Happiness Questions – Part 1

Happiness Questions – Part 1

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Yes they are!

My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it’s on your plate.  ~ Thornton Wilder

In dancing around the internet to find something to post tonight I came across the site linked below:

http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/life-on-purpose-15-questions-to-discover-your-personal-mission/

The author includes a great story about how she came around to figuring out what gave her life purpose and what made her happy in life.  During this discussion she listed the 15 questions below to ask yourself to help you consider how to live a happier life, I really like them so here they are, tomorrow I’ll share my own answers, enjoy and of course, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

15 Questions:

1. What makes you smile? (Activities, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)

2. What are your favorite things to do in the past? What about now?

3. What activities make you lose track of time?

4. What makes you feel great about yourself?

5. Who inspires you most? (Anyone you know or do not know. Family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you, in each person?

6. What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)

7. What do people typically ask you for help in?

8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?

9. What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?

10. You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you’ve developed; what matters to you most? List them out.

11. What are your deepest values?

12. What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?

13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?

14. If you could get a message across to a large group of people. Who would those people be? What would your message be?

15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute? ( to people, beings, causes, organization, environment, planet, etc.)

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Our Best Happiness Posts for 2015

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There are Angels Among Us: A True Story of Giving & Kindness

Remember the Sweet Things

Happiness is Not Safety

 

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New place, new adventure

New place, new adventure

Happiness radiates like the fragrance from a flower and draws all good things to you. ~ Maharishi Mahesh Yogi

So vacation is finally over and I’ve landed in a new place and started a new job.  I have to admit it’s the best start I’ve ever had in a new place, and the best first week on a job ever.  I’ve taken a position as the Dean of Business, Education and Professional Programs at Skyline College near San Francisco.  I’m also living in San Bruno, about 12 miles from San Francisco.  I’m excited to be so close to San Francisco, I love the Bay Area and particularly the city and am looking forward to exploring it.  First off, in an ever warming world I’m in a place where yesterday I was actually cold in the middle of June, it was glorious.  I enjoyed living in the high desert but I don’t miss the heat at all.  I would always rather be cold than hot and for the first time in my life, I’m very close to the ocean in two directions, the Pacific Coast one way, the San Francisco Bay the other.

Part of landing in a new place is of course exploring.  I’ve made a friend and she’s been playing tour guide, so we’ve done a little hiking and even made a big, yellow, slimy friend.

We visited the Mission District and walked the area looking at the amazing murals.

And attended a fabulously interesting book launch for the book the Best Breakup Ever, where I also had my first Tarot reading.

The reading was only three cards as you can see but was super positive and really matched up with the way I’m feeling right now.  An interesting thing happened in a conversation last week.  Someone, was telling me that their mental landscape was in turmoil, and it provided me with a moment of clarity.  Haven’t had one in quite some time and what I realized was that mine, for the first time in a very long time, is quiet and serene.  This is a result of the work I have been doing for the last 20 years and because I recently resolved something that created a lot of mental turmoil for me.  It feels like things have fallen into place for me finally and it’s a great feeling.

I was excited to find out that in my new job we are working a 4 day, 10 hour schedule in the summer.  So I took advantage of my first Friday off to head down to Half Moon Bay, which is only about 25 minutes from my place to spend some time along the coast.  I did a hike on the Coastal Trail.

And even found a spot to take a few dinosaur pictures for my nephews.

So week one was fantastic, even if I’m not used to getting up so early and still really haven’t caught up on sleep.  So my friends, I hope you have a fabulous week and as always, have a happy day. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is Giving: Gear Forward

Happiness is Giving: Gear Forward

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Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. ~ Lao Tzu

So today I want to draw your attention to an organization near and dear to my heart, Gear Forward. I met Scott Gauvin, its founder, a couple of years ago and I wrote for his other site, Hiking Forward, while I hiked on the Appalachian Trail. Scott’s a great guy, committed to the outdoors and someone who wants to help people.  One way he’s doing that is by creating his new site.

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Scott Gauvin

The concept of Gear Forward is quite simple,  those of us who spend a lot of time outdoors often have a lot of gear, and a lot of extra gear.  As a community, we also tend to be folks who are advocates for helping people get outdoors and appreciate nature.  So what the organization does is simply accept the donations of new and/or gently used gear to donate to kids to help them have the right gear to access the outdoors.

They want to achieve something spectacular in their first year, as a collective outdoor community they want us to help to fill their map with a donation from or to all 50 States by the end of 2016.

How can you help?

  • Donate an outdoor gear item to Gear Forward
  • Identify a need in your community and let us know
  • Spread the word about this effort
  • Get active with Gear Forward and become a Gear Forward Partner
  • As a retailer, help us to collect items at your store to benefit youth in need

If you have any questions about how to get involved please contact us.

So far they have impacted or received donation from 11 states, let’s help them check off all 50 and help some kids have a happy day my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

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My Best Appalachian Trail Posts

My 22 Days in the Himalayas

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My Polar Bear Adventure

My Swim with Whale Sharks

Petra a 2300 Year Old City

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Fun Friday: Kids Explain Christmas & Santa

Fun Friday: Kids Explain Christmas & Santa

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Kids explain the nativity

Kids explain the story of the origin of Christmas, totally adorable (4:00)

Kids answer questions about Christmas, these are really funny (2:26) Second best line, I don’t know all of this Jesus stuff!  Best line in answer to what would be a good present for Jesus, “to take the nails out of his hands.”

Kids act out the nativity, wow, this is awesome, Mary & Joseph found out they were having the baby Jesus while on a business trip, where? Baltimore. I bet you never knew that Spiderman played a part in the birth of Jesus, did you? (

 

Santa

Kids on Santa

Kids explain how Santa does his job  Amazing theories (7:10)

Kids explain Santa’s magic, Santa’s fat you know but he’s nice (2:43)

 

 

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Happiness is Poetry: Micropoetry

Happiness is Poetry: Micropoetry

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What is a poet? An unhappy person who conceals profound anguish in his heart but whose lips are so formed that as sighs and cries pass over them they sound like beautiful music. ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Micropoetry is technically any short form poetry like haiku.  However tonight I want to present for you micropoetry as it appears on Twitter.  For those of you not familiar with Twitter, it’s a social media platform where messages are limited to 140 characters.  So micropoetry on Twitter are poems in less than 140 characters.  It’s amazing how powerful some of these micro poems can be in so few words.  So tonight, some micorpoems, if you want to see more, you can always check out my Twitter feed @ministryofhappy

If you click on the link at the top of each piece it will take you to the original tweet.  Enjoy my friends and have a happy day ~ Rev Kane

The way she speaks
You’d think
She marks the tips Of her lips
With poetic ink.

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the dragonfly
who told me
I had all summer
no flash of green
across a September sun

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Until the waves filled my lungs
and I could no longer see the sun
I didn’t know
that I was lost.

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The old ones
still talk in whispers
to the stars
sharing memories
no one else can recall

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From the top of your head
Light cascades a soft river,
Pouring the knowing of being
Touched by joy.

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Angels…
in a company of burning stars
eyes of distant nebula fire
Hover over us

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Love, a luxury
Meted out in small doses
We are all beggars

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The dark takes me back
to the early days
when God spoke softly to me.

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They obey
His Word,
Both sublime
And absurd.

*****

How much longer
are these tangled memories of you
going to hover over my bowed head
I miss the sun

*****

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A Whole Bunch of Happiness Signs & Sayings

A Whole Bunch of Happiness Signs & Sayings

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Welcome to my new tinier life

Welcome to my new tinier life

There is only one day left, always starting over; it starts at dawn and is taken away from us at dusk. ~ Jean-Paul Satre

Vacation is Over

Vacation is over, I’m writing this post on my last day before I start my new job.  I will have been off of work for three weeks less than a full year.  It’s been a good year and let’s start off tonight with a little recap.  I left my job in the Mojave Desert and headed east stopping to see some friends along the way including a good friend from grad school I hadn’t seen in person in twenty years.  I used upstate NY, where most of my family is, as my base of operations and landing spot between trips.  So I got to spend a lot of time with my family, especially my nieces and nephews, I have eight, soon to be nine.  I have a little niece due to arrive in the next few weeks and I’m very excited.  I also caught up with a lot of old friends.

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I headed first to Scotland where I hiked the Western Highland and Great Glen Ways.  I love Scotland, it’s a beautiful country and the Scottish people have always been incredibly friendly and welcoming to me.  Helped in no small measure by the fact that genetically we’re related and I certainly look Scottish, especially when I’m sporting the big beard.  In addition to hiking I spent some time in Glasgow and Edinburgh.  Edinburgh is one of my favorite large cities and I was there during festival so the town was full of life and art.

Spain and Portugal

I left Scotland to head to Spain to hike the Camino Primitivo, one of my less satisfying hiking experiences.  The combination of too much road walking, too many dogs and too much heat led to my decision to abandon the hike only a few days in.  Even in that short amount of time I met some really great people and visited some beautiful places.  Long distance hiking is special that way.  Leaving the trail I headed back to Oviedo, a city I really came to like.  It’s a mellow city with some amazing architecture and history and in true Spanish fashion is a city that comes alive at night.  Single people, families all are out in the squares and restaurants socializing til late at night.  It was a new culture for me but one that really suits my natural night owl tendencies.  From Oviedo I headed north  to Gijon and the beach, a place with amazing giant tidal swings and a coastal hiking trail that connects to one of the Caminos.

I left Spain to visit three cities in Portugal, Aveiro, Porto and Lisbon.  Each city had it’s charms and I enjoyed my time there.  If you’re going to Portugal prepare for hills, Porto and Lisbon especially are beautiful hilly cities.  Like most cities they are complex, high priced tourism mixed with ancient history and poverty.  I enjoyed exploring all of them.

Morocco

I then left Europe for my first trip  to Africa.  I spent a week in Morocco, not nearly long enough but three days living in the souk in Marrakech wore me out.  It was the living embodiment of the Crosby, Stills and Nash song although I took the train from, not to Marrakech.  The city was amazing and the sights and smells utterly amazing.  The best people watching I’ve ever encountered.  I would sit at the cafes on the square and watch the con men make their money.  This did not make me immune, I paid far too much for the photo below and learned a valuable lesson.  Never negotiate with a man holding a cobra.

My favorite scam was performed by two gentlemen I named the Monkey Guys.  Two large and imposing looking Moroccans who had well-trained monkeys.  They would slip up behind a couple and toss the monkey on the guys back.  The monkey was trained to scramble up on top of the man’s head and sit there.  Then the Monkey Guys would pop up, apologize and say, “but what a great picture.”  They would get the woman to take a picture then put their hand out for the tip.  So the couple faces having a monkey on the guys head, that isn’t moving, and a large, scary looking Moroccan dude demanding money.  Everyone I saw in this situation paid.

I spent a few days in Tangier but I was worn out and had booked a beautiful hotel with a rooftop pool and bar and although I walked the city a bit, spent most of my time enjoying laying by the pool, being waited on and having a spectacular view of the city and ocean.

The Ferry to Barcelona

I did one of the most interesting things I will likely ever do next.  Instead of taking the 45 minute ferry from Morocco to Tarifa, Spain I decided to go on a little adventure.  So instead I booked a 32 hour ferry ride to Barcelona.  The ferry was like a mini-cruise ship and I’m sure felt that way were you booked into a lovely little cabin with a bed and your own bathroom.  That was not the way I traveled.  No, I had a Pullman Seat in a giant cabin with over 100 other people.  There were four such cabins, which included 400 Moroccans, 2 Swiss hippies with dread locks and me.  The crew was almost entirely Filipino and Italian, but we only ever saw them at meals.  Oh, and only three sets of bathrooms.  Some of the folks on the cruise were professionals, they had sleeping set ups, some had brought air mattresses and slept in the nooks and crannies in the hallways, it was amazing.  The bathrooms, generally degraded the entire trip.  Sleeping was like trying to sleep on a plane or a bus but in non-reclining seats.  Happily, you could go out on deck and it was a beautiful voyage, at least aesthetically.  The intercom system was very much like the intercom on the NY Subway, imagine the teacher talking on a Peanuts special.  There was little organization when we disembarked and the only languages being spoken were French, Arabic and Italian.  The first two I don’t know and the third is a language I can read but hardly speak.

While disembarking I actually walked all the way to land level only be turned around because it was for car drivers only, walked against the crowd all the way back up three levels to be turned around and sent out the way I had started.  All of this to be bused, delayed and dropped off at the closed port terminal at midnight with no phone service, and no taxis or buses serving the port at that time of night.  My GPS said 4 miles to downtown Barcelona and my hotel, so I walked.  Happily it was a mostly deserted port area at that time.  Barcelona was a great city, but there are too many people there.  On any of the popular streets it’s like walking at rush hour in Manhattan, but the art, the architecture and the restaurants were amazing.

From Barcelona I took the train to Madrid, I only spent a couple of days transiting through Madrid but didn’t enjoy the city.  It likely had a lot to do with where I was staying, my brief pass through and the heat but other than its usefulness as a transportation hub, I wasn’t really excited by Madrid.

Oaxaca City, Mexico

I bounced back through Scotland and to the US for a few weeks before starting my final adventure.  I moved to Oaxaca City, Mexico for two months.  The links back to the pieces I wrote about that experience will give you a lot more info and photos.  Oaxaca served to check off a major bucket list item for me.  I collect Day of the Dead (DOTD) art and years ago I bought a piece from and artist in Oaxaca.  He talked lovingly about the city, the art scene and the amazing DOTD festivals in the city.  So I knew someday I would have to go and I did.  Oaxaca is wonderful and what I really should write is it’s awful, boring and unsafe so don’t go.  I should write that because Oaxaca is at the edge of becoming a cool travel destination and more and more tourists are visiting the city.  There’s a reason for this, Oaxaca is a UNESCO World Heritage site for food, it’s a safe city, it’s in the poorest part of Mexico so everything is unbelievably cheap.  The people are amazing, accommodating and friendly, the food is as good as anything you’ll find in SF, NY or LA.  There is art everywhere, awesome natural sites to go see, the best Mezcal I’ve ever tasted and the weather is like the weather in San Diego.

I attended language school there, there are a ton of language schools in the city.  It was a great experience and I made some good friends, of course one of them Joan, was Scottish.  I really loved my time in Oaxaca and it’s some place I will continue to visit and likely someplace I’ll spend a couple of months every year in retirement.

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Back in the USA

I returned stateside, spent some time in New York, a month on the Gulf of Mexico and then drifted west.  Back in California I spent time interviewing for jobs and then moving my possessions from Southern California to the Bay Area, I’m living just outside San Francisco.

My Tiny New Life

I have tagged my new life as my new tiny life.  Everything, mostly because of cost, is tinier here.  I am living in a 600 square foot apartment.  My parking space is between two poles that leave me with about 3 inches of clearance on each side of my mirrors.  I’ve continued to work on downsizing my life and have worked my excess possessions outside the apartment down to a 5 by 5 storage space.  So my life has shifted from a 1400 square foot, split level apartment and a 10 by 10 storage space to 600 square feet and a 5 by 5.  I only have 6 years to retirement, I’ve stayed under 200 pounds for over a year for the first time in 20 years, everything thing in my life seems to be shrinking.  This however is not a complaint, just an observation.

I’m excited for my new life, my new apartment and my new job.  I already in 3 weeks here have more of a social life than I had in two years in the desert.  I have friends in the bay area to re-connect with, I live between the ocean and the bay and we had a really hot day the other day, it was in the 80’s.  Compared to the triple digit life in the desert this is a joy.  I’ll wrap this up here, I have a date to go into San Francisco for dinner and to a book reading, like I said, happy for my new life.  As always, have a happy day my friends.             ~ Rev Kane

 

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Random Happiness: Fun Science

Random Happiness: Fun Science

The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom. ~ Isaac Asimov

stewieToday we focus on fun science, and we go from interesting video’s to the truly insane.  Don’t we all have a friend who caused a large explosion in their own house on Thanksgiving and burned off their eyebrows?  This post is dedicated to my friend Keith.  And as such let me just say I’m posting these videos for entertainment purposes only an idiot would do this stuff at home and would probably earn a Darwin Award in the process, you’ve been warned. ~ Rev Kane

First a video a roundup of the highlights from 2012 for NPRs Science Friday

Also from Science Friday some cool time-lapse photography

A set of odd and bizarre science facts

Theo Gray has just become my new favorite scientists, 7 experiments from his book Theo Gray’s Mad Science:  Experiments you can do at home but probably shouldn’t;

Even more deranged science experiments

Finally, build your own parabolic solar death ray, some videos

Demos

The basic death ray

My favorite one

One more

How to build one

Plans

Where to buy what you are seeing

 

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Happiness Resources: Making Change Happen

Happiness Resources: Making Change Happen

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Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself ~ Leo Tolstoy

Tonight a couple of quick resources related to making and keeping positive change in your life.  I especially like the first piece it has a lot of great advice, so give it a read and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

First a great piece on the Anatomy of Change

Personal Growth: Four Obstacles to Personal Change

Five Steps to Positive Life Change, this one is a little more theoretical and wordy

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Change Can be a Good Thing

Amazing Advice & Wisdom about Happiness & Change

fearOther Posts You Might Enjoy!

How Travel Makes You Happier

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Our Best Happiness Posts of 2015

My favorite Appalachian Trail Photos of 2015

Why I’m Happy Right Now!

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Social Media and Happiness

Social Media and Happiness

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Be happy for this moment, for this moment is your life. ~ Omar Khayyam

Being Happy

The United States is the unhappiest it’s ever been, does this surprise you?  First let’s define what I mean by this, the statement comes from the fact that in annual global happiness surveys, the United States has ranked lower than ever before.  This honestly doesn’t come as no surprise to me.  At this point in time, the United States is more politically divided than it has been in decades.  We see study after study that indicate that our children are more anxious and fearful than ever before.  We see it at the college level now, recently on NPR a college health center director talked about seeing much higher levels of depression and anxiety amongst college students than he has before in his 20 year career.

This political divide, extra stress and anxiety paired with both our twenty-four hour news cycle and social media make living a happy life harder and harder in our society.  There are some general tips on how to be happier, that we’ve discussed here before.  It is after all the focus of this blog, if you want to find additional articles just search through the personal happiness category in the archives on the side of the page.

Social Media

But tonight I want to focus on social media specifically.  We are all tied up in so many ways online with our social media accounts.  We have Facebook, Twitter and Instagram accounts, we get sucked into political discussions, get exposed to a constant stream of negative news  and inflammatory stories, afterall the more extreme and controversial the posts, the more likes sites get.  Then of course when we post, we now have to be concerned with likes and shares and comments that people post and the arguments that flare up between people who comment.  Honestly, at times it can all be too much and we have to develop strategies to protect ourselves and particularly our happiness.  And the answer is to not just unplug from the news, social media and the world.  I’ll never be someone who believes putting your head in the sand is the answer.  I’ve connected with too many old friends, and keep in touch with so many people who live far away from me, for me to ever say that social media is inherently bad.

Recently, I’ve found myself struggling a little bit, all of the negativity that gets blasted at us constantly was really bringing me down.  What got to me beyond the political divisiveness, the way people treated each other and even the negative news was that people just generally seemed miserable.  One thing that truly drives me nuts is the meme level thinking people generally apply on social media.  Everything is in absolutes, whole genders, races, religions and political beliefs are hammered with no complexity, nuance or depth of thought.  We’ve lost any semblance of empathy or compassion for anyone who isn’t just like, or at least thinks just like us.  So what’s the answer?

Again, I don’t think the answer is leaving social media.  So what I chose to do instead,  was to be far more deliberate about my social media usage.  First off, I identified where on the web I was encountering the most negativity.  For me, I really only use Twitter and Instagram to post out and not to read.  So Facebook was my biggest source.  The next step was to identify which of my friends’ pages impacted my happiness the most.  If someone only posted things that were significantly negative I unfriended them.  This happily was only a couple of people.

There were some folks whose posts weren’t necessarily always negative but posted enough that I felt like I didn’t need to see their feeds anymore but still wanted to stay connected and I utilized the option of not following them but still remaining friends.  Finally, there was a small group of friends where the decision was really difficult.  You see they are people that I really enjoy knowing what is going on in their lives, but there was enough negativity in their friend’s comments or in their posts that I needed to unfollow them as well.  I then went through my friends list to refollow folks I know who post positive stuff.  You see when I travel, like I have been in the last year, I unfollow almost everyone in order to keep my feeds manageable.

I went through this whole exercise a couple of weeks ago.  There have been a few results.  First, my feed is a bit shorter.  Second, there is far less negativity that I’m being exposed to every day.  Third, this has led to a noticeable improvement in my mood.  So all in all, I think this is something that can work to help you improve your happiness.  So my friends, take control of your social media feeds and have a happy day.  ~ Rev Kane

 

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