Happiness is Eating Healthy

Happiness is Eating Healthy

One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well ~ Virginia Woolf

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Hello my friends, so a new year has started and many of us have resolved to make some changes in the coming new year.  We are addressing each of top ten resolutions and hopefully helping you be more successful.  Tonight, we talk about a very popular resolution, eating better in the new year.

For me happiness really is food and I carry the extra weight to prove it.  The thing is when you are overweight people automatically assume you eat poorly, with me that is not true.  I eat healthily; I just eat way too much healthy food and am working personally to eat more reasonably this year.  When we talk about eating healthy you can address this in a lot of ways; we could talk about low-fat or low-carb, cutting calories, eating less processed food or even going meatless.  However I think this discussion can be addressed in another way that allows us to eat in a much more interesting fashion as well as eating more healthily.

I’m fortunate to live in California where we have multiple growing seasons and as such can get good, fresh food year round.  Even now in January I have lettuce, broccoli, spinach, radishes, carrots and cabbage growing in my outdoor garden.  So I do understand some of the recommendations I will make are easier to achieve in some places than others.

The two goals I have been pursuing over the last year and the recommendations I would make to you to eat more healthily would be to eat more locally and more seasonally.  Eating more locally doesn’t mean you can’t ever eat a banana, I think one of the upsides of globalization is that even in Maine, you can get a banana year-round.  Militancy is never a good solution, not even when it comes to diet.  Eating locally means to focus on what can be found locally, going to the farmer’s market instead of the grocery store and perusing what’s available and even better shopping at those roadside farm stands.  Find a local butcher who specializes in local meats, you will be surprised how many are actually out there and how affordable there meat often is, and even if it’s a little pricey it’s worth it for the peace of mind you get knowing it’s fresh.  Better yet have friends who hunt and fish, do some of that yourself or trade them for some of their local meat and fish.  There are a lot of benefits to eating locally, for me it really comes down to fresher, better tasting food that also supports my local economy.

Eating seasonally sounds like a giant pain in the butt.  However eating seasonally turns out to be a lot easier than you think, as well as being a heck of a lot fun.  Again, moderation is the key; I’m not suggesting you eat nothing but root vegetables and meat in Minnesota this winter.  However taking a look at local farms and see what they are doing, I know some farms have starting expanding their growing seasons with hoop houses and greenhouses, meaning you can get seasonal vegetables for a much larger part of the year than in the past.  One of the best examples I can give you as to how to do this comes from a friend I’ve made over the last couple of years.  Joanne Neft has written a cookbook with a chef that provides recipes for eating locally and seasonally.  Essentially, she attended the farmer’s market each week year round and created recipes based on what was available that week.  The cookbook, Placer County Real Food is amazing and the recipes are fantastic.  Think how much fun you could have doing a similar exercise each week where you live.  A great way to eat and a great way to have a happy day my friends        ~ Rev Kane

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A Lazy Sunday Night Post

A Lazy Sunday Night Post

lazy, happinessI like to be lazy. I do like to be busy and really active, but when that’s done, you can be sure I will be a lazy boy. I like to take time and relax and enjoy life. ~ Olivier Theyskens

So tonight, first a little bit of loveliness from a friend.  Recently my friend Kurt sent me the YouTube video put together by his father and some friends.  A beautiful combination of music and photography.  A little bit of sensory happiness.  In addition a series of really amazing nature photos I found online.

Other Happiness Image Posts You Might Enjoy!

Happiness Images and Sayings

Happy Images

The Himalayas

Scotland

My Polar Bear Adventure

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Happiness & Living

Happiness & Living

The function of a man is to live, not to exist ~ Jack London

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Rev Kane fully living in the Himalayan Mountains

I love this Jack London quote, I think it focuses on the most important concept to developing your own personal happiness.  We have one life, one gift of an existence, on chance to be alive, to do anything else but LIVE this life is a crime and it in some ways dishonors those who have lost this opportunity too soon.  I know often in life it seems like we have no options, nothing we can do but to continue existing the way we so often do.  Get up, go to work, deal with our family obligations, rinse and repeat, it can continue on like this for years. It doesn’t have to be this way, and tonight, I’m talking at least as much to myself as I am to you my friends.

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Rev Kane going native in the Scottish Highlands

Growing up I watched a lot of people around me work jobs that they did not love, in fact, at times, jobs they didn’t even like, sometimes jobs they even hated.  They did this for some good reasons, some bad.  They did it to support their families, to provide a better life for the people they loved, that was the good reason.  They also did what they did because they didn’t think they had any other options, the bad reason.  Now I get that there are times when people truly don’t have options, I get the idea of responsibility, of poverty.  But those times are truly rare and even when it really seems like we don’t have options, we do, or more importantly we will.  As a result of this experience, when I got older and completed my first graduate degree I promised myself I would never work a job I didn’t like, understanding the price on my soul would be too high.

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Rev Kane scaling the castle gates in Ireland

It is up to us my friends, to start, you can plan, you can take it one step at a time, you can begin, or even begin to begin if that is all you have in you at the moment.  But living is essential, and mindfully living at that.  It is imperative that we are present in the moments of our lives because they are precious and fleeting.  Whether it is being at work, at play, spending time with your children and family, even laughing or crying with your friends, be present at all times.  I wrote about this earlier this year in a post on Mindfulness as a way to Happiness, centering on the ideas of Thich Nhat Hahn.  Mindfulness can be that beginning or the beginning of the beginning.

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Rev Kane in his first year at Burning Man

Recently, I sat at a fork in the road as many of us do at many points in our life.   In a very real way I had to decide between money, comfort and security and truly living.  Comfort and security at the price of existing in my work life, something I promised not to do.  Given that promise and my deep understanding of the dilemma of existing versus living, it was still a hard decision.  Having grown up at times when money was tight, or even more than tight, being in financial difficulty stresses me out like nothing else.  It takes away my ability to help and support my family as well, so giving up that security to more fully engage in my life is always a difficult decision.

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Rev Kane making friends in Nepal

I do well my friends at living as fully as I can and hope through this ministry to help you do the same.  However we work 2080 hours a year minus vacations, plus all the extra hours answering e-mails and attending functions.  To not do work that you love, that is part of living, is an unfulfilling path even if it pays well.  So the decision I needed to make was hard and as I have been told so often in my life, no one said this thing called life would be easy; wonderful, exciting, exasperating, unpredictable, but never fair or easy.

As regular readers know the choice I made was to quit my job, sell my house and hit the road, it hasn’t all gone smooth recently but I’m still on track to hit the Appalachian Trail at the end of this month.

Remember, we need to get up every day and not just exist and go through the motions but truly live and make every day a happy day my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness Resources

Happiness Resources – 9/25/13

A little tour around the web tonight to bring you some resources to help you have a happier day ~ Rev Kane

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 9 simple steps to happiness – a nice piece from CNN on how to increase your happiness in a practical way.

A deeper longer look at the meaning of life and happiness , a really great piece

A companion to this piece from the Ministry of Happiness, one of my favorite posts, Remember the Sweet Things.

An interesting piece on happiness research by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky

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Happiness is Burning Man: Coming Home

Happiness is Burning Man: Coming Home

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Sunset at Burning Man

Happiness comes from…some curious adjustment to life ~ Hugh Walpole

I wrote the piece below five years ago for a former blog of mine.  It’s about the depression many of us suffer when we return from Burning Man, back to the default world.  Day 1 fully back in the default world was a little hard.  We’ll see what day 2 has in store tomorrow.  Have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

Burning Man Disconnection

For those of you who have been to Burning Man this post will ring for you, for those of you who haven’t been, maybe it will provide some further insight into why we go.  Below is a link to the primary site to get you some background if you want it:

Burningman.org

To most people Burning Man is a freaky pagan bacchanal in the desert, ok there are elements, and a portion of the population maybe there for nothing more than the party, but for a lot of us there’s a lot more.  Burners as we refer to ourselves come to the playa for a lot of reasons, the party, the art, an unmatched experiential week, to reconnect with distant friends, to find and/or be ourselves and for me more than anything else to get completely out of my “default world” life for a week.  I’ve always liked the term “default world,” the world outside of Burning Man is the world you default to where you fall into the standard expectations of the world regardless of what your true nature tells you to be.  That is the difference on the playa (the ancient lake bed where the event takes place), you have chosen to be in this particular world and chosen who you want to be while there from what you wear, to how you act, to even what your “playa name” will be.  Many people at Burning Man take a new name, one that also is more reflective of who they are.  Again, in the default world your name was assigned and like everything else on the playa your name is a choice.

However after spending a week on the playa, in this wonderful and wacky world you have to leave and return to your default life.  For a lot of people this leads to a dip, a little depression as they return.  Particularly after their first, or “virgin” year this dip can be fairly pronounced.  There are a number of reasons why this occurs.  First of all, the spectacle of the event.  At the event you are surrounded by open and affectionate people who are truly nice to each other almost all of the time, people are happy.  Shaking hands on the playa seems weird and impersonal, on the playa almost everyone hugs.  The creativity and innovation all around you is mind shattering, from the amazing engineering that goes into creating camps, large art structures and art cars to the pure innovation and beauty of the art.  Also on the playa you are fully engaged in life, there are few guard rails at Burning Man and one of the main principles of the event is radical self-reliance, in essence you are responsible to take care of yourself, you can see the other principles below:

The 10 Principles of Burning Man’s Community

Finally, on the playa you are not judged.  As I am fond of saying, there is always a bigger freak ten feet away, even in the default world.  The difference is that at Burning Man that freak is fully on display and easily identified and because everyone is letting their own freak flag fly you don’t feel ashamed of your own.  Now think about that for a few minutes, everyday we are all concerned about what does my spouse, partner, family, friends or even strangers think about me, what I am wearing, how I dress, what I say, think about a week were no one cares and you can just be who you want to be, wear what you want to wear, act anyway you want, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else and no one will judge you for it, in fact some people might even love you for it.

The world I’ve just described is pretty special, some might say impossible, they haven’t been there, in my five years on the playa I’ve seen everything I’ve described above and more, from the impossible to the insane to the divine and I’m not even taking time to talk about playa magic, I’ll save that for a separate post.  The world I describe above is also at direct odds with the default world that we come back to, and unfortunately even burners often turn into default world jerks the second they get back into cars to head home, cutting each other off in traffic and falling into default world driving patterns.  Then as you stop at gas stations and restaurants on the way home, you get the questions, “coming from the Burning Man?”  Sometimes the questions are from interest and sometimes they ring with judgement, either way the questions make you feel separate and different.

Returning back to your life, the world seems somewhat dull and colorless, the spectacle that was your life the week before is painfully absent.  The freaks are once again all undercover and if people know you were at Burning Man they often ask questions meant to probe at how different you are, or are just plain stupid, “did the man burn early again this year, ha ha ha?”  As if the only reason we go to the playa is to watch a single burn.  All of these things conspire to isolate burners when they come back, it’s not all bad, some truly want to see your pictures and hear your stories, to live on the playa vicariously through you, but they are in the minority.

For someone like me this time can be especially hard, most of the people who I am closest to emotionally are distant geographically and so where many burners can turn to these people or local fellow burners for support and a hug, many of us are reliant on telephones and computers to feel connected because these people aren’t physically close.  However, electronics do not substitute for the huge drop off in genuine physical human contact that the playa provides and you feel like a junkie going through withdraw and the dip or depression comes.  Happily for me over the last five years changes in my life have helped me lesson these feelings and in fact I attribute my time on the playa for a lot of this growth.

I have some advice if you are in this funk and that is ride it out, don’t alter your relationships or make giant life changes at this time, it will be a temptation.  Many people suddenly dedicate their existence to the playa and Burning Man when going through this, an admirable thing to do but wait before you pull that trigger.  Just breathe and let it wash over you for a couple of weeks.  The good news in all of this is that the dip will even out, it will, I promise and then after it does, the good things that you gained from the playa, the good feelings, the memories, the connections, the introspection and the growth will still be there.  The good things you picked up on the playa last soooo much longer than the dip, so hang in there kid and we’ll see you in the dust next year, the man burns in 357 days!

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Happiness is Burning Man: After Burn Report

Happiness is Burning Man: After Burn Report

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The man at Burning Man

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. ~ Denis Waitley

So I’m back from the desert, it was a good week with good friends.  It was the hottest week in the history of Burning Man and that led to a lot of mid-day siestas.  Which it turned out was pretty nice.  It’s been a long time since I did nothing but sit in the shade, listen to music and try to stay hydrated.  We had one short but epic dust storm which a few minutes later was followed by a microburst of likely 70 miles an hour.  The burst threw a pop up into the air for at least 150 feet landing it on our shade structure, seriously crazy but happily no one was hurt.

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The world would rather hug you than hurt you

Our camp was great, we run a confessional bar and lots of fun and great confessions were heard.  I met some amazing people and I’ll be writing about two of them later this weekend.  Made some new friends, saw some amazing art and shot over 1600 photos that I’ve just started going through, so lot’s more to come.

There was also tragedy, a burner committed suicide by running into the fire as the man burned.  It’s a horrible thing, the person died, and the impact on the firefighters, law enforcement, medical staff, almost all volunteers is terrible.  People that witnessed it, friends of the burner and the community in general suffers.  With many of us experience a bit of a depression after leaving the event, this tragedy hits especially hard.  People in the default world don’t understand and make light of it, it is easy to dismiss a community of people who don’t fit in the default world, to devalue our lives, we feel this everyday and more so right after the event.  So people’s insensitive comments hit a bit hard.

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Love more Fear less

One of the reasons many of us go to Burning Man, including to myself, is to be able to spend a week where you’re not made to feel like a freak everyday for not fitting into society’s definition of normal.  It’s the reason you’re greeted at Burning Man with the phrase, welcome home.

Much more over the next week, have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness & Cynicism

Happiness & Cynicism

It is better to sit alone than in company with the bad; and it is, better still to sit with the good than alone. It is better to speak to a seeker of knowledge than to remain silent; but silence is better than idle words. ~ Mohammed

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It’s very easy in our world to become cynical, I speak from experience.  I’ve always been a very cynical person, it comes from living in a world where people let you down, with consistency.  A world where our politicians will say anything to get elected, where elected officials are more concerned with opposing the other political party than actually governing or trying to help people.   I see on TV every day advertisements from coal and oil companies talking about how much they love the environment, pretending that we can burn petroleum free of consequences.  We are bombarded on a daily basis from a hundred directions manipulated by expert advertisers whose job it is to tell us what we like, what we care about, who to vote for, what we should look like and even who the good guys and bad guys are in the world.   It makes you wonder at times if any of your thoughts are your own.

It is a quick and easy path to cynicism for those of us who think and feel.  However, as I’ve gotten older I’ve begun to see a dark futility in being so cynical.  That timeframe not so surprisingly fairly closely corresponds to the birth of the Ministry of Happiness.  In creating a happier life for myself, it seemed appropriate, maybe even necessary to share and help others; maybe it was just about having some company on the path.  Through this journey some of the cynical edge to my view has begun to dissipate and it has helped me progress toward a happier life.  Hopefully some of what we do here will help you as well, and as always, have a happy day my friends  ~ Rev Kane.

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Happiness & Judgment

Happiness & Judgment

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“People do pretty strange things when they get judged all the time”  ~ David Duchovny on Californication

It’s funny the places where inspiration comes from, I was sitting on my couch preparing to write tonight’s piece and I basically decided I didn’t have the energy or the inspiration to, so I put the laptop aside to watch a bit of TV.  I was watching Californication when a character on the show uttered the quote above and bang, just like that I had tonight’s piece.

At this point in my life, I’m perceived as someone who is fairly together, it has not always been this way.  There was a period of time in my life where I was, well, frankly, seriously screwed up.  I was a drunk, and drunk for almost two years as well as being fairly high most days, I sold pot to pay for a lot of what I was doing.  In the process, I also failed out of college and pretty much thought I had destroyed my future.  Happily I had not, I got my shit together in stages over time and I feel like I’ve done some positive good in my life, I hope this blog is part of that for some of you.

Why the line above had so much relevance for me tonight is that it was very much how I felt growing up.   Particularly when I was a teenager I felt like no matter how well I did, be it in school, sports, or anything else, no matter what I did it just wasn’t good enough.  NO matter what I was either criticized or ignored, and quite frankly the minute I could get free I cut loose.  Of course the way I cut loose was pretty crazy, drugs and alcohol changed nothing and solved nothing for me.  Just like all of those afterschool specials told us! 🙂

The real lesson in all of this is that being judgmental is destructive.  When we judge people we make them feel bad, we make them dislike themselves, we make them unhappy.  When those around us are unhappy it becomes contagious and in the end brings us all down.  Judging is a choice we make and as such we can decide to make other choices.

The first choice is to dial it back when we feel ourselves being judgmental, the next is to truly practice this behavior over and over.  The less judgmental we are, the more open we become, the happier we will be.  Remember to smile as well, just as the negative energy is contagious, so is the positive, so keep smiling and have a happy day my friends.
~ Rev Kane

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Overcoming Worry

Happiness Resources: Positivity, Kindness & Gratitude

Why I’m Happy Right Now!

A New Year & Some Questions for You

Happiness is Staying Positive

 

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Free ebook on Amazon: Appalachian Trail Happiness

Free ebook on Amazon: Appalachian Trail Happiness

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Appalachian Trail Happiness

Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing about. ~ Benjamin Franklin

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Movies make me happy: Reviews

Movies make me happy: Reviews

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The Dude in the Big Lebowski

A film is – or should be – more like music than like fiction. It should be a progression of moods and feelings. The theme, what’s behind the emotion, the meaning, all that comes later. ~ Stanley Kubrick

I absolutely love movies, even though I absolutely hate the way people behave in theaters.  It drives me crazy so I watch most of my movies at home these days.  Although, there are some films that need to be seen on the big screen, and sometimes, I miss it enough to sneak out to a matinee after a film has been out for awhile and have a good old fashioned movie experience.  Don’t even get me started on the costs!

Movies make me happy so I decided to put together a post, one I can add to from time to time to review the films I go to see at the theaters, I hope you enjoy it and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

War for the Planet of the Apes (2017)

Director – Matt Reeves

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War for the Planet of the Apes

I had heard great things about this movie and I really enjoyed the first two so I thought I would go check this out while of vacation last week.  First off, if you haven’t seen the first two films in the series go see them first, this is certainly a well-connected trilogy and I don’t think the third film would work as a stand alone, even if you know the old 70’s Planet of the Apes film.  A quick bit about the franchise.  I loved the original Planet of the Apes, I saw it as on a child on TV and absolutely fell in love with it.  Caught a couple of the follow-ons in theaters as a kid.  Loved the TV series and have watched most of those old movies on TV dozens of time.  Even got to meet Roddy McDowell and Kim Hunter in costume at a car show once in New York.

The first movie was a classic and amazing film, the rest were B-grade scifi fun films, cartoonish and goofy at times.  Tim Burton took a shot at a restart and the film was absolutely terrible caught somewhere between trying to be a good film and catch some of the magic of the old films.  It missed.  The most recent restart of the series has been a revelation, I really enjoyed the first two films and think they did a magnificent on both of them.  Things brings us to the third film, War for the Planet of the Apes.  On the surface this looks like your typical summer blow stuff up action blockbuster, it’s not! Even the good buzz around the film had me thinking it was just a really good summer blockbuster and hey, I love films like Independence Day, so what the heck.

I was deeply surprised by this movie.  Sure, there are some good action sequences, but this is a great film.  The story is excellent, flows well and introduces us to some amazing ideas and characters and has a lot to say underneath.  Matt Reeves does a wonderful job of utilizing motion capture technology and the actors are physically fantastic.  This film keeps your attention, entertains you and makes you care deeply about the characters.  Well worth the ridiculous cost of going to the movies.

Valerian

Director Luc Besson

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Valerian

I have to start discussing this film by discussing The 5th Element, one of Luc Besson’s best films.  I didn’t go to the film in the theater because it starred Milla Jovovich and she really doesn’t like me, it comes back to an incident that occurred between me and her in Knoxville while she was on tour for her “album” but that’s a story for another time.  It was a choice I regretted as I’ve come to really love the genius of that film and Besson’s work on it.  There’s a great cast, the story is a hell of a lot of fun and it’s a film that I watch again and again.  No, there’s a little bit of an on the nose, good vs evil message, but this is a film for fun not deep thought.  As such, it does a magnificent job, Milla is fantastic in this film, maybe that sincere compliment will repair our relationship.

I’ve been seeing mixed reviews for Valerian, they have ranged from the promotional awesome, to the over critical horrible.  I honestly didn’t have high expectations for the film, but Luc Besson is a director who looks at the world differently and sometimes, like with The 5th Element, The Professional or La Femme Nikita, he does some amazing work.  So on a hot day it was worth the gamble of a matinée price in the air conditioning.

The movie’s primary star is Cara Delevingne, she’s a beautiful girl with a great body, assuming you can ignore the caterpillars on her forehead.  I know, that’s not nice, some people love her big dark eye brows, I’m just not one of them.  She’s in the film for her look, she’s not a great actor and her constant eye-roll and scowl seem to be her one acting skill.  But she’s generally easy on the eyes as is her co-star and again, that seems to be their draw, young pretty people.

The movie is visually amazing, the opening scene, that sets the stage for the story, is absolutely visually stunning and emotionally evocative.  The scene really made me happy.  Unfortunately, the visuals are absolutely the highlight of the film.  The city of a 1000 worlds as a concept is great, the quick descriptor though is really just a tease and I wish they would have gone deeper into the idea of the city and explored it somehow.  The story moves through fairly linearly and the action sequences are ok, but the whole film is really carried along as a feast for the eyes.  But where The 5th Element was inventive and the story interesting with some great characters, Zorg, Ruby Rhod and The Diva, Valerian looks spectacular but feels utterly linear and two-dimensional.  Wait for it on TV.

 

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