A Happy Convergence
I was driving the other day and the phone rang, it was my brother, he doesn’t typically call during the middle of the day so I was concerned there might be something wrong. So I answered the phone and asked what was up, “A lot actually.” It turned out that my newest nephew had been born a month early and on my brother’s birthday. His other son’s birthday is two days later so the beginning of January is now a three way birthday convergence in his family. I was really excited for him, it was a heck of a birthday present.
The end of 2015 was a bit of a rough time for me but 2016 seems to be starting out pretty positive, I’m making good progress on the book I’m writing, I have a new nephew, I recently got to spend a bit of time with an old friend and a have dinner with a friend I made on the Appalachian Trail this summer. Someone suggest recently that it looks like 2016 is going to be a great year, but I’m not quite ready to go there. I’ve never experienced a year that was wholly bad or good and I’m sure 2016 will bring with it a mix of both, but whether it’s a good year is really all about our perspective, that’s the point I want to bring forward tonight.
You see no one’s life is fully bad or good, in fact, if you carry that thought out nothing is wholly good or bad. It’s the idea behind the Yin/Yang symbol or the saying every cloud has a silver lining. There’s a little bit of good in all bad, and a little bad in all good. In most circumstances in our life we don’t experience the extremes, we aren’t constantly faced with really terrible or really wonderful situations. What we see are situations that are a mix of both good and bad. What really determines whether we see them as good or bad situations is the way we decide to to look at them.
So our attitude is really important to whether or not we see our lives as going well or not. So why not give yourself the benefit of the doubt and choose to look at the positive in any situation instead of focusing on the negative. One place this is really important is in controlling our thoughts and guarding against worry. Worry is automatic focus on the negative and worse, negatives that may never come to be making worry a waste of time. I have written about this before in a piece called, worry the enemy of happiness. the piece has some great tips on reducing worrying.
So my friends how about a really positive resolution for the new year, that we’ll choose to focus on the positive in each situation and worry less. If we could accomplish those two things we’d have a truly good year, full of happy days ~ Rev Kane