Holiday Happiness: Family, Friends & Your Environment

Holiday Happiness: Family, Friends & Your Environment

01I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun. ~ Charles R. Swindoll

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

 

An interesting little piece for you on how your family, friends and the environments of your life impact your happiness.  Have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

How do you find contentment in an acquisitive society? By changing the things you spend your money on, says a US academic. The Secret of Happiness, talks about something that researchers have been saying for a couple of years now, money can buy happiness if you use it to buy experiences instead of things.

 

Below are a few pieces I’ve written about experiences and the happiness they have brought me:

 

Appalachian Trail Happiness: Precious Moments

Happiness is Swimming with Whale Sharks

Three Questions & Some Thoughts from Anza Borrego State Park

Mount Everest Travelogue

 

 

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For 2021: Value Yourself

For 2021: Value Yourself

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Rev Kane relaxing in the arctic snow flurries

Love yourself for who you are, and trust me, if you are happy from within, you are the most beautiful person, and your smile is your best asset. ~ Ileanna D’Cruz

The new year is upon us.  Most of us will make grand proclamations about the changes we will make.  Damn near everyone is suddenly on a diet that almost everyone will have abandoned by Valentines Day.  Lot’s of new exercise equipment and gym memberships are about to be bought and eventually become dusty and unused.  This cycle is a bit mentally destructive, you see it focuses us on the failures we have, especially when it’s the fifth year in a row you have resolved to eat less chocolate, as you dig into a tasty Ghiardelli chocolate square.

So my hope for all of us is to break that cycle for the new year.  I’m going to make a suggestion that we all do something a little different this year.  Let’s be clear, I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t try to eat better, work out more, lose weight or drink less in the new year.  These are all worthwhile life changes that would make you healthier and happier.  There are  lots of ways to achieve those goals and all I’ll say about them is that where I’ve had successes in my life on that front, has been by taking things slowly, forgiving the times you fall off your goals and just keep pushing.  Beyond most things, believing that you can be successful is hugely important to actually being successful.  Sounds pretty simple right?

Successful New Year Resolutions

One of the most important things that is key to personal success is confidence, or belief in yourself.  But if you don’t already have that kind of confidence, how do you get it?  Well like most things, it takes work, but work that is pretty easy to do.   You build up your confidence slowly with small successes.  So let’s say you have a goal of drinking less alcohol in the new year.  Let’s also say right now you have a drink or two after work each night, occasionally more on the weekend.  So, a lot of people will suddenly limit themselves to just one drink on a Friday night.  Then they’ll have a rough day and boom, they have a drink and feel like a failure.  Instead, start slowly, with minimal goals and celebrate their achievement.  So start with having a drink every other day instead of every day.  After a week of doing that celebrate the achievement and don’t make the reward a bunch of alcohol. 🙂  From there you increase slowly, go every 3 days, succeed, reward and keep expanding the time frame.  Celebrating those successes is important as that is exactly how mentally you start to accept your ability to succeed.

Valuing Yourself

So now that we’ve laid out a fairly simple process to help you achieve goals, how do we turn that toward the goal I’m suggesting for 2021, and what do I mean by valuing yourself?  Let’s start with the second part first, far too often I see people devaluing themselves.  Often you see it in the way people devalue their time.  Far too often I see people agreeing to do things for other people that take up a lot of their time.  Often this is just the idea of come with me.  Now there are certainly times this type of request is important for support or even just to have fun, but often it’s just someone infringing on your time because they don’t want to be alone.  Again, if it will at least be fun, great, but too often people go along, eating up their time because they don’t want to face the grief of saying no.  This applies to all kinds of things, running errands for someone, cooking for someone, etc… usually little things that are inconvenient for you, but make things much more convenient for someone else.  Often, these type of activities include add-ons.  You’re going out to get lunch, someone asks if you’d pick them up something as well.  So they place an order with you that is either utterly complicated or they throw the add-on of, since it’s on your way, could you drop off/pick up something for me?

I start this discussion with these little time sucks for a specific reason, they are the nibbling little annoyances that open the door to people demanding, and you giving more of your time than you want to give.  Once you’ve shown that you don’t value your own time, or yourself for that matter, it gets easier for people to treat you that way.  And for them to make larger and larger asks of you.  When you acquiesce to these types of requests, that you don’t want to do, you build up resentment and diminish  your happiness.

So how do you start to change things?  You follow the same rules that we discussed above for your new year resolutions.  You start small by addressing those time add-ons.  If you’re picking up a sandwich for lunch and someone else asks for one as well great.  But when the, since you’re out, could you stop….question comes up, say no.  You can be polite, hey I’m under a time crunch, so I won’t have time.  You need to start valuing your time and not let people take advantage.  One way I do this is to think about my salary.  So if you make $35 an hour, think about your time in terms of your rate.  Now I’ve always thought of my personal rate to be about twenty percent higher than my work rate.  So imagine anything you’re asked to do is worth $40 an hour.  And set a minimum time interval, 15, 30 minutes or an hour.  So is that extra stop worth $10 to the person asking or $29, would they pay you that to do the favor?  I’m not suggesting you asked to be paid, but if you start to think in terms in monetary value, you start to put a value on your time.  Suddenly, accompanying someone for a couple of hours when you don’t want to, is like losing $100.  It can change your perspective on your time.

The monetary idea is just a mechanism for you starting to value your time.  The real need is to value yourself, to understand that your time, your thoughts, your friendship and even your love has value.  As such, you should be very thoughtful about where you choose to expend that value, and that perhaps it should be spent only when that person brings equivalent value to you.

Valuing yourself, building your own confidence, succeeding and being more thoughtful about who and what you spend your personal time/value on, will bring you happier days my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happy Christmas – Holiday Happiness Links

Happy Christmas – Holiday Happiness Links

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Over the last month or so I’ve posted a little bit of happiness each day, for those of you who prefer aggregation, here they are all in place, Happy New Year ~ Rev Kane

Day 1 – Wisdom

Day 2 – Zen Habits

Day 3 – A quick Video

Day 4 – Giving

Day 5 – Happiness Poem

Day 6 – Happiness Moment

Day 7 – Volunteering

Day 8 – Time to Laugh

Day 9 –  Thanksgiving Stories

Day 10 – TED Talk on Happiness

Day 11 – Happiness Images

Day 12 – Happiness Poem

Day 13 –  Happiness Moment

Day 14 – There are Angels Among Us

Day 15 – Deng Ming-Dao on Happiness

Day 16 –  Happiness and Fun

Day 17 – Happiness and Being Special

Day 18 – Happiness Images

Day 19 – Pablo Neruda

Day 20 – Happiness and Travel

Day 21 – The Dalai Lama on Caring for Others

Day 22 – Deng Ming-Dao on Happiness

Day 23 – Tips for 30 Days of Happiness

Day 24 – Happiness Photos

Day 25 – Inspiration, Art & Happiness

Day 26 – Maya Angelou

Day 27 – Inspirational Quotes

Day 28 – The Dalai Lama on Hope

Day 29 – Deng Ming-Dao on Worry

Day 30 – Charles Bukowski

Day 31 – 15 Lessons on Being Happy

Day 32 – A Little Laughter

Day 33 – Happy Christmas Eve

Day 34 – It’s Christmas

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Holiday Happiness, A Little Laughter

Holiday Happiness, A Little Laughter

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The holidays are often a very stressful period for people so for the next 34 days (Thanksgiving through Christmas) we’re going to do a post a day, something happy and uplifting each day, perhaps an image, a poem, a quote, a moment of happiness or some bit of wisdom all in an effort to boost everyone’s happiness a little bit.  You can do your part by paying it forward, send these little bits of happiness on to others and ask that they do the same and as always, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

A cautionary tale for you holiday pranksters out there and a bit of a chuckle for the rest of us.  http://laugh.housewifemafia.com/Louises_Stockings.html

 

Other Posts You Might Enjoy!

The Art of Smiling and Being Positive

Happiness is Staying Positive

Twelve Days of Christmas – For People Who Don’t Like Christmas

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

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Holiday Happiness: Importance of Diet and Exercise on Happiness

Holiday Happiness: Importance of Diet and Exercise on Happiness

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Minion exercise routine

To enjoy the glow of good health, you must exercise. ~ Gene Tunney

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

 

The Importance of Diet

No secret to anyone who has met me or read this blog regularly, I’m not a skinny guy and I really love to eat.  Pizza is my favorite food and coca-cola is likely rightly considered an addiction where I’m concerned.  Growing up, we didn’t always have enough to eat, my mother, as a single mom 99% of the time did a great job providing, sometimes via herculean efforts.  There were however a few times and one in particular for me, when quite frankly there just wasn’t enough.  I was 7 or 8 years old and one night I spilled my dinner, the dog of course pounced on it when it hit the floor.  I went into the kitchen to ask for more.   My mother snapped at me that there wasn’t more, then crying, gave me half of her plate.  Every single detail of that night is burned into my brain and it is one of my most vivid memories.  It is also not a coincidence that within a year of that night, the skinny little kid that I was, turned into a chubby little kid. My mother used to joke I went from slims to huskies overnight.  That’s weight that frankly I still carry, but a little less every year.

When you realize that food is not a guarantee, you look at things differently.  From that night on, if there was a way to earn a dollar to get something to eat, someone offering, a chance for an extra meal or a snack at a neighbor or friend’s house, I jumped on it.  My choices of food were not always the best, junk food in America, especially in the 70s and 80s was by far the cheapest and most available. So the food habits I established were certainly not the healthiest.  This continued well into my early 30s and led me to a point where I was obese (250 pounds), my blood pressure through the roof (170/110) when I was put on medication and my blood sugar was well into the Type 2 diabetic range.

It was no coincidence that through those years of excessive weight, bad eating and no consistent exercise, that my allergies were really bad and I had a cold four to six times a year. The funny thing about me during that period is that I didn’t feel bad, I was active, I still cycled, I still hiked, played pick up basketball games, but I did not exercise regularly.

The importance of Diet and Exercise

When I moved to California in 2002 a couple of things happened, first I hit that magic 250 on the scale and the idea of weighing one-eighth of a ton was a hit on my psyche.  Also, the doctor ordered me onto blood pressure medication.  So I decided it was time to start exercising regularly and eating better.  The combination was successful, I dropped 40 pounds and with medication got my blood pressure under control.  I would eventually drift up to about 220 pounds where I would stay for a few years.  I also noticed my allergies had backed off a bit, the semi-frequent migraines I would get had decreased a bit.  I was also only getting colds 3 or 4 times a year.

It would take me another 10 years to make another big jump and it came as a result of finally having my blood sugar evaluated and realizing that it was firmly within the type 2 diabetes range.  I did well getting my blood sugar down into the high-normal range, didn’t do so great with changing my weight but noticed I was getting sick even less.  About a year and a half ago I got motivated again around my blood pressure and dropped to 190 pounds and got a handle on my blood sugar again.  Over the last year I’ve drifted up a little over 200 again and have recently started working again and have dropped a few pounds over the last month, a positive change considering it’s the holiday season.  Including of course my favorite holiday, Thanksgiving and a lot of business travel which always makes hard to eat well.  So hopefully I’m heading into 2018 on a positive note and my goal is to be at 180 pounds by my birthday in August.  If I make that goal it will be the lowest weight I’ve achieved since high school ended in 1982.

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Learning leads to change

The benefits of diet and exercise

So this journey of positive change I’ve been on in relation to diet and exercise has yielded some benefits and a lot of learning.  First the obvious, I’m lighter and this means benefits to my blood pressure, to my blood sugar and more relevant given my knee injury in 2015, less force on my joints.  Also, as someone who has become a fairly serious hiker, weighing less, means less overall weight on the trail, again, better for my knees.

Some things that are less obvious, my allergies have been better.  This may not be completely related to being healthier but that in combination with living in new places is a nice synergy.  I’m rarely sick these days, in the last two years I’ve had one cold.  I unfortunately got it while traveling in Jordan.  This correlates exactly to the most consistent period of exercise in my life and I truly believe they are connected.  With my blood pressure under control, at most I get one or two migraines per year.  These things together have certainly made me a much healthier person.

The secret to weight-loss for me

What I’ve really learned in the last ten years for me is something pretty simple and something that should seem a little obvious but hadn’t been to me.  Losing weight for me is not about working out, not at all.  Losing weight is simply about eating less and particularly minimizing my carbohydrate intake, which also benefits my blood sugar levels.  Please clearly understand what I’m saying.  Working out, as I had described above is hugely beneficial, it has made me far healthier than when I wasn’t exercising regularly.  However, if I eat normally and work out regularly I don’t lose weight.  I may lose a little fat, gain a little muscle but in general my weight doesn’t drop.  It’s not until I’m eating fewer calories while minimizing carbohydrates in my diet that I lose weight.  This became obvious to me when I was injured and couldn’t work out but continued to eat this way.  Even without the exercise I was losing weight, not as quickly, but still dropping.  PLEASE don’t take this to mean I’m suggesting that you should just change your diet if you are trying to lose weight.  Being thinner, but not getting regular exercise will not bring the other benefits I’ve discussed and it will leave out the next thing I want to talk about, how exercise makes you happier.

How exercise makes you happier

Throughout this journey with diet and exercise that I’ve been discussing tonight, I’ve been on a parallel journey, I’ve been getting happier.  There may be some coincidence in all of this, perhaps as I was getting healthier I also happened to be doing the right things to get happier.  I think there is something to that, however I also think they are connected.  There are plenty of studies that talk about how exercises helps reduce stress, releases endorphins and of course being in better shape allows you to be more active and undertake more adventure, which all makes you feel better and happier.

So my friends, this regular exercise and eating better thing has certainly worked for me.  My goal each week is to workout at least five days a week, to eat right 6 days a week and to never work 7 days in a row.  That formula seems to be working for me and that plan or something more personalized will helpfully help you be healthier and have happy days my friends. ~ Rev Kane

A Little More Happiness

Happiness is a Little Adventure

My Polar Bear Adventure

Overcoming Demons to be Happy

 

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Holiday Happiness: It’s Christmas

Holiday Happiness: It’s Christmas

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Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas. ~ Calvin Coolidge

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

Happy Christmas my friends, this is my standard Christmas post.  The Christmas holiday can be hard on a lot of folks, getting caught in the nostalgia of better Christmases from the past, of relatives and friends that are no longer with us. For some of us the isolation of being alone or the isolation you feel in the crowd this Christmas is almost too much to handle.  Christmas is annually my worst day of the year, for many reasons I always feel very alone on this day and earlier this month posted some resources on overcoming holiday depression.   If this describes you, reach out for a voice, a shoulder or a hand to hold, drop me an e-mail at Happinesskane@aol.com.  Try and stay positive today, enjoy whatever the day may have to offer, a beautiful sunrise, cold crisp air, a walk in nature, the ability to enjoy the quiet with a cup of tea and a good book.

For those of you who revel in this day, pay attention to the fringes of your social and family circles for the ones who aren’t joyous, aren’t around and reach out with a little kindness, that little bit of kindness may be the best gift you give this year.

So Happy Christmas if it applies, Happy Tuesday if it doesn’t and either way, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

Twelve Days of Christmas: All 12 Days

Twelve Days of Christmas Happiness – For People Who Don’t Like Christmas

Happy Christmas a series of light shows for your holiday enjoyment

A great one from 2011  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ojzxvgkB4eY

Sexy and I know it  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4zjXr6Qnpcw

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Happiness is Poetry: S A Griffin

Happiness is Poetry: S A Griffin

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Some say we are mostly water, I say we are mostly dreams. ~ S A Griffin

I discovered S A Griffin because he’s one of the editors of my favorite poetry book, The Outlaw Bible of American Poetry.  Truly the best collection of American poetry I’ve ever read.  He’s an LA poet, the writing scene has always been strong there.  He’s willing to get down and dirty, in fact, some of his stuff I really love wouldn’t qualify for the PG-R rating I put on this blog.  So,  you like your poetry that way, pick up one of his books. ~ Rev Kane

A Hollywood Story

strange, but true, angels find you
standing in line waiting to take your
last few dollars out of the bank

when the rent’s due and there’s
nothing in the cupboard
but a crumb

or when you turn just so
and somebody is there with
the right kind of eyes to catch
your falling star inside
their wonder

then the light breaks thru
and the messenger dove
arrives with the news

long live the song of yourself
that knows the pilgrim child

that knows your dream

the one that you
rode in on

never know where
you are going and you will
always get there

bet on it
and ride

___________________________

sa griffin poem

 

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Holiday Happiness: Christmas Eve Traditions

Holiday Happiness: Christmas Eve Traditions

campfire, christmas eveThere is no ideal Christmas; only the one Christmas you decide to make as a reflection of your values, desires, affections, traditions. ~ Bill McKibbon

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

So Christmas Eve can be one of the loneliest nights of the year.  It’s that night where families typically gather, it’s a more intimate night than Christmas Day and Christmas Dinner.  It gives you time to think about way too much, and if there is nothing coming Christmas morning, well, thinking about that can weigh heavily on your mind.

If you read this blog you know I’m a loner, and generally live a fairly solitary life.  As much as I enjoy Thanksgiving, I rarely have Thanksgiving with other people.  So, one of the things that I created for myself was a new solo tradition for Thanksgiving Day.  For some reason, I’m not sure why, I haven’t done the same for Christmas or Christmas Eve.  Likely it comes from my utter dislike of the holiday.  As I’ve talked about before, I love giving gifts, love watching kids experience Christmas but when you don’t have that, all you have left are your memories of past Christmases and in my case a lot of those are bad.

So tonight I have come up withsome Christmas Eve traditions that you might be able to incorporate into your own life to make Christmas Eve a bit better.  Enjoy and I hope you find one that works for you.  ~ Rev Kane

Christmas Eve Cocoa and meditation

meditation, happinessThis one is pretty self-explanatory.  Cook up some cocoa, not with booze.  Booze is a depressant and remember we’re trying to avoid being bummed out.  But you can get real fancy with cocoa, there’s real expensive cocoa, marshmallows, mini-marshmallows and all kinds of funky, peppermint and chocolate spoons.

I know the term meditation messes with some people, so meditation or quiet reflection.  If you want you can look up some guided meditations on the web and listen to them.  Or sit quietly sipping cocoa and listen to your favorite music or podcasts.  Basically, the goal for this idea is a nice quiet relaxing night.

Anti-Christmas Movies and Cookies

gremlins, christmasFor those who don’t particularly love Christmas, there are a number of movies out there that are either about, or occur at Christmas that are what I would consider anti-Christmas movies.  Here’s a list, so how about you bake up a batch of your favorite cookies, they don’t have to be Christmas cookies.  I’d opt for oatmeal chocolate chip personally.  Then sit down with a bunch of cookies, milk and some really awesome anti-Christmas movies.  You could do fancy popcorns instead but I prefer cookies.  Here’s a lits of movies:

My personal favorite is Gremlins, it’s not just a great movie but Phoebe Cates’ character has a speech about why she hates Christmas that will validate any negative feelings you have about the holiday and why people shouldn’t get down on people about it.

The Ice Harvest, a good Christmas caper movie including Billy Bob Thornton the king of anti-Christmas movies.

Sticking with Billy Bob, Bad Santa, is about as anti-Christmas, while still being a little heart-warming in a hilarious way, that you can get.  There is so much to love about this movie, but make no mistake, it’s rude, crude and socially unacceptable in almost every way.

Krampus, can’t get much more anti standard Hallmark Christmas than Krampus, a movie about a really bad form of Christmas visitor.  It’s a pretty standard monster movie in a lot of ways, but a lot of fun to watch.

There are other movies worth mentioning, Trading Places has some funny Christmas action, the Ref is a good anti-Christmas film but if you’re trigger around Christmas is shitty family, stay away from it.  Die Hard of course happens around a Christmas party and has some great lines.  Kiss Kiss Bang Bang features Robert Downey Jr and is a good film.  I hesitate but I guess I should include National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation, just for the sheer disrespect it shows for the holiday.  My last one is Reindeer Games, an ok movie you’ve likely never seen about a robbery and featuring very young Ben Afflek and Charlize Theron.

Bake and wrap presents for the homeless

christmas, cookiesThis one is really self-explanatory, altruism makes us all feel better.  So do some giving and spend Christmas Eve backing cookies, and creating holiday bags, socks would be huge for homeless people.  Then Christmas Day, drive around just randomly handing out the bags.

Do an art project

art project, christmasThis can be something you already do or you can spend the night trying something new.  Pinterest is a great site for finding ideas and this link has over 2000 different ideas.  So a few days earlier find a couple of ideas, get your supplies, crank the tunes and do some art.

Christmas Eve Astronomy

december skyOne of the nice things about cold December nights is that the dry cold air is likely to yield beautiful cold clear skies.  So, do a little astronomy.  Gear up, hot beverage, sleeping bag, binoculars, get a sky map and go out and teach yourself some constellations.  Or take your camera and do some night photography.  Even better, borrow a friend’s telescope and take a good look at the stars.

I hope one of the ideas works for you and gives you a way to spend a happy Christmas Eve and a happy day my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

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My COVID Times Diary: Our Values

My COVID Times Diary: Our Values

If you don’t stick to your values when they are being tested they aren’t values:  they’re hobbies. ~ Jon Stewart

Here in America, we have lived with the COVID pandemic for over nine months now.  Correspondingly we are living through a period of extreme political partisanship. This period of time has had an interesting and revealing effect on our society.

Let’s talk about stress and pressure.  Something that I have observed over my lifetime is that people’s true nature is often revealed when they are under pressure.  Much like people when they are drinking, being under pressure seems to knock off their inhibitions and masks.  This means that people often react and act in ways that they wouldn’t, if they were carefully hiding behind their carefully constructed masks.  Ways that have a tendency to reflect what they truly think, believe and value.

COVID has certainly been this type of stressful time.  I have seen it at work, people I work with have been revealed in interesting ways.  There are people who have stepped up and into roles that I had not thought previously capable of, and of course the opposite has happened as well.

The place I have seen it the most has been on social media in relation to politics and COVID policies.  The political revelations have not been surprising, but they have been deeper than I had previously encountered from people.  There has also been so much more noise around these issues than normal, so much so that I have begun to limit my social media connections.  But the most disturbing revelations have been around COVID safety.

People often profess that they care about the welfare of their fellow human.  Many have religious beliefs that also profess to have the same type of core value of caring.  One of the reasons I like the Jon Stewart quote above is that COVID has truly tested our values, particularly how much we care about of fellow human.

Let me apologize for the soap box I’m about to climb up upon.  I don’t believe a lot of you.  You see I see your posts and rants about this or that idiot who isn’t taking COVID seriously, or called it a hoax, or thinks it’s not anymore dangerous than the the flu.  But then I also see your rage when measures are put into place, for safety, that inconvenience you.  I see your photos on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter where you are clearly either not wearing a mask in a crowd, in a crowd, or taking a picture with the friend you haven’t seen for years.  In all of these situations you are putting yourself at risk for contracting COVID, you’re not following safety recommendations, or you are, but only when it’s convenient, or when you want to and by doing so are putting other people at risk of sickness and/or death.

Around Thanksgiving I kept having the same conversation with people, right after they told me how careful they were being for the holiday because they take COVID seriously, they would soon follow up with a list of all the people coming to their house for dinner.  Recently, people keep asking me if I’m going to visit family for Christmas, or hoping, since I live alone, that I’ll be with people at Christmas.  Obviously, if I were to do that, I wouldn’t be following COVID precautions.  What that tells me, is that these people are going to make sure they are with people for the holidays and will not be taking the level of precautions that they should.  This is simply the biggest reason that the United States is one of, if not the, highest infection and death rate on Earth.

It makes me sad for two reasons.  First, it clearly shows me that the core value of caring for your fellow human isn’t very strong.  It can’t be, if it can’t overcome by simple inconvenience.  Second, it also shows that understanding science isn’t relevant to Americans.  If we can’t overcome inconvenience to save others, if we so highly doubt scientific fact and research, particularly when there is a clear an imminent threat to our lives.  Then how will we ever tackle an issue like global warming that is long-term and highly complex.  Honestly, it all just makes me terribly sad and really decimates my remaining faith in humanity.  All I can personally do, is to do my best to stick to my own core values.  However it is having another impact on my life.  I’m finding myself drifting away from those people who have shown to not to be true to their values, or who don’t  have them in the first place.  I’ve never felt that I can only be friends with people who have identical values to me, but I find that I have less affection for people who know what their values are and stick to them.

 

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Holiday Happiness: Being Mindful During the Holidays

Holiday Happiness: Being Mindful During the Holidays

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Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.  ~Robert Brault

 

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

 

Tonight a couple of pieces both focusing on staying happy in the moment:

Living in the moment really does make you happier

Thich Nhat Hanh on Mindfulness

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