lives have changed.  Which is what brings me to what I want to talk about tonight, changes.

I love the quote by Hugh Prather, it seems to really sum up the way I’m feeling lately.  Just as soon as you feel like you’ve got things worked out, well there you are, and you don’t.  So you keep making adjustments, keep making changes, try and find the best way forward.

Positivity is the key, stay positive, stay focused and move forward.  I’ve been busy for a lot of reasons, some of which are of course the job.  Some are really positive, working on the blog, marketing my book Appalachian Trail Happiness and continuing to work toward my goal of 10,000 followers.  Of course all of that is sort of my new normal these days, but there’s been a bit more going on.  First, I’ve just moved.  A huge change in itself I have moved from the middle of nowhere in the desert to the edge of the sort of small town at in the desert.

Of course moving all of your worldly possessions and having to scrub clean a giant house takes a lot of time.  Happily I’ve done it over about three weeks which reduced the intensity, but not the level of work.  I finished cleaning the house last night, it’s a relief.

                                  A couple of parting sunset shots from the last house.

I’m excited for Memorial Day weekend, a trip up north is in order where I will get to officiate the wedding of two friends to each other, as well as see a number of people I haven’t in quite some time.

There are more changes just on the horizon but I’ll hold you in a little bit of suspense.  I mean hey, I’ve got to build readership right?  But I assure you the next surprise is only a few weeks away.  The thing I want you all to take from this is that much like happiness, the effects of change are a choice.  We can fight change but it’s a ridiculous fight, change will always happen.  So you may as well get used to it, hell, maybe even learn to embrace it.  Change can be a good thing, happiness can be yours, you just need to make the right choice.  So tonight, as tired and worn out that I am, stubbornly writing instead of going to bed early with two early mornings in front of me, I’m looking forward and staying positive, grateful for what I am able to accomplish.  I’m on a good path and good things are coming, for me and you my friends ~ Rev Kane

Other Posts You Will Enjoy!

Happiness and the Benefits of Gratitude

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Happiness is a Choice

Writing Away the Darkness

 

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Musings on a Sunday Night

Musings on a Sunday Night

Deep into that darkness peering, long I stood there, wondering, fearing, doubting, dreaming dreams no mortal ever dared to dream before.                     ~ Edgar Alan Poe

As usual on Sunday night I sat down to write my weekly post and frankly I’ve got nothing.  Now, I’ve never let that stop me from writing before, so why stop now.  It’s been a hectic last few weeks, a new job opportunity came my way that I needed to decide on, I’m in the process of moving and I’m finding being a full-time dean, a full-time blogger, author, writer and book salesman (marketing team), hiker, and super secret hero (damn, that was a secret) is wearing me down.  Perhaps I need to take my own recent blog advice and just take a weekend, and I will but not for a few weeks.  I’m in the middle of a move and on travel for work over the next two weeks and then I get to do something really amazing and officiate a friends wedding at the end of May.  But that first weekend in June is all mine!!

What I find when I burn the candle at both ends is that it starts to get into my psyche and pull me down.  I get less sleep, my mood tanks a bit, I eat badly and I lose focus but I can certainly tough out a couple of weeks.  And sometimes friend that’s just what we have to do, happiness is an ongoing battle, it’s not like you hit it and then boom – happy forever!  Wouldn’t that would be nice.  But like fitness and wellness, happiness is a constant effort, that like the others provides really amazing benefits.  I have been thinking a lot about that idea lately.

You see ten years ago a point like this would have me spiraling into darkness and depression that would take me weeks to fight my way out of back into the light.  But now, because of the work I’ve done over the years I can ride this out and stay on an even keel.  That’s why I talk and post about happiness, it’s to help you get to a similar place if you’re not there, and to help you stay there if you are there.

So have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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