Happiness is focusing on the good things

Happiness is focusing on the good things

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Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. ~ Kahlil Gibran

Life is hard, and if we are to be happy in this hard existence we must remember to focus on the good things.  This is not easy.  This is not easy at all when a family member is diagnosed with cancer, when your child is having problems in school or in life, or when someone breaks into your home and threatens your very security.  We hold so many things dear and when those things, whether they be material things or the more important safety, security or health are threatened, then life seems like it can break us.  We can feel our lives to be an insurmountable obstacle that we can neither climb nor escape from, not even for what would be just a precious few hours of rest and peace.   When we are at this point and our mental reserves are shot it is incredibly hard to be there for our loved ones the way would like to be, the way they need us to be.  So what do you do?

Taoist philosophy tells us to be patient, there are so many things in life that we cannot control and it is useless to waist your energy against an immovable obstacle.  So be patient and wait, wait for what you can control, what you can change and then make that change.  This is excellent advice, but what do you do while you’re waiting for that opportunity to change things?  You focus on the good things, the cliché is, count your blessings, but it is a worthwhile exercise.  And while you are thinking about the good in your life, make sure you smile.  The quote below from Mother Teresa is one of my favorites, “We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.” Because what we must remember is that a smile, even if forced, will make us feel just a little bit better and that’s a start.  Even more importantly, in the middle of our pain, or grief, or frustration, by smiling we can still help others.  Sometimes in the middle of a purely shit day, a smile from a friend or even a stranger can turn things around.  And if you’re smiling at them, they’re likely to smile back and make both of your days just a little bit better.  So smile sunshine, things will get better and have a happy day. ~ Rev Kane

We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do. ~ Mother Teresa

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Happiness is Art: Storytelling

Happiness is Art: Storytelling

01Stories are a communal currency of humanity.Tahir Shah, in Arabian Nights

I love storytelling, I love nothing better to tell or hear a good story.  I was fortunate recently to be in the Arctic and have the honor of listening to an Inuit elder tell us stories about her life, it was a magical night.  Storytelling is one of those things I forget about until I’m in the middle of hearing or telling one.  Last week there was a wonderful interview on NPR with a storyteller named Noa Baum.  The interview was fabulous and she told a couple of magnificent stories.

I’m fortunate enough to have a friend who is a magnificent storyteller her name is Kim Bateman.  She’s someone who if you have the chance to listen to you absolutely should.  I’m a really good storyteller and she’s much better than I am, she did a TedxTalk recently called Singing Over Bones and it’s worth a watch and listen.

One of my favorite all-time stories and maybe the most moving story I’ve ever heard I featured in a post called, Remember the Sweet Things.  It will be the best six minutes of your day to give it a listen.

Storytelling seems to becoming popular again and I love that.  There are two things recently that have helped that, the first is Story Corps, a really remarkable project that all around America has people come in and tell the story of their families, with their family.  Both the project and the site are amazing, check it out.

The last project to tell you about has a very odd name, The Moth, but it is a project dedicated to people telling stories live, without notes and so the stories have a tendency to be incredibly personal and amazing, check it out and if you’d like you can submit your own through the site.

We all have stories to tell, so tell your story and I think you’ll have a happier day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Saint Patrick’s Day: Happiness and Irish Wisdom

Saint Patrick’s Day: Happiness and Irish Wisdom

A friend’s eye is a good mirror ~ Irish Proverb

In looking around for a piece to post today to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day I found the piece below and thought it was a nice little way to celebrate the holiday.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/irish-proverbs_n_4965796

Have a happy day my friends and happy St. Patrick’s Day!

The Irish people for centuries have cherished happiness. Irish-American songs like When Irish Eyes are Smiling (published in 1912 by Chauncey Olcott and George Graff, Jr.) prove an Irish descendant’s love for the Irish culture as well as being happy and merry. Many have found the Irish to be uplifting because of their inherent cheery nature. Like other European nationalities, The Irish culture places significance on happiness; as something to cherish and a state to achieve.

Continual cheerfulness is a sign of wisdom. –Irish saying, author unknown

This well known Irish saying indicates that wisdom is equated with cheerfulness. Since cheerfulness is a synonym for happiness one could fittingly conclude that incessant happiness is a sign of wisdom. Therefore, a wise person would be one that incorporates, through the proper use of his wisdom, happiness in his lifestyle.

Many who have implemented more wisdom usage in their lives have found a profound positive difference in their happiness levels. Wisdom properly employed seems to notably increase this. How one incorporates wisdom into one’s life is vital. It is not easy to make wise decisions that reap happier and healthful consequences. A good method for implementing wisdom in one’s life is to ask one’s self, before making a life altering decision, this question: “Will this improve the life, direct it toward true inner happiness?” If the answer to this question is “yes”, do that action. If the answer is “no”, do the opposite.  Have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Appalachian Trail (AT) Happiness: Looking Like a Greenhorn

Appalachian Trail (AT) Happiness: Looking Like a Greenhorn

There is pleasure in the pathless woods, there is rapture in the lonely shore, there is society where none intrudes, by the deep sea, and music in its roar; I love not Man the less, but Nature more. ~ Lord Byron

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As I’ve mentioned previously I have undertaken planning to do a thru-hike on the Appalachian Trail (AT). My hope is that I will walk all 2,200 miles of the AT from Springer Mountain, GA to Mt. Katahdin, Maine starting in late February or early March, 2015. This is my trail journal where I hope to take you from my decision to do this, through my preparation and then notes from the trail and hopefully all the way to Maine. All of this in my journey and process to live happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

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So although I’m no means a novice hiker, I’ve done long hikes in Europe and Asia, I’ve hiked all over North America and even in the Amazon, I’ve never quite done anything like an Appalachian Trail (AT) thru-hike. On some of my longer hikes they’ve been supported, think Sherpas and yaks. Some have had the opportunity to sleep indoors most nights, maybe not fancy, but damnit four walls, a door and a platform are great when it’s sub-zero outside. I’ve done more than my fair share of camping, but the challenge of the AT is that all of the challenges are rolled into one.

This will be long distance walking, there will not be any support to carry a load, and except for zero days there will be no four-walled, platformed sleeping option. So of course that means camping nearly every night, I’ll probably spend some nights in the trail shelters, you’re actually required to in the Great Smoky Mountain National Park.

I’ll be bringing a camping hammock instead of tent, it was a decision I weighed for a time, sleeping is far more comfortable in a hammock, however the tent would be lighter and warmer. In the early days of the hike, nights will be cold and it’s tough to keep a hammock warm without carrying extra weight. I believe I have a solution that will suffice, the real test will be sleeping outside in New York one night this week, it’s been a cold winter and I shouldn’t see anything worse on the trail than I will in the New York woods right now.

happinesss, camping, hammockI’m also bringing the hammock because at some level I’m somewhat anti-social and looking forward to the solitude the trail will afford me. I like people, scratch that, I like long-distance walkers. They have a tendency to be kinder folks with a great attitude on life. So I’m sure I’ll meet more than a fair share of good people and some I may even spend some time with on the trail. But I’ll be happy to avoid crowded shelters most of the time, and always happy to avoid mice, which annoy me to no end.

So putting all of this together, the AT will be in many ways a very new and exciting experience. When this journey starts, I am not likely to look like a very experienced hiker, first time out with my hammock set up (test runs are great, but nothing like the real thing and setting up in the wind and rain), newer cooking system and just the full routine of the trail. Initially I’m sure my PCT bear bag technique will leave something to be desired in its early day’s execution. My Tykek ground cloth is going to crinkle loudly, and until I get a few more nights under my belt there is always the potential embarrassing flip over event in the hammock. I had one the other day testing out my set up.

happinss, camping, hammockNow I know I will not be alone in looking a little green at the beginning of this hike. There will be people with far less experience than I have when they start out. There will inevitably be people who have made the mistake of never doing their full set up until their first night on the trail. So I’m sure I’ll be far from the most inept camper out there, but there’s something especially pointed about having other eyes on you when you’re feeling less than confident and things are going wrong. The most important thing to remember at those moments is to dissolve your ego, literally laugh out loud at yourself and be willing to swallow your pride and ask for help if you need it.

Or, be setting up alone off the trail in your hammock where no one can judge you and you can laugh at yourself as much as you need to until you get it right. So if it’s late in the day and your hiking up the Appalachian Trail and you hear booming laughter coming from a few hundred yards off the trail, feel free to shout a hello and come over and have a cup of cocoa with me. That way we can both have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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And so it begins, Appalachian Trail or bust!

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Happiness Quotes & Sayings

Happiness Quotes & Sayings

02Tonight a set of quotes and sayings to raise a smile and help you have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Appalachian Trail Happiness: My Best & Reader’s Favorite Posts

Appalachian Trail Happiness: My Best & Reader’s Favorite Posts

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First you examine the environment, then you examine your gear, finally you examine yourself ~ Colin Fletcher

Today, a collection of some of my favorite and reader’s favorite posts about the AT, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

Trail Community – the piece I got the most comments and likes for this year, for good reason, trail community is the best part of hiking the AT.

Quitting the Appalachian Trail – I love this piece it speaks to how proud all AT hikers should be for whatever they accomplish on the trail, no matter how many miles.

Gaer Lists –  the post that got the most views, a collection of gear lists for hiking the AT.

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Three Questions – a new way to journal on the trail

fix trekking polesAppalachian Trail Happiness: Precious Moments – some of my favorite recollections from my hike this summer.

My Favorite Little Hiker – A post about the littlest hiker on the AT this summer, little adorable Liv

Fantastic Fungi – So many cool fungi I photographed on the trail this summer

Brassie Brook Shelter – One of my absolute favorite spots on the trail

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The prettiest place on the trail – A post about a really amazing gem on the trail that I didn’t expect.

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Selfie Progression – My selfie shots along my hike

Appalachian Trail Snow Hiking Tips – self explanatory

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Appalachian Trail Happiness: A Walk in the Woods

Appalachian Trail Happiness: A Walk in the Woods

fix nh2The clearest way into the Universe is through a forest ~ John Muir

The Book

So I, like many Appalachian Hikers, are not the biggest fans of Bill Bryson’s book, A Walk in the Woods.  Not that I don’t think it’s a well written and humorous book, I do.  To be fair that’s what the book was supposed to be.  The problem with the book is twofold, first, it seems to be the only book anyone has ever read about the Appalachian Trail which is really sad with so many great books out there including Grandma Gatewood’s biography, Southbound, the first Barefoot Sisters book, David Miller’s AWOL on the Appalachian Trail, and David Brill’s, As Far as the eye can see: reflections on the Appalachian Trial. With this book as people’s limited window into the trail they have a really skewed view of what long-distance hiking on the trail is like and I think truly miss the biggest thing, the transformational nature of long-distance hiking.

Second as a comedic book, it gives a writer’s embellished view of what hiking the trail is like.  The exaggerations are a necessary comedic writing tool, but quite frankly when I read this book as I prepared to hike the trail, the book really made me NOT want to attempt a thru-hike.  I also think the fact that you don’t find out Bryson didn’t thru-hike til late in the book, and the line in the book, I really think we hike the Appalachian Trail, the book gets under the skin of those who have, or are about to attempt a thru-hike.

The Movie

Today I went to see the movie.  Simply what I will say about the movie is that it has almost nothing to do with the Appalachian Trail, in spite of all the press about the movie centering on the trail.  The movie is a nice, old-guy buddy flick where we get to watch two older guys reconnect and have a few shallow thoughts about mortality.  It was pleasant enough, and provided some good laughs and had almost nothing about hiking.

To the eyes of someone who has just spent the summer hiking a thousand miles on the trail, there was a lot wrong with the way the trail and thru-hiking is portrayed.  I won’t get into all of the annoying little details, it’s a fictional movie, not a documentary about the AT so it would be unfair to hammer on the film about them.  However, if you’re going to see the movie to see what thru-hiking is like, this is not your film.  Google Appalachian Trail Documentary, you’ll find lots of options on that front.

I think the attention related to the film, far more than the film itself, will drive additional traffic onto the AT.  However, unlike the movie Wild, which drove lots of young girls onto the trail with their families this past spring, I’m not sure A Walk in the Woods will have the same effect.  Wild, seemed to capture the imagination of a lot of young girls, we encountered tons this spring hiking with their families and they all mentioned the movie.  Of course this was a film featuring a young woman, solo-hiking and a big star in Reese Witherspoon.

A Walk in the Woods, in my opinion, will not resonate with younger folks.  Sure, the film might prod some older folks who were considering hiking the trail to give it a run, but I really don’t see the film itself pushing numbers.   The numbers of attempting thru-hikers has been trending up and that will surely continue next year.

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Attempting a thru-hike on the Appalachian Trail is a challenging and amazing thing to do.  I would love if more of you would do it for the challenges it will present, the amazing things that will happen and the inevitable changes you will go through.  And of course, because it will give you many happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

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The National WWII Museum in New Orleans

The National WWII Museum in New Orleans

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If I have learned anything in this long life of mine, it is this: in love we find out who we want to be; in war we find out who we are. ~ Kristin Hannah

During my last visit to New Orleans during Mardi Gras I found time to get up to the World War II museum.  The war has always held a fascination for me for a couple of reasons, both of my grandfathers fought in the war.  My maternal grandfather was in the very first battle against the Germans in Tunisa at a place called Kasserine Pass.

Kasserine Pass, world war II, New orleans

A little bit of it’s a small world after all, (you’re welcome for the ear worm), happened last week.  I have a colleague from Tunisia and after talking to him about the museum I told him where in Tunisia  my grandfather had fought and was injured and it turns out the town my colleague grew up in was Kasserine.  In that first battle where the US Army was overrun by General Rommel’s forces my grandfather was on a mortar crew.  They were pumping mortars so quickly that the barrel overheated and a mortar exploded in the tube.  My grandfather took shrapnel to the face and was evacuated, the injury probably saved his life.  A total of 10,000 allied troops, including 6,500 Americans were killed in the battle.

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The type of mortar that exploded in my grandfather’s face

My paternal grandfather had somehow eluded the draft the first time around.  However as the war proceeded the US Army caught up to him and so he was drafted, even with a wife and four kids at home.  He was then sent to basic training, then to Ranger School, then to England to prep for D-Day.  He landed on Omaha Beach, climbed cliffs, lobbed grenades, somehow survived essentially the opening seen of Saving Private Ryan.  Then a few weeks later fighting across France he was hit by shrapnel in the knee during a firefight and captured by the Germans.  He would spend the rest of the war in a POW camp, escaping once but being recaptured.

I had two other relatives who fought in the war, my great Uncle Tony who was killed in the Pacific theater, I believe at Wake Island.  And my great Uncle Joy who served in the Pacific and was one of the earliest units to land in Japan.  Growing up I’d met a lot of veterans of the war and have read more books than I can remember about it, seen all of the WWII movies.  I find it an utterly horrible and fascinating time in history.  The museum in New Orleans is really fantastic and if you’re in town you should check it out. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is Laughter: Clean Jokes

Happiness is Laughter: Clean Jokes

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A list of dumb clean jokes to give you a laugh on a Friday!  Enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

Q: What do you call a fake noodle?    An Impasta

Q: What do you call an alligator in a vest?    An Investigator

Q: What happens if you eat yeast and shoe polish?    Every morning you’ll rise and shine!

Q: What do you call a boy who finally stood up to the bullies?    An ambulance.

Q: What do you get from a pampered cow?    Spoiled milk.

Q: What do you call an elephant that doesn’t matter?     An irrelephant.

Q: What do you call a fat psychic?     A four chin teller.

Q: What do you call a computer that sings?     A-Dell

Q: How do you make a tissue dance?     Put a little boogey in it!

Q: What is heavy forward but not backward?     Ton.

Q: What do you call a three-footed aardvark?    a yardvark!

Q: What do you get when you cross fish and an elephant?     Swimming trunks.

Q: Where do bees go to the bathroom?     At the BP station!

Q: What do you call sad coffee?”     Despresso.

Q: How do you make holy water?     Boil the hell out of it!

Q: What happened to the dog that swallowed a firefly?     It barked with de-light!

Q: Why are frogs so happy?     They eat whatever bugs them

Q: Why are pirates called pirates?     Cause they arrrrr.

Q. What do you get when you cross a cow and a duck?    Milk and quackers!

Q: Why do fish live in salt water?   Because pepper makes them sneeze!

Q: What do you get when you cross a snowman with a vampire?    Frostbite.

Q: What do you call someone who is afraid of Santa?     A Clausterphobic

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Amazing Wisdom about Happiness & Positive Change

Amazing Wisdom about Happiness & Positive Change

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new ~ Socrates

change happinessA friend of mine posted this on Facebook and I believe it is some of the most amazing words of wisdom I’ve ever read about happiness and positive change.

Ozzy, it’s not really a matter of feeling worthy of love, friends, health, or wealth. Or of appreciating what you already have. Or even of learning to love yourself. These don’t have to come first. You don’t have to wear a halo to manifest the changes you want.

It’s simply a matter of understanding that if you do your part: visualize, prepare the way, and act “as if,” without looking over your shoulder for quick results, what you want must be added unto you… as will the feelings of worthiness, appreciation and loving your most lovable self.

You were pre-qualified,
The Universe

I love this for a number of reasons, first and most of all the positive nature of the statement. Second the fact that it expresses a necessary ingredient in making your life better, your responsibility to do the work. Positive change rarely just happens because we want it to and the advice here is priceless: visualize, prepare the way, and act as if you’ve already made the change. If you can do this friends I promise you positive change/happiness will come your way.

Please don’t overlook the signature part of what she wrote, that line, you are pre-qualified is huge, because you are my friends, you are pre-qualified to have a happy day, a happy life, as long as you do your part ~ Rev Kane

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