Happiness is Concern for Others

Happiness is Concern for Others

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Kindness can transform someone’s dark moment with a blaze of light. You’ll never know how much your caring matters. Make a difference for another today ~ Amy Leigh Mercree

 

Today was one of those days where parts for a post just sort of fell into my lap. First, a post by the Dalai Lama and as usual, his words are amazing and thought provoking. Then a lovely and sweet little video that perfectly seems to illustrate what his holiness is discussing. So a quick little post tonight, enjoy friends and have a happy day ~ Rev Kane

 

My main interest is in the promotion of human values. From birth we have a sense of affection and some sense of concern for others. We need to nurture it. Scientists have found that to ensure even physical health peace of mind is essential. People often think that love and compassion are only matters of religious concern, but in fact such values are necessary in all human relations ~ Dalai Lama

 

A really sweet and lovely video that shows exactly how children care for each other.

 

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Day of the Dead Photo Gallery

Day of the Dead Photo Gallery

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A very simple post tonight, all of my photos from my visit to a 400 year old cemetery near Oaxaca for the Day of the Dead.  Enjoy ~ Rev Kane

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Happy Day of the Dead – Skeleton Madness in Oaxaca

Happy Day of the Dead – Skeleton Madness in Oaxaca

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Feliz Dia de Los Muertos!

So tonight, a collection of photographs from Oaxaca to celebrate this holiday, enjoy!

~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is Anti-Consumerism

Holiday Happiness: Happiness is Anti-Consumerism

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The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

 

Tonight a repeat of an older post that seems to fit for this time of year.  A lot of times the over-spending this time of year can put people into debt and make them unhappy.

Ok first disclaimer right off the bat, I’m a consumer, damn near impossible to be raised and live in America without that lifestyle being beaten into our heads. But I’m a recovering consumer, I’ve become less and less of a consumer each year of my life. Now what do I mean by a consumer, essentially someone who is under the influence of advertisers, who believes more is better, who gets enamored with the latest, biggest and best things when they are really not that necessary or even necessary at all in some cases.

happiness, consumerismI would argue that the United States, even more than a capitalist society or a democracy is a consumer society, it has damn near become our national religion and it is what gives big corporations so much power. Don’t believe me, pull up a YouTube full of Black Friday videos and watch Americans go insane even to the point of violence and death to get a good deal for the holidays.

happiness, consumerismI’ve written before on simplifying your life and this is a topic near and dear to me. A lesson that I will be hammering home to myself over the next six months as I live on what I can carry on my back while on the Appalachian Trail. I’m guessing very quickly, new TV’s and new cars and the latest exciting electronic gadget will soon hold no relevance for me what so ever.

One of the biggest proponents of anti-consumerism is Reverend Billy and his Stop Shopping Choir.  I first met Reverend Billy about 10 years ago at Burning Man, a lot of what he was doing back then was highly entertaining and slightly serious theater with a message. However, the man and the message have gotten very serious and he’s become a staunch advocate for anti-consumerism and economic justice in America and I’m proud of his message and the work he’s doing.

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Rev Billy & The Stop Shopping Choir

This all recently hit home for me. I’m staying with my sister and her family which includes my 10 year-old nephew. He’s smitten with brands, his jerseys and shirts MUST be Under Armour. This is not so disturbing a result of advertising, peer pressure and father worship. However he also MUST have Axe body wash, this is disturbing.

We’ve all seen the commercials Axe does, they are a one trick advertising pony, the premise, use Axe products and hot women will attack you and rip your clothes off to have you. The idea that a 10 year-old boy has already completely bought into this ridiculous advertising ploy frightens me for the rest of his life. He’s a smart kid, hopefully he’ll come to realize the game companies are playing and get beyond it.

happiness, consumerismBut how much hope do I really have for that when I watch adults fall prey to the same lame advertising gimmicks.  So my friends, pay attention, be smart, want and use less and you’ll have much happier days ~ Rev Kane

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Time for Gratitude

Time for Gratitude

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As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. ~ John F. Kennedy

I counted, this is my 19th post on the Ministry of Happiness about gratitude.  Outside of Happiness and the Appalachian Trail, it’s the topic that has come up the most often in my writing and their is a good reason for that to happen.  You see, happiness and gratitude are very much tied together.  It’s not just enough to strive for happiness, to get enough sleep, work to reduce your stress, to overcome your comfort zones and your fears.

You have to, from time to time, sit back and take inventory of how fortunate you are.  No matter how bad things might be, today or in your life there are always things you can be grateful for, if nothing else, for your life itself and all of the possibilities that creates.

So what has me thinking about gratitude today, well frankly, a lot.  Life is good right now, I’ve written about that recently.  However right now in California, it’s not that way for a whole lot of folks.  There are major fires raging in the northern part of the state, some about 30 miles from where I’m writing this.  Over 180,000 people  are under evacuation orders, over a million people don’t have power.  My college has been closed since Saturday and will be closed tomorrow.  Sitting here, with power, not under an evacuation warning is something to be very grateful for tonight.  I know people who are not fortunate enough tonight to be able to say either of those things.  Many have been through similar occurrences in the last few years and so the stress of all of this is really wearing them out.

It’s amazing that in the United States of America, the most technologically advanced country in the history of the world,  where Silicon Valley resides, over a million people are living without power.  You can never take for granted what you have, you never know when it can go away, so tonight just take a moment my friends, be grateful, and have a happy day.  ~ Rev Kane

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Timeless Thoughts on Inner Peace

Timeless Thoughts on Inner Peace

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Stop overthinking and worrying

Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions. ~ Gerald Jampolsky

One of my favorite sites is the Positivity Blog and looking around tonight I found a nice timeless thoughts post they put forward on how to find inner peace, where they include so great advice as well as some great quotes.  They suggest you should simplify, learn to accept, forgive, do what you enjoy and taking care of your inner peace.  Great advice and a great piece, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

How to Find Inner Peace, 5 Timeless Thoughts

 

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Happiness, simplicity and letting go!

Happiness, simplicity and letting go!

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The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak ~ Hans Hofmann

First tonight a little note about the image above, this was one of the many things written on the walls of the temple at Burning Man this year.  Each year the temple, the heart of the city, is a place where people say goodbye and more importantly let go of the things in life that are making the sad.  Over the next couple weeks I’ll be showing you more images from the temple, more wisdom photographed from its sacred walls.  Tonight, let’s talk about one way we can try to be better, simplifying our lives.

Tonight I’m a bit more focused on the actual physical act of simplification, and artifact of the process I’m involved in, getting ready to move.  I’m in the process of selling my house in anticipation of my upcoming adventure, and I’m starting to simplify.

Tonight that has literally meant throwing things away as well as piling things into piles for a yard sale, donation or sale on Ebay.  I often find the process of throwing things away one of the most mindful things I do.  There is real immediacy in that moment of decision, how important is this thing to me?  It makes you consider what is truly important in your life.  One of the things I always find most interesting in the thought process is when I come upon cards.  Birthday cards and holiday cards are these really personal communications from people you care about, very often people from your selected family.  Deciding whether or not to keep them tells you a lot about yourself, are you sentimental, extremely practical, whose cards can you throw away, whose can you not?

It’s good from time to time for all of us to simplify, to take stock and to remember what is truly important to us.  In the simplest of exercises we can often find the deepest of meanings.  Have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happiness is Poetry: Suzanne Burns

Happiness is Poetry: Suzanne Burns

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So tonight friends a new discovery for me, the poet Suzanne Burns.  It’s amazing what you can turn up through a Google search.  I really enjoy the work I could find and have ordered a copy of The Portland Poems and am looking forward to reading more of her work, take a look, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

Snow White 

Paparazzi flashed, “Smile, Ms. White.” My coveted iconography, the blood
Reddening my lips, rumored to inspire the next Fellini. At my last Big Apple
Premiere the press, in a New York Times coronation, crowned me the cinema queen.
For a starlet adoration is the thing. They dubbed me a rising orb, my complexion white
As snow. After my Hollywood opening, a critical thumbs-up affair, the Daily Mirror
Headline read, “Our Southern California Doll. Snow White’s the Fairest of Them All!”
But now my cancer spreads. Tumors outsmart my breast. My glory, all
My shining décolletage removed in an anti-cancer manifesto. My blood,
Ignited in war, de-canonizes my body with disease. Like weeds, like cracks in a mirror,
The choice of retaining no choice is clear. Chemotherapy gleans like an apple
In my lover’s eye. My doctor, a lover translating poison, imploring a cure.
His coat, white as the pallor of my skin, instills pity. Will he be responsible for the death of a queen?

Recovering at home, implements of sickness—pills, compresses—crowd the queen
In her king-size bed. Predicting my death, the media impeached my Oscar nomination, all
The coverage touting me the model for mastectomy. If I was a portico, white
Marble bones supporting my condemned structure, I would strip off my blood
And not remodel. My agent, cunning as the step-mom in a fairy tale, sent over an Apple
Computer to catch up on my electronic fan mail. I stare at the blank screen like a mirror.

I need to flee from here. My reflection in every mirror
Retains the texture of torn threads. The dead might need a new queen,
But not me. Journeying beyond the Hollywood hills, I replace the yellow apples
Lodged on my cheeks with blushing new buds. The rocky expanse of the highest peak, all
Trails tree-lined and steep, presents a view of the sun at night, chilling its fire-blood,
Allowing the moon her turn. There, the only seen intrusion is her circle of white,

A forested sanctity. I carry seven dwarf candles. Composing speeches on the white
Podiums of wax, I whisper a prayer, then light each stick and burn the ash. A mirror
Of night blankets my overlook. On a break from chemotherapy, my blood
For a week reclaims harmony from its dyslexic beat. The air shivers my toes. Queen
Mab, I suppose, arranging flowers at my feet. The wax in seven coats, all
The wicks winking black lashes at my body, shines under the moon, an apple

Ripe enough to eat. One scattered seed may harness the rudiments of an apple
Orchard. This meditation is my beginning. A marathon of cleansing the white
Shadow from my black bones. The exodus home to remove the changeling clinging to all
My sufferings like a spider hidden behind the glass eye of a doll. I will be well, a mirror
Of health, skin shedding its sick shingles like tarnish silvering from the crown of a queen.
I feel the presence of remission, Divine Intervention between my Maker and my blood.

The blood of fame flows in golden rolls, but money will not coax an apple
From its seed, nor cancer from a queen. The absence of sound is not black but white.
Silence, a self-reflecting mirror, can show hope to even the sickest of them all.

 

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Daughters

By Suzanne Burns

I will believe till eternity, or possibly beyond it,
that Lizzie Borden did it with her little hatchet,
and whoever says she didn’t commits the sin
of sins, the violation of an idol.
     —Dorothy Parker

As murder chimed with the clockworks
you confessed to thumbing fashions
in Victorian magazines, scribbling
a wish list, cotton dresses to mirror
the verdant sheen of pears.
Mysterious fruits devoured
in your father’s barn, clear
juice puddling on your chin
like the stains of lovemaking,
marking the dank place of broken
birds, a spine and feather memory
of Father clipping first their heads,
then your wings. Crimson oils greased
your thighs, his palms, your graduation ring,
a tarnished hope Father refused to break,
circle eternally squeezing his little finger
like your mute mouth sucking
on a bony thing, like your hatchet
cutting a friction burn as you excavated
the skeleton silent beneath
your Father’s bones, forcing a response
in the house without words.

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The Light in Your Kitchen Window

You do not know I am standing out here
like something, for once, that belongs in the dark.
I am not afraid of an errant zombie
lost and looking for brains
or the kind of man who collects fingers in a box,
breath catching the way it does
on the biggest and best carnival ride
at the thought of cutting off the tips
where my composed shadows play against your front walk.
There is a circus in my heart for you.
What I mean is more than the roar of a lonely woman
masquerading as a ghost beneath the streetlight.
You have tried many times to turn me
into your own private ghost
by the way you keep your lips closed now when we kiss,
and how we never kiss,
and how you dropped my nickname somewhere out back,
but this sideshow we exist in is still filled with hope.
There is cotton candy there, too,
electric pink dross of good dreams
before all we did was go around saying,
or refusing to say, I’m sorry.
We have washed and dried dishes in the same sink
so this is nothing to shut your blinds to,
the way I wave before you go to the bed
I have loved you in and out of too many times
to keep hidden in my own special box.
I am standing outside your window
watching you water plants, make tomorrow’s sandwich,
force yourself not to wave back.
I mean the kind of sorry that might sound better
translated into the private language we once spoke
when we liked the same movies we hadn’t even seen,
Laurel and Hardy and that piano
negotiating their thirty-nine steps
onto a list of favorites we meant to sip hot chocolate to,
some certain look shared between us
no other certain looks could compete with.
The look that keeps me anchored in front of your window
long after the lights go out,
long after you tuck yourself in
by negotiating your body to turn from where I once slept,
somehow a little afraid of what will happen next.

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Happiness Images & Quotes

Happiness Images & Quotes

A little tour around the web for some great quotes and a few pictures to bring a smile to your face.  Hopefully they’ll provoke some thoughts and help you have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

 

 

 

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The green tunnel in PA

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The Value of Long-term Relationships

The Value of Long-term Relationships

Rev Kane and two truly wonderful friends on Thanksgiving

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

My longest hiking partner, Second Star

So this weekend had me thinking about old friends and more than that the value of those long-term and deep friendships.  What got my head into that space was a series of phone calls this weekend and the fact that I’ll be traveling soon to Second Star’s wedding.  First I spoke to my friend Dina, then today to my friend Brian.  They both come from the same time period of in my life when we were all resident assistants at the State University of New York (SUNY) at Plattsburgh.  That time in my life was the most amazing period for me.  It was the time, the first time in my life everything came together.  I was doing well, I had a lot of friends, had figured out the dating thing for the first time.  I was in my first real position of authority and responsibility and was figuring out what I wanted to do with my life.  I was working with high school students who really needed someone who cared about them.  It was such an incredible and rewarding time.

Rev Kane with some of his trail family

Recently, I’ve connected via LinkedIn to a couple of my old fraternity brothers at the Rochester Institute of Technology.  A period before my time in SUNY Plattsburgh and quite an opposite period of time.  I was on my own for the first time, away from home and I was not in a good space.  I was angry and depressed and really lost in my life, I was a bit out of control and quickly turned to drugs and alcohol to numb myself.  Life went wrong, and after a year and a half I finally failed out of college.  While I was there I joined a fraternity and although I wasn’t being the most productive student in the world, I made some good friends and had a really good time.  I was avoiding a lot of things in my life, but I sure had fun.   My friend Dan who I spoke to today from that time is someone I haven’t spoken to in 35 years.  It was really great to catch up and it was amazing how comfortable the conversation was, how easily we fell into conversation.  Says something about the bond we created a long time ago pledging a fraternity together, traveling home together on breaks and hours and hours and hours of Dungeons and Dragons.

Rev Kane (rt) and his friend Rich post parades

Tonight, part of what delayed me working on my Sunday night post was a phone call from my friend Mary.  Another friend from my SUNY Plattsburgh days and Mary is someone I’ve always been able to absolutely be my self with.  She’s someone who gives me a hard time, who I can joke around with and who I’ve always been really impressed with how strong she has always been.  Her and I have been through marriages, divorces, illnesses and deaths together, those things forge deep bonds.

The original AARP group after their climb out of the NOC

The biggest thing that hit me was that between these four friends, I’ve known them for a total of 142 years.  One of the nice things about getting old is that you have a tendency to hang on to the people you’ve always felt comfortable with, the people who accepted you at your best and at your worst.  My friend Dan once cleaned the fraternity bathroom after I had obliterated it, and then got me cleaned up and into my room taking care of me.  He also hit me with a Star Trek themed bill the next day, something that I still have buried in a box somewhere.

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People who have been with you all across your journey, not because of obligation but because of choice are people worth hanging on to.  They are the three in the morning people, the friends who you can call at 3AM and just say I need you, and they come.  They love your for who you are, faults and all, the same way you love them.

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The lesson tonight is simple.  There is no way it should have ever gotten to 35 years that I hadn’t spoken with Dan.  Limit the gaps in time between talks and visits with these people.  Time with them is precious time, time well spent, the type of time that at the end of your life, when you look back, makes you happy you made the effort to spend.  You’ll regret how often you didn’t do this, and time with these people along the way are those happy times, times when we can truly be ourselves and those moments are so valuable.  The more of them you have, the happier your days my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

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