Happiness is Staying Calm

Happiness is Staying Calm

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To be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition, the end to which every enterprise and labor tends, and of which every desire prompts the prosecution.                    ~ Samuel Johnson

Looking back on last year!

 

So I’ve finally moved into my new house and will be starting my new job this week.  Above is a shot of the view, here’s a shot of the place in the distance.

the new houseNow, just about everything that can go wrong has pretty much gone wrong on the move.  First the house was supposed to be ready on the 20th which was perfect.  It meant I could fill up a Uhaul and unload at the house then return to Sacramento, pack up the last little bit in my car and be in town 10 days before the job started.  Well, the landlord (happily) decided to pull all of the carpet out of the house and put in new wood laminate flooring.  It looks great, unfortunately it meant the house wouldn’t be ready until the 25th.  This meant I know had to move from storage space to a new storage space 400 miles away and instead of off loading the majority of my stuff in one shot, I’ll be doing it for weeks one car load at a time.

I decided to switch phone providers due to poor service at the new place, so I switched, got a new Galaxy S7 that promptly went completely to crap on the drive down with the Uhaul.  So I got that replaced when I returned to Sacramento on my last day in town.  Of course, when I arrived at the realtor’s office on the 25th she said, “there’s a lot going on at your house.”  That was an understatement.  The floors weren’t done, this wasn’t a shock but the flooring wasn’t fully in, bathroom fixtures had been torn out, rooms that had flooring still didn’t have baseboards, washer and dryer pulled out as well as the gas stove.  Happily there is also an electric cooktop I can use.  Oh and did I mention the well pump had died, that’s right, no water, but I was told the pump would be in later that day.  Well it was in at 9PM the next night.

The stove was plugged back in the next night and when I went to light it, it did not work.  I would meet the owner the next day and find out that the previous renter had left a little gift by completely emptying the propane tank for the house.  So the stove wasn’t working because I’m out of propane, luckily, but expensively, the hot water heater is electric.  Oh and the air conditioning is not set up yet, no worries it’s the Mojave Desert, how hot can it get 🙂

I have also learned as I’ve been setting up the utilities that my house has two addresses.  One that totally makes sense, it’s the road the house is on.  The second for a street that honestly does not exist except in the mind of Southern California Edison, as they told me when I first called, your address does not exist.  But eventually I got the second address and the meter number and so now I exist in their eyes.

Snakes! Yes, that was the other thing the realtor told me the property has snakes and she was thoroughly freaked out about it.  But the snakes turned out to be gopher snakes, which eat mice, rats and other little critters so I’m actually happy they are here with me. I’ve named them Helen and George and they, as you can see in the first shot, are very fond of each other.

george and helen george and me helenSo the first night I set up my bed and found a good spot in the room but of course all of the outlets on that wall of the room were not functioning.  It would turn out to be a circuit breaker but it meant a little bed shuffling over two days.  I had cable installed so that I can also have internet, you know where this is going.  After a two-hour installation I was up and running, well so it seemed.  Once I finally had time to sit down and watch some TV a bunch of channels and the On Demand system weren’t working properly.  I called tech support the next day and they helpfully sent some magic signals along the cable lines to help fix the problem.  The net result was of course that now I have lost all of my HD channels, all of my premium channels, and the On Demand system in its entirety.  Thanks for the help, of course they’ll send someone out next Friday between 1 and 5 to help me out.  Thankfully my internet service is working.

It hasn’t been all bad, my new gym is ok and there is lots of wildlife on the property including hordes of rabbits.

bunny rabbitThere is also lots of random small statues and art pieces on the property.

angel harp finger first angel flower potAnd finally the views are spectacular

528a 528b 529a 529cNow, I could be horribly frustrated, stressed out and really wound up about going to work on Wednesday with all of this going wrong.  Bad idea!  If I’ve learned anything about happiness while writing this blog it’s that attitude is everything.  You make a choice to be upset, to be frustrated to be stressed, or not.  I’m choosing gratitude, I’ve got a good new job, I have a beautiful house, with amazing views and lots of wildlife to watch and  I have internet service I’m thankful for all of that.  I’m a fortunate person overall because I’ve been smart and worked hard to get to this place.  I’m also staying positive, I believe my new job is going to be great and all of these quirks with the house will work out in the end.  That’s what this last year has really done for me, it’s really helped me get into a space where I can make the right decision about things,  the decision to be happy.  May you have many happy days my friends and you can, because the choice for happiness is up to you. ~ Rev Kane

Other Posts You Might Enjoy!

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Our Best Happiness Posts for 2015

Revisiting Some of Our Best Posts & Pictures

There are Angels Among Us: A True Story of Giving & Kindness

Remember the Sweet Things

Happiness is Not Safety

 

 

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Best of the Ministry of Happiness

Best of the Ministry of Happiness

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Rev Kane in Ireland

 I’m lazy. But it’s the lazy people who invented the wheel and the bicycle because they didn’t like walking or carrying things. ~ Lech Walesa

So I’m feeling a bit lazy tonight, good but lazy.  Today was a day where I really felt like myself for the first time in a really long time.  It was a good day, I slept in, pushed myself to go the gym, did a little cooking.  While doing a little bit of work I found the photo above. However outside of that it’s been a pretty mellow day.  It’s been a dreamy kind of day, in my head I’ve started thinking about what I’ll be doing in on my time off, starting to formulate plans.  So, I’m dreamy and I’m lazy so I decided to link back to some my favorite Ministry of Happiness posts.  I hope you’ll forgive my laziness tonight, give a couple a read and have a happy day my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Remember the Sweet Things

My Polar Bear Adventure

Trekking in the Himalayas

Overcoming Demons to be Happy

Petra a 2000 Year-old City

 

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How to be happy with yourself through resilience!

How to be happy with yourself through resilience!

resilience, happiness, be happy Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive. ~ Jamais Cascio

First let’s talk about what resilience is, in common terms it s the ability to bounce back, even more than that, it’s the ability to come back even stronger than you were before you got knocked down.  To me, resilience, along with a positive attitude are the two most important things to determining your level of happiness.

Positive Attitude

First let’s address the importance of positive attitude.  One of the simplest ways to think about the benefits of a positive attitude comes from this simple idea, you can’t control what happens to you, only how you react to it.  The fact is, the more positive your attitude the more likely you are to view things in the best light, which in turn is controlling your reaction to the things in your life.  The better your attitude, the better things seem, the better things seem the happier you are likely to be.  Nice little positive feedback loop.

You can apply this to people as well by thinking about it the way Wayne Dyer expresses it:

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Karma

Staying positive helps in so many ways, and it’s so much better than the alternative.  It’s not always easy, I get that, especially when the universe seems to have a singular focus on screwing up your life.  But keep positive, positivity leads to smiling and a smile can do wonders.  However it is exactly when the universe is dumping on you that resilience becomes so important.

Resilience

Resilience has been very much on my mind lately as mine has been put to the test.  We all know when we aren’t very resilient, when are emotional reserves are at a low point.  It’s that time when a question, one that annoys you, that you’ve been asked a million times results in your snapping at someone instead of the artful deflection you usually employ.  Emotional reserves are important, it’s sort of the social glue that keeps society chugging along.  We all employ these reserves regularly and this keeps us from being metaphorically at each others throats.  But there’s a deeper level of resiliency that I’d like to talk about.

We all get knocked down in small ways every day and then we bounce back, sometimes after a pint of ice cream, but we bounce back.  Sometimes however life really smacks us down.  Recently, I got hit pretty hard, someone I care about deeply made it clear that they didn’t want me in their life in any significant way.  This is someone who I’ve had a relationship of one sort or another for 15 years.  It was a horrible blow, the fact is it was enough of an emotional hit in October that it threw me off-balance for the rest of the year.  It wasn’t until a few weeks ago that I really got myself completely back on track.  This is the essence of resiliency, no matter how hard you get hit, no matter what, or how long it takes, you get back on your feet.

resiliency, happinessHow to build resilience

The way to build your resilience is to first do the simple things that keep those emotional reserves intact.  So as always, back to the basics, get enough sleep, eat right, exercise and make sure you are doing things for yourself that you know make you comfortable and happy.  That will work for a lot of the things that you will face but it won’t build additional resilience.

In order to create greater depths of resilience within yourself you have to learn from the current crash.  Take the time to consider what part you may have had to play in the situation.  Remember and take strength from previous times that you bounced back, remember that you’ve done it before and keep that in mind the next time, draw strength from your past success.  Learn and grow always, the better your life gets, the closer you can get to being the person, and living the life you want to live, the stronger and more resilient you will become.

I bounced back my friends, you have too, and no matter what comes at us, we’ll bounce back again.  You’re a strong person, you have value and things to get better in time.  Keep that in mind and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

Other Posts on Happiness

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Overcoming Demons to Find Happiness

Wrapping up the Year in Happiness

Finding Happiness Through Adventure

 

 

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Happy Imaginings: Buzz Aldrin

Happy Imaginings: Buzz Aldrin

Buzz Aldrin, NASA

Buzz Aldrin

I think the American Dream used to be achieving one’s goals in your field of choice – and from that, all other things would follow. Now, I think the dream has morphed into the pursuit of money: Accumulate enough of it, and the rest will follow. ~ Buzz Aldrin

There is a book I’ve always wanted to write called 20 famous people worth having a beer with.  Essentially, I want to interview famous people who actually seem down to earth, people who for as famous as they are, seem like they’d still be regular enough people that you’d want to have a drink with them.  Since it is unlikely that I’ll get that opportunity anytime soon, I’ve decided to make up the interviews.  We all have so many imaginary conversations in our heads, I’ve just decided to have some of mine in the ether and share them with you.  This is meant to be a bit of fun, I hope it’s taken that way and hey, if any of the people I’m writing about, the living ones anyway, want to correct the record with an actual interview, I’m all in. ~ Rev Kane

So if you don’t know who Buzz Aldrin is then you should just stop reading this.  Buzz Aldrin is one of the coolest humans to have ever lived for a number of reasons.  First, raw tenacity, he was rejected by NASA, they only took test pilots, well, until they didn’t and took Buzz Aldrin.  He was the second human to walk on the moon, he’s a huge proponent of going to Mars, simply Buzz Aldrin rocks!

Welcome Buzz Aldrin! It’s an absolute honor to meet you sir!

Buzz: Thank you I’m glad to be here, although honestly, I’ve never heard of you.

Me: Well sir, appreciate you giving me the time today.  So you have a number of firsts for humanity.

Buzz: Yes, well one chief second, the second man on the moon, but you’re correct I was the first to eat and drink on the surface of the moon and the first to take a piss!

Me: The eating and drinking, that was communion wafer and wine, correct?

Buzz: Yes, created quite a stir with that one, wasn’t trying to do that, just wanted to thank God for the amazing circumstances.  People saw it as a Christian thing and technically it was but we went to the moon for everyone on Earth regardless of their beliefs.

Me: Even Bart Sibrel?

Buzz: Yes, even for the idiotic crooked jawed piece of shit.

Me: For my readers, Bart Sibrel is a famous moon landing denier, most famous in my book because after luring you to a hotel on false pretenses he called you a liar and a coward and you punched him in the jaw.  On behalf of all scientists I’d like to thank you for that, bet it felt good.

Buzz: In the moment, yeah, hate that I gave him more coverage.  You’re far from the first person to thank me for doing it.

Me: Tell me about your views on going to Mars?

Buzz:  What a bunch of shit, I can’t believe we haven’t been to Mars yet.  I walked on the moon almost 50 years ago.  Humanity needs to get their shit together and do this, orbit, land and colonize the damn place.  Drives me nuts that people don’t see that value in that.

Me: So, would you go on a one-way colonization mission of Mars.

Buzz: Hell yes, fuck I’ll go be the Mars colony Mayor if they let me.

Me: Well sir, you’d definitely have my vote!  Thank you for talking with me.

Buzz: Sure no problem, who the hell are you again?

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Wrapping up the Year in Happiness

Wrapping up the Year in Happiness

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The Phoenix Art Installation at Burning Man

Let’s forget the baggages of the past and make a new beginning. ~ Shehbaz Sharif

Well friends, another year is coming to an end and another year is beginning.  The eternal cycle as time marches on.  There is some benefit to looking back, briefly, to reflect on what has happened before, to take a small pause before moving forward to your next adventure.

Self Publishing My Book

This has been a big year in a lot of ways for me.  In January I published my first book Appalachian Trail Happiness.  The book has been pretty well received, I have over 20 reviews on Amazon and it has 4.5 stars.  I’ve sold about 400 copies and did a three-day free download promotion and people downloaded the book over 800 times.  So at this point that means over 1200 people have a copy in their hands and that’s pretty cool.  I’ve also had a number of people who’ve been enthusiastic enough to share the book with friends.

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Appalachian Trail Happiness

Here’s a sample of what people are saying about the book on Amazon.

Most AT books I’ve read focus on the day-to-day drudgery and hardships inherent in the undertaking. This author focused more on the positives. His daily goals were find 3 things: what he learned that day, what was something beautiful he saw that day, and what made him happy that day. It was a refreshing and uplifting change. There was also good instruction on having the right attitude for a successful hike, accepting whatever happened and to not have it affect his thankfulness for the opportunity. Lastly, at age 50 he affirmed nothing is ever too late. It was only 110 pages. Wished it were longer. Very enjoyable.

I have to admit being back at work has been hard after being off for two years traveling and writing.  Twice in my life I’ve been fortunate enough to put myself into a position to be leading the life I want to lead, if only for a short time.  The first was the three months I spent just outside Bryce Canyon National Park staying a family cabin.  Each day my routine was to get up, hike, eat, do some chores around the property, take a nap, eat dinner, photography the sunset and then after dinner sit down to write for a few hours before bed.  I wrote my first book in that cabin it’s a deeply personal work and it sits in a drawer, maybe someday I’ll bring it back out and publish it.

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Bryce Canyon NP

The second time of course was my time on the Appalachian Trail, a simple and utterly magnificent time in my life.  Having the freedom, for those 18 months to hike and travel and write was truly wonderful.  Work, unfortunately doesn’t measure up to that.

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Rev Kane on the Appalachian Trail at the Tennessee border.

Hiking to Havasu Falls

In need of some trail time, in need of another adventure, needing to test out the health and strength of my knee and wanting to check out a bucket list destination I decided to hike into the edge of the Grand Canyon to Havasu Falls on the Havasupai Native American Reservation.  The logistics are a bit daunting, it took me 6 weeks of calling nearly every day to secure a reservation.  A lesson learned, given I was hiking on weekdays in April, I probably could have waited and not started calling on the first day.

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Havasu Falls

The falls were everything they had been described to be, the water was unbelievably blue.  You hike through desert-like canyons, through the reservation then boom, the view above is what you walk into.  The last couple of miles of the hike on the way out are a bit intense but it’s a fabulous hike and a wonderful way to spend a few days, the official page gives the details on getting reservations.

Photographing Sunsets

Without a doubt photography is one of my passions, as is nature.  I try everyday to catch the sunset and I’m lucky, as my brother said once, that I live “in the perfect place for a sunset junky.” The sunsets here in the Mojave Desert are really spectacular and I photograph them as often as possible, here’s a couple.

The Antelope Valley Poppy Fields

One of the beautiful things about living in the Mojave Desert, is that when you get a year of high rain like we have this year, you get super blooms.  In addition to some magnificent roadside shots this spring.

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Roadside super bloom in the Mojave Desert

I was also able to spend a day photographing the Antelope Valley Poppy Reserve, a truly magnificent and beautiful place.

Officiating Steve and Carolyn’s Wedding

One of the absolute highlights of the year was having the honor of officiating the wedding of two really wonderful people, my friends Steve and Carolyn.

Burning Man

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The man at Burning Man

I made my return to Burning Man this year, it’s been three years since I’d been back and I was exciting to be back with Camp Oh No You Didn’t.  It will likely be my last Burning Man for some time.  I love the event, love the people, the conversations but frankly the logistics of getting in and out of the event have become a hassle with the huge number of people.  Even being experienced and knowing how to limit the hassle it’s still more than I want to deal with.  I’ve done Burning Man 8 times since 2004, the event is still magnificent, it is still a photographers dream location but I’ll be taking a break from it for a time.

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One of my favorite photos from Burning Man this year

This year at Burning Man was as wonderful as the other years.  I met a couple of utterly magnificent humans, had some great conversations, something I seem to find increasingly rare in my life.  My campmates were magnificent, my time volunteering at Arctica was the blast it always has been.

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The man burns

Doing my first conference keynote address

Part of my goals moving forward is to increase my income related to speaking and writing.  In October I was fortunate enough to have been invited to do one of the keynote addresses at the California Business Educators Association Conference in Anaheim.  They were very welcoming and the talk went very well, another piece of progress on the grand plan.

Mom’s birthday

In October my siblings and I pulled off a surprise party for my mother’s 75th birthday.  It was great and we completely surprised her, in fact I called her from my cell from inside the house.  She was giving me a hard time about not flying in for the party when I tapped her on the shoulder.  The look on her face was good enough to be my birthday present.

The next adventure

The plan had been to work until the spring of 2019 and then set out on my next adventure, 7 hikes on 7 continents.  Recently, that plan has changed, I’ve decided to move up the timeline to June 30, 2018.  Another opportunity has come up that may allow me to do some paid travel in addition to the larger adventure.  Never fear my friends, I’ll be running a crowd source campaign related to the adventure to give those who would like to donate some special access to the adventures, and of course I’ll be writing about the trips here as well and hopefully publishing another book.

Hopefully before I hit the road again I’ll be getting out a book of poetry entitled Otherness, I’ve started a Facebook page in anticipation and as a place to post poetry, mine and others.

I look forward to the next year, I’m hoping it’s going to be a really magnificent one and I hope it will be filled with happy days for you my friends and you can make that happen.     ~ Rev Kane

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Our Best Posts of 2017

Our Best Posts of 2017

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Fear is killing your happiness

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; but design for the present. ~ Jim Rohn

As a new year is beginning a look back on our best posts from 2017, enjoy and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

Believe in Yourself and Be Happy

The Dalai Lama on Tolerance and Patience

Happiness is Poetry: Pablo Neruda

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Petra: Happiness in a 2300 Year Old City

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An Important Message for the New Year

An Important Message for the New Year

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A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work. ~ Colin Powell

In writing the Ministry of Happiness Blog for almost seven years now I try to provide information that will help you live a happier life.  I often come back to the point that nothing is automatic there is some action you have to take and that you must take responsibility for your actions.  Hell it’s the mission statement for the Ministry of Happiness, here’s an excerpt:

What this ministry will not provide you with is absolution, condemnation or judgment.   The ministry will not tell you how to live your life or tell you what waits in the next.  Quite simply it will provide you with ideas and thoughts on responsibility and happiness, meditations on how things in your life can add or detract from your happiness. 

The approach taken here is a little soft, we provide the information, the resources, things to make you feel happier and point out that it’s your responsibility to make the changes you have to make to be happier.  We take this approach because life is hard and we don’t want to drive you off with harshness, but sometimes we all need a good kick in the pants.

Well consider this piece, Six Harsh Truths Which Will Make You A Better Person, that kick in the pants.  The piece makes six points but really is driving home the one single most important thing about making a positive change in your life, you have to do something.  Not just think about it, talk about it or make excuses, you have to step and actually make an effort to get the things you want.

It’s not an easy piece to read, it will make you feel bad, but hopefully it will also inspire you to take the all so important first step.  Good luck with that step, I know you can do it, I believe in you and when you do make that step, you’ll be on your way to happier days my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

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Our Best Posts from 2016

Our Best Posts from 2016

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Be happy for this moment.  For this moment is your life. ~ Omar Khayyam

A quick post tonight going back to look at our best posts from 2016, enjoy and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

Happiness is Art: Van Gogh

Happiness is Blue Poop

On Hiking Alone

My Favorite Appalachian Trail Photos

Happiness and Becoming Who You Are?

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34 Days of Happiness – Day 8, Time to Laugh

34 Days of Happiness – Day 8, Time to Laugh

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The holidays are often a very stressful period for people so for the next 34 days (Thanksgiving through Christmas) we’re going to do a post a day, something happy and uplifting each day, perhaps an image, a poem, a quote, a moment of happiness or some bit of wisdom all in an effort to boost everyone’s happiness a little bit.  You can do your part by paying it forward, send these little bits of happiness on to others and ask that they do the same and as always, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

So as the holiday season progresses we can all use a little laughter here is why it’s important:

http://www.self-improvement-mentor.com/happiness-laughter.html

And here are some of our recent funny posts, enjoy!

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Miscellaneous Hilarity

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Clean Jokes!

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Thank you for 8000!

Thank you for 8000!

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Thank you!

A great accomplishment shouldn’t be the end of the road, just the starting point for the next leap forward. ~ Harvey Mackay

Happy Christmas my friends and happy holidays!  So as part of my next adventure, 7 Hikes on 7 Continents, I am hoping to get corporate sponsorship to fund at least part of the adventure.  As such, I’ve been working for the last two years to build up my social media following.  On that front, my goal for this year was to reach 8000 followers across the various platforms where I post.

The Ministry of Happiness Blog  – the blog includes these posts, poetry, adventure and hiking content.

Twitter – Where I retweet a lot of quotes, hiking and happiness content.

Facebook – Similar to the blog with some additional happiness related shares.

Instagram – My feed has over 1400 photos, sunsets, polar bears, burning man, travel and adventure photos.

I’m happy to report that I have reached that milestone and wanted to take the time to thank all of the folks who regularly read this blog for your continued readership and support, so thank you!

I’ve made a big decision in the last week and it looks like I’ll be starting my adventure not in March of 2019 as planned but in July of 2018.  So things are moving fast and I promise my friends there will be a way for you to be part of the adventure.  Have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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