Happiness and Healing a Nation

Happiness and Healing a Nation

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I don’t normally talk politics in this column, and honestly, tonight’s post really isn’t political.  America has been politically divided for some time.  Over the last four years that division has seemed particularly deep and extremely acrimonious.  I’ve watched this division lead to a lot of hard feelings between people.  Even with my own family I’ve cut a few people out of my life who have become so obsessed with politics and the divide to the point that I could no longer tolerate interacting with them.  The divide was one of the driving factors in me greatly reducing my Facebook friends list.  Not getting rid of people who disagreed with me, but getting rid of people who were only online friends, or people who seemed unable or unwilling to engage in reasonable discussion because of how obsessed they were with the political divide.

Intolerance of divergent ideas seems to have become the norm in America.  Everyone knows that they have the right answer to everything, however some people’s right answer is the opposite of other people’s right answer, hence the divide.  This has just played out in the most public of ways in the US Presidential election.  There are hurt feelings on every side of the equation.

The hope is, now that the election is over, there will be an effort made by the new administration to facilitate healing in America.  I’m not sure how successful that will be, because at the end of the day, it’s up to individuals, not the government, to create the healing that is needed.  It’s good that it starts with the new president, but healing and the happiness it can bring has to come person to person.

My hope is that people are tired of arguing, tired of bad feelings, tired of constantly walking on egg shells around anyone they do not perfectly agree with.  So tonight, I have a few suggestions for healing around politics in America.

  1. Gloating is a bad idea – I know, it feels great to rub it in the face of someone you disagree with that the person they support has just lost.  But all it does is foster hard feelings and continue the cycle.  Even if they offer conspiracy theories, I think the best idea is to look toward what can be positive, affirming and maybe even unifying going forward.
  2. Focus on what unifies all of us – across this country, everyone wants children to be educated, families to be safe, the elderly and our veterans supported and looked after.  We all want less poverty, less illness and a cleaner environment.  We want the future to be good for our children.  Talk with people about those things and how we can make that happen, be willing to listen to other ideas.
  3. Disengage as much as possible – unfortunately, as much as I would like to think rational, fact based discourse could change minds, that doesn’t seem to happen very often.  So disengage, don’t jump into the fights.  This may mean limiting your social media time, or even trimming your social media contact/friend lists.
  4. Try to be positive – focus on the positive and least controversial decisions and aspects of current politics.  Again, reduce the drama and conflict, it will keep things more peaceful.

There are a lot of hurt people right now, some from the last four years, some due to the results of the election.  Healing and unity comes down to each of us, making that effort.  If we don’t, well quite simply, nothing changes and I think we all want things to improve.  Do what you can and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Thank you for Voting

Thank you for Voting

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An American Flag at the Temple at Burning Man

Too many people fought too hard to make sure that all citizens of all colors, races, ethnicities, genders and abilities can vote to think that not voting somehow sends a message. ~ Luis Gutierrez

From all accounts of early voting and stories from polls in various states, today my fellow Americans voted in larger numbers than they have in quite sometime.  No matter who you voted for, thank you for voting.  This experiment in democracy known as the United States of America only works if we participate.  To sit back and ignore the governance of your country, state, county, city, family and very person is to give up control over all of that to someone else.  So again, thank you for voting today and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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My COVID Times Diary: Election Day

My COVID Times Diary: Election Day

It is enough that the people know there was an election. The people who cast the votes decide nothing. The people who count the votes decide everything. ~ Joseph Stalin

I haven’t written a COVID Times post in a while, I guess to some degree life in the slow motion apocalypse has become normalized.  However, as 2020 has been an incredibly unique year, it seemed fitting to do a post on the presidential election during the apocalypse.

This year has been unprecedented in so many ways, just this week hurricane Eta formed in the Caribbean.  That means 2020 is tied for the largest number of hurricanes ever during the Atlantic hurricane season, and there’s still time for more.  Recently, up in Washington state, officials removed the first murder hornet nest.

Of course the biggest ways 2020 is unprecedented is of course the COVID 19 pandemic.  As of today there are over 9.25 million documented cases of COVID infections with over 230,000 people dying from the disease.  Currently we are experiencing around 90,000 infections per day with 1,000 deaths.  We are likely about to be the first country on Earth to average 100,000 infections a day.  Given cold weather, flu season, Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas all coming roughly four weeks apart, and people not wearing masks and social distancing, numbers are likely to continue to rise.

But today, Tuesday November 3rd, one of the most divisive elections in modern American history is occurring.  Our current president has said that if he doesn’t win, the election must be rigged, he’s constantly claimed there will be fraud, and has dog whistled to white supremacists about needing their support.  He has also recruited “poll watchers” across the country for election today.  So given all of these things, people on the left are worried about violence if the president loses.

Now, the president has spent the last year demonizing groups like Black Lives Matter (BLM).  Conspiracy theorists on the right have claimed that BLM is coming to suburbia to destroy neighborhoods and murder people, they have claimed that BLM started the forest fires in Oregon last month and generally have suggested that if the president wins, radicals on the left will burn buildings and murder citizens, so people on the right are worried about violence if the president wins.

This is America in COVID times, people living under pandemic conditions in a horribly politically divided country with everyone afraid there will be violence.  So in America that means people run out to buy guns and ammo.  Lines are constant outside gun stores even here in the Bay Area, one of the most anti-gun areas of the country.  Just this week Walmart decided to take ammo off the shelves due to potential election violence, then reversed themselves and international election workers warned of potential violence.

Regardless of the outcome, I hope the people expecting violence are wrong.  But with what is on social media, in the most divided America I’ve lived in, with the number of guns and ammo people have, nothing would surprise me.  Hopefully my next COVID Times post won’t be recounting the violence and the dead over an election.  Stay safe, be careful and please, please, please, wear a mask when around others.

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A Very Happy Sunday

A Very Happy Sunday

california blue oceanDon’t get me wrong, I admire elegance and have an appreciation of the finer things in life. But to me, beauty lies in simplicity. ~ Mark Hyman

For the last seven months, life has been more than a little complicated for most of us.  But today, I decided to have a really simple and happy day.  I started off the morning by Zooming with my littlest nieces and nephews, who were of course completely jacked up since it was the day after Halloween.  They were especially excited to show me the creepy fingers they had for their Halloween costumes.  I was also thrilled to have my littlest niece, not quite two, on the Zoom.  At one point my nephews wanted me to show them apartment and every time I was off screen I would hear her say to her dad, “Uncle Mike?” I love that she was worried I had gone away.  Before that she also invented a new game, Zoom Peekaboo, she would scrunch down under the screen and when I would say, “where is she?” She would pop up laughing and yelling.

Since they are on the east coast, the call was early and so I waited on breakfast until after the call.  I love southern biscuits and gravy and although biscuits are not on menu at the moment, I made a nice pot of sausage gravy and eggs for breakfast and it was wonderful.  And after a fabulous breakfast I sat down to watch my favorite football team, the Pittsburgh Steelers.  They are having a great year, 6-0 coming into today’s game against their biggest rival, the Baltimore Ravens who were 5-1.  So it was a huge game for the rivalry, for first place in the division and one of the best records in football.

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Rev Kane, decked out in full Steeler gear at a Steeler/Raven game in Pittsburgh

It was a typical Steeler/Ravens game, the game had five lead changes, and game down to the final moments.  Happily for me, the Steelers pulled out a four point victory and now at 7-0 have tied the best starting record in team history and have the best record in the NFL.

I followed up the game with a little bit of writing, getting my blogs for the week completed and then headed out for a nice walk along the ocean.

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Today  is also one of my favorite days of the year, Dios de La Muertos (Day of the Dead).  So I took some time just to admire the Day of the Dead art that I own, this one is my favorite.

day of the deadFinally I came home to make a nice beef stew for dinner, it was delicious, leftover Halloween candy for desert topped it off nicely.  All in all just a simple and happy day filled with things I love and love to do, something we all need from time to time.  Have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness & Loving Yourself

Happiness & Loving Yourself

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Rev Kane communing with Yaks in Nepal

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier.  The way it actually works is the reverse.  You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.  ~Margaret Young

Originally posted in 2017

I love this quote, probably because it strikes so damn close to home for me.  You see she’s dead on and we all know it, money can’t buy you love or happiness, the big job, the nice car, the McMansion, they don’t do it.  Happiness is something that is derived from self, which emanates from your ability to be comfortable with yourself and be at one with the world around you.  To find  joy in every living being and to see the magic that resides in the world.  Different religions and philosophies have different names for it, joy, bliss, enlightenment, nirvana or maybe just simply, happiness is the word we should use.   But it all starts from the same place, inside of you, you must come to terms with who you are and learn to love yourself.  Once you’ve done that happy is an easy leap and the degree to which you’ve accomplished that is the degree to which you can become happy.  It’s a trip we’re all on, but remember to enjoy the journey as much as the promise of the destination.

For me, this understanding came out of great pain and confusion.  Earlier in my life I struggled with pain and anger that I carried around with me constantly.  The only way I knew to deal with these feelings was suppression and once I left home I found my release through drugs and alcohol.  I had the ultimate college party experience and became ever more deeply involved with the altered states of consciousness these chemicals could provide.  In some ways it was the best time of my life, I had absolved myself of any responsibility and was leading a purely hedonistic existence, it was wonderful.  But there is a cost to everything and the cost for my hedonism and denial was an inevitable crash, and my life crashed.  I lost friends, was kicked out of college, had to move home and watched some of my friends go to jail for dealing drugs.  It was the darkest and most important time of my life, a time that scared people close to me half to death, some convinced I was on the edge of suicide.

However, after I crashed I had that moment of perfect clarity and saw my life for what it had become.  I then spent six months tearing myself down and rebuilding myself brick by brick.  In the end, what was left of me might not have been what others would have chosen, but it was who I wanted to be, who I am.  That comfort has allowed me to care little what others think, unless they are people whose thoughts and opinions I respect.  That comfort has allowed me to make choices that have seemed crazy to others but have made me happy.  My crash was the best thing that ever happened to me and I owe where I am and who I am today to those dark days.

My hope for you is that you won’t have to crash to find a way to be comfortable with yourself and like the person you are, or to find the strength to become the person you want to be.  Maybe reading this is a start, I hope so.  Have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want. ~ Lao Tzu

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Happiness is Halloween: Cool Stuff

Happiness is Halloween: Cool Stuff

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Halloween is a fun time of year and I think we all have happy memories of trick or treating as children, so some cool stuff to check out tonight, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

3o Great Carved Pumpkins

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Great recipes for a creepy Halloween Party

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Pork Dumplings with Chile-Sesame sauce

21 Creepy Food Recipes

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Happiness is Halloween

Happiness is Halloween

Halloween wraps fear in innocence,
As though it were a slightly sour sweet.
Let terror, then, be turned into a treat… ~ Nicholas Gordon

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I have always loved Halloween, I was one of those kids who always had three different costumes so that I could hit my neighborhood three times and get three times as much candy.  So tonight as holiday parties start to kick off I dug up a list of Halloween related links, fun things, crazy recipes and things to raise some smiles and help you have a Happy Halloween ~ Rev Kane

Cool Halloween Pinterest page

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A pretty awesome post doing the same thing I’m doing an amazing tour around the web for Halloween images.

Good Halloween ideas, my favorite – mad scientist food in a jar

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Halloween food ideas from Pinterest

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Glow in the dark Jello, seems obvious but she missed the idea that since tonic water is bitter, you should add some extra sugar to the mix

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Happiness is Reducing Stress

Happiness is Reducing Stress

Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life. ~ Marilu Henner

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Originally posted January, 2016

Hello my friends, so a new year has started and many of us have resolved to make some changes in the coming new year.  We are addressing each of top ten resolutions and hopefully helping you be more successful.  Tonight, we talk about a very popular resolution, reducing stress in the new year.

Stress is devastating, it can impact your mental state and even your physical well being and even negatively impact your immune system making your more susceptible to illness.

Tonight I’m going to turn to the web to address several categories of stress and offer some resources on how to reduce it, hopefully this will help you have a less stressful new year and more happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is Art: Sculptures in the Desert

Happiness is Art: Sculptures in the Desert

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The world is but a canvas to our imagination ~ Henry David Thoreau

As many of you know I’ve quit my job, sold my house and am traveling across the United States towards my appointed start date of February 26th to do a thru-hike of the Appalachian Trail (AT) from Springer Mountain, GA to Mount Katahdin, ME (2189 miles). This is another post from the road. ~ Rev Kane

So when I rolled into Borrego Springs a week ago I spotted some sculptures out in a field. It turns out that local artist Ricardo Breceda has teamed up with a local land owner to create these Skyart gardens around Borrego Springs.

I really dug the sculptures and so spent a little bit of time shooting them, I did not get close to finding all 130, but certainly found some that I really liked. So enjoy the photos and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness Moments: Following Bigfoot

Happiness Moments: Following Bigfoot

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At the Everest Rock Bar after the white knuckle flight to Lukla on the trail to Everest. My friend Mark is on the left.

Every man can transform the world from one of drabness and monotony to one of excitement and adventure. ~ Irving Wallace

So a new little writing experiment for the blog. I’ve been wanting to find a way to do some free writing as practice. And I’ve been wanting to capture the moments in my life that have brought me true happiness. I need that little pick me up right now with everything going on in the world and no real chance to travel. So, some writing about happy moments in my life, hope they bring you a little happiness too.

About ten years ago I went after a major bucket list item for me, and that was to hike on Mount Everest.  Not to summit, but to at least hike to base camp on the mountain at over 17,000 feet.  The fact is, the real draw for me was not even the mountain, it was the Khumbu Icefall.  I’d been enamored forever by all of this climbing movies where you see hikers scrambling over ladders laid across crevasses in the icefall.  One of the greatest thing about this trip was being able to step onto the icefall.  I’ve written a set of posts about my 30 days in Nepal in the Himalayas but tonight I want to write about one particular morning on the trail when I was following Bigfoot.

Part of this trip revolved around my interest for the Yeti, or as we call it in the US, Bigfoot.  At the Khumjung Gompa, there is a purported Yeti scalp that I had the privilege of getting to see up close.  I don’t believe it to be real, but it was fascinating to see.   I also was able to make it to the village of Machermo, a site of an incredibly famous encounter that a Sherpa woman had with a Yeti in that village back in 1974, that I had read about as a child.

My encounter with Bigfoot in Nepal was of a different nature.  If you’ve never done any long-distance group hiking let me tell you a little bit about how it works.  I think the popular image is that people walk all bunched up in a group, walking at the same pace and taking breaks at the same time.  In fact, you often find yourself hiking alone.  Everyone hikes at a different pace, so unless you are matching pace with someone you can sometimes spend large swaths of the day alone.  I actually like this aspect of long-distance hiking, it gives you a chance to be alone in nature when you want, and to have company when that is what your mood desires.

Snow isn’t common in November on Everest and so we really didn’t expect any, or if it came we didn’t expect more than a dusting.  One of the beautiful things about nature is that you often get the unexpected.  So it was a shock when we woke up one day to over seven inches at 17,000 feet, when we were only two miles from Base Camp on Everest.  This unprecedented and unexpected event caused a change in our plans and we needed to do a very ambitions swing 3,000 feet down the mountain, around, and back up 3,000 feet into the Gokyo Valley, instead of crossing over an 18,000 foot pass that the snow had now made impassable.

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My snow day in the Himalayas

Although a very hard hike, it was a beautiful day, the combination of the snow and the sun in the mountains was magnificent.  We started out together but eventually, as happens, the group spread out across the trail and I found myself walking alone across snow covered trails in the Himalayan Mountains.  The only true way to follow the trail was to follow the footsteps in the snow.  And given we’d been the first group out in the morning, you could be confident in those steps leading you the right way.  This is important in an area where going off trail can lead to thousand foot drop offs into stone or river valleys below.  But it was sunny, clear and beautiful and the walking was good.  That is until the clouds came in and it started to snow again.

Now I grew up in the Northeast, so I’m wasn’t new to winter, to hiking in the snow or even to the whiteout conditions that were quickly taking shape.  However I’d be lying if I say I wasn’t a little nervous.  It wasn’t just a whiteout, but a whiteout in the Himalayas at 15,000 feet, with 1,000 foot drop offs.  So losing the trail could have some really significant consequences.  Luckily, being in an organized group, if need be I could just sit tight.  The group always had a guide up front and one trailing the group as a sweeper.  So eventually, someone in my group should come down the trail to where I was.  But we had a time crunch to make our ambitious hike that day, and sitting tight in a whiteout, not knowing how much snow was coming is not a comfortable thing to do.  So I decided to keep walking, besides, I had the footsteps in the snow to follow, at least until the snow and wind erased them.

Visibility got really bad, but I could still follow the footsteps.  Then, the trail of footsteps did exactly what I didn’t need them to do, they split into two different directions.  This is when Bigfoot became important.  Not the Yeti, but my friend Mark who was on the trip with me.  You see, I’d taken to calling him Bigfoot because of his size 14 shoes.  So here, in the middle of a whiteout, in the Himalayan Mountains, with diverging trails, there, on one of the trails was a footprint significantly larger than all of the others, Bigfoot.  So I followed Bigfoot’s steps and within an hour the snow had diminished, the winds dropped off, eventually even the clouds would blow through and the sun would re-appear.  About two hours after the whiteout I found myself in Sherpa Teahouse, a cup of hot lemon tea in my hand and large piece of warm Tibetan bread with peanut butter and honey in front of me.  That little meal was absolute bliss and even better, later that day on the same hike I would find my favorite place on earth, a little spot just above the second sacred lake in the Gokyo valley.

Second Sacred Lake in the Gokyo Valley

 

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