Happiness and Gratitude for My Life

Happiness and Gratitude for My Life 

IMGP9912People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness.  Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.  ~H. Jackson Browne

I was reminded this weekend of how incredibly thankful I should be for my life as it is at this time.  Today I am one of the fortunate ones, I am well-educated, I have a good job, my health is good and all-in-all, things are good for me.  Not perfect of course, I will certainly see a 10% pay cut this year, my health is not perfect, I have people I care about who are ill, friends who are dealing with the most difficult of things.  Yet still, I am one of the lucky ones, my life has finally brought me to a point where my pursuits are less and less about necessity and more and more about my happiness and desires.  This most certainly makes me a fortunate man.

This Saturday morning I was heading out for an all-day bicycle ride, the opportunity for that itself a measure of how lucky I am.  I stopped at McDonalds for a guilty pleasure, an egg McMuffin and hash browns.  As I sat down to eat my breakfast an old woman came in, pushing a small cart full of all of her possessions.  She ordered a coffee and a hash brown and sorted out some balled up bills to pay with.  I noticed several people adjusted their seats to not sit near her, honestly I considered the same and was ashamed for even having the thought.  You see, those of us who live in cities with large homeless populations learn to not see them, develop the ability to ignore them and their suffering.  Over time, I too have developed this ability, this callousness an unfortunate characteristic that I now carry.

However, for some reason my ability failed me on this morning and I really saw her.  She was older, not elderly, but probably in her early 60’s and she seemed utterly alone.  Worn out, several scabs on her lips, she seemed as if a strong wind could knock her over.  It was a cold morning and I noticed she was wearing Crocs and no socks, it was a windy morning as well and I found myself wondering how terribly cold the hours after dawn must have been for her.  She was not begging, she didn’t seemed inclined to, and uncharacteristically for me I walked over wished her a good day and placed  a twenty-dollar bill on her tray.  She blessed me and I left to go onto my bike ride.

I do not write this to look for any kind of accolades for what I did, it was an act of selfishness and shame.  You see, I as many people do, can see a future where I could very well end up alone and it would take only a few poor turns for me to end up someday as she is now.  I was in that moment ashamed that I have so much while she has so little, I was selfishly hoping that if I end up in her shoes, maybe someone who has more will be as kind to me, even if it is only on one cold morning.

Be grateful for what you have and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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One more lesson on patience and happiness

One more lesson on patience and happiness

fix dark faceA friend of mine posted this on FaceBook, grab a tissue, and whether the story is true or not is irrelevant, the lesson is important.  We have talked about before, to steal from the Beatles, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” ~Rev Kane

 

A NYC Taxi driver wrote:

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up to the door and knocked.. ‘Just a minute’, answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90’s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940’s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

‘Would you carry my bag out to the car?’ she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. ‘It’s nothing’, I told her, ‘I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother to be treated.’

‘Oh, you’re such a good boy, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, ‘Could you drive through downtown?’

‘It’s not the shortest way,’ I answered quickly..

‘Oh, I don’t mind,’ she said. ‘I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. ‘I don’t have any family left,’ she continued in a soft voice, ‘The doctor says I don’t have very long.’ I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

‘What route would you like me to take?’ I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.

We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds she had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, ‘I’m tired.  Let’s go now’.  We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move.  They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

‘How much do I owe you?’ She asked, reaching into her purse.

‘Nothing,’ I said

‘You have to make a living,’ she answered.

‘There are other passengers,’ I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

‘You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,’ she said. ‘Thank you.’

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life..

I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk.  What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.

But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

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The Dalai Lama on Patience

The practice of patience guards us against losing our presence of mind. It enables us to remain undisturbed, even when the situation is really difficult. It gives us a certain amount of inner peace, which allows us some self-control, so that we can choose to respond to situations in an appropriate and compassionate manner, rather than being driven by our disturbing emotions. ~ Dalai Lama

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The Dalai Lama on warm-heartedness & happiness

Warm-heartedness reinforces our self-confidence – giving us not a blind confidence, but a sense of confidence based on reason. When you have that you can act transparently, with nothing to hide! Likewise, if you are honest, the community will trust you. Trust brings friendship, as a result of which you can always feel happy. Whether you look to the right or the left, you will always be able to smile. ~ Dalai Lama

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Deng Ming-Dao on Caring

Deng Ming-Dao on Caring

There are times in life when we are called upon to help others typically when people we care about are suffering and in pain.  At these times we feel obligated to give of ourselves and we should, however we should never be asked to give beyond what we can, to the point of doing harm to ourselves, Deng Ming-Dao says it better.

 Don’t go out looking for good deeds to do
  But if one comes your way, do not refuse.
If you meet someone who is suffering,
  You must help them

What good is self-cultivation and wisdom if you just keep it for yourself?  Knowledge is meant to be used, and if you can use it on behalf of others, you should.

There was once a man who prayed daily to a particular god among many of the temple.  Eventually, he noticed that the incense he lit drifted all over – other gods were getting the benefit from his efforts!  He built a paper cone over the incense burner so that all the smoke would be directed right at the nose of his god.  Unfortunately, this turned the face of his god black with soot.

Those who follow Tao believe in using sixteen attributes on behalf of others:  mercy, gentleness, patience, nonattachment, control, skill, joy, spiritual love, humility, reflection, restfulness, seriousness, effort, controlled emotion, magnanimity, and concentration.  Whenever you need to help another, draw upon these qualities.  Notice that self-sacrifice is not included in this list.  You do not need to destroy yourself to help another.  Your overall obligation is to complete your own journey along your personal Tao.  As long as you can offer solace to others on your same path, you have done the best you can.

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Happiness & Cynicism

Happiness & Cynicism

Happiness & Cynicism

It is better to sit alone than in company with the bad; and it is, better still to sit with the good than alone. It is better to speak to a seeker of knowledge than to remain silent; but silence is better than idle words. ~ Mohammed

It’s very easy in our world to become cynical, I speak from experience.  I’ve always been a very cynical person, it comes from living in a world where people let you down, with consistency.  A world where our politicians will say anything to get elected, where elected officials are more concerned with opposing the other political party than actually governing or trying to help people.   I see on TV every day advertisements from coal and oil companies talking about how much they love the environment, pretending that we can burn petroleum free of consequences.  We are bombarded on a daily basis from a hundred directions manipulated by expert advertisers whose job it is to tell us what we like, what we care about, who to vote for, what we should look like and even who the good guys and bad guys are in the world.   It makes you wonder at times if any of your thoughts are your own.

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Be happy

It is a quick and easy path to cynicism for those of us who think and feel.  However, as I’ve gotten older I’ve begun to see a dark futility in being so cynical.  That time frame not so surprisingly fairly closely corresponds to the birth of the Ministry of Happiness.  In creating a happier life for myself, it seemed appropriate, maybe even necessary to share and help others; maybe it was just about having some company on the path.  Through this journey some of the cynical edge to my view has begun to dissipate and it has helped me progress toward a happier life.  Hopefully some of what we do here will help you as well, and as always, be happy and have a happy day my friends  ~ Rev Kane.

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Happiness and Children

Happiness and Children

Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children.              ~ Kahlil Gibran

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Flying his way into happiness

So recently the Rev had a wonderful opportunity I got to meet my new nephew, this is my third and he’s absolutely adorable.  So for today what I decided to find some resources on keeping and making children happy.  Even if you had a hard childhood, we all had those moments of carefree bliss in our childhood.   It is my hope for my little niece that she has as much of that, for as long as possible.  So here are some resources, some readings on that very topic.  Have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

A piece from Oprah’s network
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/5-Keys-to-Your-Childs-Happiness/1

How sad, American children rank #20 in the world
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/6360517.stm

Some thoughts on happier schools
http://www.thenation.com/article/166211/putting-kids-happiness-our-educational-radar

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Love, Happiness and Words from my Favorite Writers

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Happiness and not being happy

Happiness and not being happy

The art of living does not consist in preserving and clinging to a particular mode of happiness, but in allowing happiness to change its form without being disappointed by the change; happiness, like a child, must be allowed to grow up.  ~ Charles L. Morgan

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery while on a detour.  ~ Unknown

Last night a friend of mine of mine posted something on Facebook that I thought was really spectacular and quite profound, here are her words:

I’ve been trying to teach my children it’s ok to feel your feelings … and ya know what it’s ok for us adults to … I keep hearing what you put out is what you get in, I get this I really do but I am allowed to be blue, I am allowed to be mad, I am allowed to be frustrated, I am allowed to feel like I am drowning … I am simply allowed to feel.

I of course chimed in that it’s ok to be happy as well, but my friend makes a great point it is both important and ok to feel your feelings and that includes when you’re not happy as well as when you are.  You see, and this may be a bit paradoxical, but feeling your negative feelings can make you happier in the end.  The reason for this is that bottling up your emotions is a very bad thing, it creates stress and anxiety and all of the things that in the end can impact your health in bad ways and unhealthy people are rarely happy people.

Below is a link to a quick little piece on the impacts of negative emotions and it’s worth a look:  http://takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/create-healthy-lifestyle/emotions-and-attitudes/how-do-emotions-attitudes-impact-health

So remember friends it is ok to feel, whatever you’re feeling, in the end you’ll be better off, and as always, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happy Holiday, Easter, or whatever you celebrate

Happy Holiday, Easter, or whatever you celebrate

fix owl 1 zHappy Holiday to you all my friends, whether you celebrate Passover, are about to celebrate Easter or a spring festival of new life and fertility.  All of our spring holidays have a wonderfully positive spin to them, they all celebrate the idea of renewal, the possibility of new life.  Like this season where new life abounds around us, we look forward to the positivity of life.  It’s been great to see my Facebook wall filled with pictures of nieces and nephews, and friend’s children painting eggs.  In the spirit of all of this warmth and happiness I’m including a video today, what Easter is all about, as told by some children, guaranteed to raise a smile, have a happy day my friends.

http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/8440ce104f/the-magic-of-easter-as-told-by-kids

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Happiness Rankings Worldwide

Happiness Rankings Worldwide

From time to time I see articles on worldwide happiness rankings and the United States bounces around in these rankings but we’re usually between 10 and 15th, they all have slightly different criteria, so I thought tonight I’d pass some of the links along for you to check out.

UN Happiness rankings, US came in #11, Denmark #1

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2124553/Brits-come-18th-UNs-World-Happiness-rankings–Costa-Rica-Israel-UAE.html

A comparison of three indexes, once again Denmark rocking two of them as #1 with Costa Rica taking the other.

http://www.gfmag.com/tools/global-database/ne-data/10294-the-happiest-countries-in-the-world.html#axzz1rDjWATfW

A more in depth look at the world’s happiest countries, you guessed it, Denmark, the US is #14.

http://www.forbes.com/2010/07/14/world-happiest-countries-lifestyle-realestate-gallup-table.html

A color coded map of happiness worldwide and a lot of data and detail underneath

http://www1.eur.nl/fsw/happiness/hap_nat/nat_fp.php?mode=6

 

 

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