Right now in my world there is a lot of pain and loss going on, I have two friends whose parents are dying. For both of them it will be the first parent they are losing, something I have not personally experienced and something I can sympathize with but can’t possibly understand. They are both in very different situations, one is older and her parent is elderly and not unexpectedly passing, that does not make things any easier for her but at least it’s a more natural time of life. Another friend is much younger and I’m sure it makes things even harder, not just for her, but also for the person who is passing. Finally today, I found out a former student and friend potentially has ovarian cancer, she’s been without health care for two years for financial reasons and finally the pain she has been having was too much. She went to the doctor and they did the biopsy today, we are all of course hoping for good news.
I can’t express the anger I have toward a country that thinks universal health care is a bad idea when our current system is endangering the life of a person I care for. You can call me a socialist, you can say I’m un-American, you can make up any label you want, but my position is that in the greatest country on earth, everyone should have access to quality medical care. That’s not a liberal or conservative position, when I was younger they called this type of position common decency.
What do you do when these type of things close in on you, how do you help people you care about when things are bad and try and maintain any sense of happiness for them or yourself? First and foremost you have to accept that things are going to hurt. When people around you are hurting, there will be little you can do about it but be there for them, listen, hold them, help however you can, however they need you. In the end, that caring and help makes you a better person, and deepens the connection and relationship which in the long-term will help you and the person you care for be happier people. Sending my friends in particular and the rest of you a hug today, have a happy day my friends.