Happiness, Comments & Gossip
What I’ve found – and the older I get, the more I understand this and stand behind it – is, my whole life has been an exploration of telling the truth. It’s scary to be truthful, and it’s scary to reveal yourself, and I’m very attracted to doing things that scare me. ~ Jane Wiedlin
So I encountered something online today that I thought was worth sharing and talking about. I see a lot of really mean comments on social media these days. As someone who is on social media quite a bit I also get my fair share of these type of comments. My favorite one to talk about because of the sheer and utter silliness of it was related to a photo I shared of a sunset.
The comment on the photo when I posted it on Twitter was simply, “fake.” I ignored the comment, what was it meant to mean? Was it that the sky wasn’t real, lol? Ok, sure I know the person commenting was implying it was a Photoshop construction not a real photo. In the photo above, I’ve tweaked the contrast and saturation a little to get the image to reflect reality a bit more than the image that came out of the camera. But the comment really was only about one thing, this person wanted a reaction. He wanted to make me feel bad and get me to react. But why? What is missing in this person’s life that he needs to lash out negatively for attention? You can see this type of behavior in almost every comment section to any kind of article. Completely innocuous articles have comments that turn into horrid political dog fights. I find it incredibly sad.
Tonight I want to say, whatever it is they are missing, I hope they find it. I hope that they find peace and happiness in their life. I really hope that they will learn that being angry online will not solve their problems.
Trolls online remind me of people who gossip. People gossip because there is something missing in their lives. But we all get sucked into it, especially in office environments. I know it’s hard to step above it but we need to. Not just because it’s the right thing to do, but because it will make us happier. When we gossip, we know we are doing something we shouldn’t, it’s usually something negative and unnecessary and so we feel guilty and this diminishes our happiness.
So how to we keep ourselves and our co-workers in check. What I bumped into online today were three simple questions that we should ask ourselves before we talk about something, and before we post something online.
- Is it true?
- Is it kind?
- Is it necessary?
Is it true? Do you know for a fact that what you are about to say or post is accurate. Is the information from a reliable source, not sure, then don’t say or post it.
Is it kind? Is what you are about to say or post something that is mean spirited, will it make someone feel bad? If so, then why post or say it, what is the point?
Is it necessary? What is the point of what you are about to say or post. If you don’t need to say or post it, if it’s not true and/or kind, just stop. If more of us would employ these questions before we say or post something we’d all have happier days my friends.
~ Rev Kane