In First Class and Out of Place

In First Class and Out of Place

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I’m a blue collar kid, and although at this point in my life I’ve built a white collar life I often find myself in positions where i feel utterly out of place.

Growing up I had a friend Peter who cane from a wealthy family. The first time I ate dinner at his house was a revelation. The confusion on my face must have shown and his mom asked me to help in the kitchen.  Away from everyone else she did a quick place settng and explained fancy eating to me.  A lesson that still serves me well, she was a truly kind and wonderful woman.

Kicking off my adventure today has been wild and fun.  Got lost on the way to JFK and two other guys made the same mistake I did. One was from UC Davis and we have mutual Sierra College friends.  I met a beautiful Brazillian woman at the airport with her service dog Pandora, she took quite a liking to me, the dog, not the girl although the girl was very nice. I got to speak Portuguese twice tonight and then after security got my real treat.

You see I cashed in all of my air miles for this trip so I could fly international business class to Scotland. This means I have access in the US to the executive lounge.  I’d been in an Admiral’s Club at the airport before but it’s been years. I expected some free snacks and newspaper, free drinks but i should have known better. This is rich people land and the more you pay the better the freebies.

There is a full free buffet, free top shelf drinks and super comfy chairs.  So for dinner I had seared tenderloin, miso glazed salmon, pork tenderloin, cauliflower with wild mushrooms, waldorf salad and a New York standard, a black and white cookie for dessert.

Of course as a blue collar kid and proud hiker-trash I feel completely out of place, but I’m here and happy. I earned my ticket and place at this table, but I still feel out of place. Maybe a wee bit of Makers Mark will help me relax. – Rev Kane

 

 

 

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So it begins…Adventure 2018

So it begins…Adventure 2018

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Rev Kane at Grand Central

So I’m finally on the road spending my first night in New York with my little nephews my brother and sister-in-law. So much fun playing with the munchkins. I brought them a jug of sea creature toys and little Yogi set up an aquarium on the rug.

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I also of course, had a little pizza.

So while I’m on the road for the next couple of months my posting schedule will be a bit sporadic, and posts will be shorter since I’ll be posting from my phone, so please excuse my poor thumb typing and any mistakes because of it.

Posts from Scotland should be more frequent, but Spain, Portugal and Morocco likely not so much. I’ll do my best to bring you along and hopefully we’ll all have happy days. – Rev Kane

 

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A Happy Conversation

A Happy Conversation

fix crop sign 2Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose                ~ Lyndon B Johnson

So I’m back in the Sacramento area, I’ve rented a place her for a couple of months while I do a job search.  I’m happy to report I have an interview on March 7th so things are moving forward for me.  It’s nice coming back to someplace you lived and worked for some time.  I had the pleasure of hanging out at my old workplace a bit over each of two days and visiting and catching up with friends.

It’s been a bit of a surreal experience returning, settling into an apartment, running errands.  The treasure hunt that has been digging through my storage space has yielded some odd results.  For instance in getting ready for my interview I was able to find my suits, my dress shirts, my pants and even my ties.  However, I have not been able to locate my dress shoes and socks.  I don’t think I’ll get the job if I show up in a suit barefoot, or wearing my hiking shoes, so I guess it’s off to do some shoe shopping tomorrow.

Although a bit weird it does feel good to be settled a bit.  I’ve really enjoyed cooking the last couple of days and have been eating a lot.  I want to cook everything I haven’t had in a long time immediately, so it will be good to get back into my daily gym routine this week.

I was wondering what I would write about for my Sunday post, the report out above was of course part of it, but didn’t have a lot to do with happiness, then I bumped into one of my favorite people at my old job.  He’s a custodian and besides just being a nice guy and a hard worker he’s always happy.  In the three years we worked together I never saw him in a down mood, never heard a negative word from him.

I was instantly happier once I saw him, his positivity is down right infectious.  I told him how much I appreciate his attitude and he smiled, of course, and told me it made no sense not to be happy.  He related to me that in his fifteen years in the United States he has come to know that this country is really a wonderful place.  That he’s so thankful every day for his life here, once again we see that gratitude pays dividends.  He grew up in the former Soviet Union and his life when he was younger was tough and full of deprivation.  He truly loves the United States and not just what America represents but the actual realization of that in his day to day life.  I think the favorite thing he said to me was how nice it is to just to be able to live your life day to day, work, relax, sit in the sunshine.

He truly gets the formula for happiness including not having expectations that are unrealistic, appreciating and focusing on the small things, being mindful, and expressing gratitude.  He also said to me that even when he feels bad, he smiles, because just smiling makes him feel a little bit better and helps him have a happier day.  So smile and have your own happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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On the road and across the middle

On the road and across the middle

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Sunset in Nebraska

Travel makes one modest, you see what a tiny place you occupy in this world ~ Gustave Flaubert

So it’s been a fast and wonderful week.  I had hoped to be doing individual posts about each of my stops and will try to get some of that out this week.  Happily, my days have been busy and exciting and that has led to be me being tired and crashing at night without the energy needed to crank out full posts.  I have been getting out quick Instagram posts and you can find those at @reverendmichaelkane on that platform they also get posted to Twitter at @ministryofhappy.

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Walked a mile on the Kit Carson Trail in Carson City

 

Royal Flushes and Road Miles

So this week I did a LOT of driving, basically Reno to New York a little over 2500 road miles.  But it was an adventurous run.  Saw some good friends in Carson City and even walked a mile of the Kit Carson Trail.  Not so tough consider this part at least runs down main street in Carson City.  Went back to Reno and took one last shot going after a jackpot at the Silver Legacy Casino, it was only $500+ on a nickel machine but I’d invested some time and money into it thinking it would hit, and well…

It did!!! and has you can see, I only held the Ace and the machine gave me the other four.  Good to know one of my rules on video poker panned out the way it was supposed to.  So I left Reno on a happy note and drove to Salt Lake City, nothing adventurous about the drive but Utah is a really beautiful place.

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Salt flats in Utah

And maybe never prettier than when there is a thin layer of water on the salt flats.

On the Oregon Trail

I also stopped at the Oregon Trail road stop, I think it was this day, I honestly am not sure.  But it was really cool, a nice quick stop and a nice little free museum with some interesting displays, I really liked this little place.

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The great state of Nebraska

I left Utah with a short driving day heading for Sydney, Nebraska from what I can tell known for having a really big Cabelas Store there. On the way while driving through Wyoming I was continually driving into a black skyline lit with lightning.  No rain on me, it just always seemed to be on the horizon, until it wasn’t.  In the span of 5 minutes my phone started buzzing with flash flood alerts, a highway sign gave me a thunderstorm and hail alert and the next one, well I got focused on one word, tornado.  Just as smidge before the sky cut loose and all that nastiness on the horizon was suddenly right overhead, super heavy rain, lightning, a brief hailstorm and just general blackness.  Then, as suddenly as it had all come on, it was gone and eventually I returned to blue skies.  Arriving in Sydney the skies were ominous for a bit and we got some rain but that all really paid off as you can see below… and yes Hampton Inn that picture is copyrighted, contact me, we can work a deal.

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Sunset in Nebraska

An old friend

It is amazing how quickly time gets away from you.  Here I am pictured with my friend Mark and his wife in Lincoln, Nebraska.  Mark and I went to grad school together almost 30 years ago, man that took a while to sink in.  This fall it will be 30 years since I started graduate school.  It’s been almost 20 since I’ve seen him and it was wonderful catching up, he hasn’t changed, our relationship hasn’t changed and it was great to just have a long comfortable conversation over dinner with a good friend.  I did have to chuckle though, at one point after we’d been talking for about an hour his wife looked at him and said, “how did you two become friends, you’re sooooo different.”  We are different in a lot of ways, but when the core of two people is that they are both open, honest and don’t have time for bullshit, it’s pretty easy to get along.

Take me out to the ballpark, but first I’m going to Graceland

As a baseball fan and in particular a National League fan, seeing a day game at Wrigley Field in Chicago has been on my bucket list for a very long time.

wrigley field, cubs, travelOne of my other passions is photographing cemeteries, I love the peaceful settings, the little spots of nature inside of busy cities.  And I long ago fell in love with the sculpture work done on the monuments.  Graceland Cemetery and two others are just a half mile north of Wrigley Field, so before the Cubs game I went up and spent some time shooting there.  The first thing I noticed were that there were more obelisks in this cemetery than I’ve ever seen anywhere before.  It was a beautiful cemetery and I really enjoyed shooting there and hope to get a full post up about it this week.

graceland, chicago, cemetery, photography graceland, chicago, cemetery, photographyWrigley Field is a wonderful park, right in the city, easily accessible by mass transit.  There doesn’t seem to be a bad seat in the stadium or on the roof across the street for that matter. I had picked seats in section 415 down the third baseline for a number of reasons.  They are under the overhang so shade and rain protection if necessary, foul ball accessible, right over third base and not horribly expensive.  I sat next to a really nice family and even played academic career advisory for a few a minutes for their incredibly smart daughter who is about to go to college.

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Rev Kane at Wrigley Field

Of course, no trip to Chicago and especially not to Wrigley would be complete without a hot dog.

wrigley field, cubs, travelMy other day in Chicago I flipped down to the navy pier and walked around the water front for a bit, then on the recommendation of a friend did the river architectural boat tour and my friends I can not recommend this more highly, what a great way to enjoy Chicago, take a nice boat ride and learn a lot about the city.

architectural boat tour, chicagoFinally of course, much like a hot dog at Wrigley you can’t pass through Chicago without a little deep dish, now to be clear, it’s not real pizza, but it is real good food.

Here we go Steelers

From Chicago I hit the road to check off another bucket list item, a visit to the Pittsburgh Steeler Training camp at St. Vincent’s University in Latrobe, Pennsylvannia, also the home to Arnold Palmer.

It was a fun day, got some autographs and some great photos, still on my camera unfortunately not yet downloaded, of some of the jets practicing for a big airshow this weekend.  Just a really great day except for a little thunderstorm that rumbled through early which led to an interesting moment.  I’d checked the weather radar and timed it well, got to the field with only one more little storm cell needing to pass.  That went over while I was in the merchandise tent and then I wandered over to the field.  At that point the emergency sirens for the college went off and the speaker clicked to life, “the emergency is over, thank you for taking appropriate precautions.”  Apparently we’d been under a severe storm emergency warning and I had missed the start of the emergency.  It suddenly made sense why I was the only person leaning against the metal rails of the metal bleachers, oops!

A couple photos from the Steeler’s Training Camp, hoping to post a lot more in the next couple of days.

Coach Tomlin giving me a thumbs up for a photo

Traveling is such and awesome thing and yesterday evening I made it east to where I grew up and have been hanging with nieces and nephews.  I can’t believe it’s only one week til I board a plane a for Scotland.  It’s been a grand adventure so far and I hope, as always, that you’re having a happy day my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happy News – January 5, 2018

Happy News – January 5, 2018

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Love Yourself.  It is important to stay positivity because beauty comes from the inside out. ~ Jenn Proske

Welcome to the first weekend of the new year my friends, some positive and happy news pieces to help us keep positive.  Enjoy, and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

Best friends for 60 years find out they are biological brothers

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Brothers

 

Elementary school flooded with blankets after little girl’s letter goes viral

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viral letter

 

Customer leaves $3000 tip on $39 check

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Great Tip

 

British Columbia bans all Grizzly Bear hunting effective immediately

 

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Happiness is Art: Favorite Projects

Happiness is Art: Favorite Projects

So friends tonight some links to some amazing art projects that will certainly help you have a happy day ~ Rev Kane

Shadow Art

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Shadow Art – The first link is to possibly the coolest art project I’ve ever seen, the shadow art pieces have mind blowing origination points.

Fairy Doors

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Fairy Doors – One of my favorite projects small fairy doors that mysteriously appear and disappear on the sides of buildings.

Clet Abraham

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I first learned of Clet Abraham when a friend in Italy posted what had happened to his town, absolutely fantastic street sigh graffiti.

Bliss

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Bliss – a link to info about a public art installation that I first was lucky enough to see at Burning Man

Hamburg’s Lady of the Lake

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Hamburg’s Lady of the Lake – a giant bathing woman in a lake in Hamburg Germany, so awesome.

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Happy Imaginings: Charles Bukowski

Happy Imaginings: Charles Bukowski

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Charles Bukowski

Find what you love and let it kill you. ~ Charles Bukowski

This is Fake News

There is a book I’ve always wanted to write called 20 famous people worth having a beer with.  Essentially, I want to interview famous people who actually seem down to earth, people who for as famous as they are, seem like they’d still be regular enough people that you’d want to have a drink with them.  Since it is unlikely that I’ll get that opportunity anytime soon, I’ve decided to make up the interviews.  We all have so many imaginary conversations in our heads, I’ve just decided to have some of mine in the ether and share them with you.  This is meant to be a bit of fun, I hope it’s taken that way and hey, if any of the people I’m writing about, the living ones anyway, want to correct the record with an actual interview, I’m all in. ~ Rev Kane

My favorite poet, the first poet I ever really found worth reading is Charles Bukowski.  I first encountered him through this novels.  I loved them, and I didn’t know  he was actually far more famous as a poet.  In a bookstore looking for another book I stumbled upon his poetry, it was nothing short of a revelation.  In high school I had a fantastic English teacher, he introduced me to levels and types of art and culture I doubt I would have otherwise ever encountered.  As for poetry, although I did enjoy folks like William Carlos Williams, I found most poetry with it’s rigid rules, fancy language and lofty subject matter to be a huge turn off.  Even more so after high school as I had started writing, what I wrote felt like poetry to me but didn’t conform to anything that I’d ever read.  That was until I read my first Bukowski poem.  Here was a poet, not  conforming to rules, using plain language and writing about pain, drunks, whores and violence.  I have often said that Charles Bukowski gave me permission to be a writer.

Of course I was just ignorant, there is lots of poetry out there that doesn’t conform, one of the best books I’ve ever read is the Outlaw Bible of American Poetry.  It’s full of amazing writers who don’t confrom like Doug Draime and Sapphire.  As I delved deeper into poetry I’ve found lots of writers I really love, perhaps the most amazing being Warsan Shire, who suddenly got well known when Beyonce used her words in a video.  For me though Bukowski is the grandfather of them all, a drunken, angry, genius of a grandfather.

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Bukowski’s Grave

Welcome to Happy Imaginings Charles Bukowski!

Me: Welcome Mr. Bukowski

Buk: Jesus Christ, you’re not one them are you? I mean seriously I don’t have any fucking time for some formal little asshole asking me polite questions.  And wasn’t there supposed to be a bottle here, I’m pretty sure the agreement said there would be a bottle.

Me: Yes, here you go you mean old bastard.

Buk: <takes a drink, smiles> That’s better you bald fuck, let’s get to it.

Me: I realize that every reader brings their own ideas to the work, but for you, what is the essence of Charles Bukowski’s poetry?

Buk: Why the fuck are you using my full name <shaking his head, takes a drink> Look you claim to be a writer, if you are you know.  There is no definable essence, the work is just necessary, the same way breathing is necessary, the way food, fucking and booze are necessary, I have to write.  There is no essence other than survival.

Me: One of my favorite lines of yours is, find what you love and let it kill you, what the hell does that mean?

Buk: You said it already, it will mean something different to every reader, but for me the reality is that life is a fucking nightmare.  You’re surrounded by idiots constantly, the government keeps you down, your boss keeps you down, the system won’t let you get back up.  The only option you have is to find some piece of happy, something you love and give everything to it, and I mean absolutely everything until you have nothing left and you die. That’s a good death, even if you can’t have a good life.

Me: What advice would you give a young writer just starting out?

Buk: Don’t, just don’t, this business sucks, you can’t live being a writer, not as a career.  But if you have to, not if you want to, not if you think it’s a good idea, but if you have to then you’re a writer and you’ll write whether someone tells you to or not.  So write, but fuck the business of writing.

Me:  If you could do it all over again, what would you do differently?

Buk: I would have gotten famous earlier so that I would have been younger when the groupies started showing up. I mean I had some fun, but man I would have had so much more if I’d been younger.

Me: So one last thing, would you be willing to take a look at some of my poetry.

Buk: Not a fucking chance, you’re too old.

Me: Thanks for the time.

Other Happy Imaginings

William Shatner!

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Sunday night on the Road

Sunday night on the Road

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A rainbow coming out of my room last night

Everyday is a journey and the journey itself is home. ~ Matsuo  Basho

There is a comfort I find driving all day.  I don’t mind being alone and with my Sirius XM radio I get to listen to a lot of news and discussion when I’m not going full-out car karaoke.  I make no secret of the fact that I’m not fond of humanity as a group, individuals, absolutely, but as a group and in general, not a big fan.

Happily, for the most part on my drive things have been quiet.  One jerk in a 40 foot motor home tailgating me for a bit, but otherwise a good drive.  What amazes me though is the transition once I hit a stop.  Suddenly, humans everywhere, some really great like the lady who gave me my drink for free today at the Pilot in Nebraska.  Or the two kids busking outside, I’ve seen a lot of street performers in my time but never a sister and brother act on snare drum and flute.  Their parents were with them and they had instrumental tracks on tape backing them up.  They were even doing a little Led Zeppelin at one point.  I went over and donated a dollar to their cause, their sign explained that their parents paid the deposit but they had to raise the rest of the money for a trip to Europe.  I hope they make it.

Of course on the other end, sitting in my car and suddenly, thud and the car shakes.  Yes, the 19 year-old girl who pulled in next to me slammed her SUV door into my car.  Which she was completely fine with until she saw me glaring at her.  She then freaked out a bit, jumped back in her vehicle and took off.  Happily there wasn’t any damage.

Seems like humanity is always a mixed bag.  I also learned on the radio today that the term sneakers originated from a women’s prison guard who donned her rubber soled shoes so she could “sneak” around the prison at night and spy on the prisoners, they called her the “sneaker.” The term eventually carried onto the rubber soled shoes called sneakers.

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Great Sunset on the Road

The road always gives you a lot of time to think but the last couple of days my head has been uncharacteristically calm.  I will be writing more this week about my time in Nevada and the great friends I got to see there, and then more about driving across the middle.  But for now, off to dinner with a good friend who I have not seen in over 20 years.  I look forward to good conversation and catching up, definitely a happy day my friends.  So goodnight from Lincoln, Nebraska.  ~ Rev Kane

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Leaving California

Leaving California

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Sunset in Reno

Who can’t relate to the idea of leaving one chapter behind and moving on to the next. ~ Mike Shinoda

So I’ve left California.  But not before I had the opportunity to catch up with some really great friends.  I hung out with these two fabulous people whose wedding I officiated.

Then I had a really amazing dinner with a good friend and her husband.

food, happinessHad lunch in Truckee with a one of the coolest humans I know.

And had breakfast with a great friend and attended a little league game with a friend to watch her amazing kid play baseball.  But tonight I’m in Reno, about two hang out with some great friends again tomorrow.

Hope you are all well and having a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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On the Road Again

On the Road Again

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Point Hueneme

The world is a book and those who do not travel see only one page.                     ~ St. Augustine

So I love traveling and as most of you know I’m on the road again, can never help but sing a little Willie Nelson every time I set out.  So I lit out of the Mojave Desert early Saturday and headed for Simi Valley, an auspicious start as there was no traffic on the 405, for those of you who don’t live in Southern California, trust me, that’s a rare and beautiful thing.  My goal for the morning was the Ronald Reagan Presidential Library.  A few days earlier, while figuring out what I wanted to do down on the way to the coast an ad came up showing that the library had a Genghis Khan exhibit and there it was, destination decided.

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The Ronald Reagan Presidential Library

I arrived at the library at opening time, 10AM and there were already about a 100 people in line.  I was pretty surprised and apparently they were just early arrivers, by time I left an hour or so later there was no one in line.

The grounds at the library are impressive and no more so than when viewed from the museum’s hangar, yes, hangar where they exhibit Air Force One, Marine One and a number of vehicles.

reagan, air force one, travelThe Reagan museum was about what I expected, a very positive look at the president’s life and time in office.  Lot’s of flag waving rah-rah patriotism and the like, but it was interesting.  There was one small weird thing that occurred while I was there, a small rip in space and time, sort of a Philadelphia Experiment moment, a frog alien came riding in on a horse and that unfortunately resulted in the poor horse rematerializing into the floor.

Genghis Khan

I was really excited for the Genghis Khan exhibit.  He was an amazing human, conquered half the bloody world, like Napoleon, made huge contributions to law and culture.  His empire created local democracies, the rule of law and heavily believed in freedom of religion creating societies where Buddhists, Muslims and Christians lived together.  His second successor, his son Kublai Khan, united China and  formed the Yang Dynasty.  I very much loved the ceremonial masks in the exhibit.

Lunch with a Friend

Part of any of my travel adventures involves catching up with old friends whenever possible and the reason I initially headed south and west on this trip was to connect with my friend Luis.  Someone I have a lot in common with, loved working with and is someone who is always a lock for a great conversation, one of his questions even inspired an old post, What is the price of being you?  It was great to see him and spend a little time.

Really he likes me, should have counted so he could smile on cue.

The first disaster, wait that should be in quotes, “disaster”

There are always small misadventures on any adventure and all you can hope for is that they will be small and I’ve already had my first.  The car in front of me swerved and I was suddenly running over something I hadn’t seen, hear a loud pop and then felt and heard something dragging under my car.  I pulled off and found a small five gallon bucket wedged to the frame in front of my rear tire.  I pulled it out and tossed it off the highway, frustrated but didn’t see any damage and began driving, only to notice an odd noise.  When I finally found a quiet place to pull off I found that the bucket had broke off a clip on the plastic front end and flap in front of my front tire.  As I sped up the wind pushed the piece back and it was rubbing against the tire.  The tire was destroying the plastic and what I had to do was disassemble the lower piece and cut off part of it to keep it off my tire.  Tomorrow I’ll get to a shop and see if I can get the remaining piece clipped or wired back to the frame.  So yeah, sucks a bit but could have been much worse.

The Pacific Ocean

surfer, ocean, pacific, happiness, travelI love going literally coast to coast, so I made a point of making a stop at the Pacific on this end of the journey at Pt. Hueneme.  I walked out on the pier, watched some surfers and stuck my toes in the Pacific.  Eastward ho!  But north first to see some friends in Sacramento.  As always, I hope you have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

 

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