Holiday Happiness: Holiday Travel Tips, including Traveling with Kids

Holiday Happiness: Holiday Travel Tips, including Traveling with Kids

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The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page.                     ~ Saint Augustine

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

Tonight I wanted to post something about travel for two reasons.  One, the travel we do over the holidays can sometimes be the very thing that makes unhappy during the holidays.  Crammed into cars in the winter, long lines at airports and bus stations, traveling with the children and often staying with relatives in less than ideal sleeping situations.

So a couple of things tonight, first some tips on holiday travel and secondly some links to pieces about better travel options, lessons learned from traveling the world, posts about adventures and awesome places to go.

So tonight hopefully a few good tips, and if nothing else, some reading to take your mind away from wherever you are right now and to someplace more fun.  Enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

Some tips for holiday travel!

Ten survival tips for holiday travel

Tips for Holiday driving trips

Tips for traveling with children for the holidays – really comprehensive piece with air and driving tips.

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Some pieces to take you away!

Five Things I learned about happiness from traveling the world

Happiness is Cycling in Ireland

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Precious Moments

Happiness is Photography: Ireland

Appalachian Trail Happiness – 3 Questions

Himalayan Travelogue Series

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Happiness in Historic Times

Happiness in Historic Times

None of us will ever forget living through 2020, first of all, pre-2020 this is what a lot of us were excited about:

Then of course the pandemic hit, in February we were concerned, by March we were nervous, by April most of us were locked down.  Since then we’ve watched the pandemic ravage the world, ravage the United States.  At this point almost 300,000 have died, millions have tested positive and/or become ill.  For so many reasons related to the COVID pandemic this has been an historic year.  But that’s not what I want to talk to about tonight.

Tonight I want to talk about all of the other reasons we’re living in extraordinary times, truly there are so many amazing things happening that we’re not talking about because of the pandemic.  The first, is a really technical  item, it’s called CRISPR.  I won’t go all science nerd on you, but essentially it is a technique that allows us to really effectively edit genes.  This ability will lead to better genetic manipulation, the ability to turn particular genes on and off.  This type of work will allow for an array of new treatments for disease, has helped in defining genetic theory and has had some impact in the recent vaccine work.  There have been a lot of amazing discoveries in computing and bio-medical science.  This combination has just led to the world, albeit building off a lot of previous work, to develop a vaccine to a new human disease in less than a year.  This is nearly miraculous given the years to even decades it has taken to produce previous vaccines.

There have been amazing advancements in artificial intelligence and computing capability in the last couple of years.  These advancements, as previously mentioned, have assisted in greatly advancing medical technology.  Remote and robotic surgery has been demonstrated from thousands of miles away, we already discussed CRISPR and vaccine work.  Of course 5G speed wifi internet connections have also allowed for much of these advancements to be put into practical usage.  Artificial intelligence has advanced greatly and realistic discussions about the singularity are common, the singularity is the point at which computers become so smart they basically no longer need us.  Think Skynet, hopefully without the apocalyptic consequences.  But AI doesn’t always go the way we think it will, and one Norman, is a downright psychopath.  But AI’s are increasing the speed of scientific advancements in almost every scientific field.

In terms of space exploration a number of really amazing things are happening.  Finally, we are on the brink of sending a manned mission to Mars.  This will come on the back of a massive increase in private sector space missions.  This industry also has us on the brink of actual space tourism.  The first private manned mission to the space station has just occurred and you can already book reservations to go into near Earth orbit.  We have also made incredible progress in discovering exoplanets around stars, some of which may actually be habitable for humans.

To me, the single most exciting  thing happening in space exploration are the Voyager missions.  You see, both voyager missions have finally left our solar system.  In doing so they have discovered a sort of solar system barrier.  Now that they have passed that barrier, the heliopause, we are learning incredible things about interstellar space.

We are living through utterly amazing times and you don’t have to be a nerd like me to appreciate the wonder of the science happening all around us.  Tonight go out just after sunset and look to the southwest and you’ll see two bright stars very close to each other, what astronomers call a conjunction. The brighter of the two is Jupiter, the other is Saturn, right around the winter solstice the two stars will become what people are calling the Christmas star, as they will look to become as one and will be the brightest star in the sky.  This will be the closest conjunction in almost 800 years.  These can be seen with the naked eye, you don’t even need binoculars.  Tonight, you’ll be able to watch the Geminid meteor shower at over 60 meteors an hour after 10PM Eastern time.  What an amazing time to be alive, happy days for sure my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

 

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Holiday Happiness: Christmas Decorating Links and Tips

Holiday Happiness: Christmas Decorating Links and Tips

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By reshaping or decorating our outer selves, we express our inner sense of self: ‘I like that’ becomes ‘I’m like that. ~ Virginia Postrel

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

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Christmas in Singapore

So tonight I’m actually going to touch on Christmas a bit via decorating.  Even though this is not a holiday I’m fond of it is nice in the middle of winter to brighten your home up a bit.  So tonight, links and images to give you some decorating ideas for your own home.  Enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Southern Living, 101 Decorating Ideas – A dizzying array of ideas for decorating every part of your home.

88 Country Decorations from Country Living

From Readers Digest, decorating ideas for people on a budget

35 Do It Yourself Decorating Ideas from Good Housekeeping

Christmas Decorating Ideas on Pinterest

13 Stylish Decorating Ideas from Real Simple

40 Ideas for a Non-traditional Christmas Tree

Decorating tips using non-traditional colors

For those looking to combine Star Wars and Christmas

01Star Wars Christmas on Pinterest

DIY Star Wars Decorations

 

Other pieces you might enjoy!

Happiness is Art: Van Gogh

Happiness is Poetry: Langston Hughes

Happiness is Art: Pablo Picasso

The Art of Smiling and Being Positive

Happiness is Staying Positive

Twelve Days of Christmas – For People Who Don’t Like Christmas

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

 

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Himalayan Travelogue – The Whole Thing!

Himalayan Travelogue – The Whole Thing!

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Faeries, come take me out of this dull world,
For I would ride with you upon the wind,
Run on the top of the dishevelled tide,
And dance upon the mountains like a flame.
~ WB Yeats

Part 1 – A Beginning

Part 2 – The Great Glen Way

Part 3 – Welcome to Utah

Part 4 – I’m Going to Kathmandu!

Part 5 – A Most Dangerous Flight

Part 6 – Moonlight Lodge and The Yeti Skull

Part 7 – Higher than I’ve ever been before!

Part 8 – The Everest Marathon

Part 9 – Lobouche, David Breshears & a Surprise!

Part 10 – Let it snow, Let it snow, Let it snow

Part 11 – The Land of Na & Gokyo

Part 12 – Renjo La Pass & Machermo

Part 13 – French Fries & Fried Eggs

Part 14 – Namche Reunion & Back to Lukla

Part 15 – Afterthoughts

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Happiness is Adventure & Travel

Happiness is Adventure & Travel

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. ~ Helen Keller

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I work with students and often do presentations to student groups discussing their future careers.  One of the things I try to impress upon them is the benefits of adventure and travel.  Without a doubt the travel I’ve done in my life has had an incredible impact upon the way I think and live.  Travel and in particular adventure travel changes you.  There are experiences you can’t get staying close to home, and as research into happiness shows us we can use money to buy happiness by buying experiences instead of things.

In many ways I’ve been blessed, and that  may be true but a lot of the blessings I have received were received because I worked for them and was smart enough to make good choices.  Traveling has been one of those choices that has paid many dividends.  I’ve traveled by boat in the Amazon, trekked in the high peaks of the Himalayas and next am planning to walk the length of the Appalachian Trail.  I’m in the financial position to do those things at this point in my life.  However that wasn’t always the case, when I was younger I found adventure closer to home and mostly by car.  I think you would all be surprised at the amazing places and opportunities that exist within a couple of hours drive of your home.  All you have to do is search for them, jump in the car, and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

Other Pieces You Might Enjoy!

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Precious Moments

Happiness is Swimming with Whale Sharks

Three Questions & Some Thoughts from Anza Borrego State Park

Mount Everest Travelogue

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Happiness Resources: Travel Makes You Happier

Happiness Resources: Travel Makes You Happier

Rev Kane relaxing in the snow flurries

Rev Kane relaxing in the snow flurries

All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware.            ~ Martin Buber

I have been actively writing about happiness for almost six years now.  My work here at the Ministry of Happiness is both a giving and selfish activity.  Hopefully the things I uncover and write about help you live a happier life.  In return I find out more about being happy and the act of giving makes me even happier.

Part of what I have to do to have any legitimacy in this effort is to not just talk the talk, but walk the walk.  So about 14 months ago I did just that, I quite my job, sold my house and hit the road to follow some of my passions.  I’m a huge proponent of the idea that you don’t get happier just by sitting around thinking about it, but by actually taking action.  I’m also a huge advocate for the idea that you need to stretch yourself, and one great way to do that is through travel and particular adventure travel.

So for tonight’s resources post, some ideas about just how to do this.  I’m including some of my personal ideas as well as some links out to other posts and sites.  Enjoy, go travel, stretch yourself and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

REALLY LOCAL

Often when people speak of travel and adventure people’s minds automatically go to big and often expensive adventures.  The truth is there are so many ways to travel and have small adventures in your neighborhood and back yard.

  1. Take a hike in the nearest bit of woods, forest or fields near your home.  If there are trails and enough distance for a bit of a hike great, but even better get off the trail and do some exploring.  Look at the small things, ants to me are the most amazing creatures in the world.  Find some ants and watch them, follow them back to their ant hill.  Look for fungi, you’d be amazed at the variety of fungi that exist, the picture below is one I encountered this year on the Appalachian Trail.

z4 fix2.  Take a night hike someplace you’re very familiar with, it’s incredible how different things are at night.  A short night hike is a wonderful experience, at night things take on a different appearance, your nerves are a bit on edge because of the darkness and sounds that you can’t identify.  Definitely a way to explore and stretch yourself without going very far, you may also see some critters you didn’t know lived there.

3.  Go to Google or Trip Advisor and type in things to do in your particular town.  It’s amazing how often tourists come to our home town to do or see something we didn’t even know was there.

4.  Try something absolutely new, it could be the Ethiopian restaurant you drive by every day.  Maybe you’ve never had a manicure or a massage, perhaps a little acupuncture?  Try something new just for the experience

 

A LITTLE BIT BIGGER

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Appalachian Trail Happiness, the book!

1.   Many of us hike or bike but few of us have ever done a multi-day trip.  So do one, you don’t have to go far or even exert yourself very much.  There are plenty of places where you could hike a day out, spend the night at a Bed & Breakfast and hike back.  The same goes for bicycling as well.  Brunch is really, really good after a few miles on a bike.

2.  Again, using the web, google adventure for your area, are there ropes courses, white water rafting, Renaissance Fairs or other festivals going on near you that you never knew about.  Well go give them a try to don’t be a spectator.  If you go to a particular type of fair or even a comic book festival don’t just go and gawk, participate.  Go in costume, do some dancing, go to a theme party be part of the experience and you’ll enjoy it so much more.

3.  The beauty of digital cameras is that you can take and display photos with little or no cost because you already have the camera or a phone, and a computer to display them on.  So set up a weekend to do a local photo safari.  Go to places where you might get great shots, local churches and cemeteries, anyplace with water including rivers, streams, lakes.  Find out where you can spot dear and go and try to get some good pictures.  Stalk your bird or humming-bird feeder.  Have three or four people go to different places, get together, make dinner and show off your pictures.  You don’t need to be a great photographer to do something like this and I bet your surprise yourself with some great shots.  But this will get you to explore places you might not have gone before.

4.  This one’s an easy one, take a class.  I’m not talking a full semester college class but a local community education course.  You can find them everywhere from free to very expensive.  Your local community college, community center, coop grocery stores, community organizations, garden stores and even your local power company and other utilities sometimes offer courses.  Learning is a great way to stretch yourself, meet new people and develop a new skill.

 

GOING BIG

Photo credit to our guide Drew

Photo credit to our guide Drew

Ok at this level we’re talking big bucket list sort of things, hiking the Appalachian Trail, photographing Polar Bears in the Arctic, hiking to Base Camp on Mount Everest, bicycling around Ireland, walking across Scotland.  I’ve done all of those, here’s a few I’d like to do.

  1.  A national park tour, pick a part of the country and spend a couple of weeks spending a couple of days at a time visiting the national parks in that area.

2.  A photo safari in Africa and if you don’t want to go to Africa and do something even more intense Natural Habitats runs an amazing Grizzly Bear experience.  I know the guide, the trip would be beyond amazing.

3.   Take a week near the end of winter and fly up to Fairbanks, Alaska and stay at a hot springs resort and watch the Northern Lights.

4.  Hit a bucket list level festival, I posted a list of bucket list festivals that has them all.

At the end of the day my friends, it’s about getting out there, trying something, learning about the world and enjoying life as much as possible.  Hopefully this post will inspire you to do a little bit of that and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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World’s Best Travel Locations – Part 2

World’s Best Travel Locations – Part 2

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Rev Kane relaxing in the arctic snow flurries

I see my path, but I don’t know where it leads.  Not knowing where I’m going is what inspires me to travel it. ~ Rosalia de Castro

Follow up post to my post from last night, World’s Best Travel Locations – Part 1

I got asked again today, a question that I frequently get asked, where is the favorite place you’ve ever traveled?   It’s a horrible question, not because it’s being asked, it’s a horrible question to try to and answer.  I’ve traveled a decent amount, more than most, but when you frequently travel and meet other travelers what you often find out is that so many people have done so much more than you have.

The reason the question is so difficult, is that there are so many components to travel.  Some places are not the most beautiful, or don’t  have the greatest weather but the people are spectacular.  Some places are absolutely amazing in so many ways but you may not feel safe or have other problems.  Sometimes your response to a place can be greatly impacted by circumstances, a lost hotel reservation, lost or delayed luggage, hidden costs on a tour, terrible weather or you’re attitude.  If you have a cold, or you’re exhausted or stressed out it may not matter how amazing the people or place are.  So with those caveats I’ve selected five really amazing places that I’ve been to and that I recommend you visit if possible.  I’m using countries at descriptors but will usually be focus on a particular religion, attraction or tour.

Please feel free in the comments to ask questions or post your own recommendations, I’m always looking for new cool places to visit.  So here we go, the second three of the six places in alphabetical order:

Nepal

happiness, everestThe first big international hiking trip I did was to spend 22 days hiking in the high passes of the Himalaya Mountains in Nepal.  The goal of the trip was to visit base camp on Mount Everest.  Two things really stuck out from this trip.  The first was that Himalayas are easily one of the most beautiful places on Earth.  Second, that the Sherpa people may be the single nicest group of humans on Earth.

happiness, nepal, smileThe trip was fantastic, it started in Kathmandu and what a wild and wacky place Kathmandu turned out to be.  From there we took a harrowing flight into Lukla and walked for three weeks amongst the highest mountains in the world.  I’ve been told the Anapurna Loop is also magnificent and Nepal is someplace I absolutely recommend you check out.  I did a tour with Kamzang Travel and they were beyond fantastic and honestly I believe the best tour company in the Himalayan region.  I wrote a 15 part series about the trip and you can read about it at this link.

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At the Everest Rock Bar after the white knuckle flight to Lukla on the trail to Everest

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Rev Kane and a hiking friend

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Sunset in the Himalayas

Scotland

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Rev Kane goin native in the Scottish Highlands

I’ve had the pleasure of visiting Scotland a few times including having hiked both the Great Glen and West Highland Ways.  Scotland is a wonderful country and the Scottish people, in my experience, are only rivaled by the Sherpas in Nepal, for being open, welcoming and kind to visitors.  The country is beautiful, the weather not so bad, Edinburgh is a magnificent city and Glasgow houses one of my favorite museums, St. Mungo’s Museum of Religious Art.  Oh, and I think they make whiskey in Scotland.

The one caveat I have to give about Scotland, in general, the food is bland and terrible.  Now, before I start getting hate messages from restaurateurs in Scotland, I’m sure there are many fine restaurants in Scotland.  In fact, I had one of the best meals of my life in Edinburgh at a place I believe was called Cafe Marylane.  However, I’ve spent most of my time in Scotland hiking and eating in small towns, small restaurants and pubs.  This experience has not been pleasant, not that I haven’t had some good meals.  On my last trip I had a quite spectacular Glen Coe Chicken one night and several good haggis dishes, yes I like haggis.  Also, to be fair this criticism applies to lunch and dinner, a full Scottish breakfast is a magnificent thing to behold.  But you’ve been warned.

I’ve written about all of this in my posts on the West Highland Way and the Great Glen Way.

The United States

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Rev Kane in the Antelope Poppy Reserve

I think some people may actually be surprised to see the US on my list.  The fact is that I have traveled to all 50 states.  America is a huge and spectacularly beautiful country with every possible environmental variation from the beaches of Hawaii, to the arctic in Alaska, the badlands in South Dakota and the swamps of Louisiana.  There are what I would consider a few must sees for The United States.  I think everyone should see the California redwood trees both the coastal redwoods as well as the huge inland trees.  I think the big island of Hawaii is a must for it’s magnificent beaches and volcano.  The South Dakota Badlands are someplace most people have likely never been but are spectacular in ways that are hard to describe.  Yellowstone and Yosemite are two of the most beautiful and amazing national parks on earth and both, in my humble opinion are not as beautiful as Bryce Canyon, Zion’s slot canyons are worth a look as well.  Finally, a ride through the northeast in New York, Connecticut or Vermont at peak color is something everyone should see at least once.  Below I will drop links to a few of the places I’ve written about in the US.

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Bryce Canyon NP

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Fall on the AT

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Antelope Valley Poppy Reserve

The Sierra Mountains

Bryce Canyon National Park and other places

Anza Borego State Park

The Extraterrestrial Highway

Las Vegas

The Big Island of Hawaii

I hope you’ve enjoyed the list, again, questions, suggestions and additions in the comments are more than welcome, have a happy day. ~ Rev Kane

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World’s Best Travel Locations – Part I

World’s Best Travel Locations – Part 1

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Rev Kane relaxing in the arctic snow flurries

Wherever you go, go with all of your heart. ~ Confucius

I got asked again today, a question that I frequently get asked, where is the favorite place you’ve ever traveled?   It’s a horrible question, not because it’s being asked, it’s a horrible question to try to and answer.  I’ve traveled a decent amount, more than most, but when you frequently travel and meet other travelers what you often find out is that so many people have done so much more than you have.

The reason the question is so difficult, is that there are so many components to travel.  Some places are not the most beautiful, or don’t  have the greatest weather but the people are spectacular.  Some places are absolutely amazing in so many ways but you may not feel safe or have other problems.  Sometimes your response to a place can be greatly impacted by circumstances, a lost hotel reservation, lost or delayed luggage, hidden costs on a tour, terrible weather or you’re attitude.  If you have a cold, or you’re exhausted or stressed out it may not matter how amazing the people or place are.  So with those caveats I’ve selected five really amazing places that I’ve been to and that I recommend you visit if possible.  I’m using countries at descriptors but will usually be focus on a particular religion, attraction or tour.

Please feel free in the comments to ask questions or post your own recommendations, I’m always looking for new cool places to visit.  So here we go, six places in alphabetical order:

Brazil

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Cliche Brazil shot

First off, here’s the thing, Brazil is a huge country, similar in size to the continental United States.  I’ve spent no time in Rio, very little time in Sao Paulo.  Almost all of the time I’ve spent in Brazil has been in the Amazon and the city of Manaus located in the Amazon.  Unfortunately I haven’t been back to Brazil in almost 20 years so all of my photos related to traveling there are pasted into actual photo albums, so the image above is off of the web.

A bit about the places I haven’t been to in Brazil but would love to visit that aren’t named Rio de Jeneiro.  There are two that I want to mention, Fortaleza and Salvador de Bahia.  Fortaleza is a beautiful beach city in the northeastern part of the country.  Not just beaches but the mouth of the Amazon River and giant sand dunes.  There is also a festival that happens in Brazil that I would love to attend in Fortaleza, the Festival if Iemanja.

carnival, brazil, travelSalvador de Bahia is located on the east coast of Brazil and is one of the more heavily African influenced place in Brazil.  It is a place where the food is spectacular, where you can experience candomble dancers and is the place I have been told by friends in Rio where they go to celebrate carnival.

jaguar, brazil, travelHowever the place I have the most experience is Manaus and the Amazon.  The Amazon Jungle is an incredible place.  Tropical jungle full of incredible plants, trees, birds, animals, rivers and people.  It’s also about as hot and humid as you can possibly imagine.  The first time I arrived in the Amazon we landed at midnight, I was coming from a hot and humid place to start with but leaving that plane, at night was a shock.  It was oppressively humid and the day brought massive heat with it.  Even being careful and drinking lots of water I’ve gotten heat stroke in the Amazon.  I was blessed there to have seen anacondas, caymans and even a jaguar.  I’ve fished for peacock bass and even swam with piranhas.  The food is amazing and the best fish I’ve ever eaten was in the Brazilian Amazon.  Truly a spectacular place.

Canada

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Aurora while photographing Polar Bears in the Arctic

Yes, Canada.  Like Brazil, Canada is a huge country with so many amazing places from the Amazing Winter Carnival in Quebec City, to the Europe-like streets of Montreal, to the wilds of the Arctic and splendor of Vancouver on the West Coast.  In fact, recently Canada has officially designated the Trans-Canadian Hiking Trail known as the The Great Trail, a mere 10,000 miles long.

My most amazing  experience in Canada has been spending a week in Churchill, Manitoba photographing polar bears.  I have a full set of posts embedded in this link, and through those piece you can see tons of polar bear and northern light photos from my trip.

Jordan

This one may be a surprise for a lot of people as most people would consider security concerns in the Middle East as a deal breaker.  So let me first address that, Jordan is the safest country to visit in the Middle East.  It is also a former British protectorate or colony so English is common.  An upside of the perception of lack of security, tourism is down, so prices are great and tours and hotels are available.

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Rev Kane at Petra

My trip to Jordan was absolutely one of the most amazing of my life.  Jordan is the home to three places that you absolutely have to have on your bucket list as they were on mine.  First is a 2000 year-old city, Petra.  Made famous to Americans by a part being featured in an Indiana Jones movie, Petra is utterly spectacular.  It almost didn’t seem real, a huge ancient city suddenly appears at the end of a canyon in the middle of a barren desert, it has to be seen, walked and touched to be believed.  If you go, don’t miss Petra at night that only takes place two nights a week.

The second place in Jordan is the Bedouin desert preserve of Wadi Rum.  This massive natural preserve is spectacularly beautiful and you will likely see more stars in one night there than you have in your entire life.  Additionally, the Bedouin are amazing hosts, hell I even came to have a new appreciation for camels after a couple of days with the Bedouin.

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The Milky Way in Wadi Rum

Finally, a stop to the Dead Sea is a must if for no other reason other than to float like a human cork in a way that left me giggling like a child.

My next three countries tomorrow night, have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

 

 

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It’s ok not to be alright

It’s ok not to be alright

I had a phone call with a colleague the other day, we hadn’t talked in some time.  I asked her how she was doing, she started to answer and stopped.  Then she said, “I’m struggling, but getting by.” We then fell into a conversation about why we feel the need to always say we’re ok.  I think there are a few reasons.  First, I don’t think we want to look weak, especially with people we work with.  Second, I think we try and not load anything on other people, work relationships are often quasi-friendships, so it’s not quite comfortable to drop your guard and be that vulnerable.  Which is why I was honored by the conversation my colleague was having with me, it let me know that our relationship is at a comfortable level and that she trusts me.  Finally, I think we say we’re ok, because the conversation is mostly pro forma, and we don’t really expect an answer.

It’s been a long haul with COVID, the news keeps getting worse, at least in the immediate.  Long-term things are hopeful with a couple of vaccines going through the approval process in the US, one approved in the UK, one approved in Russia.  Vaccine distribution could start in the US as soon as this month.  But we have a solid six months before vaccinations will be wide-spread enough to really start changing things.  And in the meantime we are setting unfortunate daily records for new infections and deaths each day.  Something like two Americans a minute are dying from COVID right now.

In the midst of all of this we’re all being impacted.  Some at the most unfortunate levels by contracting the disease and dying from it.  Others of us have had people we know die from the disease, have had family, friends and acquaintances get sick.  Our work has been impacted, or has disappeared, people are losing their housing.  So it’s been a long haul, and quite terrible for many.

I’ve been fortunate, while I’ve had some people I know die, and some family members get sick and recover, almost all of the people I care about are ok, still have their jobs and are doing alright.  There’s a flip side to things being difficult but ok,  if you get frustrated with the smaller things related to COVID, you feel guilty about being upset because you’re not dealing with the other, worse things that are happening.

For me, work went through about six months of pure insanity in terms of the level of work after the virus first hit in March.  In October, things started to get better.  However, if you read this blog you know this about me, travel is my great release.  The arrival of COVID caused me to cancel a bucket list trip to Antarctica, then a backup plan bucket list plan to hike in Tasmania.  I did escape for two days to Nevada in late October after another vacation was cancelled due to work commitments.  I had planned two trips to Anza Borrego State Park in the Mojave Desert.  Both trips to coincide with meteor showers, so I was really bummed to lose out on the trip in October. December though is even a better time to be in the Mojave so I had that, until yesterday.

I was supposed to leave this Thursday for five days in the desert, but COVID ICU levels in several regions of California have resulted in the state park system closing all of their campgrounds.  Last night I got really depressed about this, I’ll keep my days off, do some local day hikes.  But what I’m losing out on is something that is really critical to my happiness.  I’m a bit of an anti-social loner, who from time to time needs to get out of civilization and be alone in nature.  It’s been over fifteen months since I’ve been able to do anything that truly allows me to re-charge the way I need to from time to time.

I was really looking forward to getting this break, to be able to be alone, to hike and to just lay out at night and watch one of the best meteor showers of the year.  I even bought a new camera to do some astrophotography work but given the 10PM curfew in effect, the meteor shower goes out the door as well.  So I’m pissed, I’m bummed out and that has allowed the weight of everything that’s going on to just fall on me.  And that’s when the guilt hits, given what others are dealing with, even losing their very lives, I have nothing to complain about.  But it’s always that way, you can always find someone who is worse off than you.  Personally, I don’t believe that invalidates your own disappointments, depression and sadness.  I think we say we’re ok, because we know this and we don’t want to appear self-absorbed or unconcerned with the greater ills of others.  The point of tonight’s post is to give you permission to not be ok.  I think you are a capable and empathetic enough human to be able to understand the gravity of what’s happening in the world and still be bummed out you can’ attend a friends wedding, go out to a restaurant, take a vacation, or travel to see your family and hug your mother.

So it’s ok, to keep things in perspective AND still not be ok for a time.  Don’t get swallowed up in it, don’t fall into a depressive well, but take a minute, a day or a week whatever you need and let yourself be sad for yourself.  Then, like I’ll need to do soon, get yourself together, stop feeling sorry for yourself, move on and have happier days again my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

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Happy Travel Stories: Petra

Happy Travel Stories: Petra

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Rev Kane at Petra

Wherever you go, go with all of your heart. ~ Confucius

So I’ve been thinking recently about starting a new series of posts.  I have lots of little stories from my travels, things that happen that are too long for a Twitter (@ministryofhappy) post, not quite able to be captured on Instagram (@reverendmichaelkane) and not a full blog post by themselves.  But they might make for some nice small blog posts now and then.  And since tonight I’m fighting with a head cold and a bit low on energy I’d write a smaller than normal post and test run this idea, so I hope you’ll bear with me.

Entering Petra you walk through a long canyon known as the Siq.  As we entered at dawn the rose-colored rock in the early light was truly spectacular.  We spent an amazing day in the city, I wrote about Petra in a previous post.

Within the city there are many Bedouin people, they live in Petra and make a living hustling the tourists so we had our fair share of approaches.  In the morning, the Bedouin who rented us the donkeys we rode up to the Monastery conveniently ended his ride at his sisters “store” on the side of the climb.  She was really interesting and we sat and had tea while they tried to sell us at least 20 different items.  One of the things that you are offered multiple times throughout the day are ancient coins found at the site.  While there certainly have been people n Petra for 2300 years and most certainly there are likely ancient coins to be found, it’s not likely that there are the hundreds available for sale each day.  As such, I was very leery of anyone who was offering to sell me rare coins.

As the day ended and we were leaving through the Siq we encountered a very old Bedouin.  His English was not great and of course he was offering to show me some coins.  I smiled and politely declined, I even considered buying one since he was such a pleasant fellow and I’m sure not able to hustle like the younger Bedouin.  But in the end, I thanked him and started to walk by, but he stopped me and pointed to the wall of the Siq and said, “Camel.”  At first, I didn’t understand and so he pointed more closely and I saw it, and as he pointed to some more I came to realize something really amazing.  The entire Siq, all of what had to have been at least a mile of canyon walls, had at one time been completely carved.  As we looked more closely, we could barely make out, caravans with camels, elephants and all manners of carvings.  I would have never seen it if it wasn’t for this old Bedouin.  I thanked him profusely and then decided to buy a coin from him.  But he smiled and this time he declined, then he took a coin and placed it in my hand a wished me well.

Now maybe he gave me a 2300 year-old coin, maybe he gave me a ten-cent fake, but the kindness he showed me was worth more than either.  This is one of the reasons I travel, just for these type of amazing little interactions, in small corners of the world.

Have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

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