Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it. ~Fyodor Dostoevsky
Hello my friends, as we come to the end of the year and move into the holiday season it’s always a good idea to look back on our journey and see what progress we have made. We’ll do that a little more in-depth next week but today I want to talk about the beauty of Christmas. While many people will find joy in this season related to its religious nature, or the gifts they receive, or even a coating of snow on the morning of December 25th I of course would like to talk about how the holiday can help on our quest to be happier.
We’ve talked about a lot of ways to increase our happiness this year and this holiday season allows us to do a number of things that make us happier. Christmas allows us to do many of the things we have talked about before and one large one we have not, spending time with the ones you love. Love and acceptance are what we expect from the people who are dear to us. Hopefully the holidays allow you to both give that to, and receive it from others. Christmas and family gatherings can be very stressful and it is easy to fall into old patterns of behaviors and old arguments, but that is a choice you make. When you feel that beginning, step back, breathe and make the choice to be the compassionate and kind one in this relationship, however unfair that may be. That choice, even if it is just for the holiday can be your greatest gift to yourself and your family. Remember to hug everyone, that physical act of love and acceptance is more powerful than you realize. Happy Christmas and as a reminder of all the ways you can continue your journey to a happier life, I’ve linked back to several that we have presented and that you can practice over the next few days.
To be present and be in the moment and not thinking about work or responsibilities:
Focus on the good things, forget, at least for the day, the old rivalries, fights and slights:
Notice the small things, pay attention to the smile in a child’s eyes, or the lights of the tree reflected in the window:
Be grateful that you can be where you want to be:
Slow down and take it easy breathe and relax, don’t spoil your happiness rushing around:
Exercise, yes, exercise, even on Christmas go sledding or skating with the little ones or just take a quiet walk on Christmas day:
The art of living does not consist in preserving and clinging to a particular mode of happiness, but in allowing happiness to change its form without being disappointed by the change; happiness, like a child, must be allowed to grow up. ~Charles L. Morgan