Happy Fathers Day to My Mother

Happy Fathers Day to My Mother

sunset selfieAbsence is a house so vast that inside you will pass through its walls and hang pictures on the air. ~ Pablo Neruda

I know it’s an odd title, Happy Fathers Day to My Mother.  This is how it’s been for a very long time in my life.  I made a decision when I was a teenager to wish my mother a happy Fathers Day every year.  The reason simply being that I feel that if you did both jobs, as my mother did, then you ought to get both holidays, Mothers Day and Fathers Day.  My father left when I was young, he would return at one point for a couple of years, but all in all my mother did all of the parental heavy lifting when I was a child.  He and I have a cordial relationship these days, but I don’t look at him like a father.

You see to me, a father is someone to look up to, someone who set an example, set boundaries, follow through on promises.  Someone who was there to give direction and to give advice.  That, quite frankly was not the case, my mother did the best she could with three kids to do the job of both parents.

No parent is perfect and I realize that my father descriptor above is a bit lofty.  But if you had a man in your life who attempted to meet those ideals, and did a descent job at it, then they deserve a thanks on this holiday.  If you didn’t have a man that did that, then maybe there’s a woman who deserves that thanks today.  If you didn’t have either, than pat yourself on your back, because you did a heck of a thing by providing those things for yourself.

I have no children of my own, my job is to be a good uncle.  A far easier job I will admit, much less responsibility, fewer expectations but a responsibility none the less.  Happily, my nieces and nephews are blessed with three great dads.  My two brother-in-laws are good dads, supportive, hard working and responsible.  They interact with and support their kids, they love them very much and it shows.

My younger brother is father to my two young nephews and my littlest niece.  He’s fifteen years younger than me and I couldn’t be prouder of the father that he has become.  He’s patient, although with two boys 4 and 6, I know he doesn’t always feel that way.  They can be an absolute handful.  He’s affectionate with his children, supportive and sets a great example for them, he shows them that he loves them.  He’s a great dad.

So to all of you who hold the role of father, happy Fathers Day!  It’s important work that you do for not just your family but all of society.  What you do, has made a lot of happy days, for a lot people. ~ Rev Kane

 

 

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My Best Hiking Posts

My Best Hiking Posts

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So tonight a selection of my best hiking posts just in time for what would normally be my annual Thanksgiving morning hike.  This year, based in Oaxaca, Mexico Thanksgiving will be quite different, it’s not a holiday so I have school and that effectively kills any hiking possibilities.  I’ll have to settle for a long walk around the city and some quite time in a park.

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Rev Kane in Armstrong Woods

But to get your revved up for opting outside during the Thanksgiving break here is some reading on hiking all over the world from the Appalachian Trail to the Himalayan Mountains, enjoy. ~ Rev Kane

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Rev Kane on the Appalachian Trail at the Tennessee border.

Hiking the Appalachian Trail

On Hiking Alone

Happiness, the minimalist mind, and Hiking the Appalachian Trail

Appalachian Trail and Hiking Resources

Quitting the Appalachian Trail

My book about my time on the Appalachian Trail

Appalachian Trail Happiness, the pictures

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Rev Kane goin native in the Scottish Highlands

Hiking in Scotland

The West Highland Way

The Great Glen Way

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Rev Kane fully living in the Himalayan Mountains

Hiking on the Roof of the World

My Himalayan Travelogue

Happiness is Photography: The Himalayas

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Rev Kane making friends in Nepal

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Pride and Positivity

Pride and Positivity

proud, familyOur struggles make us the Man or Woman we can be proud of!
~ Avijeet Das

Several years ago I was working a welcome day table at the college I was working at.  This is the type of table where during the first few days of school, volunteers are there to answer questions, direct students, sometimes there are computers so people can look at their schedules to find their classes.  You answer a lot of questions about how to get a parking permit.

One afternoon a woman came by and asked a question, after she got her answer we started conversing.  During the conversation she started telling me about something her daughter had achieved, a scholarship or award, she kept talking about how proud she was and suddenly stopped and apologized for being rude by bragging about her child.  I told her I didn’t believe it was ever rude to brag about your child’s achievements, unless it was done to purposefully make someone else feel bad.  I really disagree with this idea in our society that you’re a jerk if you talk about your or your friend’s or families successes.  If it’s done to show how proud you are and not to make someone else feel bad I think it’s great.

And tonight I’m going to brag about my oldest niece, I call her The Night Ninja.  If you know me well, you know I often give people nicknames, some of them have stuck to people for decades, right Bubbles?  My niece got this moniker while I was staying with my sister’s family a couple of years ago.  My niece is a night person, she doesn’t sleep much and stays up way too late watching Youtube videos.  One morning while I was staying at the house everyone woke up with little sweet notes on their pillows next to their heads.  I know, aaaaahhhhh, that’s the first reaction, how sweet.  The second thought that hits you a couple of minutes later is wait, she slipped into every bedroom, put a note next to people’s heads and slipped out without waking anyone up.  That’s when I realized my niece was a Ninja, and thus The Night Ninja was born.  She love/hates the name in only the way someone can with a name that they don’t particularly like, but is still a term of endearment from a loved one.  And let there be no doubt, I absolutely love my oldest niece.

My oldest niece has not had it easy.  She is, as they say, on the spectrum.  This is a way to say that my niece has autistic tendencies but isn’t autistic.  She’s never been categorized.  She’s been tested genetically and other ways many times.  Every time they are sure she fits this or that diagnosis, but if there are four markers she has three, if there are three she has two.  Quite simply my niece defies categorization, well to everyone else, I know, she’s a Night Ninja and Night Ninja’s defy definition and categorization.

My niece is a lucky girl, she has two extremely loving and supportive parents.  She’s also lucky that one of them, my sister, is a teacher.  So she knows the education system, how to fight for an Individualized Education Plan, how to beat the system, who to go to in order to get my niece the services she needs.  It was this support and knowledge that got my niece into the vocational education program for her last two years of high school.  However, growing up different is tough, I know, I was different.  If you felt, not occasionally odd, but truly alien as a child you know what I’m talking about.  When she was young, this difference frustrated with her, she would get angry sometimes but more often would shutdown.  She would get quiet and withdrawn and that further led to her feeling isolated.  At any family gathering, you can count on at some point, that The Night Ninja will slip off  to her bedroom alone.  I get it, I used to do the exact same thing as a kid.

So the other night I had to work late, I finally got a big project done and got around to checking my messages.  There was one from my sister, it was a video that looked like a graduation video, she’d indicated some time stamps on the video.  I fired up the video and went to the first time stamp, it was a teacher talking about a student, who had been shy and withdrawn but after her first work experience, had come out of her shell.  She was gregarious and interactive, this only expanded after her second work experience and for that reason she was being awarded the most improved student.  Yup, that award was for The Night Ninja, I was beaming with pride.  I saw the other time stamps and expected they would be the standard student bios or short videos.  The next was about The Night Ninja’s best friend, a really sweet kid I’d gotten to know a little bit.  The third time stamp was another teacher talking about the highest award they give each year, their fellowship award.  This is an award that is given to the student who does the most to bring the class together, who shows kindness and compassion at a high level and it was given to my niece.  I’ve never been so damn proud, I was hooting and hollering and I messaged my sister to have my niece call me.  It was 10PM Eastern Time, but she’s a Night Ninja, I knew she’d be awake.  I was exuberant with the praise I gave her and she was quiet.  Her new found confidence hasn’t quite extended to accepting praise but she’ll get there.

I’ve been flying since this happened, I’m so proud of what she’s accomplished.  There’s a huge lesson here my friends.  We have to remember to praise the people we love, make them know how proud of them that we are.  Especially with kids, you have to attend their games, plays, read their poems and listen to their stories.  You have to show them that what they do is something to be proud of.  Please understand how incredibly important this is to them.

And this doesn’t stop when people get older.  That friend who’s juggling ten things and pulling it off, the person who makes it all look so easy, they need your praise as well.  We often find time to praise those who are struggling, we also need to praise those who are pulling it off.  Sometimes success and achievement can also be a very lonely place.  Showing someone else that you’re proud of what they have accomplished will help them have a happy day.  It is my sincere hope that this post has helped The Night Ninja, my oldest niece and my big ball of love, have a happy day.  And this last bit will make no sense to anyone but her, but more than anything else I want her to remember, I’m Batman.  Have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is Poetry: Bukowski

Happiness is Poetry: Bukowski

Today my friends as we continue our assault on any visage of potential holiday depression, a poem from my favorite author, Charles Bukowski.  An uncharacteristically upbeat piece by the master but one with a very real and very good message, enjoy and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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The Laughing Heart

your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is a light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them.
take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight
in you.

 

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Happiness is Poetry: Rumi

Happiness is Poetry: Rumi

Tonight I gift you with a long and wonderful piece on falling in love by Rumi.  Hard to imagine his work is over 600 years old, but if you’ve never read any you’re missing out.  Enjoy this one and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Desire and the Importance and Falling

A window opens.
A curtain pulls back.

The lamp of lovers connect,
not at their ceramic bases,
but in their lightedness.

No lover wants union with the Beloved
without the Beloved also wanting the lover.

Love makes the lover weak,
while the Beloved gets strong.

Lightning from here strikes there.
When you begin to love God, God
is loving you. A clapping sound
does not come from one hand.

A thirsty man calls out, ‘Delicious water,
where are you?’ while the water moans,
‘Where is the water drinker?’

The thirst in our souls is the attraction
put out by the Water itself.

We belong to It,
and It to us.

God’s wisdom made us lovers of one another.
In fact, all the particles of the world
are in love and looking for lovers.

Pieces of straw tremble
in the presence of amber.

We tremble like iron filings
welcoming the magnet.

Whatever that Presence gives us
we take in. Earth signs feed.
Water signs wash and freshen.
Air signs clear the atmosphere.
Fire signs jiggle the skillet,
so we cook without getting burnt.

And the Holy Spirit helps with everything,
like a young man trying to support a family.
We, like the man’s young wife, stay home,
taking care of the house, nursing the children.

Spirit and matter work together like this,
in a division of labor.

Sweethearts kiss and taste the delight
before they slip into bed and mate.

The desire of each lover is
that the work of the other be perfected.
By this man-and-woman cooperation,
the world gets preserved.
Generation occurs.

Roses and blue arghawan flowers flower.
Night and day meet in a mutual hug.

So different, but they do love each other,
the day and the night, like family.

And without their mutual alternation
we would have no energy.

Every part of the cosmos is draws toward its mate.
The ground keeps talking to the body,
saying, ‘Come back! It’s better for you
down here where you came from.’

The streamwater calls to the moisture in the body.
The fiery aether whispers to the body’s heat,
‘I am your origin. Come with me.’
Seventy-two diseases are caused
by the various elements pulling inside the body.
Disease comes, and the organs
fall out of harmony.

We’re like four different birds,
that each had one leg tied in
with the other birds.

A flopping bouguet of birds!
Death releases the binding, and they fly off,
but before that, their pulling is our pain.

Consider how the soul must be,
in the midst of these tensions,
feeling its own exalted pull.

My longing is more profound.
The birds want sweet green herbs
and the water running by.

I want the infinite! I want wisdom.
These birds want orchards and meadows
and vines with fruit on them.

I want a vast expansion.
They want profit and security
of having enough food.

Remember what the soul wants,
because in that, eternity
is wanting our souls!

Which is the meaning of the text,
They love That, and That loves them.

If I keep on explaining this,
the Mathnawi will run to eighty volumes!

The gist is: whatever anyone seeks,
that is seeking the seeker.

No matter if its animal,
or vegetable, or mineral.

Every bit of the universe
is filled with wanting,
and whatever any bit wants,
wants the wanter!

This subject must dissolve again.

Back to Sadri Jahan and the uneducated peasant
who loved him, so that gradually Sadri Jahan
loved the lowly man. But who really
attracted who, whoom, Huuuu?

Don’t be presumptuous and say one or the other.
Close your lips. The mystery of loving
is God’s sweetest secret.

Keep it. Bury it. Leave it here
where I leave it, drawn as I am
by the pull of the Puller
to something else.

You know how it is. Sometimes
we plan a trip to one place,
but something takes us to another.

When a horse is being broken, the trainer
pulls it in many different directions,
so the horse will come to know
what it is to be ridden.

The most beautiful and alert horse is one
completely attuned to the rider.

God fixes a passionate desire in you,
and then disappoints you.
God does that a hundred times!

God breaks the wings of one intention
and then gives you another,
cuts the rope of contriving,
so you’ll remember your dependence.

But sometimes your plans work out!
You feel fulfilled and in control.

That’s because, if you were always failing,
you might give up. But remember,
it is by failures that lovers
stay aware of how they are loved.

Failure is the key
to the kingdom within.

Your prayer should be, “Break the legs
of what I want to happen. Humiliate
my desire. Eat me like candy.
It’s spring and finally
I have no will.”

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My COVID Times Diary – Accepting Death

My COVID Times DiaryAccepting Death

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Original post date 6/16/2020

Many people misunderstood the reason for the shelter in place that most of us ended up in during March.  The point was to slow the rate of the outbreak, to make sure that our hospitals did not get overwhelmed which in the end saves lives.  The so-called slowing the curve that we’ve all heard so much about.  And the fact is, in general, America did pretty good with this.  This of course had a negative impact on the economy, it was/is hard for people to reduce their social and physical contact, to make a sacrifice for the sake of others.  But what I think most people didn’t understand was that this was never intended to significantly reduce the overall number of people who would get sick, but to stretch the length of time for the same number of people to get sick.  Worse, it seems like people are having two overall reactions to this process.

First, people seem to think since the rate of deaths have leveled off or decreased, that we have beaten the virus and the pandemic is over.  Other people seem to think that because the shelter in place, did exactly what it was predicted to do, that obviously the risk of the virus was overblown.  This attitude, plus an extreme dedication to the health of the economy at all costs, has led to seemingly all states moving forward with expanding the opening of the economy.

This re-opening was very visible this weekend here in the bay area around San Francisco.  Traffic volume was up, stores are open, restaurants have lots of new outdoor seating.  Friends can be seen gathering at these restaurants and there are very few masks to be seen other than on the servers.There seems to be a general attitude that we’re passed the pandemic.

Of course we are not, as expected, the re-opening of business, restaurants, yes even our local mall, will lead to more people being in close contact and increasing numbers of infections.  And in fact, that is exactly what we’re experiencing.  Now there’s some debate that some of the numbers are a result of expanded testing which is true.  However, the numbers I watch on a daily basis are the number of deaths of in California.  There’s been a fairly stable 6-7 day pattern in deaths.  And after about eight weeks of increases the numbers seem to level off and even start to fall.  Correspondingly we began to open the economy and the numbers of death, by seven day average have stopped falling.  They seem to be bouncing around an unfortunately nearly 100 per day average.  Now California is a huge state and right now, most of the deaths are in Southern California.  The number in deaths in the north and particularly the bay area are way down.  But we’ve just started a really huge experiment by expanding the opening and we’ll know in 3-4 weeks what the result will be.

The fact is, this was always going to happen at some point, unless we got a miraculously quick vaccine.  We as a society, typically at the county or state level, have a decided what an acceptable level of death is going to be.  As long as that number, whatever each place sets, stays fairly consistent or decrease we’re willing to accept the risks of having businesses open with few restrictions.  The cynic in me will also suggest that as long as the majority of those deaths come in the form of older (60 year+), sick (diabetic, high blood pressure) and at a higher percentage in poor and minority communities than we’re ok with it.  Online, and social media can be the cesspool of humanity, you will even see comments to this effect.  An article in CNN today had the headline, I’m over 60, stop talking about culling me…, but the reality is, to a degree larger than we like to admit, this is how our society generally thinks.  Some groups have much higher value than others.

So this, is truly the new normal folks.  For a much longer time than most of us want to acknowledge or are willing to accept.  We will continue to see deaths, life will involve a face covering (mask) of some sort.  For those like myself who fit the higher risk categories (over 60, diabetic, high blood pressure, respiratory issues and heart disease), masks will be an integral part of our day to day experience for the foreseeable future.  Gathering and crowds will not be an option, travel will be limited, hugs and handshakes will be a thing of the past, at least for a time.  So you will continue to see lots of people in masks, more places open and then when inevitable spikes occur, periods of retraction, restriction and maybe even shelter in place again.

All reasonable information suggests that 2021 is the absolute earliest that we’ll start to see any kind of mass distribution of a vaccine.  And that’s assuming in the next couple of months, one of the hopeful vaccine candidates actually pans out.  If that happens, it will have been an incredibly fast development of a vaccine, let’s hope that works out.  Then of course with out science denying society and vaccine hesitancy, who knows if enough people will even get the vaccine to create the level of protection we actually need for herd immunity.

It’s a new world my friends, as I said in my first COVID post, you will never be the same again.  That’s the one thing I’m still absolutely sure of in these changing times. ~ Michael ‘Rev’ Kane

 

Other COVID posts you might find interesting

COVID Times – Living our values

COVID Times – Is this the end?

COVID Times – The great pause

COVID Times – Inequality

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Tiny bits of Joy

Tiny Bits of Joy

happinessWe are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves. ~ Buddha

Original post day 06/14/2020

Times are hard for folks right now.  Many people are out of work, have lost loved ones, a lot of people are struggling to get by.  We’re working from home, having to learn how to become teachers, health experts and chefs.  For me personally one of the hardest parts, as I consider my own mortality and the limited amount of time we have in this life, is that it feels like my life and all of its plans are completely on pause.  I’m healthy, I’ve had sick family members but no one has died, I have stable and good employment, I’m more well off than many others and thankful for that.  But I’m human, and as human beings we cry most for what WE don’t have, what WE can’t do.  It’s a natural reaction, and I feel that emotion welling up in me and I do my best to keep it at bay.  You have to forgive yourself for the selfish thoughts you have, at least as long you do your best not to act on all of them.

Tonight, I want to talk about the tiny bits of joy in my life.  I’d love to include pictures but blasting images of my little people all over the internet doesn’t seem like the most prudent thing to do and they’re too young to give informed consent.  So no images, but a few notes about the tiny joys I get to interact with.

First, a message I got yesterday.

Uncle Mike, it’s Renee, can I call you, I have to tell you something/  Wait, not Renee, it’s Rooney, I typed the wrong name.

This led to a video call and a story of how my eight year-old niece encountered a black bear in her back yard.  Her sprint home, the bravery of her one dog who took after the bear, and the pure lack of concern of their other dog.  It was a cute story, she was clearly both excited and a little bit shook.  My suggestion that she should camp out in the yard didn’t go over well.

Recently I got a text from one of the faculty I work with, I’ve become friends with her five year-old daughter.  I call her Tiny Dean.  The reason for this is that on my first day of work she marched right up to me in my office and asked, “who are you?”  When I responded that I was the new dean she said, “no you’re not, I am.”  So I immediately requested a raise that she was happy to grant, when I pushed my luck and asked for extra vacation, she fired me.  So her mom on a couple of occasions now has found Tiny Dean playing work.  While playing work she’s often on phone calls with Dean Kane, and most recently, dressed like her mom and wearing her mom’s glasses, she was pretending to Zoom with me.  Her mom sent me a video she took of the pretend Zoom call and sent it to me.  It was beyond adorable and absolutely made my day.  The best part was when she was explaining the pro-biotic nature of the email, you have to love kid logic.

I have three tiny joys all in the same house, my brother and his wife have three children, 6,4 and about to be 1.  My Zoom calls with them are absolutely joyous occasions.  My littlest nephew was pretend punching me on the last call and cracking himself up.  He and his older brother usually appear on the calls in full custom with lots of props to show off.  My littlest niece blew me kisses on the last call, not sure it gets much better than that.  But I want to relate something the 6 year-old said on the that call.

He had just finished saying something about cleaning up his room or something, so I suggested that he come over to my house to clean next.  He cheerfully agreed and you need to understand he has great belief in his intelligence, which he has informed me is why when he grows up he’ll be smarter than everyone.  He also thinks I’m a bit mentally slow.  So after my sister and mother asked about cleaning their houses as well, he said the following:

When I grow up I’m going to make a machine so that I can copy myself, and then I can come over and clean everyone’s house.

I was happy to hear the confidence and even more so the absolute kindness of the sentiment.  And that’s what I want to convey tonight my friends, we can all be that kind.  In our thoughts and in our actions, and in that we can bring joy to others.  Sure, I could list out little ways you could help others, the random acts of kindness you could do, but you know what they are, and they don’t have to be large.  All it takes is the will to do it and the best time is when you least feel like it.  Because in the end, acts of kindness are sneakily selfish.  Although they are acts to make someone else happier, they inevitably make us feel better, happier as well.  So be kind friends, take those opportunities to say or do something that will bring someone a little joy.  It’s make a happier day for them, and happier days for you my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

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On Burning Man & The Appalachian Trail

On Burning Man & The Appalachian Trail

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Rev Kane in his first year at Burning Man

Rev Kane on his first day on the Appalachian Trail

Rev Kane on his first day on the Appalachian Trail

 

If you are unwilling to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary ~ Jim Rohn

 

 

 

First a little background, I am currently off the trail and rehabbing my knee but I have been walking the Appalachian Trail since March 7, 2015 in celebration of my 50th birthday.  So far I’ve covered about 700 miles of trail and my knee willing I will continue to add to that total for the rest of the summer.

The Appalachian Trail 2180 miles from GA to ME

The Appalachian Trail 2180 miles from GA to ME

I have also attended Burning Man seven times in the last ten years, with my first burn occurring in celebration of my 40th birthday in 2004.

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My favorite art piece from Burning Man – Bliss Dancing

While on the trail I am constantly seeing parallels between the Burning Man and Appalachian Trail (AT) communities.  This is particularly powerful in the way thru-hikers view the trail and their fellow thru-hikers and the way that burners view Burning Man and their fellow burners on the Playa.  So tonight I thought I would expand on a few of these overlaps.

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Trail magic is one form of magic on the AT, this is when people show up out of the goodness of their hearts, with no thought of payment or return, save gratitude, and provide food, drinks, rides and all kinds of kindness.  But this is not the magic I want to talk about.  On the trail you often hear the phrase, “the trail provides.”  My best example of this was my friend Backtrack breaking a trekking pole on a hike.  He was of course upset, poles are expensive and more importantly invaluable in helping you navigate the trail safely.  When he arrived at the shelter he expressed his frustration to a fellow hiker who simply said, “well then, you should take that one.” In the back corner of the shelter was a solitary trekking pole.  A coincidence, sure, but when you see and hear about these type of coincidences happening over and over you start to believe.

The summit of Mt. Unaka

The summit of Mt. Unaka

I became a believer in my first hour on the trail.  I’m a writer so I of course carry several pens on the trail.  As I started my first day I got to thinking about the fact I wanted to write in the shelter journals.  I was also a little skeeved out by the idea of all the people who would have handled those shelter pens.  In that moment I was silently berating myself about not keeping one of the pens I was carrying easily accessible when I looked down and saw a brand new pen laying on the trail.  The trail provides.

Bliss Dancing at dawn

Bliss Dancing at dawn

The really amazing parallel with Burning Man is the very often heard phrase, “the Playa provides.”  I have seen dozens of instances of this, needed car parts, costuming items, kitchen utensils, I once told a Burning Man virgin that I truly believed you could stand up in center camp, shout out a need for anything and it would arrive minutes later.  Of course I told this to a complete wise-ass, so he stood up on a bench and yelled I want a freshly baked chocolate chip cookie.  As he stepped down a woman behind him said, “here you go.” I almost passed out, she was standing there with two friends and they had racks of cookies they’d just brought over from their camp to gift to people.

Dawn at 5000 feet

Dawn at 5000 feet

For me, my greatest example is related to my singular food passion, pizza.  There isn’t much in this world I enjoy more than a half-pepperoni and mushroom pizza.  For several years on the Playa there was a camp called random pizza.  They brought out pizza ovens and each night would make pizzas and then go out and randomly give them to people on the Playa. I believe it was my third year and I was walking down the Esplanade with two friends and I starting ranting about how utterly ridiculous it was that given my love for pizza that I had never received a random pizza.  Less than a minute later a guy tapped me on the shoulder and said, “I believe this is for you.”  A pepperoni and mushroom pizza.  Sure not half cheese like I normally get, but wow, I was a believer.  The Playa provides.

monkey rock fixHow, as a scientist do I explain this, is it just coincidence, perhaps.  However, I think even as a scientist we need to leave room in this world for the unexplainable and the truly magical.

Community

While on the Playa, (it doesn’t always hold up when they are off), burners are some of the finest and most amazing individuals I’ve ever met.  On the trail, (it doesn’t always hold up when they are off), thru-hikers and AT hikers in general, are some of the finest and most amazing individuals I have ever met.  The funny thing, is that there is little overlap between these two communities, likely due to the AT having an East Coast focus and Burning Man happening on the West Coast.

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Just your basic fire breathing land octopus art car

The commonality here though is easy to define, burners and hikers are risk takers, adventurers, and samplers of life.  These are folks who are willing to turn their lives upside down for a chance to experience something new, unusual or magnificent.  Basically we’re weird, we don’t think like folks in the default world, for the most part both of these communities believe the standard script of American life – high school, college, job, car, marriage, kids, retirement and death – is not what defines how their lives will proceed.

Another thing about these two communities that I love.  There is a fierce loyalty and protectionism that exists in these communities.  Both the AT and the Burning Man festival have shockingly low instances of serious crime.  We watch out for each other, take care of each other, love each other.  People are often shocked that people start a thru-hike alone, particular that single women start alone.  They are shocked because they don’t understand our community, we are family on the trail, you don’t always like everyone in your family, but you’ll be damned if anyone is going to do them harm.  The Burning Man community has much the same feel to it.

Playa/Trail Names

One of the most basic similarities between the AT and Burning Man our how we refer to ourselves.  Burners have Playa names, hikers have trail names.  The great thing about these names are they provide an opportunity for people to reinvent themselves, to be present, be social and yet be masked behind this new identity.  Are you someone who is always been shy, well on the trail or the Playa your name might be Social Butterfly.  You can be a completely new person in both places and I think this is incredibly freeing for many folks.  Of course you can also get named by the community in either place but this also serves and a badge of inclusion into the community, an opportunity to always have a conversation starter about how you got your name.  The list of names at both events is as varied as you can possibly imagine and probably a bit more varied than that.

The original AARP group after their climb out of the NOC

The original AARP group after their climb out of the NOC

So that this piece doesn’t get massively long I’ll stop here, but there are lots of other similarities, the isolation and wild nature of the environment for both, costuming – a burner on his/her way to Burning Man is just as easy to spot as a thru-hiker in town for resupply.  Spontaneous group formation whether it’s the People United for Nothing (PUN) at Burning Man, or the AARP group on the trial.  Both groups are viewed as a bit nuts by the public, the media is a bit fascinated with both groups, both thru-hiking and Burning Man are massively misunderstood by the public.  Both populations are groups of massively happy people, that alone makes them special and why participating in both has provided me with many happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is your Authentic Self

Happiness is your Authentic Self

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Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable, be honest and transparent anyway ~ Mother Teresa

 

As I have recently mentioned I spent a week at Burning Man a couple of weeks ago, my 6th or 7th time celebrating in the desert.  There are many things that I really love about Burning Man, the opportunity to relax, the hugs, the kindness and most of all the opportunity to truly be myself.  Now the goal of course is to always be your authentic self at all times, but unfortunately not all of us are there yet.

I have many times explained this idea to others who have never attended the festival.  You see at Burning Man you are never the weirdest person, ever, look in a circle at any moment and you will always find someone weirder than yourself.  Also, given that so many people are expressing their desires, fantasies and true selves, people have a tendency not to be as judgmental as they normally are in the default world.  As such, people are able to be who they want to be, who they truly are.  You would be amazed at the pressure that takes off of you.

Every day, in so many ways we put on pretenses, these masks that we wear take effort.  Like tiny little lies we must keep them straight in our heads, and this process of masking takes its toll in stress.  Being yourself, once you have come to truly accept and love your authentic self, allows you to live honestly and less stressfully.  You see, you no longer are concerned what others think, so the only person whose opinion matters is your own.  If you love yourself, your true self, than the stress is gone and it becomes much easier to have happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

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The World is Awful, Be Happy Anyway

The World is Awful, Be Happy Anyway

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If you’re a regular reader of this blog, you know that each Sunday night I try to post a new blog.  Most weeks it comes pretty easy, something hits me and it marinates for a bit and on Sunday night I put it into words.  Hopefully it’s something that provides a little insight to me about my happiness and helps you with yours.  Some Sundays it just doesn’t come and today was one of those days.  So I did what I normally do when the ideas aren’t flowing and I put on my headphones and listened to some music.  Getting fully engrossed in music that I really like has a way of shutting the wheels down for a bit and letting my subconscious go to work.  Tonight, it was a little bit of Yes, there music is so complex that it’s really easily to get lost in what their doing while simultaneously enjoying it.  I didn’t think it had worked for me this time, I had a little dinner, some homemade soup and a little corn on the cob. I was then scanning the web and Facebook and was getting bombarded with the standard unfortunate blast of negativity that both can provide.

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It’s easy to get lost in all of the awfulness the world has to offer, war, famine, climate change and perhaps the worst of all, politics.  People are more often than we would like fairly awful to each other.  I think I know where a lot of this comes from, when people feel things aren’t going their way, and particularly if they feel what is happening to them is out of their control they get angry.  Then, they lash out at others.  It’s an unfortunate situation but one we all see too often.

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So the world can be awful, but we don’t have to be miserable.  We don’t have to give in to the negativity that others throw at us.  We don’t have to wallow in the bad news in our social media feeds, or the lead stories in the news put before us.  You see for every negativity news story, for every person lashing out, for every unfortunate situation there is a counter point.  The world, I truly believe seeks balance, so for every negative there is a positive.  For every person who cut you off in traffic there is someone who holds a door open for you.  For every negative news story there’s a story about a cute pet or a baby laughing or some kid doing something amazing.  For every war there is a country making progress, a charity doing good things for people.  For every bit of ugliness, there is beauty in the world and often all you have to do is look around.

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So given the balance, it’s really up to us as to which one we focus on.  When we’re feeling bad, or we’re tired or out of sorts for any reason it becomes easier to focus on the negative.  You don’t have to do that, make a conscious decision to focus on the good stuff, the positive news, the beauty in the world.  Take the time you need to relax and take care of yourself.  The world might be awful, but it’s also wonderful and it’s up to you which one you choose to focus on, and whether or not you have a happy day my friend. ~ Rev Kane

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