Everybody is just winging it!
Originally posted April, 2020
There are no grown-ups. We suspect this when we are younger, but can confirm it only once we are the ones writing books and attending parent-teacher conferences. Everyone is winging it, some just do it more confidently. ~ Pamela Druckerman
There’s a conversation I often have with students and I had it again recently and so I thought I would share it with you tonight. One of the things students often freak out about, particularly as they are about to graduate or transfer, is whether or not they are truly ready. You see they look around at all of the professionals they encounter in their life, all of these confident and competent looking people. They see people making decisions and moving forward and they think, my god, I have no idea how they are doing that. We’ve all had a similar feeling on the first day of work at a new job. There is always that moment at some point the first day where you’re sitting at a desk thinking, I have no idea what I’m supposed to be doing.
The secret I let the students in on, the one they never believe, is that all of these folks are just winging it. Sure, after being in a job for a few years you know damn near everything there is to know about your job. But new things always happen, your responsibilities change, however in that first week, first month, first year we all feel a bit like frauds. It’s one of the reasons people are so afraid to get out of their comfort zones, they don’t want to look like they don’t know what they are doing. People in general are terrified of looking bad in front of other people.
One thing to keep in mind my friends is that this reality applies not just to our jobs. With our family, our friend in almost every way in everyday life we’re all just winging it. There was no manual to how to get through puberty, how to date or even how to be a parent. Sure we call on friends, family those who have gone before us, but in the end, we’re all just winging it. And you know what, that’s just fine, it’s a core part of being human. So don’t worry about it, don’t stress over it and just relax, do the best you can and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane