Holiday Happiness: Resources for Fighting Holiday Depression

Holiday Happiness: Resources for Fighting Holiday Depression

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If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days. ~ Kris Carr

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

Hello friends, tonight we continue our posts on holiday depression with a collection of resources that I hope will help you cope if your mood starts to suffer during the holiday season.  Let me be clear, we are not talking about clinical depression.  Clinical depression is a disease that needs serious attention and treatment.  If you are feeling down and not bouncing back after the holiday season then maybe something more serious is going on.  At that point I’d check in with a medical professional and have a conversation.

Practical and Powerful Ways to Overcome Depression – I really love this piece, simple straightforward and sound advice.  Get outside, exercise, get sleep, eat better, ridiculously simple but also highly effective.

Nine effective treatments for overcoming mild depression – I like the way this piece starts out, recommendations for exercise, light therapy and some supplements.  The last couple recommendations are fairly heavy and seem more directed to more serious depression.

From WebMD, 10 Natural Depression Treatments – There is a definite pattern in the advice offered from various resources.  Get the basics right, eat, sleep, safety and security.

This time of year you may also be suffering from the most terribly acronymed issue ever, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).  So this piece is worth a quick read as well, you’ll definitely see some overlap between how to deal with both issues.

7 Tips for Treating SAD at Home

 

Other Posts You Might Enjoy!

The Art of Smiling and Being Positive

Happiness is Staying Positive

Twelve Days of Christmas – For People Who Don’t Like Christmas

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

 

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Holiday Happiness: Happiness Moment

Holiday Happiness: Happiness Moment

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The holidays are often a very stressful period for people so for the next 34 days (Thanksgiving through Christmas) we’re going to do a post a day, something happy and uplifting each day, perhaps an image, a poem, a quote, a moment of happiness or some bit of wisdom all in an effort to boost everyone’s happiness a little bit.  You can do your part by paying it forward, send these little bits of happiness on to others and ask that they do the same and as always, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

A happy little story today about a moment of happiness, on Halloween night I had a 18 month old Jedi Knight come knocking on my door.  The young Ben Kenobi scammed me out of an extra piece of candy.  He was adorable, and even helped me close my door and stood there waving, left me smiling all night.

These may also may you smile…

Happiness is Laughter: Funny Signs

Happiness quotes

The Art of Smiling and Being Positive

Happiness is Staying Positive

Twelve Days of Christmas – For People Who Don’t Like Christmas

 

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Holiday Happiness: You Need to Relax

Holiday Happiness: You Need to Relax

relax happinessYou have to relax when you’re shooting an arrow. You can’t be tense. And that just helps, in your day-to-day life. ~ Stephen Amell

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

So the holidays are rolling in full on us, nine or ten days to Christmas.  You can tell, everywhere you go there are bloody Christmas carols playing incessantly.  Even doing the laundry this morning meant an hour and a half of Christmas carols.  You can also tell by parking lots, any lot where there are shopping opportunities, the lots are full.  Not just full, but also full of people who have turned parking into a bloodsport.  Constantly now there are people in their cars just sitting on that “good spot” where someone is just beginning to load their car before leaving.  Now it doesn’t matter if that person is 10 seconds or 10 minutes from leaving, they are going to sit there and completely and totally muck up traffic in order to save from having to walk another 100 feet.

The other thing that happens this time of year is parking lot stalking.  You know, as you walk out to your car, they roll ever so slowly waiting for you to get to your car so they can institute their sitting and waiting maneuver.  Heck, sometimes they’ll even get on their horn if you don’t leave soon enough.  I’m not always such a nice person and occasionally this time of year I’ll claim a little revenge on parking lot stalkers.  What I do, is that I’ll come out of a store and purposefully walk up the wrong aisle in order to get stalkers to follow me, only to cross across aisles just to watch them punch and try to rip around the aisle to get to my spot, which of course, is another aisle over from the original aisle in the opposite direction.  Like I said, not always such a nice guy.

be happy, back to the basicsFor me this mean little game is a bit of relaxation in this season.  People get really worked up, stressed out, people are hurrying around, heck on “Black Friday” there is even violence at times.  All of this hurrying and stress just adds to the pressure and bad feelings people have this time of year.  This stress can be the trigger to that dip into the well that we talked about last night.  So what’s the solution, well for me it’s scheduling time during the holidays for no other purpose than to relax.  I’ve talked before about the importance and benefits of relaxation and let me be clear what I’m talking about during the holidays.  We do lots of “relaxing” things during the holiday.  We go caroling, or tree cutting as a family, we have cookie baking parties and go to work holiday parties.  All of this, whether we want to or not, whether we enjoy it or not because it’s an obligation or a tradition.  Often some of our traditions serve no other purpose than to make one person happy and re-create the holiday stress of years passed.

So pick an afternoon, a morning or an evening, just for a couple of hours one day during the holiday season and just relax.  Go do something you really love to do, go bowling, or for a hike, sneak off to a coffee shop and watch some Netflix or read a book.  Go get a massage, that has multiple benefits.  Whatever it is, make it something that reduces your stress and just makes you feel good.  It will save your sanity a bit, make the holidays more enjoyable, maybe prevent holiday depression and help you have a happier days my friend. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Holiday Happiness: Giving

Holiday Happiness: Giving

giving kindnessIt is in giving that we receive. ~ Francis of Assisi

 

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

Tonight I want to talk about giving.  One of my favorite things this time of year is giving gifts.  In giving, without the expectation of receiving, we truly show our ability to be kind and care for others.  I especially like, trying to find a gift that really shows the person I know who they are by finding something that connects with them.

kindness happinessThis time of year we also generally try and reach out and give to others as well, whether it is volunteering for a charity, giving money, or even dropping some change in the Salvation Army kettle.  This time of year we are good about thinking about others, about being charitable, the challenge is to find that spirit in us the rest of the year as well.  Have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Holiday Happiness: Tips for Happiness

Holiday Happiness: Tips for Happiness

Hello my friends, as we push through the holiday season and in our continuing attempts to make this a happy time for all of us today we continue to provide you pieces to keep you positive this time of year. Rev Kane

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Whatever makes you happy,as long as it doesn’t hurt you or someone else,do it. Schedule pleasurable activities into your life with the same dedication, precision and priority you give less-than-pleasurable ones ~ Peter McWilliams

Tonight a really nicely written blog piece – Ten Rules for my Life

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Happiness, Exercise and Holiday Depression

Happiness, Exercise and Holiday Depression

01Jumping for joy is good exercise.  ~Author Unknown

We are now well within the so-called “holiday season” and it, at least according to every Norman Rockwell painting I’ve ever seen, is supposed to be a perfect time of family, friends and cocoa around the fireplace.  Unfortunately for some of us this is not always the case, in particular, although I love Thanksgiving, as evidenced by a previous post:

https://ministryofhappiness.wordpress.com/2010/11/25/why-thanksgiving-is-my-favorite-holiday/

I have no special affinity for Christmas.  The holiday season definitely brings its share of friends and family, parties and gatherings.  This can be wonderful, but it can also bring with it a level of stress as well.  Playing the host or hostess at parties, trying to figure out the perfect gift for a loved one or friend, renewing the old stresses of childhood at family gatherings, all of these things can be hard.

So, during the holiday season we have a tendency to do some things we don’t normally do.  We eat too much, and definitely too many sweets, we drink more than we normally do.  Additionally we are often traveling and all of this added together gets us out of our routines, particularly our exercise routine if we have one.

The holidays also bring something else to a lot of people, depression.  People can feel really alone during the holidays, particular people who have gone through a major life change in the last year.  That can often include the elderly, singles and people who do not have strong connections to family or friends.  It has even gotten its own term, holiday depression.  The link below can give you more information on the topic:

http://www.depression-guide.com/depression-holidays.htm

This brings us back around to exercise and happiness and the connection between the two in our lives.  At any time exercise has a long list of positive effects on our mood.  The list below comes from http://www.depression-guide.com/depression-and-exercise.htm  and shows all of the ways in which exercise can improve our mood and increase our happiness:

  • People have reported that, when they exercise, can think more clearly, feel happy, feel better about themselves, lose weight, develop strength, and enjoy a sense of well-being.
  • Exercise increased positive mood
  • they sleep better
  • have less nervousness and anxiety,
  • Exercise decreased negative mood
  • Exercise improved vigor
  • Exercise is effective in reducing stress, anger, fatigue
  • Many evidence proved that exercise plays a vital role in uplifting depression
  • Exercise improved the motivation and self-esteem in the person
  • Many people even report that they look and feel younger when they exercise regularly.
  • Exercise may help in increasing the feelings of coherence
  • Exercise increased the feelings of social integration
  • An exercise and depression study in which participants walked daily for even weeks found that the decrease in depressive mood and the improvement in vigor continued after five months.
  • Another exercise and depression study which compared exercise alone, medication alone, and exercise plus medication found lasting improvements after six months in participants who had exercised without medication.
  • When the participants continued to exercise the ongoing improvement was even greater. This study concluded that medication may produce quicker relief but exercise yields more long-term benefit.

For this reason having an exercise routine is always a benefit to our lives and can help us be happier individuals.  Given the stresses of the holidays it is even more important this time of year to continue or start an exercise program.  I can attest to the fact that the gym is pretty empty this time of year.  Besides if you are exercising you feel a lot less guilty about those cookies that you just ate, or that glass of egg nog you’re going to have tonight.  So, get out there, walk, jog, go to the gym, whatever it takes to burn a few calories, raise your heart-rate, burn off some cortisol and release some endorphins.  In the end you will feel better and probably live a longer, happier life.

I’m including a couple of resource articles on the various aspects of exercise and happiness for those who want to read a little more.  Happy Holidays!

Article on exercise and happiness from the psychological perspective:

http://www.exploringwomanhood.com/mindbodysoul/happiness-exercise.htm

It is exercise alone that supports the spirits, and keeps the mind in vigor.  ~Marcus Tullius Cicero

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Happy Holidays

Happy Holidays

lonely christmas tree

A big part of depression is feeling lonely, even if you are in a room full of a million people. ~ Lily Singh

Good evening my  friends, this weekend starts my least favorite time of the year.  The “Holiday Season” is without a doubt the time of year I feel the most alone and isolated from the world.  It is the time of the year I have to work the hardest to fight off my natural inclination to depressing thoughts.  I know where this all comes from, I did that work years ago.  Growing up we are all bombarded with the images of the perfect Christmas, the wonderful New Years party.  We see images of children opening perfectly wrapped presents that are always exactly what they wanted.

happy christmas

Unfortunately, that was not my experience as a child.  The holidays were always super high tension.  Drunk relatives getting in arguments, worries about money, not getting the gift you really wanted.  Grouchy babysitters who could care less if you were there.  It always was the most tense and lonely time of the year.  My escape was always to go outside, to walk, hike or even just sit on the porch.  But during the holidays it was almost always alternately rainy and cold or just bitter cold.  The one shining star in the middle of it were my granny’s peanut butter chocolate drop cookies.

Being someone who is most often alone, through most of the year it’s fine.  But because those societal expectations have been driven in so deep, this time of the year it’s just a little harder to stay positive.  It’s a little too cold, a little dark, a little too lonely.  But life is good for me these days, I have the resources to change my  location, to travel to see those I wish too, if I choose to.  So these days I mostly focus on spoiling my nieces and nephews and reaching out through this blog to others, who like me, find this time of year kind of tough.

christmas tree

So tonight my holiday kickoff is to start that outreach by reminding all of the rest of you, that while this time of year might be festive and wonderful for you, others around you are smiling and suffering.  By no means diminish your own joy, but reach out a little more perhaps than normal, be a little more inclusive in your festivities, extend some extra kindness, give an unexpected gift.  Not only will it help them, but it will help you have happier days my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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My Best AT Posts from the Last Year

My Best AT Posts from the Last Year

Kingfisher celebrating in Hot Springs.

Kingfisher celebrating in Hot Springs.

Today is the birthday of one of my hiking partners from last year, Kingfisher.  The picture above is our belated celebration we held at the Laughing Heart Hostel in Hot Springs, NC.  So today I decided to go back and post some of my favorite and a few of what I hope will be useful posts for current thru-hikers.

Useful posts

AT food information & recipes

Thru-hike FAQ’s

Thru-hiking Gear Lists

Appalachian Trail Resources

 

My favorite posts

Appalachian Trail: Precious Moments

My favorite AT photos from 2015

Appalachian Trail Happiness: The Book

My favorite Little Hiker

Appalachian Trail Community

Quitting the Appalachian Trail

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My Annual Thanksgiving Hike

My Annual Thanksgiving Hike

thanksgiving, hikeBe thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.  If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you’ll never have enough.                            ~  Oprah Winfrey

As I’ve written about before, Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday.  Over the last two Thanksgivings I was traveling.  And while particularly last year, Thanksgiving in Oaxaca was wonderful, it’s been three years since I was able to check off my Thanksgiving traditions.  This is one of the few times that I try and parallel traditions from my youth.  When I was younger Thanksgiving meant hunting with my grandpa in the morning, home for a big breakfast and a nap.  Back out hunting in the afternoon and return home at sunset for dinner, football and often a second nap.  Dinner always meant turkey, mashed potatoes, lasagna, corn, cranberry sauce and pies.

For me these days, particularly like this year when I’m just cooking for me, my traditions are simple and comfortable.  A morning hike, this year it was cold and had been raining so I delayed it to a little bit later in the morning but took a walk along the beach and up to Mori Point.  Not a strenuous hike but the waves were cranking today.

 

I returned home to do some cooking, turkey, stuffing, potatoes, cranberry sauce and of course a little chocolate pudding pie.  Dinner was great.

thanksgiving dinner

After dinner, I relaxed watching football, taking a break for my required Thanksgiving Holiday movement listening, the full massacre in four part harmony.

Alice’s Restaurant

I snuck in a lovely little nap during the games after which I awoke to dive into the pie.  Pretty much a perfect holiday for me.  I hope yours was good as well and you had a happy day my friends.  Happy Thanksgiving. ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is Thanksgiving Dinner

Happiness is Thanksgiving Dinner

After a good dinner one can forgive anybody, even one’s own relations. ~ Oscar Wilde

thanksgiving-food

So as my favorite eating holiday of the year approaches, I thought I would do a post on Thanksgiving Dinner because a good Thanksgiving Dinner is certainly a good day my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

Traditional Turkey Dinners (we’ll get more ALT down below)

For those of you who want all your info in one post:

How to buy, thaw, stuff and cook a turkey from What’s Cooking America

To start:

Tips on buying a turkey from the LA Times

Another piece on what turkey to buy

For those of you considering heirloom birds a little info

Cooking tips and guides:

The simplest easiest way to make a good turkey

For the gourmet types among you, from Saveur – The Perfect Bird 

The side dishes:

Perfect mashed potatoes

Fancy mashed potatoes with cream cheese

And for the fancy pants cooks, Duchess Potatoes

Three words, Green Bean Casserole

We have 83, yes 83 side dish and stuffing recipes from Southern Living 

Dessert

From the Food Network, 50 classic dessert recipes 

But my favorite, buy a Keebler Graham pie shell, a banana, instant chocolate pudding and some rainbow sprinkles.  Take the shell, cut the banana into slices on the bottom of the shell, make the pudding and pour over it, shake the sprinkles on top, refrigerate – heaven.

Non-traditional Dinners

Calvin Trillin’s Alternative Thanksgiving Dinners  http://busycooks.about.com/od/thanksgiving/a/Trillinthanksgi.htm

Three anti-turkey Thanksgiving dinners, sure it’s blasphemy but the recipes look great and one is vegetarian  http://www.thedailymeal.com/three-anti-turkey-thanksgiving-menus

For our Vegan friends:

We have 44 Vegan recipes for Thanksgiving  http://greatist.com/health/vegan-thanksgiving-recipes

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