Happiness on Facebook

So tonight Facebook blocked my post on being happy at work, perhaps by embedding it they will let it post. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happiness is Living in the High Desert

Happiness is Living in the High Desert

528 perfect dayWater, water, water….There is no shortage of water in the desert but exactly the right amount , a perfect ratio of water to rock, water to sand, insuring that wide free open, generous spacing among plants and animals, homes and towns and cities, which makes the arid West so different from any other part of the nation. There is no lack of water here unless you try to establish a city where no city should be. ~ Edward Abbey

I have recently moved to the high desert, at about 3000 feet in the Mojave Desert of California.  I’m lucky to live on a five acre lot with a beautiful view of the mountains, it’s a fantastic spot.

529c the new houseThe funny this is that I really don’t like the heat, I grew up in the Northeastern US and so I grew up in humidity, green forests and four seasons.  It was a surprise to me when I first encountered the desert years ago that I didn’t hate it.  The more time I spent in the high desert the more I began to love it.  I have attended the Burning Man festival several times in the Black Rock Desert and I loved being out in the desert.  However, there is a difference between visiting for a couple of weeks and actually living in the Mojave.

For those who know, this next part will even make less sense, I’m not a morning person, but what I love most about the desert are the mornings.  There is something about the dry morning breeze in the desert that is absolute perfection.  As much as any quiet morning is great, there is something truly special about desert mornings.  Maybe, because of the heat, you know how fleeting and therefor precious that cool morning air is to you.

Summer will be brutal, it already has been, it was above 105 the last couple of days.  But I’m really excited about clear fall nights, particular meteor shower viewing in October, Although even with the hot days, the Perseid meteor shower in August should be great.  The combination of very little light pollution and clear dry air should make for an amazing show.

The desert is not void of life, there are lots of critters wandering around, some that you get to see and some that are a lot more secretive.  I’ve recently bought a UV flashlight to go scorpion spotting.  I currently have a property full of bunny rabbits, chipmunks and Helen and George, two gopher snakes who are obviously quite fond of each other.

george and helenThe other thing is that the desert and in particular the view from my house over the mountains at sunset have been spectacular.  So I’ve been photographing it each day, have a look at a couple and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happy News: Memorial Day Version

Happy News: Memorial Day Version

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In the end, we will not remember the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

01US Airmen in South Korea organize rescue of women and children from burning building

02Four Marines reunite after 50 years to recreate beach photo

03D-Day Veteran set to marry his love 70 years after they were torn apart by war

04Wounded veteran to open restaurant to help and employ other veterans

 

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Vacation is over, time to leave the real world

Vacation is over, time to leave the real world

fix sunset 1Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over             ~ Guy Finley

So it’s finally happened, my 18 month vacation is finally coming to an end.  This week I’ll move into my new rental house, officially and finally leave Sacramento.  Next Wednesday I’ll start my new job.  People keep saying to be ma, “back to the real world.”  I keep correcting them, back to the default world.  The term “default world” is a term I picked up in the Burning Man Community, it refers to the world we all spend most of our life in, the world of the script.  You know where society has scripted what you should look, act and be like.  I can tell you friends that this is not the real world, why would the real world be a place where we are the most stressed out, the most contained, controlled a world where we are least able to be our true selves all of the time.  No, that world is the default world.

me tieI am sure of this because over the last year I have absolutely been in the real world.  Over the last year I’ve been more relaxed, happier and freer than I’ve ever been before.  My time on the Appalachian Trail was heavenly.  I checked off bucket list items with Polar Bears, Whale Sharks and Manta Rays.  I got to see an active volcano, wrote a book, traveled all over North America, see an amazing Northern Lights display and visit a lot of people I hadn’t seen in many years.

me drinkThe biggest thing however are the changes that have occurred within me.  I find myself really, really relaxed, I don’t drive as fast as I used to, I’m far more patient with folks and even when I’m frustrated I come back to normal much faster than before.  I have a greater appreciation for being happy, I’ve spent a year exclusively pursuing things that make me happy and it has been wonderful.  One thing that I noticed was time moved much more slowly over the last 18 months, that time seems to have stretched on for years.  I also have a much greater desire to do even more than I have before.  I’ve worked out skipping out every few years to get big adventures, now the goal is working smaller adventures into everyday life.

KODAK Digital Still CameraI have lots of goals for the next adventure, learning spanish, more photography and painting, given I’ll be in the desert new hiking trails and even some astronomy to make use of the clear, dark skies I’ll have at my disposal.  More time in nature above all and doing a better job of meditating more.

fix yellow highwayI’m excited about my new job.  The folks I’ve met so far have been wonderful, the job is really the type of job I was hoping to land and I’m looking forward to doing good work and maintaining a good work/life balance.  I’m not looking forward to “blister weather” in July and August.  I heard this term for the first time the other day, “weather so hot you blister your forehead just walkin outside.”  My new hometown is small and rural and for that reason the pace is a bit slower, I’m looking forward to it.  I’m also looking forward to pushing myself to be a bit more social than I normally am.  Challenges abound, but we don’t grow unless we stress ourselves a bit, we don’t get happier without growth.  So I’m looking forward to the next chapter and many happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Rev Kane relaxing in the arctic snow flurries

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Happiness is Aloha Friday

Happiness is Aloha Friday

fix waipio beach 1Whereever you go, go with all of your heart ~ Confucius

So I recently got back from a week in Hawaii on the Big Island.  Tonight a little teaser, there were messages on a green sand beach.

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Angry visages of Pele in her lair.

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Pretty trees.

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Ducklings on black sand beaches.

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Sunsets and sail boats.

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Waterfalls and flowers.fix rainbow falls 1

Beautiful blue waters.fix beach 1

Aquamarine seas in an old cinder cone.fix beach 2 fix beach 3

A wonderful Luaus. fix luau 1

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And a walk across a steaming volcanic craterfix akili crater 1

Stay tuned for more soon my friends and have a happy day ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happiness & The Need to Win

Happiness & The Need to Win

sheenStrength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength. ~ Arnold Schwarzenegger

In the United States, part of the script we are fed from birth is how important winning is, to be American we are told is to never be bested.  It leads to a concept called American Exceptionalism which is a blind belief that whatever America does is best?  This of course is ridiculous, no person, no ideology, no country is always best or right, all are human creations and to my knowledge there has never been a perfect human.

We are fed on quotes like, “Winning isn’t everything, it’s the only thing – Vince Lombardi” or “Winning is the most important thing in my life, after breathing.  Breathing first, winning second ~ George Steinbrenner.”  Of course, Donald Trump has said, “My whole life is about winning.  I don’t lose often.  I almost never lose.”  Now I used these quotes in a particular order.  Lombardi was a great coach and he was talking about football.  Steinbrenner was the owner of the Yankees and not known as the most ethical of owners, who symbolized buying his way to championships.  Few people would hold up Donald Trump as a model of ethics, integrity or happiness.  Finally the image I use tonight, Charlie Sheen and his insistence in the middle of a drug and alcohol fueled meltdown that he was “winning!”  He has recently been diagnosed HIV positive and I feel for him but I don’t think I’d consider that winning.

Now this idea of winning has consequences in our everyday life that assault our happiness.  People come to believe that winning at all costs is the most important thing.  It shows up in the person who steals a parking spot you are quite obviously waiting on.  Drivers who tailgate and whip through traffic risking injury to all of us, even in the way whenever you pass someone on the highway they suddenly speed up as you go by.  This attitude leads to behaviors that create stress for all of us.  This focus on winning teaches us to be less empathetic and compassionate to our fellow humans.

Lack of empathy and compassion toward others has consequences for the self.  We get back what we give, when we are empathetic and compassionate, those are the type of emotions and actions that come back to us.  Is winning so important?  I’m all in favor of keeping score at kids games and in life, in fact we will win and lose and we need to know how to deal with that, but we also need perspective.  Do you have to win at getting a parking spot, a spot in line at the grocery store, is it really losing getting passed on the highway?  We need to keep perspective on what’s really important in life.  To me, being happy is what I consider winning, whether I’m first or fourth or last.  So my friends, slow down, take it easy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happy News – April 4, 2016

Happy NewsApril 4, 2016

happiness newsOur weekly tour around the web to find positive and uplifting news, have a happy day my friends  ~ Rev Kane

 

01Quick Thinking Kids Find Creative Way to Help Cops

 

02Starbucks to Donate Unused Food to the Needy

 

03Little Girl’s Books Lost in Fire Replaced by Authors

 

04Homeless Couple Gets Dream Wedding from Community

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Introducing RevKane.com

Introducing RevKane.com

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Rev Kane relaxing in the arctic snow flurries

So I’ve taken the next step with the Ministry of Happiness and we’ve got our own domain.  I would have loved to have Ministry of Happiness dot com or org but those were not available.  So, I’ve settled on RevKane.com which was available.  You can still use our old domain Ministryofhappiness.wordpress.com, either address will work and bring you to the same place, you can still find us on Twitter @ministryofhappy

Some other planned changes will be coming as well, I’ll be consolidating some the pages on the blog and adding some new ones including pages with my photographs, poetry and my travel journals.  One thing I’m really happy about is that when I upgraded the blog I was also able to set it up so that ads will no longer appear on the post, that’s right for now on we’re ad free here at the Ministry of Happiness, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happy News – March 28, 2016

Happy NewsMarch 28, 2016

happiness newsOur weekly tour around the web to bring you positive news, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

01Officer pretends to be out for a walk to walk woman with dementia home

 

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Firefighter pays $1000 electric bill to keep child on ventilator

 

03Brazilian ballet for the blind (video)

 

04Motherhood Helped Me Let Go of Perfection

 

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Happiness & Diastasis Recti

Happiness & Diastasis Recti

diastasis2So tonight’s post is a little bit different from my normal posts.  Tonight I want to talk about a medical condition I’ve just discovered that I have, it’s called Diastasis Recti.  Here’s a little definition and description.

Diastasis Recti

Diastasis is a common source of concern and confusion for both patients and doctors. Diastasis refers to a stretching of the connective tissue that normally holds each side of your “six pack” muscles together. This band of tissue called the Linea alba (white line) is generally relatively thin and firm. The white line may be weak in some individuals as a normal anatomical variant or, more commonly, it can be stretched out after large fluctuations in weight gain and loss, such as pregnancy.

Diastasis affects both men and women. Most commonly, a patient will notice an “Alien” coming from the abdomen between the rib cage and the belly button when they try to do a sit up. The area is rarely painful and almost is never seen except when doing “sit up” type movements. (From Michigan Hernia Surgery)

For me I noticed mine a couple of years ago, it was smaller and it made no sense to me as anatomically I knew that there wasn’t anything that should cause this bump.  I wish I had Googled it back then but I saw a really fit guy at the gym with one and just assumed it was normal.  A couple of weeks ago, I was doing some crunches and looked down to see that my bump had grown and that scared me.  So I Googled it and bam, Diastasis Recti (DR).  I had unfortunately made it worse over the last few months because I had been doing a lot of crunches and similar abdominal workouts.  I thought I was doing something good, and to a degree I was, but there are better ways to build your core strength that won’t aggravate or create this condition.

Of course the core reason for this condition is that I’ve been overweight for most of my life and I carry my weight around my belly which causes pressure on the linea alba much like when a woman is pregnant.  This condition is most often seen in post partum women who in an effort to get their pre-baby bodies back do tons of crunches and cause a weakening in the linea alba.  I have joked for years about my belly that I was pregnant, it seems the universe has a sense of humor.

Once I realized what was going on I set out to do some research and it was enlightening.  It was enlightening in two ways, first in what I was learning about the condition and secondly how much bad information is out there on the internet.  So, my disclaimer, I’m not a medical professional, you should check with yours before doing anything.  One of the first things I saw was that DR could not be fixed with exercise and had to be surgically repaired.  From my further research I don’t believe this to be true and have confirmed that with a couple of physical therapists.  Now, it may have to be surgically repaired if there is a hernia involved as well, or if after going through the appropriate physical therapy you are unable to re-strengthen the tissue and reduce the size of the bump.

What I have primarily learned is two things, in the beginning, abdominal binding may be a good idea but is not absolutely necessary.  Second, the real goal here is to increase your transverse abdominal muscles without doing exercises that stress the condition (i.e. crunches, traditional sit-ups or straight leg lifts).  This means working with some yoga and Pilates related exercises as well as doing abdominal bracing and hollowing exercises.  Almost everything I read said it would likely take up to six weeks to start to see results and up to twelve weeks to normally resolve the condition.  That of course means you’re doing the exercises religiously and not doing anything to cause a set back.  At the bottom of the piece I’ll list some sites that I found helpful both for exercises and information, but as always buyer beware.

So the title of the piece is Happiness & Diastasis Recti, how the heck could this make me happy?  It’s a lesson in our day-to-day happiness that I dare say I might not have come to several years ago.  In every situation there is an opportunity, they are not always obvious, but they are almost always there.  Happiness is also a choice, I strongly believe that and in this situation I’ve made the choice to look for the opportunity and be happy about it.  I will be for the next six weeks effectively be wearing a girdle and that will make me self-conscious as hell.  I can no longer do crunches or work the captain’s chair doing straight leg lifts, something that I was pretty proud of building up to.

However, this situation has provided me with a few things.  First, it is more motivation to lose weight, I’ve dropped down to within about twenty pounds of my goal weight, I’m almost fifty pounds lighter than I was at my heaviest and this has given me the extra motivation to lose those last pounds.  Secondly, I’m more in touch with my core, to say that in the most new age, hippie way I can think to say it.  However this is really a good thing, it’s got me exercising differently as well as changing some basic movements like the way I get out of bed.  This new core awareness should actually help me become a stronger better cyclist and hiker and that’s a good thing.

We all face struggles and new hurdles pop up all of the time, we can choose to be victims, we can choose to be upset, or we can choose to look for opportunities and make the best of things.  When we choose to look for those our opportunities we are choosing happiness, so choose happiness and have many happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

Helpful Sites I’ve Found

DR beginning exercises for deep abdominal muscles – I really like this lady’s demeanor and it’s a great beginning point for exercises and workouts.  There are more advanced exercises on her home site.

12 Weeks of Workouts to Rebuild After DR – this site has a good section on how to determine if you have this as well as some good exercises for building your transverse abdominal (TVA) muscles.

Your guide to treating DR – Part 1

Your guide to treating DR – Part 2 – I really like these two videos, the trainer brings in a Physical Therapist to talk about the exercises and the condition and there’s a good little question and answer section.

The MuTu system, for Mummy Tummy – this system gets really good press around the net and seems to work, it’s essentially pre-packaged TVA and other exercises with an online coach for about $100.  So the first page is good info, but not everything as they want you to buy the rest.

 

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