Happiness and More

Happiness and More

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Most of the luxuries, and many of the so-called comforts of life, are not only not indispensable, but positive hindrances to the elevation of mankind. With respect to luxuries and comforts, the wisest have even lived a more simple and meager life than the poor. ~ Henry David Thoreau

Hello my friends, this week I have a very simple message for you in your quest to have a happier life, that message is that simply, we don’t need more.  I’ve been traveling  and one of the many things I like about traveling is that while on the road I read a lot more.  My reading of choice for this last week was Bill McKibben’s, The End of Nature, a book written some time ago about global climate change and how man has altered the natural world.  To the author our current state of affairs and actions have brought about the end of nature, not in terms of decimation or the end of life on earth, but the end to a state of nature that has fundamentally existed since the beginning of time and that most likely will never exist again.  It’s a good read and for me it was personal as the author talks lovingly about the forests of the Adirondack Mountains and this is an area I once lived in and know pretty well.

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In the book there is a discussion of how economic development and the idea of always getting more seems to be a driving force for culture, at least the culture of the United States where he and I live.  He asks an excellent question, when will there be enough?  This question got the wheels in my head turning and I have to echo that question today.  When is it enough, is a question that fundamentally addresses our individual ability to be happy.  There has to be a point where you have enough, otherwise you are caught in a scenario where you are forever trying to achieve more.  This is a disease that is created at the heart of our culture, bred by capitalism and the pursuit of the ever elusive American Dream.   So I ask you each, what is enough?  What level of car is luxurious and dependable enough?  What size house is big enough?  How many pairs of shoes?

We are all guilty of this, even when we try to be responsible and even environmentally friendly.   Do we need a Prius, a Leaf or would it be enough to drive less, to take the bus once a week.   Do we need to buy the latest organic cotton hand sewn clothing made by the indigenous people of wherever?  Or would it be enough to go the thrift store and buy some second-hand (reused) clothing?  Are we so worried about our image, or being cool that we have to have more?

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I’m guessing you know my answer by now, I don’t believe we do.  The problem of more is that it impacts so many more things.  Needing more means we are forever on the proverbial hamster wheel trying to make enough money to pay for more.  We then have less time for quality of life experiences that mean so much more than things.  Living simply doesn’t mean giving up the conveniences of the modern world; I’m not suggesting that in any way.  I’m just asking if you need to have the full gold cable package, the 54” liquid crystal 3D enabled flat screen TV, a brand new Blue Ray player, the top of the line bicycle, 20 pairs of shoes (wouldn’t 10 be ok) and would it kill any of us to wait 6 more months to have the latest phone.  Stepping down to a simpler life doesn’t mean becoming a full-on hippy living in a tent in a forest somewhere, but cutting down on what we perceive we need, to focus on that which truly gives us more in life.

I’m in favor of more picnics, more dinners at home with friends, less work and more relaxation, less spending and more money that allows us to buy experiences instead of things; these are the things that truly bring us more happiness.  As always, have a happy day my friends and I hope this piece will help you have more of them. ~ Rev Kane

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The world is a happier place since 2007

The world is a happier place since 2007

The world is a happier place since 2007, at least according to a survey by Ipsos Global.  According to the survey, relationships are the thing that make people the happiest, particularly connections to family and friends.  According to the article, Indonesia has the highest number of happy people, India is second, I think this is the biggest validation that economics, how much money you make, what toys you have access to are not the things that generally make people happy.

The United States showed up 7th on the list and North America was the second happiest region after Latin America.  So friends, keep working on those relationships and finding what makes you happiest in life, and as always, have a happy day my friends.

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Love, happiness and words from my favorite writers

Love, happiness and words from my favorite writers

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Happiness is a Choice

Last week was an extremely long and stressful week; at least that is what I’m blaming my lack of inspiration and creativity on tonight.  So I turn tonight to some of the people whose writings have inspired and supported me on my own journey to increase my happiness.  A thought, there isn’t a destination, you don’t arrive at happiness one day, our journey is to always strive to be happier.  So whether we are seeing progress or reversal on the path we keep moving forward, even if that progress is incremental.

Words below from two of my favorite poets, Peter McWilliams and Charles Bukowski, two of my favorite philosophers the Dalai Lama and Kahlil Gibran and a nice thought from Helen Keller.  A side note, the more I learn about Helen Keller the more I realize how utterly amazing she was.

As always my friends have a happy day. ~ Rev Kane

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Havasu Falls

I see nothing wrong with the human trait to desire. In fact, I consider it integral to our success mechanism. Becoming attached to what we desire is what causes the trouble. If you must have it in order to be happy, then you are denying the happiness of the here and now. ~ Peter McWilliams

 

If You But Knew ~ Peter McWilliams

If you but knew
How all my days seem filled with dreams of you,
How sometimes in the silent night
Your eyes thrill through me with their tender light,
How oft I hear your voice when others speak,
How you ‘mid other forms I seek–
Oh, love more real than though such dreams were true
If you but knew.

Could you but guess
How you alone make all my happiness,
How I am more than willing for your sake
To stand alone, give all and nothing take,
Nor chafe to think you bound while I am free,
Quite free, till death, to love you silently,
Could you but guess.

Could you but learn
How when you doubt my truth I sadly yearn
To tell you all, to stand for one brief space
Unfettered, soul to soul, as face to face,
To crown you king, my king, till life shall end,
My lover and likewise my truest friend,
Would you love me, dearest, as fondly in return,
Could you but learn?

 

Happiness means taking risks. And if you’re not a little scared, you’re not doing it right. ~ Charles Bukowski

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The Milky Way in Wadi Rum

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed-door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.       ~ Helen Keller

 

We begin from the recognition that all beings cherish happiness and do not want suffering. It then becomes both morally wrong and pragmatically unwise to pursue only one’s own happiness oblivious to the feelings and aspirations of all others who surround us as members of the same human family. The wiser course is to think of others when pursuing our own happiness. ~ Dalai Lama

 

We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them. ~ Kahlil Gibran

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Antelope Valley Poppy Reserve

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Happiness and Relationships

I found the following bouncing around the net for something interest to post tonight, it’s a really beautiful thought on relationships written by Elizabeth Reninger for About.com

In my observation, very few and far between are those who enter relationships from a place of wisdom. We seek (or avoid) relationships because we think that being (or not-being) in such-and-such a relationship will be the source of the love, happiness, security, etc. that we most deeply desire. If the relationship is a living one (i.e. both people willing/able to grow and change, consciously) then perhaps – with a bit of luck or grace or whatever – illusions are, over time, revealed and dissolved, and truth grown into. But the psychological and cultural conditioning around this one tends to be deep, deep, deep …

Perhaps some day (as the result of a collective inner revolution?) it will become more common for us to come together in partnership simply for the sheer joy of it — to dance and play and celebrate and just enjoy being together.

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The Dalai Lama on Sympathetic Joy

To help us bring benefit to others through our words and actions, it is useful to cultivate an attitude of sympathetic joy in others’ achievements and good fortune. This attitude is a powerful antidote against envy, which is not only a source of unnecessary suffering on the individual level but also an obstacle to our ability to reach out and engage with others. ~ The Dalai Lama

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The Happiness Countdown

The Happiness Countdown

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.              ~ Buddha

buddha happiness quotesToday a tour through happiness on the web via a little countdown, so countdown to a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

12   things happy people do differently

11   ways to be extraordinarily happy

10   rules for living a good life, I especially like number 5

9     ways to be happier in the next 30 minutes

8     ways money can buy you happiness

7     habits of highly happy people

6     happiness boosters that will let you down

5     happy design inspirations

4     ways to be happy

3     ways to be happy and stress free

2     happiness images

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Happy flowers

 

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Happiness in flight

 

 

 

 

1    minute rule of happiness

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Happines is Nature, Beauty & Gratitude

A friend passed this my way today, thanks Kim, and it’s really amazing, a 10-minute video and well worth it to take a break and check this out, have a happy day my friends!

http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/louie_schwartzberg_nature_beauty_gratitude.html

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The Dalai Lama on improving ourselves

The very purpose of spirituality is self-discipline. Rather than criticizing others, we should evaluate and criticize ourselves. Ask yourself, what am I doing about my anger, my attachment, my pride, my jealousy? These are the things we should check in our day to day lives. ~ Dalai Lama

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Happiness and an Attitude Adjustment

Happiness and an Attitude Adjustment

Unaka enhancedIf you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? ~ Jesus Christ

We talk pretty consistently about how our happiness is mostly in our control, that whether a situation makes us happy or sad, or has no impact at all is determined by us, our attitudes and outlook on life.  I have recently been reminded of this incredibly important lesson at all places, Taco Bell.  You see at my local Taco Bell, a place I go a little bit too often I must admit, there is a kid there, probably in his late 20’s who is annoyingly nice.  He’s the kind of guy who greets every customer who comes in with a, “hello my friend.”  Asks everyone about their day, wanders around after you’re eating and asks you how everything is, you know a total bastard!

In reality he really did completely rub me the wrong way every time I walked in there.  I didn’t know this kid but here he was asking about my day, asking how my food was, it seemed weirdly personal and totally got under my skin.  It took some time, there he was every time I went in, and now that he had come to recognize me and knew a little about me, my attitude slowly began to change.  I went from annoyance, to acceptance, to actual seeing him as a human being, not just my Taco Bell annoyance.

I was thinking about this the other day, I’ve been eating better and not visiting Taco Bell so often and he remarked immediately that he hadn’t seen me in some time and asked if I was doing well.  He seemed to generally be concerned I hadn’t been around.  I sat there eating my lunch, watching him greet and cheerily talk to people and thought about how ridiculous I had been.

Here was a young man, who was generally nice to people including me, he was making the best out of working at Taco Bell and this annoyed me somehow and that was ridiculous and all about me and not him.  My attitude had already changed significantly about him and instead of being an annoyance his actions actually made me smile the other day.  The only thing that had changed was my attitude. That attitude adjustment took a net annoyance and turned it into a smile a net increase my happiness.  So have a happy day my friends and remember whether or not it is a happy day is really up to you. ~ Rev Kane

And in the end, the love you get is equal to the love you give ~ The Beatles

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Happiness and Love

Happiness and Love

love happinessLove is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own ― Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land

Each week I look for inspiration throughout the week for my Monday post, this week it came in the form of a surprise phone call.  You see this week was my wonderful niece’s 10th birthday.   One of the things that makes her so wonderful is the fact that she is the most loving creature I’ve ever encountered.  People say that one of the reasons that their pets are so wonderful is that they give their owners unconditional love; this is how my niece operates.  She’s one of those amazing people whose default position is that people are good and wonderful; she loves immediately, unconditionally and somehow, so far, has not started to get jaded by the disappointments life can bring to a person with that attitude.  One of my greatest memories of her will always be from when she was about three years old.  She wasn’t the most verbal of children, and living on the West Coast and her on the East Coast, I didn’t get to see her very often.  But when she was that age, whenever I showed up at her house she would get so excited the only thing she could say through her grinning face was, “yes”, over and over again, “yes, yes, yes.”

Well on her 10th birthday this past week she got her very own cell phone and she called me, she was so excited to get her phone and to tell me she called me on her phone.  Her excitement and beauty of spirit inspired this post this week.  A question I put to myself, that I now put to all of you, how do we get to a point of loving that completely?  How do we look at not only our lovers, our family and our friends, but how do we engage the world with that kind of love?  I’m not sure I know, but maybe, after studying under my young niece for a bit longer I might gain some more insight, I’ll keep you posted.

It doing a bit of research for this piece I came across a really well written piece on how to love deeply in a blog called The Owl’s Perch, it’s definitely worth a read and I hope you gain something from it, and as always, have a happy day my friends.

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love, happiness and beautiful flowers

How to love deeply http://www.compassionateresponse.com/_blog/The_Owl’s_Perch/post/How_to_love_deeply/

Thinking about “maitri” today, one of the four elements of love in the Buddhist tradition. Loving-kindness is the direct translation.

Real understanding is needed to truly love deeply. How do we understand each other? Thich Nhat Hanh in his book, “True Love” says that understanding is based on a “deep looking directed toward the person you love.” Can I understand deeply enough what another person’s suffering, joy, and aspirations are so that I can truly love? “Without understanding, love is an impossible thing,” says Hanh. And he doesn’t just use this term for those we’re “in love” with!

So when I look at the person behind the checkout counter at the grocery store, the person in the car that just cut in front of me or the children who rang my doorbell trick-or-treating last night… can I look deeply into them and “see” who they are, what their story is, what their pains are, what their joy is? I wonder what might be different in my day if I did that. What might be different in their day? Might I get a different sense of what’s going on in the world?

And then if I hold that stance for those I do love in a more traditional sense, what more is available in the relationship? It reminds me (okay maybe a bit sappy) of the expression of love in the movie “Avatar” when the Na’vi say to each other “I see you.” I know what it feels like to be “seen.” And I know what it feels like when it appears that I’m invisible. In this sense, I’m using so much more than my eyes to see… I’m listening to every clue from every source possible! And the potential richness of the relationship expands exponentially!

Don’t we all hunger to be seen? I know I do. And, I think it starts with me looking deeply into those around me, even if only for a moment to get a sense of who’s there. I’m going to give it a try–care to join me? ~ Rev Kane

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