Why I’m Happy Right Now!

Why I’m Happy Right Now!

Rev Kane relaxing in the snow flurries

Rev Kane relaxing in the snow flurries

The best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it ~ Richard Bach

I’m having a little trouble tonight coming up with my Sunday night post.  This is the one night of the week where I get personal on the blog, most nights it comes easy for me, tonight, not so much.  I find myself in the beginnings of another transition phase, I’m in my final month in Florida, working to finish up the first draft of my book, Appalachian Trail Happiness.  I’m getting close and it feels good and also creates a lot of anxiety, writing it is the easy part for me, the publishing process brings me anxiety.

I’m also looking at applying for jobs and that brings the realization that my gypsy life is near its end, at least for a time.  But there is a lot tied up with that, where will I live, what job will I take, how will I react to my sudden lack of freedom, definitely some anxiety around all of that.  Although I do believe what I’ve learned and changed about myself in the last year will serve me well as I move forward.

Smiling even at a Polar Bear Crossing, I must be doing something right

Smiling even at a Polar Bear Crossing, I must be doing something right

Relationships are changing as well, the loss of my granny has had a bigger impact than I anticipated.  A relationship, that I find hard to even define, that I’ve been in for fifteen years is changing and it’s hard.  The thing is though, with all of the change, the loss, the anxiety I’m still really happy.  My life is in a better place than perhaps it has ever been and I guess what I should talk about tonight is why.

All of our lives our complicated, all of us are dealing with anxiety, change and loss.  These three things often derail our happiness, so how is it that it isn’t having that impact on me right now.  Well my friends, for those of you who have been reading along 2015 was a wild ride.  You see first of all I took a huge risk in 2015, I quit my job, sold my house and came east to hike the Appalachian Trail and hopefully get enough out of the experience to write a book.   I completed 1000 miles before a couple of knee injuries finally ended my hike.  Even though I didn’t complete all 2200 miles of the trail I was really proud of what I accomplished.  The trip led to a lot of learning about myself, I challenged myself and pushed myself physically and mentally.  I also had a whole lot of fun, met some incredibly folks, made great new friends and easily get enough material for the book I mentioned above.

Another long distance hike was on my bucket list, writing a book was on that list, taking a year off was on there as well.  So why am I so happy, well:

I took risks on things I was pretty sure would make me happy

I challenged myself physically and mentally on the Appalachian Trail

I am in the process of finishing the first draft of a book about that experience, another thing off of my bucket list and an accomplishment I’m really proud of soon completing.

I took time to learn about myself but even more than that over the last I’ve taken time.  Just that, taking time to slow down, to breathe, to look around and appreciate life has had an immense impact on me.

01When I lost my granny I was in an incredible amount of pain.  She’s the one person in my life who I could always count on to be supportive, to be positive.  She’s was always thrilled to hear my voice or see me.  She was a seemingly infinite well of positivity and good feelings that I could count on.  Losing that is terrifying at some level.  The one thing however that makes me feel good is that I spent time with her, whenever I could.  I called, I visited, I bought her gifts, but most of all I just sat and talked with her.  That time is a precious memory and I know she knew I loved her and what she meant to me and I’m sure of that because I told her.

Also this year, because I was east I got to spend a lot of time with my nieces and nephews and especially my youngest niece Rooney.  You see hanging around with a three year-old for six months is huge, its simple math, that three months is one sixth of her total life experience, that’s a lot.

02So there’s a bit of recipe here my friends, not the only recipe but definitely one that has merit.  Do you want to be happier?  Take some risks on the type of things that will make you happy, particularly on those things that attach to your passions.  Challenge yourself, physically and mentally, you don’t have to hike a thousand miles but find something you want to do, prepare for it physically, plan for it mentally and do it.  In the end it really doesn’t matter what it is as long as it challenges you.  Click off a couple of things on your bucket list no matter how small.  Finally, and maybe most importantly, don’t assume you have time, spend time with those who mean the most to you, especially the very old and the very young.

So my friends, take what time you can and slow down.  Spend some time with those who mean the most to you friends and make someone else’s and have your own happy day.       ~ Rev Kane

Other Post You Might Enjoy!

Life Lessons from Granny

Holiday Happiness: Overcoming Worry

Happiness is Granny

Appalachian Trail Happiness: My favorite little hiker

Happiness is a Polar Bear Adventure (Bears & Northern Lights)

Happiness is a Polar Bear Adventure (A flying Polar Bear)

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Trail Community

Appalachian Trail Gear Lists

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Precious Moments

 

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A New Year and Some Questions for You

A New Year and Some Questions for You

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2016How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. ~ Anne Frank

Welcome to the new year, you made it, so far in life, no matter how hard it’s been, you’ve made it through everyday.  You rock!

To start out the new year though I wanted to ask some questions of you who read the Ministry of Happiness Blog or follow us on Twitter or Facebook.  First, what do we currently do, well here you are.

Each day on our Facebook page we post a little positive affirmation like this.

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Each day on Twitter we retweet posts with the following hash tags, happiness, Appalachian Trail, quotes, positivity, and micropoetry.

The posting schedule for the blog tends to be as follows:

Monday – Happy News

Tuesday – Happiness is Art (poetry, art, music, photography etc…)

Wednesday – Happiness Resources

Thursday – Adventure related posts (Appalachian Trail, hiking, biking, travel etc… )

Friday – Something fun

Saturday – An update of an old post

Sunday – A personal post

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So my questions to you today are what do you like?

What should we do more of?

What other things would you like to see, are there topics you’d like to see us spend more time on?

Basically how can we make this experience more beneficial and fun for you?

Rev Kane relaxing in the snow flurries

Happy New Year!

You can reply in the comments or if you’re shy you can e-mail me at happinesskane@aol.com.  I deeply appreciate you following the blog, reading, liking and sharing our posts, please continue to do so and have a happy new year my friends       ~ Rev Kane

 

Highlights From 2015 on the Ministry of Happiness!

Our Best Posts for 2015

Life is Hard, but We Keep Moving

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Trail Community

Appalachian Trail Gear Lists

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Precious Moments

Appalachian Trail Happiness: A Walk in the Woods

Life Lessons from Granny

Appalachian Trail Happiness: My favorite little hiker

Holiday Happiness: Overcoming Worry

 

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Thank You Dear Readers!

Thank You Dear Readers!

Rev Kane relaxing in the snow flurries

Rev Kane relaxing in the Arctic snow flurries

Our primary purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them. ~ Dalai Lama

It has been a happy and wonderful year!  For me personally I embarked on a pretty big adventure, hiked a thousand miles on the Appalachian Trail, saw Northern Lights and polar bears in the Arctic and even swam with Whale Sharks at the Georgia Aquarium.

Writing about my very happy year has yielded some very positive and happy results for the Ministry of Happiness as well.  At the beginning of each year I set some goals for the blog, this year I had hoped for the following:

Reach 5000 total followers between, subscribers, Twitter and the Facebook page.

Increase the site views to 24,000 views, a gain of 50% over the previous year (16,000)

I had both advantages and disadvantages in that pursuit, hiking the Appalachian Trail (AT) opened a whole new community to me but also meant it would be hard to consistently post while I was on the trail.  The advantage definitely paid off and to date I’ve completed over 100 posts related to the AT and my experience.  The material I gained from my time on the trail is currently being compiled into a book I hope to have published by this summer.

The great news is that the goals that were set were not only achieved by exceeded and that is because of you my friends.

There currently are 185 subscribers, folks who get every post via e-mail.

As of this writing, our Facebook followers total 2,832,our Twitter followers 2,492.

That’s a total following of 5,509! That’s 500+ over the goal!

The best news of the year by far though has been our total site views.  As of this week views have exceeded 30,000, nearly double what last year, I’m awed and amazed by this number.  The Ministry of Happiness is not a big blog, it doesn’t pander to the types of topics that generate massive hits (celebrities and such), it also does something not so sexy, asking people to do the work of taking responsibility and changing their lives for the better.  I try to do this in a fun and interesting way and hope you enjoy what the blog puts out.  So 30,000 view feels like success and makes me very happy and extremely grateful for your continued support and readership.  Thank you my friends, below I’ve listed some of our more popular and best pieces, have a read, enjoy, we always appreciate you sharing the blog pieces and have a wonderful and happy 2016 ~ Rev Kane

Highlights From 2015 on the Ministry of Happiness!

Our Best Posts for 2015

Life is Hard, but We Keep Moving

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Trail Community

Appalachian Trail Gear Lists

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Precious Moments

Appalachian Trail Happiness: A Walk in the Woods

Life Lessons from Granny

Appalachian Trail Happiness: My favorite little hiker

Holiday Happiness: Overcoming Worry

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Alternative New Year’s Eve Celebrations

Alternative New Year’s Eve Celebrations

Jennifer Lawrence on the Graham Norton show admitting she hates New Year's Eve

Jennifer Lawrence on the Graham Norton show admitting she hates New Year’s Eve

Youth is when you’re allowed to stay up late on New Year’s Eve. Middle age is when you’re forced to. ~ Bill Vaughan

So New Year’s Eve is coming, amateur night as I like to refer to it and like every year you’re dreading the inevitable terrible party.  You’re not alone, Even Jennifer Lawrence doesn’t like New Year’s Eve so what else to do?

My personal traditions have tended around quiet nights with a bonfire on the beach or in the mountains.  I’ve more recently taken to writing on New Year’s Eve and pretty much ignoring the whole damn affair.  However there are more creative people in the world, so here are some links to New Year’s Eve alternatives, enjoy and have a happy day                   ~ Rev Kane

Apparently most website and magazine writers do not understand the definition of the word alternate.  So, most of the links I found had at least one traditional party or fireworks on it, I did my best to find some links with some actual alternatives to getting loaded at a party.

However, it seems the world is fairly devoid of interesting ideas so here’s my own list.

  1. Create a project, it could be a time capsule, or a year-end review or clean and organize the garage, but set a project that can be done in a night and get it done!
  2. Quiet contemplation time, fast for New Year’s Eve Day, sit in the yard and watch the sky, or meditate.  Then pig out on a wonderful New Year’s Day dinner.
  3. Go camping, winter camping is actually a lot of fun if you’re properly prepared.  Or you can always rent a cabin and “camp” that way.
  4. Go for a night hike, even if it’s just walking around someplace you know well, your neighborhood or local park will be amazingly different at night.
  5. Learn something new, have a good friend who’s an expert, or are you an expert, set up a night to learn how to do a new skill, make sushi, bake, or learn a craft.
  6. The old faithfuls are always an option, movie night or gaming night.  But spruce up movie night, don’t just watch movies, decorate the room, bring in really plush pillows and go high-end on the snacks.
  7. For the kids, let them bring over a few friends and turn the whole living room into a giant pillow and blanket fort.  Construct tunnels and little bunkers then surprise them by putting little surprises in hiding spots all over the fort.  Motion activated toys are a lot of fun.  In the center of the fort set up the DVD player and screen in a secret bunker.
  8. SNIPE HUNT!  Have friends who aren’t particularly outdoorsy well then take them on a Snipe Hunt to find the elusive North American Snipe with its unique call, low to the ground movements and glow in the dark wings.  No idea what I’m talking about?  Here’s the gist, you tell folks that you’ve recently discovered nearby, yard, campsite wherever, that you have North American Snipe, very rare, gorgeous, non-flying birds that are of course nocturnal.  You rig a plan, get folks to hunch over, tap sticks together to herd the snipe to a certain location where they can be seen or captured.  Video taping is particularly fun as later you have visual evidence of people looking really ridiculously funny.  You can let it wind down  and break the joke down for them but I’ve always been fond of a payoff.  Once on a winter snipe hunt in the snow, we set fireworks around the end of some bushes and had a person hide and light the off.  We’ve done the simple jump our and scare people and for a time at a student camp we got high tech with little drones, remote control cars etc… leaping out from unexpected openings or constructed “snipe nests.”  The best is if you take people in small groups they get to be in on the joke while you prank the next group.
  9. You can always also just do a really nice night of making homemade food with friends, make pizza’s from scratch and do some baking.

I hope this give’s you some positive ideas for having a good time on New Year’s Eve, enjoy friends ~ Rev Kane

 

 

 

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Happy News – December 28, 2015

Happy News – December 28, 2015

happiness newsWhen one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.        ~ Helen Keller

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Our weekly tour around the web to find you some positive and uplifting news. ~ Rev Kane

8 Year-old Girl Brings 1300 Presents to Fellow Cancer Patients

01Muslim Man Spreads Joy by Giving Out Christmas Gifts to Homeless

02Christmas Music Flash Mob

03Bearded Walmart Shopper Mistaken for Santa and Plays Along

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Other pieces you might enjoy!

Good News – December 21, 2015

Good News – December 14, 2015

Good News – December 7, 2015

Good News – November 30, 2015

 

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Our Best Happiness Posts of the Year – 2015

Our Best Happiness Posts of the Year – 2015

unaka quoteEveryone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it. ~ Andy Rooney

It has been a great year for the Ministry of Happiness and we’ll do a year in review post with the new year.  But prior to that here are a collection of some of our best posts for the the year.  The one’s I really feel good about, reader favorites, and ones that got the most comment and likes.

 

Holiday Happiness Posts

Holiday Happiness: Overcoming Worry

Happy Christmas? Thoughts on the Holiday Season

Holiday Happiness: Family, Friends & Environment

Holiday Happiness: Funny Holiday Stories

Holiday Happiness: Resources for Fighting Depression

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 Appalachian Trail Posts

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Trail Community

Appalachian Trail Gear Lists

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Precious Moments

Appalachian Trail Happiness: A Walk in the Woods

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Three Important Questions

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Landscapes

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Quitting the Appalachian Trail

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Personal Posts

Life Lessons from Granny

Happiness is Granny

Appalachian Trail Happiness: My favorite little hiker

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Adventure Posts

Happiness is a Polar Bear Adventure (A flying Polar Bear)

Happiness is a Polar Bear Adventure (Bears & Northern Lights)

Happiness is Swimming with Whale Sharks

Himalayan Travelogue – My Trip to Mt. Everest

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Art related posts

Happiness is Art: Van Gogh

Happiness is Poetry: Langston Hughes

Happiness is Poetry: Ashe Vernon

Happiness is Micropoetry

Happiness is Poetry: Adrian Manning

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Everything Else

Happiness is Candy

Quotes about Happiness, Gratitude & Kindness

On Burning Man & the Appalachian Trail

Happiness Resources: Improving Your Mood

A Really Wonderful Day

Happiness is the Desert

 

KODAK Digital Still Camera

Rev Kane relaxing in the snow flurries

Enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happy News: December 21, 2015

Happy News: December 21, 2015

happiness newsOften people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want. ~Margaret Young

 

Today our weekly tour around the web to find positive and uplifting news, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

Seventy year-old volunteer takes joy in helping 600 grandkids

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US to cover costs of robotic limbs for some veterans

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Philadelphia eliminates homelessness for veterans who want housing

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Secret Santas pay off $300,000 in layaways

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Happiness is Star Wars

Happiness is Star Wars

happiness star warsThe film is an iconic pop-culture creation and touches a bazillion film goers to their very core. It can also be very useful. Useful? What the hell am I talking about? Glad you asked. What I mean is the way that George Lucas’s masterpiece contains lessons that can and should be applied to real life. The one that jumps out at me is the message of The Force and how if you stay pure and good and mentally sharp you can, in fact, conquer the Dark Side.  ~ Olivia Munn,   Suck It, Wonder Woman!: The Misadventures of a Hollywood Geek

02So tomorrow the latest Star Wars movie comes out and it’s time for me to reminisce a bit.  I was 13 when the first Star Wars movie came out and as a science fiction nerd I of course went to see it.  There were more people at the theater than normal for an opening of a science fiction film, word had started to get out even in my town that the graphics were something special.  The movie blew me  and everyone in the theater away.  It wasn’t the story, it was good enough, but it was your typical western, bad guy in the black hat, or helmet in this case.  The good guys were in their white robes and had special powers.  No, the first Star Wars movie was unbelievable because the graphics were over the top many times better than anything we’d seen before.  Watching that nearly forty year-old movie now that may be hard to fathom, but remember we lived in a world then where we had to walk uphill to school, both ways, in the snow!

01I would go back a couple of times to see the film, that was a really new concept as well.  You see before Jaws in 1975 movies came, occasionally were held over for a week and went away.  Jaws changed that staying for months and shattering all records for a film being held over.  Star Wars was now following in the footsteps of Jaws but there was a difference.  Jaws would lead to Jaws 2, Jaws 3D etc… sequels of basically the same film over and over with a twist.  Star Wars was in some ways an old-fashioned serial but on a grand scale.  The other thing was the wait, you had to wait for years in between films, something that was both maddening but also helped ramp up the expectation for each film.  My best friend and I would make every opening night for most of the films.  Hell, we even got quoted in the newspaper while waiting online for the opening of Return of the Jedi.

04Then the news from George Lucas, the original films were the middle part of a nine-part story, Star Wars nerd nirvana.  We would get the first three and they seemed too commercial, a little bit tired, although I’ll watch anything with Natalie Portman in it.  Personally I think George Lucas was done with his creation.  Eventually he would tell us he was never going to do the last three films, and until it was announced he’d sold out the franchise to Disney it looked like the end of Star Wars on the big screen.

03The Disney transfer is both a huge positive and negative in my mind.  The positive is that Disney went out and got decent directors, and will give us what we have all longed for since the 80’s, Luke, Leia, Han and Chewey.  A fond farewell to the characters I’m sure and a nice payday for a couple of actors who haven’t had much work in years.  I’m looking forward to seeing the new film, but I will be nowhere near the theater in the first couple of weeks the movie is out.  Going to the movies has changed, I love going to the theater, or I used to in the old days.  People are now so used to watching movies at home that they treat being in the theater the same way, as if no one else is there but them.  So they play with their phones and talk and create all manner of annoyances.  It’s rude and I don’t tolerate it well, I’ve had some, shall we say interactions with people exhibiting these behaviors and it’s no fun.  So I’ll wait for a matinée once the big crowds are gone.

01One thing that will certainly change with Disney is Star Wars will no longer be an event you’ve waited years to see.  It will no longer be a single serial story, no, will have at least one movie a year and there will be lots of movies in the Star Wars universe.  Don’t get me wrong, if they are done well it will be fun, just not the same.  So welcome to the new era of Star Wars with a little nod of nostalgia its past glory.

May the force be with you and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happy News – December 14, 2015

Happy News – December 14, 2015

happiness newsKeep your face to the sunshine and you can never see a shadow                            ~ Helen Keller

 

Our weekly tour around the web to bring you the type of positive stories that are so hard to find in the traditional media, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

The first piece tonight is a really fantastic example of how reacting with kindness instead of anger can be not only the right choice but an amazing choice.

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01An unbeatable NFL Father and Daughter Team

 

01The Power of a Random Act of Kindness

 

01This is What Japan is Doing to Keep Turtles Safe

 

More Happy News!

November 30th

November 23rd

November 16th

 

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Happy Christmas? Thoughts on the holiday season.

Happy Christmas? Thoughts on the holiday season.

01The main reason Santa is so jolly is that he knows where all the bad girls live ~ George Carlin

I have been working on making the Ministry of Happiness posts more consistent, the schedule is supposed to look something like this:

Monday – Happy News

Tuesday – Art related posts (art, poetry, music, photography, etc…)

Wednesday – Resources for living a happier life

Thursday – Adventure related (Appalachian Trail, travel, other hiking, etc…)

Friday – Something light and entertaining

Saturday – Reruns, hey TV does it, why can’t I?  A day to recycle older posts and spruce them up a bit

Sunday – Personal posts about my own life

Of course during the holiday season I also post something everyday to make sure those who struggle a bit with the season, like me, have something to try to pick them up a bit.  So December means lots of posts, currently I’m doing a 12 days of Christmas set along with the Holiday Season Posts.

I sat down last night to do my normal Sunday night post and frankly I didn’t have it in me.  I don’t want to call it writers block, I just wasn’t motivated to write about any particular thing.  Eventually I caved in, pulled up episodes of Justified and vegged out for the night. I’m in one of those spaces where I just feel blah, it has a lot to do with this time of year.  I know that, because I’m eating and sleeping well, working out six days a week.  I’ve lost five pounds since coming here in November and that’s after also putting on a couple of pounds of muscle.  I’ve fought past the surprising anxiety I was caught up in after my granny’s death.  The weather has been spectacular, I’m writing and reading every day, I’m at the beach at least once a week.

05This time of year just sucks for me, always has.  I dread “Christmastime”, it is the time of year I feel most alone.  The only way I can explain the feeling is if you were to go outside, someplace where there is real winter, go stand in a darkened field or on a darkened road with no lights around and just stand there alone in the cold.  That is what this time of year feels like to me.  I think it stems from the feeling that I’ve always been an alien.  In my life I very often nearly fit someplace, I’ve yet to truly find my community.  I’ve encountered members, I count them as some of my best friends, but a whole community of those folks to tap into has always eluded me.

The holidays drive home the fantasy of 1950’s America and the Leave it to Beaver nuclear family.  We all see scenes of perfectly decorated trees, happy families drinking eggnog, perfectly wrapped presents under the trees.  Happy smiling faces open presents on Christmas morning and the gifts are always, “just what I wanted, how did you know?” Beautiful Christmas dinners with hams and turkeys, long tables covered in crisp white table clothes, family members happily conversing and gathering that night to sing carols around the piano. Fuck, in my family, and I mean the whole extended family, I don’t think anyone even owned a piano and I’ve never heard anyone in my family sing a Christmas carol.

01The reality of Christmas always was, grudgingly dragging out old musty smelling decorations, knotted strings of lights, fights over how much tinsel to put on the tree.  There were no family gatherings of folks sitting around sipping eggnog, holiday gatherings meant far too much booze and inevitable arguments, Christmas trees fell down.  Christmas dinner with extended happy family members getting along was a fantasy rarely if ever attempted.  Don’t get me wrong, sprinkled throughout my Christmas history are shinning wonderful moments.  The greatest first kiss of my life was a peppermint schnapps filled moment of bliss while watching Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer.   Unfortunately those moments are dulled by the drape of discord, drunkenness and argument.  It always seemed the pressure of the perfect holiday season combined with alcohol inevitably brought out the worst in folks.  Add in times without enough money, tired hard-working people who felt like they weren’t upholding the Leave it to Beaver standards, the inevitable snow and ice storms of winter and quite frankly it’s a Christmas Miracle no one was ever murdered.

01As a smart and curious child I’d busted the Santa myth before the age of five.  But I was still young enough to believe that everyone else was having those perfect Christmases.  This was further driven home by how damn excited everyone seemed to get about the holidays.  As you get older you realize a lot of that is fronting and bullshit, reality is everyone’s family struggles with its own level of inbred insanity.  Things are never as Hallmark would like us to believe.  Of course we all put on the show for visitors and try to continue the illusion, it comes from a good hopeful place.  By time I was old enough to pierce the illusion I was already fully disillusioned and overly cynical about the season.

The kicker of course being New Year’s Eve, as our neighbor Jack Wrigley called it, amateur night.  I didn’t get that until I got older and bought into the idea of the New Year’s Eve party.  You know, the party where people who hardly drink are given societal permission to get drunk off of their ass and become belligerent drunken messes.  For some reason, once they do, I seem to inevitably be their target, I grew tired of that scene very early on in my twenties.

01So my memories of this season are shit.  I can recall few good Christmas and New Years, the first Christmas I hosted in Tennessee does count among them.  A very wild New Year’s Eve in Times Square when I was 19 another one.  But most have left me depressed and lonely.

The trick of course, is not to wallow in the morass that the holidays have become for me but to find ways to make them better.  That’s what I have endeavored to do, this year I’m purposely staying out of the cold, I’ll spend Christmas at the beach for three days.  New Year’s Eve will be spent writing and listening to music as it normally is and that has become a night I enjoy for that reason.  I work very hard to try to help make the holidays better for my nieces and nephews, the one part of the season I like is gift giving and I work hard to find them gifts they’ll like.  One of the biggest things I have done is the Ministry of Happiness Holiday Posts and putting myself out there for others who feel the same way.  My holiday posts include my email address for those who need someone to talk to even if it is through email.

01Likely I’ll never find my way out from under the weight of the season but it has become soooo much better over the years.  This time of year used to mean fairly deep depression for me, now I get times like last night where I’m just blah for a bit.  The advice I give on this blog goes two ways and I have far more tools now than I ever did before to bring my mood back, including working on the blog.  Today, as I sit in the library writing this, the sun is shining, I just smiled at an old lady in a wheel chair with 10 books in her lap, she smiled back, her eyes lit up and she said, “I like to read.”  A smile can be an amazing thing.

01What I want most for people to take from this window into my Grinch-like Christmas existence is to just keep your eyes open.  In America it’s ok to dislike any other holiday except Christmas.  I can tell you from much personal experience, show any dislike for this season and you get a lot of crappy comments.  What’s wrong with you, why do you have to be such a Scrooge, the script we follow in American society works very hard to reinforce the Hallmark, Leave it to Beaver, Norman Rockwell view of the holidays.  Some people really struggle this time of year, they appreciate your invitations to your house even if they will never accept.  Instead of running them down for their lack of Christmas cheer, just tell them you hope this is a good year for them.  In this time of insane busyness, shopping, holiday parties, and gifting try to find a little space for kindness to those who don’t enjoy this time of year, folks who may actually be hurting.  These folks are incredibly good at hiding in plain sight, so please, for their sake, just keep your eyes open a bit more than usual and have a wonderful Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Winter Solstice, Festivus, New Years and any other holiday you celebrate as well as a very happy day my friends         ~ Rev Kane

Other Posts You Might Enjoy!

Holiday Happiness: Overcoming Worry

Holiday Happiness: Family, Friends & Environment

Holiday Happiness: Funny Holiday Stories

Holiday Happiness: Resources for Fighting Depression

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