Happiness is Burning Man: After Burn Report

Happiness is Burning Man: After Burn Report

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The man at Burning Man

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. ~ Denis Waitley

So I’m back from the desert, it was a good week with good friends.  It was the hottest week in the history of Burning Man and that led to a lot of mid-day siestas.  Which it turned out was pretty nice.  It’s been a long time since I did nothing but sit in the shade, listen to music and try to stay hydrated.  We had one short but epic dust storm which a few minutes later was followed by a microburst of likely 70 miles an hour.  The burst threw a pop up into the air for at least 150 feet landing it on our shade structure, seriously crazy but happily no one was hurt.

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The world would rather hug you than hurt you

Our camp was great, we run a confessional bar and lots of fun and great confessions were heard.  I met some amazing people and I’ll be writing about two of them later this weekend.  Made some new friends, saw some amazing art and shot over 1600 photos that I’ve just started going through, so lot’s more to come.

There was also tragedy, a burner committed suicide by running into the fire as the man burned.  It’s a horrible thing, the person died, and the impact on the firefighters, law enforcement, medical staff, almost all volunteers is terrible.  People that witnessed it, friends of the burner and the community in general suffers.  With many of us experience a bit of a depression after leaving the event, this tragedy hits especially hard.  People in the default world don’t understand and make light of it, it is easy to dismiss a community of people who don’t fit in the default world, to devalue our lives, we feel this everyday and more so right after the event.  So people’s insensitive comments hit a bit hard.

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Love more Fear less

One of the reasons many of us go to Burning Man, including to myself, is to be able to spend a week where you’re not made to feel like a freak everyday for not fitting into society’s definition of normal.  It’s the reason you’re greeted at Burning Man with the phrase, welcome home.

Much more over the next week, have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness & Cynicism

Happiness & Cynicism

It is better to sit alone than in company with the bad; and it is, better still to sit with the good than alone. It is better to speak to a seeker of knowledge than to remain silent; but silence is better than idle words. ~ Mohammed

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It’s very easy in our world to become cynical, I speak from experience.  I’ve always been a very cynical person, it comes from living in a world where people let you down, with consistency.  A world where our politicians will say anything to get elected, where elected officials are more concerned with opposing the other political party than actually governing or trying to help people.   I see on TV every day advertisements from coal and oil companies talking about how much they love the environment, pretending that we can burn petroleum free of consequences.  We are bombarded on a daily basis from a hundred directions manipulated by expert advertisers whose job it is to tell us what we like, what we care about, who to vote for, what we should look like and even who the good guys and bad guys are in the world.   It makes you wonder at times if any of your thoughts are your own.

It is a quick and easy path to cynicism for those of us who think and feel.  However, as I’ve gotten older I’ve begun to see a dark futility in being so cynical.  That timeframe not so surprisingly fairly closely corresponds to the birth of the Ministry of Happiness.  In creating a happier life for myself, it seemed appropriate, maybe even necessary to share and help others; maybe it was just about having some company on the path.  Through this journey some of the cynical edge to my view has begun to dissipate and it has helped me progress toward a happier life.  Hopefully some of what we do here will help you as well, and as always, have a happy day my friends  ~ Rev Kane.

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Happiness & Judgment

Happiness & Judgment

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Happiness rising

“People do pretty strange things when they get judged all the time”  ~ David Duchovny on Californication

It’s funny the places where inspiration comes from, I was sitting on my couch preparing to write tonight’s piece and I basically decided I didn’t have the energy or the inspiration to, so I put the laptop aside to watch a bit of TV.  I was watching Californication when a character on the show uttered the quote above and bang, just like that I had tonight’s piece.

At this point in my life, I’m perceived as someone who is fairly together, it has not always been this way.  There was a period of time in my life where I was, well, frankly, seriously screwed up.  I was a drunk, and drunk for almost two years as well as being fairly high most days, I sold pot to pay for a lot of what I was doing.  In the process, I also failed out of college and pretty much thought I had destroyed my future.  Happily I had not, I got my shit together in stages over time and I feel like I’ve done some positive good in my life, I hope this blog is part of that for some of you.

Why the line above had so much relevance for me tonight is that it was very much how I felt growing up.   Particularly when I was a teenager I felt like no matter how well I did, be it in school, sports, or anything else, no matter what I did it just wasn’t good enough.  NO matter what I was either criticized or ignored, and quite frankly the minute I could get free I cut loose.  Of course the way I cut loose was pretty crazy, drugs and alcohol changed nothing and solved nothing for me.  Just like all of those afterschool specials told us! 🙂

The real lesson in all of this is that being judgmental is destructive.  When we judge people we make them feel bad, we make them dislike themselves, we make them unhappy.  When those around us are unhappy it becomes contagious and in the end brings us all down.  Judging is a choice we make and as such we can decide to make other choices.

The first choice is to dial it back when we feel ourselves being judgmental, the next is to truly practice this behavior over and over.  The less judgmental we are, the more open we become, the happier we will be.  Remember to smile as well, just as the negative energy is contagious, so is the positive, so keep smiling and have a happy day my friends.
~ Rev Kane

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Happiness Resources: Positivity, Kindness & Gratitude

Why I’m Happy Right Now!

A New Year & Some Questions for You

Happiness is Staying Positive

 

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Free ebook on Amazon: Appalachian Trail Happiness

Free ebook on Amazon: Appalachian Trail Happiness

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Appalachian Trail Happiness

Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing about. ~ Benjamin Franklin

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Movies make me happy: Reviews

Movies make me happy: Reviews

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The Dude in the Big Lebowski

A film is – or should be – more like music than like fiction. It should be a progression of moods and feelings. The theme, what’s behind the emotion, the meaning, all that comes later. ~ Stanley Kubrick

I absolutely love movies, even though I absolutely hate the way people behave in theaters.  It drives me crazy so I watch most of my movies at home these days.  Although, there are some films that need to be seen on the big screen, and sometimes, I miss it enough to sneak out to a matinee after a film has been out for awhile and have a good old fashioned movie experience.  Don’t even get me started on the costs!

Movies make me happy so I decided to put together a post, one I can add to from time to time to review the films I go to see at the theaters, I hope you enjoy it and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

War for the Planet of the Apes (2017)

Director – Matt Reeves

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War for the Planet of the Apes

I had heard great things about this movie and I really enjoyed the first two so I thought I would go check this out while of vacation last week.  First off, if you haven’t seen the first two films in the series go see them first, this is certainly a well-connected trilogy and I don’t think the third film would work as a stand alone, even if you know the old 70’s Planet of the Apes film.  A quick bit about the franchise.  I loved the original Planet of the Apes, I saw it as on a child on TV and absolutely fell in love with it.  Caught a couple of the follow-ons in theaters as a kid.  Loved the TV series and have watched most of those old movies on TV dozens of time.  Even got to meet Roddy McDowell and Kim Hunter in costume at a car show once in New York.

The first movie was a classic and amazing film, the rest were B-grade scifi fun films, cartoonish and goofy at times.  Tim Burton took a shot at a restart and the film was absolutely terrible caught somewhere between trying to be a good film and catch some of the magic of the old films.  It missed.  The most recent restart of the series has been a revelation, I really enjoyed the first two films and think they did a magnificent on both of them.  Things brings us to the third film, War for the Planet of the Apes.  On the surface this looks like your typical summer blow stuff up action blockbuster, it’s not! Even the good buzz around the film had me thinking it was just a really good summer blockbuster and hey, I love films like Independence Day, so what the heck.

I was deeply surprised by this movie.  Sure, there are some good action sequences, but this is a great film.  The story is excellent, flows well and introduces us to some amazing ideas and characters and has a lot to say underneath.  Matt Reeves does a wonderful job of utilizing motion capture technology and the actors are physically fantastic.  This film keeps your attention, entertains you and makes you care deeply about the characters.  Well worth the ridiculous cost of going to the movies.

Valerian

Director Luc Besson

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Valerian

I have to start discussing this film by discussing The 5th Element, one of Luc Besson’s best films.  I didn’t go to the film in the theater because it starred Milla Jovovich and she really doesn’t like me, it comes back to an incident that occurred between me and her in Knoxville while she was on tour for her “album” but that’s a story for another time.  It was a choice I regretted as I’ve come to really love the genius of that film and Besson’s work on it.  There’s a great cast, the story is a hell of a lot of fun and it’s a film that I watch again and again.  No, there’s a little bit of an on the nose, good vs evil message, but this is a film for fun not deep thought.  As such, it does a magnificent job, Milla is fantastic in this film, maybe that sincere compliment will repair our relationship.

I’ve been seeing mixed reviews for Valerian, they have ranged from the promotional awesome, to the over critical horrible.  I honestly didn’t have high expectations for the film, but Luc Besson is a director who looks at the world differently and sometimes, like with The 5th Element, The Professional or La Femme Nikita, he does some amazing work.  So on a hot day it was worth the gamble of a matinée price in the air conditioning.

The movie’s primary star is Cara Delevingne, she’s a beautiful girl with a great body, assuming you can ignore the caterpillars on her forehead.  I know, that’s not nice, some people love her big dark eye brows, I’m just not one of them.  She’s in the film for her look, she’s not a great actor and her constant eye-roll and scowl seem to be her one acting skill.  But she’s generally easy on the eyes as is her co-star and again, that seems to be their draw, young pretty people.

The movie is visually amazing, the opening scene, that sets the stage for the story, is absolutely visually stunning and emotionally evocative.  The scene really made me happy.  Unfortunately, the visuals are absolutely the highlight of the film.  The city of a 1000 worlds as a concept is great, the quick descriptor though is really just a tease and I wish they would have gone deeper into the idea of the city and explored it somehow.  The story moves through fairly linearly and the action sequences are ok, but the whole film is really carried along as a feast for the eyes.  But where The 5th Element was inventive and the story interesting with some great characters, Zorg, Ruby Rhod and The Diva, Valerian looks spectacular but feels utterly linear and two-dimensional.  Wait for it on TV.

 

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Happiness and Wellness

Happiness and Wellness

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Happiness and Wellness

The best way for a person to have happy thoughts is to count his blessings and not his cash.  ~Author Unknown

Obviously our happiness is tied to our health and wellness and we’ve all seen lots of information regarding the right things to eat, the right amount of exercise.  Of course we’ve also seen lots of conflicting information as well.  So tonight a little simple and solid advice on being healthier.

Try to do the following 6 out of 7 days a week

· Walk 30 minutes a day or 7,000 steps a day (Recommend the Omron HJ112 pedometer)

· Drink 48 ounces of water a day

· Eat 5 servings of vegetables a day

· Sleep 7 plus hours a night

· Write nightly in a grateful journal about what you are grateful for each day.

Far from a radical plan and one I think we can all accomplish, so eat well, be grateful and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happy Anniversary – Ministry of Happiness: Our Best Posts

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

Remember the Sweet Things

Happiness is Taking Risks

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Acceptance is the Way

 

 

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Wisdom of the Dalai Lama

Wisdom of the Dalai Lama

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The Dalai Lama professes on happiness and kindness

On being knocked down 

I have great hopes that the world may become a better, more peaceful, more equitable place in the twenty-first century. From my own experience, at 16 I lost my freedom, at 24 I lost my country and for the last more than 50 years have faced all sorts of problems, but I have never given up hope. We have a Tibetan saying, ‘Nine times fall down, Nine times pick yourself up.’

On moral principles

As human beings we are all the same. We have this marvelous intelligence, which sometimes creates problems for us, but when influenced by warm-heartedness can be very constructive. In this context we need to appreciate the value of having moral principles.

On anger

Like anyone else, I too have the potential for violence; I too have anger in me. However, I try to recall that anger is a destructive emotion. I remind myself that scientists now say that anger is bad for our health; it eats into our immune system. So, anger destroys our peace of mind and our physical health. We shouldn’t welcome it or think of it as natural or as a friend.

 

 

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Happiness and Family: Update

Happiness and Family: Update

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Sometimes this is very true

Today an update to a piece I wrote in 2012.  The first little update is my flock or gang, (depending on their moods), of nieces and nephews has grown from five to seven.  My brother and his wife have added two incredibly adorable nephews into the mix.  So at the current time my nieces and nephews range from one and a half to fifteen.  All are living back in NY, one is terrified of me and calls me Uncle Beard and to him I’m some twisted combination of the Boogeyman and Santa Claus, one has only met me once and was too young to really interact with me.  I have a fifteen year old niece who is a full force of nature, one of the physically strongest humans I know, a terror, an artist and a giant ball of love.  I have a tween nephew who is both brilliant, a talented golfer and a total wise ass.  I have my one potential scientist in the mix and his little sister who is a mix of science nerd and actress who is absolutely fearless. Then there is Rooney my partner in crime pictured below.

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Picture purposely blurry to protect our identities

I am incredibly grateful for this pack of munchkins, they add so much to my life.  I don’t get to see them nearly enough, one of the downsides of my semi-nomadic existence.  But I cherish the time I do get with them.  So today just a little note to say that and to remind you to hug, or send a note to the ones you love.  Have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

 

Happiness and Family

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My oldest sister’s kids

Tonight I’m writing to just say how thankful I am for my nieces and nephews and to just revel in how much joy they bring me.  I have 5 so far, 3 nieces and 2 nephews, their ages include 3 months, 3 years, 5 years, 7 years and 9 years.  One of my nieces just broke her thumb and thumbed the authority and went to camp anyway, one of my nephews drove a golf ball 100 yards at golf camp, two of them just showed up at the happiest place on earth and my niece got the full princess make-up treatment and looked more happy than I could possibly imagine a little girl could look.  My 3 month old niece is even starting to mimicking the sounds that other people send at her.

I haven’t always had the closest of relationships with my family, but my nieces and nephews have absolutely brought me more happiness than anything else in my life.  I’m single, I don’t have any children and for some people, that means my life is somehow diminished and maybe they are correct, but I think the best five little people in my life bring me more happiness than I can imagine.  I hope you have the same kind of people in your life and as always, have a happy day my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

Other Happiness Posts You Might Enjoy!

Happiness and the Price for Being You

We hear you, We see you, We love you

Overcoming Demons to Become Happy

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Happiness and Anger Management

Happiness and Anger Management

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Happiness and Anger Management

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.  If you want to be happy, practice compassion.  ~ Dalai Lama

We all have those days, we’re running late, things are going right, we didn’t have time for breakfast so we whip through the drive through at our local fast food joint to pick up a snack and then of course, they got the order wrong.  You get mad, we all do, you may even yell a bit in your car and if you really can’t eat it you bring the order back in to the restaurant.

I witnessed this happen for someone this morning at McDonalds; he came into the restaurant with his drive-thru order and a lot of anger.  He had apparently been told that they were serving lunch and they weren’t and he’d ordered several meal deals that turned out to be breakfast not lunch.  He came in upset and the manager did what a good manager would do, she apologized, offered him his money back or to choose another order.  He did eventually take another order but he kept hammering at the manager, kept ordering her to tell the person who made the mistake that it was breakfast and not lunch.  He did what a lot of us do when we’re angry, he just had to find a way to hurt her and make her feel bad.

This is something we all need to learn to avoid my friends.  It’s ok for us to get angry it’s a normal human reaction.  However, it’s the duration that we have to work on, we need to learn to hold that anger to an absolute minimum.  The longer we stay angry the more harm we do to ourselves in terms of stress and negativity.  The longer we stay angry the more we feel the need to hurt others as well.  We need to reduce the length of time we stay angry, so that we can increase the amount of time we’re happy.  So start today and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Why I’m Happy Right Now!

Making Change Happen

A Happy Conversation

Cycles of Happiness

Happy Mistakes

 

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Happiness and ghosts from the past

Happiness and ghosts from the past

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Lovely statues or Dermentors in the shadows

It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.  ~Berkely Breathed

Very few people, at least in how they remember things, had a great childhood.  We all suffered the slings and arrows of parents who were less attentive than we wished, of the torments and slights of other children and the disappointments of others getting things we wanted but never got.  The fact is that this historical record is not a static entity; it is a dynamic history that we create and recreate both consciously and unconsciously as we move through life.  If you want evidence of this just listen to the family stories each year at the holidays and watch how they change over time.  This, although it can cause confusion and problems, is ultimately a good thing.

You see the fact that our history is fluid means that although we are a product of our past, our past can be changed and therefore our lives can be changed.  The slights of our past no longer have to be the reason we act the way that we do.  As adults we have to take responsibility for our actions and no longer blame others for the situations of our lives.  It is our life and ultimately our fault for how it works out and whether or not we are happy.  So take the proverbial bull by the horns and take control of your life, and your happiness.  And as always, have a happy day my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

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We are all screwed up, but we can be Happy!

Happiness & Responsibility

The Dalai Lama on Responsibility

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