Happiness: Handling Worry and Uncertainty

Happiness: Handling Worry and Uncertainty

01Worry is interest paid on trouble before it comes due. ~ William Ralph Inge

Well to say it’s been a tumultuous week for some people in the United States may be an understatement.  With the election of Donald Trump and some of the rhetoric he espoused during the election, and some of the past views of his Vice-President related to the LGBTQ community, there are a number of people visibly worried about the change in US leadership.  So, it seemed like a good time to do a reminder post about worry and happiness.

We often worry before we have to, this isn’t to say the things we worry about are unwarranted, they may very well be, but we often spend a lot of time worry before things have actually happened.  This is really counterproductive and really doesn’t solve anything.  Thinking about and preparing for a possible issue is smart, but think about it, make a plan and move on.  Letting it run over and over in your head accomplishes nothing.

Now I get it, telling someone not to worry is like telling you not to think about a monkey playing a tuba, where was your head just now 🙂  So what I suggest is that you worry for a purpose and move on.  Right now a lot of people have a lot of uncertainty about the future and that is causing them to worry.  That’s ok for a minute, but in the end, all we can do is go forward and live out lives.

All of this causes stress and stress will ruin your happiness and make you ill.  So my friends, as always, take a deep breath, do all of the things you know you need to do.  Get enough sleep, eat well, exercise, limit your access to things that exacerbate your stress.  Stay busy and focused on the positive things in your life and you’ll have happier days.        ~ Rev Kane

 

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Appalachian Trail Happiness, Where to buy the Book

Appalachian Trail Happiness, Where to Buy the Book

at-happPlease forgive my shameless plug tonight but I wanted to provide all of the purchasing information for my book in one place ~ Rev Kane

What I hope you can get out of this book is a feeling for the Appalachian Trail Community: thru-hikers, hostel owners, trail towns and trail angels who all conspire to make hiking the AT an amazing experience.  I knew the community existed, but the positive impact it had on me—the power of this community—completely caught me by surprise, a really pleasant surprise.  Sure, there will be a good bit about the trail, the geography, the weather and the mountains, but it’s mostly about the people, the culture and my own twisted brain.  The book is drawn out of three things: my journal entries, descriptions and definitions of trail terms, and the writings I undertook while hiking the trail. I also answered three questions every day; what was the most beautiful thing I encountered, what did I learn, what made me happy today?

Amazon & Kindle   – You can find both the paperback ($9.99) and ebook ($2.99) at Amazon, if you buy the paperback you get the ebook as a bonus for 99 cents if you are so inclined.

Createspace  – If you order through Createspace ($9.99), Amazon doubles my royalty.  I’m assuming they do this to help drive traffic to the Createspace store.  So if you want to help maximize my royalty this is the best way.

Signed Copy – If you would like a signed copy please contact me directly at happinesskane@aol.com.  For these I have to order a copy from Createspace, then sign it and ship it to you directly, due to the double shipping I charge $15 for this option.

No matter how you buy the book, I’m thankful that you have and thank you very much for supporting my work and I hope you enjoy it. A quick synopsis is below. ~ Rev Kane

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Great TV Shows for your next binge watching weekend

Great TV Shows for your next binge watching weekend

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A good story can travel in time and borders; it hits you no matter where you are. ~ Hakkan Nesser

Originally posted June, 2018

The beauty of television and Twin Peaks

I think I am falling in love with Legion the way John Thorne fell in love with Twin Peaks.  Now, who the heck is John Thorne you might ask, he’s one of my oldest friends and one of the world’s leading experts on Twin Peaks, he shows up in the Twin Peaks documentary on Showtime, was one of the co-founders of the fanzine Wrapped In Plastic, the book, The Essential Wrapped in Plastic: Pathways to Twin Peaks and currently the Blue Rose Magazine, A Twin Peaks Journal.   He was also the editor of my first book, Appalachian Trail Happiness, a good writer, a good editor and a good friend as well as a fellow fan of good television, books and movies.  He fell in love with Twin Peaks and got me hooked the first time around.

So back to Legion, a quick warning there are some minor spoilers in what’s below but nothing that will reduce your enjoyment of watching this utterly amazing show.  Beyond my discussion of Legion, a list of of other shows that would be way worth your time if you’re looking for a binge watch, unfortunately not all are available.

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I always liked Twin Peaks, but never obsessed about it, thought about it, or wanted to analyze it. I’m becoming that way about Legion. I love that the story takes intellect to follow, although I don’t find the storyline nearly as obscure as most seem to. It is so well written, the non-linear choices made at times I find absolutely brilliant and entertaining. The connections are unbelievable, Sydney Barret as a schizophrenic, Syd Barret the schizophrenic former lead of Pink Floyd, coincidence, I think not when they start season 2 with Pink Floyd music. I love the sets, the costume designs, even the lighting which they use brilliantly, the concept of the characters amazing (I’ll need to jump into the comic at some point to see how much comes from there). There are so many little amazing details in scenes some that I catch and squeal with delight, I know there are a lot more I missed and much like my friend John, I find myself re-watching episodes to get what I missed.

The bottom line is what I desire in a television series for me to really dig it is entertaining storytelling, intelligence in the story, performances and directing, great performances, complexity, attention to detail and most of all to be surprised. My real test these days, is this a show I watch where I multitask (on my phone or laptop) or is this  a show that engages me to the point that I have no interest in multitasking.

The list below is a list of these types of shows, I’ve done a little categorization and thrown in a note two here or there.  There are some shows not on the list that may deserve to be, The Americans for instance and The Handmaid’s Tale, I’m sure there are others.  Those two are missing because I have not personally watched them.  I’m sure there are others that people will feel should be on the list, Westworld, Stranger Things, and Mad Men come to mind, all good shows but not shows that do it for me.  Westworld is a great concept with a good storyline but gets boring at times, Stranger Things I feel is over-hyped, definitely an entertaining show but I’m usually on my phone doing other things when it’s on.  There is a lot to like about Mad Men, but I got really tired of the story line, so perhaps the earlier seasons should be on the list.  Anyway, I hope the list gives you a find or two that helps give you a happy day.  ~ Rev Kane

Shows over time that have done that for me in no particular order:

Dramas

The Wire – maybe the best TV show ever
The Sopranos – right up til the last season, spectacular
Deadwood – couldn’t believe this show was canceled early
Breaking Bad – A really magnificent series that was as addictive as meth
6 feet under – perhaps my favorite series finale ever, very satisfying
Band of Brothers – if you like war movies, this will do it for you.
The first couple of seasons of Oz – season one blew my mind, so gritty
Homicide Life on the Street – As good as the Wire is, homicide is just a click below
Fargo (Seasons 1 and 3) – love, love, loved season 1
True Detective Season 1
The Newsroom – great first episode, great speech, amazing cast
St. Elsewhere
Hill Street Blues
First season of ER
West Wing
Dexter – serial killing done right, wait, what did he just say?
American Horror Story (season 1)
Mr. Robot – My only beef, to a degree this is Fight Club the series, but soooo well done

Science Fiction and Fantasy

Star Trek (the original The Next Generation and Deep Space 9, haven’t seen the latest)
Babylon 5 – the best written Scifi series of all-time, and if you disagree we can step outside
Buffy the Vampire Slayer – On the surface, pure pop candy, but so much more!
True Blood
Firefly – the best series ever cancelled early
The X-files – early on
Lost – the first 2 seasons, the series finale was utterly awful and dissatisfying
Game of Thrones – if he’d only publish the next damn book
The Leftovers – really under the radar good show with a spectacular series finale
Doctor Who – Been in love since Tom Baker, fell back in love when David Tennant arrived
Battlestar Galactica (the remake) – Had few expectations and all of them were blown away
Kolchak the Night Stalker – the original X-files
Life on Mars (the British Version) – Unbelievable show and oh, Gretchen Mol was so good
Jericho – Great dystopian series, probably shouldn’t be on the list but I loved it so
The Walking Dead – the new standard in Zombie TV
Fear the Walking Dead – I love origin stories and this does so much more of that
The Expanse – next to Legion another new show that really has a chance to be special

Anthology

The Twilight Zone – do I have to say anything
The Outer Limits – campy at times, but so good
Alfred Hitchcock Presents – really clever storytelling

Comedy

Mash – best comedy ever made, with better drama than most dramas
The United States of Tara – Really interesting look a multiple personality disoders

Other

John from Cincinnati – Maybe he was God, cancelled before we found out
Carnivale – twisted and lovely
Happy! – maybe a comedy, a drama, a fantasy, it’s definitely beautiful, nuts and awesome.

And Legion truly does it for me

What shows would you add?

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Welcome to the End of the World

Welcome to the End of the World

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Originally posted September 2018

I left Santiago de Campostela on a bus today for La Finestre, the emd of the world.  At least that’s what the ancient Pagans and the Romans thought.  This place is the end point for the old Pagan walk to the end of the world.  The hike ended at the point where the lighthouse now stands, I’ll make the hike to the lighthouse tomorrow.  There is a party tonight in the harbor, so I took a little walk down along the harbor, got a kebab and snapped a few photos, enjoy. – Rev Kane

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Happiness is wanting less

Happiness is Wanting Less

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Happiness is a way station between too little and too less ~ Channing Pollock

Originally posted in 2014

For today’s post I decided to write about happiness and wanting less.  You see we are all always, particularly as Americans, told that more is better.  We’ll be happy when we get a bigger house, a pretty spouse, more kids, a nicer car.  But that’s not the answer; the real answer is underneath all of that.  What is it that you really need to be happy?  Does what you need to do to make you happy require that you be rich or famous?  Or is it that you simply haven’t truly addressed the question.  This is to the core of why the Ministry of Happiness was created, to help all of us, you and me, to find out the true answer to the question, what makes you happy?

What is it that you need in your life for you to live the happy and fulfilled life we all dream of living?  Below is a link to an article that addressed this question magnificently and hits the point perfectly, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

How to want less and be happy about it

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A Really Wonderful Day – Mexico

A Really Wonderful Day – Mexico

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Sunset at the Mezcal Distillery

Exploration is really the essence of the human spirit. ~ Frank Borman

Originally posted December, 2018

The Institute I’m studying Spanish at has two tours they support, a Saturday tour that I did last weekend.  That tour goes to Monte Alban and several other places and I’ll get a post up about Monte Alban at some point soon, it was a really amazing place.

monte alban, travel, mexicoThe Sunday tour goes to several places as well, we started our day by stopping at Santa Maria de Tule, the home of a really giant tree.  This tree is a Montezuma Cypress, at least 1600 but likely over 2000 years-old, almost 60 feet in circumference and 31 feet in diameter.  It is truly an amazing tree.

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Next we went to a family run business, this is a Zapotec traditional weaving family who use wool, clean and dye it using things like flowers, seeds and insects.  The tapestries they make are absolutely beautiful.

tapestry, weaving, mexicoWe then visited Hierve El Agua, the boiling waters.  The site is someplace that has natural boiling water that comes up through the rocks.  The water is mineral laden that deposits along the rock faces as it drips down over the rocks.  This creates the effect of a frozen rock waterfall.  On top there are also some really beautiful pools that fill with water and people swim in.

hierve el agua, travel, mexicohierve el agua, mexico, infinity poolFinally, on the way back to Oaxaca we stopped at a traditional Mezcal distillery that was beautiful and I tasted a five year-old Mezcal that made me considering picking up drinking again.

mezcal, travel, mexicoIt was a full-on nine-hour day, with a nice buffet lunch that included chicken with grasshoppers, the food was really good and the buffet was loaded with vegetables and I ate a ton.  I was the only native English speaker on the trip although there were four Chinese tourists who also spoke some English and after our guides left the tour, the driver asked me to interpret between him and the Chinese tourists which made me feel pretty good about my Spanish skills.  So a really great day.  I hope you had one as well my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness comes from being yourself!

Happiness comes from being yourself!

 

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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind ~ Bernard Baruch

 

Tonight some more images from the temple at Burning Man.  The temple is someplace where people bring things they wish to let go, a place to say goodbye to loved ones who have passed on and aspects of themselves they wish to lose.  The walls and surfaces of the temple are covered in memorials and sayings to this effect.  There is a lot of wisdom on these walls and tonight a discussion of some of the wisdom I photographed there.

 

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This sentiment is massively important in life with one caveat.  That caveat is once you truly know yourself.  Once you do you can tell the world to accept you or walk away.  You have to love yourself first, at that point the opinion of others no longer matters.

 

 

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So much of the time we act tough, we have to, other people depend on us.  We act tough so others won’t be afraid, so our children won’t know how hard things truly are when they are bad.  We act tough because we know we are strong enough to handle things when others around us are not.  But when it’s quiet, when you’re with others who truly care about you, stop acting tough.  I know it feels like it, but you don’t always have to be the responsible one, the strong one, the tough one. Just stop at least for a minute and let others know you are vulnerable, that you hurt too, that sometimes you need to be cared for, not to be the one doing the caring.  Understand my friends, you are deserving of the care you give others, it, whatever it is, is not your fault, so stop acting so tough and let someone care for you.

 

 

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My favorite piece in the temple, the simplest possible physical expression of the idea that you have to love yourself.  So love yourself my friends and have a happy day ~ Rev Kane

 

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A Walking Tour of San Francisco

A Walking Tour of San Francisco

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The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page. ~ St. Augustine

Originally posted August 2, 2020

So when I first moved to the Bay Area a little over a year ago, I started exploring San Francisco.  There were activities like doing a whale watch to the Farallon Islands, checking out some local eating places, museums but mostly a lot of walking to different areas of the city.  COVID put a stop to that as well as any other travel.  Recently I’ve been trying to find ways to travel closer and locally.  I did a road trip about a month ago up to Reno, Virginia City and Sacramento.  And this weekend I decided it was time to start exploring San Francisco again.

I settled on an eight mile loop across a lot of the main attractions, most I’ve done but a few I haven’t and the walk would take me through some areas of the city I hadn’t walked before.  The thing about most big cities, and especially San Francisco is that you never know what you’re going to find. There are always surprises and little adventures.  On this walk I was panhandled by a guy, around my age, who was obviously lying about being a disabled Vietnam Army vet.  I was in a good mood so I gave him a buck and asked him what unit he was in, he immediately said he was flying.  So I asked if he’d been a pilot, that was when he looked at me and told me he was Superman.  Just another day in the city by the bay.

I settled on a loop starting and ending at the Ferry Building on the Embarcadero.  First off, that’s an easy ride from home on BART, and second, since the Ferry Building had recently opened, it would like have open restrooms.  On what would be a four hour walk, the reality is, you’re going to need a rest stop and normally that would be a lunch stop at a restaurant, but with little to no indoor dining, that wasn’t likely going to be an option.  While we’re on the subject of restrooms, let me tell you, the public restroom stations in San Francisco are in fact still accessible and operating, the Ferry Building, Pier 39 and other tourist area bathrooms are also, for the most part, open.

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On Saturdays there’s a pretty large farmers market outside of The Ferry Building as well as a lot of vendors there, so it’s a great place to pick up a drink and some fruit for the walk.  From the Ferry Building you head toward the Bay Bridge and take a right on Mission Ave.  The first stop on the tour is the rooftop gardens at the Salesforce Tower.  This is 4.5 acres of a little loop trail framed with gardens at the Salesforce Tower.  It’s not spectacular, but it’s a nice little tranquil spot in the heart of downtown amongst the tall towers.

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From the Salesforce Tower I continued up Mission to Yerba Buena Park across from St. Patrick’s Catholic Church.  Taking a right off of Mission Avenue I headed up third street toward the Dragon Gate on Grant Avenue, the entrance to Chinatown.  Well, that was the plan, but I got distracted by some music and headed up Mission another block and ended up circling back to the Dragon Gate via Union Square, which added a good half mile to my route.

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The Dragon Gate on Grant Avenue is the cliche starting point to enter Chinatown in San Francisco and Grant Avenue is what most people think of when they think of Chinatown.  It’s fully of really interesting shop and any side street off of Grant offers additional little shops and restaurants to explore including the fortune cookie factory.

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Grant Avenue eventually hits a funky intersection and I mean that in every way.  At the intersection of Columbus, Broadway and Grant you’ll find a number of things.  Some really cool old sign work for places like Big Als, the famous bookstore, City Lights Bookstore, and next to it a totally funky place called Vesuvios.

Continuing up Grant, be careful to stay on Grant and not end up on Columbus.  You flow through really nice neighborhoods and you really get a feel for the hills of San Francisco.  Happily, not because you’re walking up them, but because you’re walking across them and can see them climb up and down in either direction.  this route effectively does a loop around Telegraph Hill and Coit Tower, which if interested is an easy, but stair filled side trip. You so climb going up Grant but never steeply, you’ll see Coit Tower off to your right on the entire walk.  and eventually you’ll come back down to the water and the Embarcadero at Pier 39.  At some point before you hit Bay street, you’ll need to take a left two blocks and turn right no Stockton as Grant dead ends at Bay and Stockton leads all the way to the Ocean at Pier 39.  As you crest the hill heading back to the Embarcadero, if it’s clear out you’ll have a view of the Golden Gate Bridge in the distance.

Once arriving at Pier 39 you’re entered the thick of the Fisherman’s Wharf tourist zone.  At this point Pier 39 is directly ahead, and to the left is the Fisherman’s Wharf area.  Having walked the wharf many, many times I headed into the Pier 39 to do one touristy thing and that was to check out the sea lion colony that lives at the pier.

After a quick restroom stop I headed up the Embarcadero the final mile or so to the Ferry Building.  I finished off the day by getting an ice cream and sitting on a park bench on the bay and enjoyed my ice cream watching sailboats go by.

A final stroll up to BART and my day was over.  As I said, about an 8 mile walk, one really nice thing about this loop, is that any point you can turn right and head over the hill and back down to the Embarcadero.  So you can really shorten up the walk if you want to do something shorter.  There are LOTS of places to eat, even now by take out or outside dining along the route.  Anything from Chinese restaurants, seafood places, Italian restaurants and of course pizza places, so I grabbed a slice across from City Lights.  At Pier 39  there are all manner of places to eat and lots of food options at the end in the Ferry Building as well.

All in all a happy day and a great walk, have a happy day as well my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is Adventure

Happiness is Adventure

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Originally posted in November 2015

Some deeper posts about all of these soon. However in the last couple of weeks: I’ve been photographing polar bears in the Arctic; swimming with whale sharks, manta rays and sharks at the GA Aquarium; and celebrating Halloween at Fantasy Fest in Key West. A few pics and more soon.

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Happiness is Laughter: Kids Explain the World

Happiness is Laughter: Kids Explain the World

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One of the virtues of being very young is that you don’t let the facts get in the way of your imagination. ~ Sam Levenson

Originally posted September, 2014

Tonight a little tour around the web to find children explaining the world, especially where babies come from, enjoy ~ Rev Kane

 

Kids debate whether it’s raining or sprinkling, watch it all the way to the end, the end isadorable. (2:03)

 

Little kid talks about his day and explains where babies come from (3:08)

 

Hunter has an alternate take on where babies come from (5:27) At 4:12 it gets really nuts.

 

Kids are handed a walkman and asked to explain what it is (7:23)

 

Kids explain what dreams are (3:18)

 

 

 

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