Happiness is love and unconventional wisdom

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu

Originally posted January, 2014

So tonight friends let’s talk about love.  Recently I saw something that I found quite interesting it was a piece discussing the difference between healthy and unhealthy love.

This was one of those brief pieces that tells us that healthy love is adult love, the kind of mature, in control and responsible love that you grow into like an old pair of shoes, dependable and comfortable.  They use the example of love like a grilled cheese sandwich and tomato soup on a rainy day.  Now that is a beautiful dose of conventional wisdom and if you are unique just like everyone else it will probably fit you like Cinderella’s proverbial slipper.

If you read our site closely you’ll see that this is The Church of Abnormal Acceptance and its Ministry of Happiness.  The name of the church was chosen carefully, we offer acceptance, over the internet as part of our services, the idea that no matter who you are, what you’re into we don’t care.  We only care about helping you be a happier person.  Why you might ask would we be so accepting?  In a word experience, in my time here on Earth I have noticed that average doesn’t exist, we’re all in our own way freaks in one way or another.  Hell some of us in three or four ways.  This observation is never as sharp as it is on the playa at the Burning Man Festival.  The beauty of Burning Man is that it provides a dissolution of normal, it no longer exists and the test is quite simple.  At Burning Man if you slowly rotate 360 degrees carefully observing all you see, I assure you, you will never be the biggest freak.  It drives home the idea that we’re all freaks and as such we had better be accepting of freaks, because just like the freaks we see, the freak we are needs to be loved and accepted for who we are inside and out.

So throw conventional wisdom on love, on acceptance, hell on most things out the window.  I’ll come back to the piece I referenced on healthy and unhealthy love.  Healthy, adult, mature, grilled cheese love might work for you; it might be exactly what you need in your life to be utterly fulfilled and happy.  However the freak in me needs a little more unhealthy love in his life, some jalapenos on his grilled cheese, some fresh basil and garlic in his tomato soup.  They described unhealthy love as being powerless with no boundaries, like a drug.  Well I like a little excitement in my love, a little insanity, maybe it’s not healthy, but neither are chocolate chip cookies and ice cream but they make me happy.  So find out what you need to be happy, and don’t let anyone else tell you it’s not what you need, find it, get it and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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