Happiness & Human Kindness

Happines s & Human Kindness

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If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway. ~ quote often attributed to Mother Teresa

Hello my friends, once again the universe seems to be tapping me on the shoulder and saying, hey Rev, how about talking a little bit about human kindness.  When the universe calls it is usually best to listen.  So tonight I thought I’d take a little tour around some sites and resources related to human kindness, the one featuring the Russian dash cams is particularly wonderful.  I also tonight want to talk about my friend Ozzy.

Kindness at an emotional level is something we all manage pretty easily, the part most of us fall down on, is transitioning that emotion into action.  I continually get to see this in effect watching my friend Ozzy.  She’s a tough customer, a small business owner, a complicated person but most of all she’s all heart.  But she doesn’t stop at the emotional level and is constantly acting to help people, either on her own, through her community or through organizations she’s involved her, I admire her commitment to kindness, caring and helping others, we should all try to be a bit more like her.  If we did, we’d all have happier days my friends ~ Rev Kane

Some sites for you to explore around the concept of human kindness:

First, a link to a page showing images from Russian dash cams.  In case you didn’t know many Russians have installed dash cams for security and insurance purposes on their cars.  Usually the videos you get to see are stupid acts, funny acts or even the big meteor awhile back.  However this video uses dash cam footage to show acts of Human Kindness in Russia, it’s compelling and touching beyond belief to see these simple acts, and apparently it’s absolute hell trying to cross the road in that country.

Second, one of my friend Ozzy’s favorites, Burners without Borders, I was present when this group sprung into existence at Burning Man in order to help the victims of Hurricane Katrina, but this group has become soooo much more than that.

Couldn’t possibly do this without mentioning something called the Human Kindness Foundation.  A group that reaches out through spirituality to help people in prison.

The site Hello Human Kindness is an advertising hook for a corporation called Dignity Health, ordinarily I would direct you to a corporate entity like this one but there is some nice stuff on the site to make you feel a bit better about our species.

A piece on the personal effects of acts of human kindness.

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Happiness Resources: Inspiration & Motivation

Happiness Resources: Inspiration & Motivation

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you feel that you, too, can become great.  ~Mark Twain

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Tonight a little web round-up of resources for motivation and inspiration, hopefully they will help you have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Inspiration

From The Chopra Center for Wellbeing, their daily inspirations, I like this one a lot, The Law of Least Effort

From Zen Habits, The Little Guide to Inspiration

Thirty Incredible Places to Turn for Inspiration

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Motivation

A slide show on how to create Self Motivation

An awesome video from RSAnimations, Surprising Happiness

From our friends at Zen Habits, Top 20 Hacks – An Overview

 

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The Importance of Caring about Other People

The Importance of Caring about Other People

I have always believed that helping your fellow man is profitable in every sense, personally and bottom line. ~ Mario Puzo

 

The Loss of Common Courtesy and Kindness

So tonight I want to talk about something that has bothered me for some time.  Over my lifetime two things, that I believe are connected,  have seemed to decrease.  First, people seem to be less willing to offer the simple kindnesses of life.  What do I mean?  Well, a lot of them are contained in the image above, but the biggest one is missing, smiling.  I have become somewhat of an oddity these days in that I make eye contact.  That’s right, I’m one of those freaks who walks around not looking down at my phone or at the ground, not avoiding, but actually making eye contact with the people I encounter and THEN actually smiling at them.

When I was younger, a lot younger, this used to be far more common.  People actually made eye contact, returned smiles, heck, some even asked you how your day was going.    And not in a cursory sort of way, but actually wanted an answer.  This however has become actually weird, and I realized this in all places, Cedar City, Utah.  Around ten years ago I spent some time living in Utah, near Panguitch but very much out of the way.  The nearest large city was a town called Cedar City.  So needing supplies for the several months I’d be there, I headed over to Walmart in Cedar City.  I parked my car and began walking toward the store.  I was passing a family and said hello, and they said hello, how are you?  Then they stopped and were actually waiting for an answer.  It utterly and completely threw me off.  I ended up having a couple of minute conversation with them and then moved on.  Passed another person and the same thing happened, again and again.  It was the norm in this area that people wanted actual connection, even with strangers.  The fact it felt so weird and rare brought me to the sad realization that we’ve lost something in our society.  Something good that I actually really came to appreciate living there.

The second thing that seems to have decreased is the ability for people to realize there are any other people on earth, or maybe just that they matter.  We see this mostly wherever lines form.  People will cut into lines without ever noticing they exist.  This happens almost every single time I get into a self-checkout line at a store.  If there is the tiniest gap between the line and the registers, someone just walks passed the line and attempts to go right to the registers.  When someone says something, they always claim to never have seen the line.  And they either didn’t, or decided to ignore it.  Think about this, a fellow human either was so self-absorbed they didn’t see several other humans waiting in line, or decided they were entitled to be in front of them.

This problem has gotten bad, we see it all of the time.  People seem to have come to expect that they alone are the priority in the world, that they are entitled to be served first, get in front of you in traffic, to drive where and when they want without considering the pesky reality that other people are driving there.  It extends to people often not being remotely concerned with how their actions impact others, because their actions are all that matters.  Let me tell you a story from yesterday.

Parking Lot Madness

I was in a store lot getting ready to leave and there was a car in front of me who saw someone heading for their car up ahead.  This is a parking lot with one-way traffic lanes.  Now this family heading into their car had a cart full of groceries and three kids, so it would be a couple of minutes before they’d be ready to pull out.  I was fine with someone waiting for their spot, I just wanted to get through and around so I could go find my own spot.  So I started to pull around the waiting car which then maneuvered to block me from going past.  I leaned out my window and yelled, “I don’t want your parking spot.”  They then pulled ahead and let me by.  I was completely unsurprised by this because of what I saw when I entered the lot.

A lady was driving down one of the lanes heading toward the store, she saw a vehicle with it’s hatchback opened and decided she would take their spot, so she put on her directional and stopped.  She also carefully was positioned so no one could pass her and scoop “her” spot.   As I was walking by I noticed her with a car waiting behind her.  Then I looked at the car she was waiting on.  It was two parents a toddler and a baby.  Dad was attempting to wrestle the toddler into a car seat.  The mom was changing the baby’s diaper.  Their full cart of groceries was sitting next to the car.  So for those of you with kids you know how far from leaving this parking spot these parents were.  The woman waiting was undaunted, she just sat there and out of curiosity I sat on a cart stand to watch.  As she was sitting there, cars began lining up behind her.  Each person who entered that lane didn’t anticipate traffic not moving and so they stacked up.  And she sat there.  And the cars were back all the way back to the entry point of the lane.  And she sat there.  People started honking their horns, and she sat there.  So now, no one can move forward and during this time people leaving the store, loading their cars can’t pull out.  This woman has like a dozen car fulls of people completely immobilized.

The mom changing the diaper was apparently dealing with a mess given the way she was holding the offending diaper when done.  She held it like a small bag of nuclear waste as she searched for a garbage can in the lot.  And the lady in the car sat there.  They got the baby into the car and started unloading the groceries from the cart into the car.  And she sat there with horns blaring behind her.  Finally, and all total this took almost ten minutes, the car with the baby pulled out and the woman pulled into “her” spot.  People driving by were furious, several making hand gestures, others saying “hello.”  She emerged from her car thoroughly unaffected by the whole affair.

We see this sort of behavior far too often these days.  Yes, people are also increasingly impatient, but this is exacerbated by the self-absorbed behavior of others who seem to have no situational awareness and are oblivious or uncaring about how their behavior impacts others.

So how should we react to this reality in order to retain our own happiness? Let’s Pay Kindness Forward!

We really have two ways we can react to a world that operates like this.  We can get angry, or we can be assertive.  Getting angry obviously kicks up our own stress levels and can turn an annoying instance into a bad one, or even unfortunately a tragedy.  So anger as a solution is not the way to go, although it happens to all of us from time to time.  The second is to be assertive.  The way I handled the guy who cut me off from “his” parking spot, or by mentioning to the person that is cutting the line that there is one.  These solve the issue, reduce annoyance for you and others and don’t escalate things.

But I also want to think bigger.  While it’s important in our day to day lives to reduce our own stress levels and things that decrease our happiness, what we really need to do is to change our culture.  We can all contribute to this in small ways everyday with small kindnesses in the hopes that others will replicate or pay forward these kindnesses.  So let’s give it a run, let’s hold that door, show that smile, let that person into traffic and heck maybe even say how are you, and actually wait for an answer.  None of this needs to happen at a level that will take more than a minute or so out of your day.  And just think, if everyone did a couple of things for a couple of people each day.  And if those who received it passed on this kindness to someone else, it really wouldn’t take that long for us to have a kinder, gentler and most important happier world in which we could all have happier days my friends.  Give it a try.  ~ Rev Kane

 

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It will be okay

It will be okay

lake fall photographyEven the darkest night will end and the sun will rise again. ~ Victor Hugo

Good evening friends, I have to be honest I’m not feeling it tonight.  As much as I talk and write about happiness and work/life balance, even I fall-down sometimes.  My work life has changed significantly since our college closed the campus in March as a result of COVID 19.  Essentially, for the last 10 weeks at work I have face sequential two week deadlines, one is met just in time to start working on the next.  It has meant for most of that time working nights and weekends pretty much without a break.  And yes, I understand I’m so much better off than people out of work.  I have a family member who will find out tomorrow if they still have a job.  So I do get it.  But the reality is, with no expectation that this lets up for another 4-6 weeks, I am completely fried.  This weekend has really shown me how beat down I am.  I have a major project that is due this week and I just haven’t been able to muster more than an hour of work at a time.  I’ve too often this weekend found myself falling into my chair and staring at the TV.  I know a lot of us are in this space right now.  Between COVID 19, horrible economic numbers, protests and having our lives flipped upside down, a lot of us are just burned out.

I have a well-meaning boss, she keeps telling me to take time off.  Unfortunately right now that’s not an option because there is simply no one else to pick up the slack and do the things I’m doing right now.  So where that advice is normally welcoming, at this point, it’s a bit infuriating.

The message I want to send tonight, and I realize I’m not doing this gracefully or artfully in any way, is that things will get better.  They will, it will take time and I realize that if you’re in the space I am right now, that’s not all that comforting.  I wish I had more for you tonight, I really do.  I wish I could give you a date when life would find some normalcy again,  I wish I could tell you when the economy will turn around, when your kids will go back to school, or even when you’ll get your job back.  I can’t.  But I do know that eventually we will find some normalcy, we’ll adapt, things will be okay.

So do you’re best to breathe, to find a moment to just be, time to be kind to others and ways to laugh.  Be well my friends and try to have a happy day.  ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is Poetry: Pablo Neruda

Happiness is Poetry: Pablo Neruda

neruda happiness poetryTo do the useful thing, to say the courageous thing, to contemplate the beautiful thing: that is enough for one man’s life ~ T S Eliot

Tonight my favorite romantic poet, I’ve never read anyone who can talk about love as beautifully as Pablo Neruda.  So have a read and think about the one you love and have a very happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

If you forget me

I want you to know
one thing.

You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon, at the red branch
of the slow autumn at my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
that sail
toward those isles of yours that wait for me.

Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you.

If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners
that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
remember
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.

But
if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine.

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I do not love except because I love you

I do not love you except because I love you;
I go from loving to not loving you,
From waiting to not waiting for you
My heart moves from cold to fire.

I love you only because it’s you the one I love;
I hate you deeply, and hating you
Bend to you, and the measure of my changing love for you
Is that I do not see you but love you blindly.

Maybe January light will consume
My heart with its cruel
Ray, stealing my key to true calm.

In this part of the story I am the one who
Dies, the only one, and I will die of love because I love you,
Because I love you, Love, in fire and blood.

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Don’t go far off

Don’t go far off, not even for a day, because —
because — I don’t know how to say it: a day is long
and I will be waiting for you, as in an empty station
when the trains are parked off somewhere else, asleep.

Don’t leave me, even for an hour, because
then the little drops of anguish will all run together,
the smoke that roams looking for a home will drift
into me, choking my lost heart.

Oh, may your silhouette never dissolve on the beach;
may your eyelids never flutter into the empty distance.
Don’t leave me for a second, my dearest,

because in that moment you’ll have gone so far
I’ll wander mazily over all the earth, asking,
Will you come back? Will you leave me here, dying?

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Happiness is Doing the Best You Can

Happiness is Doing the Best You Can

Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier. ~ Mother Teresa

happinessHello my friends, tonight I’ve been sitting around thinking about life, not having a particularly good day but something raised a smile for me a little bit ago. You know that got me to thinking about life in general and about how much our attitudes really mean almost everything. You see I did not grow up well-off and in a place where I witnessed a lot of people who were even worse off than I was. I’ve also had the advantage of traveling around the world, not only to the nice touristy places on the planet, but also to developing countries were people often have nothing or next to nothing.

You would think that automatically that would mean that in these places people would be unhappy, or selfish given the things they are lacking. However, I have often found exactly the opposite, there is plenty of happiness, gratitude and generosity in these communities. This isn’t to say things are rosy, hell these are people with little food, money or many of the things we would consider necessary for a decent life much less luxury. However, I’ve spent wonderful happy nights in their company, I have spent many hours laughing with people who had little and didn’t even speak the same language.

The lesson I have learned from them is that in order to be happy you have to make the best of what you have. It doesn’t matter if you have money, or the job you want or the person you want to be with because you have your life. Whatever life you have, whatever situation you are in there is something to be happy about even if it just the sound of the wind through the trees, puffy white clouds plunging across a powder blue sky, or the sound of rain on the roof. It’s all a matter of what you decide to be in any given moment.

So today my friends, wherever you are, whatever is happening make the choice to be happy, just for a moment, then for the next and the next. Soon, once you’ve strung together moments they become minutes, hours and eventually a happy day my friends      ~ Rev Kane

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Remembering the Appalachian Trail

Remembering the Appalachian Trail

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Awesome, Backtrack, Rev Kan, and the Kingfisher

If you face the rest of your life with the spirit you show on the trail, it will have no choice but to yield the same kind of memories and dreams.
Adrienne Hall, A Journey North: One Woman’s Story of Hiking the Appalachian Trail

So it’s that time of year, when all former Appalachian Trail hikers start to get homesick for the trail.  Most of us started in March and it was mid January when it started to feel real.  Leading into that final frantic rush of getting all of the last things done, when all of the butterflies started flapping around in my stomach.  Where each night as you went to sleep you were counting down the days and running through checklists in your head.  Even with all of that obsessing it was only two weeks before I left that I realized I had sleeping bags equal to the weather for the whole trip, except the first month and frantically ordered one.  Only, to send it home two weeks in and swap it out for a more appropriate bag.

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A magical spot on the Appalachian Trail

I not only know in my gut when this time of year hits, I can see it in my blog traffic.  Suddenly my AT resource page and AT posts start to pick up hits.  You see in addition to everything else as you embark on a thru-hike you start reading everything you can get your hands on.  God I miss that manic planning, the nerves, the edge of excitement right before starting.  For my thru-hike attempt in 2014 I was excited and absolutely terrified.  I was excited for the attempt, terrified it would go horribly wrong, fearful that my lack of long-distance hiking experience would show me out to be a fraud.  There were moments that justified all of those feelings.  There was an amazing and wonderful day that I was referred to as a troll sitting on a bridge, there was the day it did go horribly wrong when I blew out my knee and there was a night early on when after setting up my hammock and sat down then immediately did a full backflip and landed on my ass in front of four other hikers.

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White Blazes make me happy

The thing I really didn’t expect about hiking the Appalachian Trail was the amazing people.  The trail community was absolutely magnificent.  Not just the hikers, they were fantastic and I added more lifelong friends from that hike in three months than from any other single activity or time in my life.  But the community around the trail, the volunteers, the people who fed us and took us in, trail angels they are called for good reason.  These people were utterly amazing in every way.  They restored some of my hope in humanity through their giving and kindness.

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Overmountain Shelter on the Appalachian Trail

I miss the trail, those people, the process and the challenge, it was one of the best times of my life and it led to me writing my book Appalachian Trail Happiness and so many blog posts, click here to find a list of some of the best ones.

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Rev Kane on the Appalachian Trail at the Tennessee border.

So what should this post tonight mean for you.  It’s a simple thing really, everything I’ve written about tonight was the culmination of dreams and desires put into action.  So whatever it is my friends, however improbable, however old you are, do it.  Take your dreams, decide to pursue them, plan like hell and then put them into action.  Trust me, it’s worth the risk and the fear and will produce some of your happiest days my friends.           ~ Rev Kane

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We Hear You, We See You, We Love You

We Hear You, We See You, We Love You

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Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others ~ Jonathan Swift

The image above was taken in the courtyard of the Temple of Grace this year at Burning Man. Over the next couple of weeks I’ll being doing some posts inspired by things I saw and read at the temple. I love these signs, utter simplicity and massive impact. These signs remind me of one of the things I really liked in the movie Avatar, the Na’vis in the movie didn’t see hello, they greeted each other by saying I see you. This is a powerful difference in that hello is an acknowledgment of your presence, however I see you is an acknowledgment of your person. That’s how these signs impact me, a simple way to tell people we acknowledge your person, that you’re valuable, not alone and most of all, you’re accepted. It’s not surprising that here at the Church of Abnormal Acceptance’s Ministry of Happiness, we’re on board with this.

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People’s Climate March in NYC, Sept. – 2014

To take a little bit of a left turn with this idea, I heard some criticism recently of the climate march in New York City recently. The criticism went something like this, if this is such a serious issue, why does that march look like a festival or a big party. The answer is pretty simple really, people feel alone a lot of the time. Not just physically alone but mentally and spiritually alone, even alone with their ideas. So here was an opportunity to not feel alone, to feel that your thoughts, ideas and even values were accepted and shared. As such, you as a person could feel accepted and shared and that absolutely creates a sense of happiness, joy and festivity. So I get why the demonstrators seemed happy and festive.

My friends this piece is a reminder, this blog comes from the Ministry of Happiness, a ministry of the Church of Abnormal Acceptance. As such, we hear you, we see you, we love you and maybe even more importantly, we accept you and hopefully that will help you have a happy day ~ Rev Kane

 

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Remember, We All Want to be Happy

Remember, We All Want to be Happy

01Peace cannot be kept by force, it can only be achieved by understanding.       ~ Albert Einstein

I don’t normally do politically oriented posts on this blog and this will likely be a one time thing, there is more than enough political turmoil on social media to occupy all of our time and give us plenty of anxiety.  When I think of politics and political discussions I start thinking of happiness.  However, there is a lot of political strife and division in my country right now.  It unfortunately seems to be bringing out both the best and the worst in my fellow Americans.

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I know the language is harsh but I have to agree with the sentiment

I had an interaction on Facebook  the other day.  I saw a post from someone who referred to all Iranians as Neanderthals, I objected to this comment. Someone else then piled on explaining it applied to all Muslims, not just Iranians. Likely, neither of these individuals had ever been to Iran or any Muslim country.  I wonder how many, or if, they have Muslim friends or even know any Muslims.  It is unfortunate our President and others with a large media reach, Bill Maher for example, keep spreading propaganda related to Muslims and Islam. It’s sad really, and utterly divisive, it gives tacit permission to bigots to spew their hate.

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My friend Hevs with Saudi Arabia in the background

One of the things I advocate for a lot on this site is travel.  Generally, it is for the purpose of making you happier by broadening your experience, stretching you and getting you out of your normal life in the default world.  There is a secondary benefit, one that I don’t talk about as much, a detail really to the idea of broadening your experience.

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With my new Bedouin friend Noel in Petra, Jordan

When you travel, particularly to other  countries/cultures you get to see the world from a different perspective.  You get to see your home country through other people’s eyes.  You see that people in other places have the same day-to-day concerns that you and I do.  You see that parents love their children everywhere, that the sounds of kids playing and laughing is universal.  You learn that a smile is a smile in every language.

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Sherpa Mother and Child I met in Nepal

My hope is that Muslims in the United States and overseas see the outpouring of support Americans are showing at airport protests around the country. Our governments may be bad actors, but people are people. We all love our families, we all work to keep food on the table, we all wish we had more say and control over what our government does. Most Americans understand that Islam is not our enemy, that every religion and every country has bad actors who make their countries and religions look violent and unloving.

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Rev Kane making friends in Nepal

My hope for the people in my country is that no matter how anxious we get, no matter how divisive our politics, we remember that deep down we are all brothers and sisters.  All human beings with the same wants, needs and desires.  Please remember my friends no matter your politics, religion or nationality, we all want to be happy, so let’s treat each other with kindness, compassion and express gratitude for the good in this world. Then we can all have happier days. ~ Rev Kane

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My COVID Times Diary – the highs and lows

My COVID Times Diarythe highs and lows

5/31/2020

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Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity. ~ Paulo Coehlo

Well I think we’re at week 10 of our shelter in place, work from home reality.  Things are certainly starting to change.  Here in California yesterday, there were 53 deaths, 46 of those deaths occurred in Southern California in LA or Orange County. The infection is certainly on the downslope here in Northern California.  People are tired of the limitations, of working from home, of being in their homes a lot.  They in general don’t like the idea of wearing a mask and taking precautions.  Where required, people are being compliant enough.

But we find ourselves at an interesting crossroads here in the United States of America.  The fact is our economy has not show itself to be particularly resilient and our government has been unable or unwilling to provide support at a level that would allow the shelter in place to continue without significantly hurting the economy.  The pain of the economic crash is growing and so we move forward with “opening” our economy.  What this really means is that we will remove the restrictions that we have in place for safety, in order to increase spending to support the economy.

This of course has significant risks.  As we have seen in China and other places that the reduction in this health and safety protections inevitably leads to additional infections.  it just makes sense, if more people interact with each other, a disease that spreads best by face to face contact is going to be more successful if there’s more face to face contact.  Now this does not have to be a catastrophe.  If people follow the proper protocols, including maintaining social distancing, wearing masks, limiting group sizes and avoiding unprotected sustained face to face contact, and washing their hands then sure there will be some minor outbreaks, but those should be able to be handled.  Pair this with increased testing ability, quarantine policies and effective contact tracing and we’ve likely arrived at a safe new normal.  Assuming all of those pieces are in place.

The High

So let’s be optimistic first, let’s take the position of the, this is no big deal crowd.  Let’s say that the infection has burned itself out enough in places like New York and San Francisco and we can effectively ease restrictions without significant outbreaks.  That sounds really amazing, it leads to thoughts of dinners out with friends.  Of rebooking the trip I cancelled in March to Las Vegas and returning to throw some dice at the craps table.  We can dream that places like LA and Houston are just a few weeks behind other cities and similarly they’ll be fine in a few weeks as well.

This sounds so inviting, reopening schools with some sense of normalcy in August.  Full plane flights as people move around the country to vacation.  Hotels re-opening, attractions re-opening, life, as we knew it, almost the way it was with few inconveniences.  Those of you dreaming this are not alone, Las Vegas and Reno are re-opening June 4th, Notre Dame University is opening for face to face classes on campus in August.  In Florida, Walt Disney will open in July, but if you can’t wait, Seaworld in Orlando will be open in June.  Heck I bet we can even reschedule high school graduations and proms for some time in the summer.

It’s a lovely vision that I would love if it held up.  It would mean that I could consider booking my trip to Australia to hike the Overland Track in Tasmania.  But is it realistic?

The Low

So, maybe our fantasy above doesn’t pan out.  And I’ll put in a little trigger warning right now.  If you’re someone who is totally freaked out by the whole COVID reality don’t read the rest of this, it will not help your anxiety.

I’m going to start with an image.

covid times, social distancingThis was a place called Lake of the Ozarks on Memorial Day weekend, as soon as the place was open.  The same thing happened in bars in Wisconsin within hours of restrictions being lifted.  In the picture there are no masks, no six foot distancing going on at all.  People in this country feel entitled to do what they want and don’t care about the rules in place.  So much so, that they actually get violent at times when asked to do what’s best for society.  Here are two examples.  A woman in Michigan was told that her and her child needed to wear a mask in order to enter a store.  A little while later her husband and son returned to shoot the security guard who was enforcing the rule.  In Oklahoma, two women angry that their McDonalds wasn’t offering dine-in service like other restaurants shot teenagers working there.  I watch people even here in liberal California, mostly only wearing masks when they know they won’t get what they want without wearing one.  Meaning at work, grocery stores and while getting take out.  But even then, I see some people wearing the mask over their mouth but not their nose.  I see people handling and putting products back on the shelf, and walking right up next to others with no consideration for the potential risk.  Americans are acting like Americans and refuse to let anyone tell them what to do, even if it’s for their own good.

covid times, AmericaSo what does this American attitude and re-opening of our economy mean in light of this?  Well it means more infections and more death.  When we add into all of this the recent protests, first by people opposing shelter in place restrictions and secondly the social justice protests after the killing of George Floyd and you just have more and more opportunities for the virus to spread.  Include the increased contact from people being together in restaurants, gyms and salons and it all screams second wave.  Ok, we all expected a second wave, so what’s the big deal?  Well, lets compare COVID 19 to the last time we had a novel virus creating a global pandemic, the 1918 Spanish flu.  Which in fact, killed far more people in 1919 during its second wave, than it did in it’s first wave.

spanish flu, covid timesAnd keep in mind, as the graph above shows, there was also a third wave of the virus.  All of this took place over a roughly two-year period.  Now, there are differences between the two pandemics.  The 1918 flue was far more deadly, our medical systems were not as good, and we know far more about viruses now than we did then.  Which is one reason why not as many people are dying during this pandemic.  But it’s not the numbers I want you to look at in this graph, it’s the pattern.  Sure, the 1918 virus mutated to become more virulent during its second wave, so the spike from COVID might not be so extreme, but it is almost certainly coming.  Given what I’ve discussed above I would say the chances are very, very good it comes again in the next few months, further exacerbated by the normal factors around flu season and flu season itself.

So what we are looking at on the low side of this discussion is a second wave of COVID, along with a long-term recession/depression.  We are already at nearly 15% unemployment rate as of the end of April, with continuing increased numbers through May.  Airlines and other industry have been discussing additional layoffs as a result of the pandemic, so things are likely to get worse before they get better.  Even with the opening of the economy, it will not spring back like a rubber band without extreme consumer confidence that they are safe, and I know few people right now who feel safe.

So right now in America, we have an pandemic that has killed over 100,000 people in effectively three months, the worst unemployment rate since the great depression and the specter of a second and possibly worse wave of COVID looming in our immediate future.  The big question is, what is America’s breaking point?  With food distributions serving hundreds and thousands of families running out of food in a couple of hours, with unemployment climbing and riots in the street, at what point is any of this too much.  I would say we’re resilient enough to handle what we’re facing right now.  But were there to be one more major stressor, it might be too much.  So let’s hope and pray that fire season isn’t too terrible, that the big one doesn’t hit the New Madris or San Andreas faults, that the Yellowstone Super Volcano doesn’t blow or a meteor doesn’t slam into the planet.  Not very uplifting I realize and the fact is that reality will likely be somewhere between the fantasy high or the most depressing low.  But this is where my head is tonight and as I’ve stated in each of these pieces.  I’m writing this mostly for posterity, a diary of where my thoughts were at during the pandemic.  ~ Michael ‘Rev’ Kane

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