Happiness Resources: On Contentment

Happiness Resources: On Contentment

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough ~ Oprah Winfrey

happiness contentmentToday a quick tour around the web for resources on contentment, nothing like a deep breath, a little contentment, and a happy day my friends                ~ Rev Kane

From Zen Habits, The Incredible Power of Contentment

How to be Happy: Tips for Cultivating Contentment

5 Simple Actions for Pure Peace and Contentment

The unmistakable benefits of contentment and how to achieve it.

A surprising way to cultivate contentment

 

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Are you ready for your Appalachian Trail Thru-Hike

Are you ready for your Appalachian Trail Thru-Hike

hiking, walking, happinessYou need special shoes for hiking — and a bit of a special soul as well.
~ Terri Guillemets

So you want to thru-hike the Appalachian Trail?

First off, congratulations and good luck.  As I have written many times, if all you do is to fully prepare for the trail and make it three days to Mountain Crossings, you’ve done a bigger adventure than most other people will do in their entire lives.  Given that reality, the first thing I will tell you to do is relax and stop feeling any pressure about your hike, what you’re about to do will be amazing in ways you can’t even imagine.  So let’s get into.

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White Blazes make me happy

How should you prepare for your Appalachian Thru-hike?

The annoying and very true answer to how to prepare for a thru-hike really is to hike.  There’s no exercise that does a good job of preparing you for the combined walking stresses and weight carrying that you’ll be doing.  Unfortunately, pre-hike, few people are ever really able to go out and hike everyday with a full pack on.

So what’s the most sensible way to get ready, first, don’t do what I did for my thru-hike attempt in 2015, sit on your ass for six weeks pre-hike.  Unfortunately I had a sick family member and needed to take care of them.  So what should you do?  For most folks the answer is going to be the gym during the week and hopefully hike (weather permitting} on the weekends.  Obviously we’re talking about doing a lot of cardio, but don’t forget to work on strengthening your quads, those muscles protect your knees.  Also, some work on your glutes and hip adductors is not a bad  idea.  One thing I learned after my hike was that if you pedal backwards on the elliptical you actually hit all the muscles in your legs you activate on downhills.  This is great because most of us don’t have steep downhills to workout on, or don’t want to look like a total dork walking up and down the same hill in the local park.

So I recommend working out four days a week, heavy cardio (treadmill, stair master) including doing some reverse time on the elliptical.  Also, doing  quad, glute and hip adductor exercises twice a week, and you don’t have to go nuts, an hour a night consistently pre-hike will help get you ready.  Then on the weekends, if you can, do a 7-10 mile hike with your pack on.  If not, do a long session in the gym with the goal not of going hard but going long.  Spend a couple of hours alternating between the treadmill, elliptical and the stair master.  You’re trying to get your body used to going for a long time, trust me, on the trail, you’re going to end up going slower than you believe you will pre-hike.

I remember before my hike looking at people doing 8-10 mile a day averages and thinking how lame.  I was sure I’d end up averaging 12-15 miles per day.  Sure, I expected some short days in the beginning but c’mon.  Well, my hike, pre and post injury, ended up lasting 100 days  and I did 1002 miles, almost exactly 10 miles a day.  Now, that included days where I did over 20 miles and a lot of days early on where I did 10 or less.

The most important thing about training physically for the hike is to do something consistently almost every day.  You’re training for endurance, not for speed and that first day, no matter what you will do, will make you feel like you didn’t do enough.  That’s ok, that’s how everybody feels.

Finally, test hikes, if at all possible get out and do some test hikes, a couple of overnighters at least or better yet a couple of 3 day/2 night hikes.  If you can’t at least fill your pack, take it out into the back yard a few nights, set camp, eat trail food and sleep outside.  This will give you and idea of how well things will work, and after a few times, that thing you never used at all, leave it home.

Rev Kane on his first day on the Appalachian Trail

What’s a thru-hike really like?

There’s an old tag line for the Peace Corps, “the toughest job you’ll ever love.”  That’s what a thru-hike on the AT is like.  It’s amazing, the people are fantastic, the AT trail community is the best I’ve ever encountered.  It will be physically hard as hell, hiking through Georgia in the late-winter, early spring is just plain hard.  Wet, slippery, rocky and root filled  trails, shitty weather, you’ll be wet a lot of the time no matter how good your gear is that you’re using.  It can be really cold as well and when it’s super cold and wet you just need to embrace the suck, put your head down and push on.

The best book out there in my opinion to give you a nice picture of what a full thru-hike to Maine is like is AWOL on the Appalachian Trail.  Yes, the same AWOL who writes the trail guide you should be carrying, he’s a great guy, his book is a good read and gives you a good picture of what it’s like.  There  are tons of good trail books but AWOL’s book does the best job of hitting the day-to-day reality of the trail.  I’m also completely biased in thinking my book,  Appalachian Trail Happiness does a good job of this as well, with a little more discussion of trail characters and the community.  Read them both, you won’t be sorry.

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Rev Kane on the Appalachian Trail at the Tennessee border.

What should you carry on your hike?

I’ll link out to my Appalachian Trail Resource Page and let you look at some of the gear lists out there.  Of course, pack size, what you carry will always be an individual decision but here are some good basic rules.  First, even with your winter bag, your pack should never exceed 45 pounds.  Now, I knew a guy who carried 70 pounds and finished, but I wouldn’t go that route.  If your bag is over 45 pounds, shake that bad boy down again and again.

Ok, so you packed your pack and it’s like mine was, 52 pounds, now what.  First, you have too much food.  You are really only doing a series of three-day hikes, yes, you’ll be hungry at times like you’ve never ever been before.   However, towns are accessible, especially early on, everyone is carrying too much food, hikers are awesome and will share and you can make it up to them in town.  Cut down on how much food you’re carrying and get rid of things that aren’t dehydrated or have high calorie/weight ratios.

Do you really need a zero degree sleeping bag?  I sleep hot, so I brought a 15 degree bag to use in my hammock with no under quilt.   The first night it dropped well below freezing and I sweat my ass off, which is a really bad thing.  Until I was able to swap it out for my 32 degree back I used it like a blanket and carried too much weight  for what  I was getting out of it.  Now, I sleep hot, for you a 15 degree bag might be what you need.  This is where test hikes really can help you figure things out.

You don’t need redundancy!  This was one place I really struggled.  I’m that guy who has a headlamp and a flashlight, two knives, extra socks, my rain jacket and a poncho.  I started out on the trail with two lighters.  What’s wrong with that? Well considering I don’t smoke and my Jet Boil has a striker on it I didn’t even need one lighter, much less two.  I know, people like me right now are like no, I’m carrying at least one.  I get it, but you don’t need it.  Worst case, you’re cookpot striker stops working.  Early on the trail there are plenty of people around, you can burrow a lighter, or use the matches you also brought, which is a good idea, good alternative and light weight.

Shakedown your pack, again and again and again, every single time get rid of stuff.  Ask someone else to shake down your pack.  You can do this virtually by laying  out the whole pack, taking some close up pictures and sending them to someone, hell, send them to me happinesskane@aol.com and have that person make suggestions.

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Overmountain Shelter on the Appalachian Trail

What should you eat on your thru-hike?

More than anything else on the trail this is a massive individual decision  and you can link to a deeper dive on this issue for a piece on Appalachian Trail Food Resources.  For example, I don’t like to cook in the morning, I like to get up, pack up and get walking, I’m not a morning person.  So in the mornings I needed something quick, high calorie that I’d be excited about eating.  So for me, when it was cold, little chocolate donuts were absolutely perfect.  When it warmed up powdered donuts and pop tarts worked.  Not the healthiest breakfast but it worked for me.  Other folks made oatmeal, or did dehydrated breakfast foods, etc…

For lunch, tortillas with all manner of fillers was really common.  Of course there was no set lunch for most of us, you eat when you’re hungry.

At camp at night, I almost exclusively ate dehydrated meals like Mountain House, of course I didn’t have a real restrictive budget.  Knorr pasta sides were popular, summer sausage, ets…

For snacks everything you can imagine was on the menu, as long as the calorie to weight ratio was pretty good.

Eventually, you get tired of the same things over and over and people get creative, even at times sacrificing the weight to calorie ratio if it got you excited about it, it was about this point when the babyfood squeezers start to show up on the trail.

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Appalachian Trail Happiness

What kind of schedule should I keep?

NONE!  Look I realize some people have really limited time, but most people aren’t in a bind for time.  So my advice to you is forget about pace, just do what is comfortable and works, this is one of those times when you really have to understand the journey is at least as important as the final destination.  We had great fun  at times reading Second Star’s trail guide, she’d mapped out each day all the way to Maine, needless to say, she was way off schedule and that was just fine.  I realize it’s a bit counter intuitive but worry about having good days, worry about staying healthy and taking care of your body and Maine will take care of itself.

What is the hardest part of thru-hiking the Appalachian Trail?

For most people believe it or not, the hardest part of the a thru-hike is the psychological aspect.  It’s incredibly physically hard, sure, but you were mentally ready for that.  Plus, your body starts adapting to what you’re doing.  But most of us don’t do a great job preparing mentally for a thru-hike.  There’s a great book, Appalachian Trials, that really talks about this aspect of doing a thru-hike including some exercises and ways to cope.  On the trail I watched a lot of people struggle with being away from partners, spouses and kids, if you’re leaving someone behind, get yourself ready for the separation and prepare a plan on how to deal with it.

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Warner Hill

What if I decide to quit?

Quitting the Appalachian Trail can be a torturous decision for folks.  It’s really hard to give up on something you’ve likely been dreaming about for years, decades, maybe your whole life.  I  wrote a piece called Quitting the Appalachian Trail that I think addresses the issue really well.

What’s it like finishing the AT?

Unfortunately on this point I have no experience.  I’ve got around 1100 miles done, I bunched my first 1000 on my thru-hike attempt in 2015.  I’ve done some extra since then but I will need to either keep section hiking or take another big chunk off someday in the future.  But what I can say is do a Google image search for AT Kathadin and look at the faces of the people posing at the end of their thru-hike, I think  you’ll get a sense of the joy.

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A magical spot on the Appalachian Trail

How do I  prevent the post hike blues?

No matter whether you finish, quit or are forced to get off the trail, returning to regular (default) life can be a huge letdown after being on the trail.  You have lost your trail family, the greater AT community, your daily well-defined purpose, that can all really gang up on you and tank your mood.  My piece on Post-trail Depression, talks in detail about the feelings and gives some techniques for effectively dealing with them.

Above all, be excited, enjoy your time on the trail, I’m jealous, I wish I was going with you.  Have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happiness in unexpected moments

It’s Monday and man it really is a Monday, I got to sleep late last night.  You see I did something silly, I’m moving houses and not cooking much and I yielded to temptation and at dinner had a Coke.  I’ve been pretty much off caffeine for a couple of weeks so a nice full turbo Coke at dinner time, packing boxes and too much on my mind and suddenly it’s way past midnight and I’m not asleep.

So I leap into Monday and running around, the typical thing in my job, putting out fires, dealing with people being ridiculously silly, people lying, etc…. Then as I’m passing through one of our buildings I bumped into a colleague with her little niece and nephew, 2 and 4, being shown around the museum.  I stopped over and said hi, they were really cute kids, when suddenly her little niece makes the universal child symbol for pick me up, arms extended up high.  So I put my arms out and boom she’s in my arms and for a minute we’re looking at the animals in the museum.  Her aunt says to her mom, wow she never does that.  I had to give her back, had places to go but just that little moment of connection with that little one made the whole day better.

So my challenge to you my friends, give someone that moment tomorrow, spread a little happiness and as always, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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A Happy Alternate to the Super Bowl

A Happy Alternate to the Super Bowl

sunset, beach, photographyI feel extraordinarily peaceful when I watch the sun set. ~ Kiefer Sutherland

So maybe you’re not so into the Superbowl.  Maybe you’re a baseball fan, maybe you hate the Patriots, maybe you’re just not into sports.  No matter what the reason I decided tonight to post up a little tranquility, some nice pictures and some links to some of the longer reads about my adventures to give you something to do a little reading.

First, a video of gentle waves and the setting sun.

 

Next, some beach sunset photos.

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Finally links to some of my adventures.

My Polar Bear Adventure

My Scottish Hike

My Everest Hike

 

Have a happy day and enjoy my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happiness Resources: Giving

Happiness Resources: Giving

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Tonight a tour around the web to give you some places and ways to give back to society.  We have talked before about how giving actually makes you happier, so tonight some resources to help you do that and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

First a little piece on How Giving Makes us Happy

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These are the top 10 charities that are supported only by private contributions

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A great piece from Tiny Buddha on Ways to Give Back to Your Community

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20 Ways Your Family Can Give Back

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Teaching Kids Ways to Give Back

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Inspiring Stories about Giving Back

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Happiness is Laughter: Funny Kid Pictures

Happiness is Laughter: Funny Kid Pictures

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So tonight to lighten up your weekend kids, well, being kids, enjoy, have a great weekend and a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness & Deeply Loving

Happiness and Love

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Deep love

Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own ― Robert A. Heinlein

Each week I look for inspiration throughout the week for my posts, this week it came in the form of a surprise phone call.  You see recently it was my wonderful niece’s birthday.   One of the things that makes her so wonderful is the fact that she is the most loving creature I’ve ever encountered.  People say that one of the reasons that their pets are so wonderful is that they give their owners unconditional love; this is how my niece operates.  She’s one of those amazing people whose default position is that people are good and wonderful; she loves immediately, unconditionally and somehow, so far, has not started to get jaded by the disappointments life can bring to a person with that attitude.  One of my greatest memories of her will always be from when she was about three years old.  She wasn’t the most verbal of children, and living on the West Coast and her on the East Coast, I didn’t get to see her very often.  But when she was that age, whenever I showed up at her house she would get so excited the only thing she could say through her grinning face was, “yes”, over and over again, “yes, yes, yes.”

Well on her 10th birthday this past week she got her very own cell phone and she called me, she was so excited to get her phone and to tell me she called me on her phone.  Her excitement and beauty of spirit inspired this post this week.  A question I put to myself, that I now put to all of you, how do we get to a point of loving that completely?  How do we look at not only our lovers, our family and our friends, but how do we engage the world with that kind of love?  I’m not sure I know, but maybe, after studying under my young niece for a bit longer I might gain some more insight, I’ll keep you posted.

It doing a bit of research for this piece I came across a really well written piece on how to love deeply in a blog called The Owl’s Perch, it’s definitely worth a read and I hope you gain something from it, and as always, have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

How to love deeply http://www.compassionateresponse.com/_blog/The_Owl’s_Perch/post/How_to_love_deeply/

Thinking about “maitri” today, one of the four elements of love in the Buddhist tradition. Loving-kindness is the direct translation.

Real understanding is needed to truly love deeply. How do we understand each other? Thich Nhat Hanh in his book, “True Love” says that understanding is based on a “deep looking directed toward the person you love.” Can I understand deeply enough what another person’s suffering, joy, and aspirations are so that I can truly love? “Without understanding, love is an impossible thing,” says Hanh. And he doesn’t just use this term for those we’re “in love” with!

So when I look at the person behind the checkout counter at the grocery store, the person in the car that just cut in front of me or the children running across my lawn last night… can I look deeply into them and “see” who they are, what their story is, what their pains are, what their joy is? I wonder what might be different in my day if I did that. What might be different in their day? Might I get a different sense of what’s going on in the world?

And then if I hold that stance for those I do love in a more traditional sense, what more is available in the relationship? It reminds me (okay maybe a bit sappy) of the expression of love in the movie “Avatar” when the Na’vi say to each other “I see you.” I know what it feels like to be “seen.” And I know what it feels like when it appears that I’m invisible. In this sense, I’m using so much more than my eyes to see… I’m listening to every clue from every source possible! And the potential richness of the relationship expands exponentially!

Don’t we all hunger to be seen? I know I do. And, I think it starts with me looking deeply into those around me, even if only for a moment to get a sense of who’s there. I’m going to give it a try–care to join me?

Other Happiness Posts!

Happy Anniversary – Ministry of Happiness: Our Best Posts

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Remember the Sweet Things

 

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Happiness & Embarrassment

Happiness & Embarrassment

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Happiness is Embarrassment

Perplexity is the beginning of knowledge. ~ Kahlil Gibran

I love Kahlil Gibran, I found my way to him by way of a friend’s wedding, I was asked to read a passage and instead of the standard Letter from Paul to the Corinthians, the reading was from his book The Prophet.  The funniest thing about doing that reading was that as I stood on the altar, reading this passage I felt a little breeze and came to the sudden realization that my fly was undone.  I was momentarily mortified that here I was, having been given the honor of reading at my friend’s wedding and I was standing up there on display for all the world to see.  I continued to read and finished, quickly making my way to my seat only to figure out that my suit jacket had effectively concealed my wardrobe malfunction.  Later as I relayed this story to my friend the bride, I was happy to find out that no one detected either the wardrobe malfunction or my embarrassment, but everyone got a great laugh out of the story.

I chose the quote above for a purely selfish reason, this past week has been perplexing at best.  I spent the week really losing faith in my fellow man in a lot of ways.  So here is hoping the perplexing nature of this week is the beginning of a new learning experience and I wish you all a great weekend and I leave you a thought from Fyodor Dostoevsky.

Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys.  If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.  ~ Fyodor Dostoevsky

Other Posts You Might Enjoy!

Remember the Sweet Things

Happiness is Blue Poop

Happiness is Poetry: Bukowski

 

 

 

 

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Happiness & Aging

Happiness & Aging

happiness familyMy issue isn’t about physical aging; my issue is about wanting to remain vigorous and youthful in my spirit. ~ Rob Lowe

I had a job interview last week, it went ok, I was definitely a bit rusty and not at my sharpest.  Being completely out of the work environment for fifteen months will do that to you.  In my mind I was doing two things at once during the interviews, both with the committee and with the president of the college.  I was both answering the questions and also evaluating my performance in real-time, trying to compensate for bad answers, think of the connections between questions while still being myself.  I know that sounds a little nutty, but that’s how my brain works, there are always multiple tracks running at once.

One of the things I noticed about my answers was how much my grandparents informed what was going on for me in the interview.  I actually directly mentioned my grandfather, in terms of aging and my personality.  I love telling people that he got in a street fight at age 87, particularly because the result of that was him telling me the following; “I hit that guy up in his gut with everything I had and he didn’t go down.  I think I might be getting old.” The reason I love that so much was the authenticity in his eyes when he said it to me.  It really seemed that he had never truly considered the idea before that he was getting old.  He wasn’t a moron, he obviously knew he was aging, but he was someone who in spite of aging, walked everyday, gardened and truly enjoyed life.

During the interview my Granny was also on my mind.  I didn’t take one of her best pieces of advice to me on the writing assignment, do the hard thing first, and in addition to mishearing the timing it caused me to have to turn in an incomplete result.  Hopefully it didn’t kill my chances at the job.  But I thought about her words a lot on the way to the committee interview.  But I also knew what she’d be saying to me at that moment, it’s over, can’t change it, get over yourself.  I smiled at that thought and let it go, I got a second shot to talk about that exercise in the interview and so hopefully it all worked out ok.

Granny doing her best Lou Reed inpersonation.

Granny doing her best Lou Reed impersonation.

Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength.                 ~ Betty Friedan

Both of my grandparents, my Grandpa Kane and my Granny Cordato lived until they were 90.  I hope like hell I get that many years, part of what I think got them 90 years were their attitudes.  You see they were both tough, Granny was a hillbilly who had survived poverty in Appalachia, a hard up bringing, the early loss of a husband, breast cancer and the loss of her vision in one eye.  She was sooo tough and was always a fighter, and yet always had so much love in her heart particularly for her grandchildren.

My grandfather survived Normandy and being a prisoner of war in World War II in Germany, not only that but he once escaped and was recaptured.  The Germans reported him dead, we didn’t talk about PTSD in the 50’s but I’m sure he suffered from it.  His marriage also dissolved right after the war and he never remarried.  He was tough as nails, always a brawler, literally into his 80’s.  But like my Granny, gave unflinchingly and was much softer with his grandchildren than with anyone else.

They’re lives taught me that attitude counts for so much, so my friends, be fighters, but take the other lesson as well, love people, be soft with the little ones, they have enough hardness in their world.  Stay positive and have purpose it matters, it will keep you young, and above all, forget about getting old, we all have to age, but none of us have to get old.  Remember that and hopefully you’ll have many, many, happy days my friends.                     ~ Rev Kane

Other Posts You Might Enjoy!

Life Lessons from Granny

A Post with a poem about my Grandpa

Happiness is Granny

Why I’m Happy Right Now!

Making Change Happen

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Happiness Resources: The Components of Happiness

Happiness Resources: The Components of Happiness

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A quick web survey tonight for articles related to the components of happiness below are a few links that you might find rewarding:

Six components of happiness

Satir’s Mandala – an interesting take on happiness

A really interesting piece on happiness and contentment

Happiness from the Positive Psychology movement

 

Other Posts You Might Enjoy!

Happiness and the Benefits of Gratitude

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Happiness is a Choice

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