Why we do what we do

Why we do what we do

education, inspirationThe function of education is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically. Intelligence plus character – that is the goal of true education.                                                  ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

Originally posted September 7, 2020

Working education at times is less than ideal.  As a teacher, particular a secondary or elementary teacher, you can often find yourself spending your own money for materials.  Feeling helpless at times about the living situations that your students are in at times.  You don’t get a ton of public respect, you are often viewed as not much more than babysitters, but illogically, after claiming that, people are also down on you for not making their children geniuses.  You personally get painted with all of the failings that exist in our school systems while you spend your own money, your own hours and much of yourself trying to move your students forward in life.

It doesn’t get much better at the college level.  College professors are often viewed as not working very hard, accused of living in ivory towers or being eggheads.  The single most frequent quote about teachers is those who can do, those who can’t teach.  So it’s not like respect and appreciation are overflowing for college professors.

Administrators may have it worst of all.  At best, both within and without of education we are seen an impediment to education.  For teachers who become administrators, almost all administrators were former teachers, you get accused of going over to the dark side for making the switch to administration.  I can’t even count the times I’ve heard faculty members or the public complain about how the reason that education is so underfunded is because all of the money goes to pay for too many high paid administrators who do nothing instead of student resources or faculty pay.

At every level in education regardless of position you deal with lots of training requirements and rules.  We are all mandatory reporters.  There is no one who has worked in education for very long who can’t tell you heart breaking stories of students they have worked with and tried to help.  Myself, over my career I’ve lost students back to many bad living situations, one I think of often who had to drop out of school to join the family drug business.  I’ve had situations where students have told me about abuse, reported incidences of rape and violence.  I’ve taken students to their first AA meeting.  Education honestly, is not for the faint of heart.

So why do we do it?  It’s a pretty easy answer.  There may be nothing more satisfying in a job then watching that light bulb moment in a classroom.  That incredibly special moment when a student who has been struggling with a concept suddenly puts it all together and their face lights up with understanding and knowledge.  There are so many small moments when a student tells you you’ve helped them learn, change or grow.  So amazing when they come back years later and tell you how much you meant to them and their lives.

One of the hard things about becoming an administrator is that as you take a step further away from students, you lose a lot of that contact and that payoff for the work that you do.  Now people will tell you that you have to look at things differently, that the work you do supports all of the teachers and therefore you share in all of the rewards.  That’s technically accurate, but I’m not quite mature enough for that to count.  It’s just not the same as having students come back and thank you.  Don’t get me wrong, it still happens, not as often but it does, and it happened this week.

I went into one of the few on ground classes that we still have during COVID times to do my beginning of the semester chat with the students.  After the presentation I was leaving and a student followed me out of the class.  At first I didn’t recognize him due to the mask, but he quickly reminded of who he was.  He was a student who came to me last year.  He was in a tough place, he’d moved to the west coast and was far away from his family.  His niece back east had just been killed.  He was struggling with staying here and now he was dealing with an issue with one of his instructors who he felt was treating him disrespectfully.  I listened to him and set a meeting for the three of us.  It was a good meeting, the student was honest, the instructor listened and seemed open to what was being said.  I never heard anything, which typically means things had mitigated enough for things to work.  But the student told me it had been more than that.  My instructor had done a phenomenal job of listening and changing his behavior.  The student due to that, decided to stick things out and made it through the semester.

Since then he’s completed his associates degree, and will be moving on to an engineering program.  He told me today that he had decided to stay here, “where his opportunity was,” instead of heading back east because of how we had treated him.  He told me with incredibly sincerity that he thought I had done a magnificent job dealing with the issue, that his instructor had been amazing.  He thanked me and told me, that we likely saved his life.  The in violation of all the COVID rules I’d just finished discussing, he hugged me.  I laughed and told him we weren’t supposed to do that, but I understood, sometimes humanity is more important than safety.

This is why we do this, moments like this, but more than that, to actually have this type of impact in someone’s life is an honor and a privilege.

This also hit close to home, Columbia-Greene Community College lives on a short list of the things that I consider to have similarly saved my life when I crashed and burned as a young man.  At the point in my life when I was an addict, an alcoholic and a failure, at a time when I was wallowing in what was likely a clinical level of depression.  The registrar, I believe her name was Barbara, bent the rules and allowed me to be a student in the fall of 1984.  It was my first success, my first step to the life I have today.  So I work in community college to pay that debt forward, this week I got some confirmation I’m doing just that, and that’s why I do what I do. ~ Michael “Rev” Kane

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Simplest Formula for Happiness

Simplest Formula for Happiness

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 The most simple things can bring the greatest happiness                                        ~ Izabella Scorupco

Originally posted February, 2019

We of course talk a lot about it, this is The Ministry of Happiness after all. I try in these posts to help us all delve into the depths of the elements of our lives that can help us bring happiness into our lives. Occasionally however, it’s good to return to the core ideas, to the simplest things that we can do to bring ourselves happiness. I do a lot of reading about happiness and these ideas seem to be at the absolute core of whatever everyone agrees are the things we can control in terms of our own happiness.

There are of course things we can’t control, our very genetic makeup which can control how easily or deeply we can become depressed. Our circumstances at birth and in our early life are also out of our control and experts typically say that these things account for about 60% of our happiness. But we control about 40% and the following things are primarily how we do that.

 

Relationships

Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home… it’s your responsibility to love it, or change it. ~ Chuck Palahniuk

Who we spend time with has a tremendous impact on our happiness, we have talked about this many times before and I understand how hard it is to push people out of your circle who diminish your happiness but you must do this whenever possible. We often underestimate how possible it is for us to do this. So whenever possible surround yourself with happy, supportive and caring people who truly care for you.

 

Gratitude

Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. ~ Marcel Proust

I had a great reminder of this today in talking with my 89-year-old Granny, after gently complaining about some things she stopped and said, I count my blessings, I’ve probably had more than I deserve in this life. Beautiful wisdom there and what she said probably goes for most of us, if we count our blessings, if we are grateful for what we have and were to tally it up, I think we’d all find we have far more than we deserve. Being grateful does many things for us it solidifies and strengthens are relationships and research also shows us that it can be healthy for us helping to reduce stress.

 

Mindfulness

Be happy in the moment, that’s enough. Each moment is all we need, not more.                 ~ Mother Teresa

One of the absolute best things we can do to make ourselves happier is to become more present in our lives, more mindful. To focus intently upon the here and now, the person or people immediately in front of us makes all of our experiences and interactions richer. This also helps us be more grateful for our lives, allows us to be focused and less distracted.

 

Kindness and Giving

A warm smile is the universal language of kindness ~ William Arther Ward

We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give                                       ~ Winston Churchill

When we are kind to others, help others, it makes us happier, maybe in that sense it’s not a purely selfish act, but if you can help others and by doing so help yourself I’d say that’s a pretty good deal. There are formal and larger ways to help people but I think sometimes the smaller acts are equally as powerful. One little thing I do at the college I work at is to occasionally buy a student lunch. Usually I do this when I’m in line at the cafeteria and someone comes up a little short, or their credit card is working or for some reason it just seems like they are having a tough day. Doing it makes me feel good and always really surprises the students, a little kindness and giving goes a long way. One of the easiest ways to be kind to people is to just smile at them, it will confuse some people, but a smile as we’ve talked about before, makes people feel good.

 

Purpose

Every person has a longing to be significant; to make a contribution; to be a part of something noble and purposeful. ~ John C. Maxwell

This may be the most important and hardest component of being happy. Finding a purpose in life is hugely important to making us feel like our life is worth something and that we are worthy of happiness. Some people find this purpose in love and marriage, others in their children, but one place where many of us struggle is in our work. For many of us we work at the job we are at because we have to, we all have bills to pay, mouths to feed. But is important to our self-worth and therefore our happiness that we find that purpose if not purely in our job, at least in some component of what we do for a living.

So my friends find those great relationships, count our blessings, be mindful of each precious moment of our life, be kind and giving and lead a purpose driven life.  In return you may find yourself having many happy days ~ Rev Kane

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Quotes about Inspiration & Happiness

Quotes about Inspiration & Happiness

happinessThe holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

 

So tonight a huge collection of quotes full of wisdom and advice on how to be inspired to be a happier person.  Has to be a few hundred total, enjoy and have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

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My Favorite Appalachian Trail Photos of 2015

My Favorite Appalachian Trail Photos of 2015

unaka quoteToday a tour back through all of my AT photos from 2015.  Enjoy, and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

Originally published in January, 2016.

Sometimes you get real hungry on the trail

Sometimes you get real hungry on the trail

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Section hiker - Hotfoot!

Section hiker – Hotfoot!

Backtrack and I at the end of one of early days on the trail

Backtrack and I at the end of one of early days on the trail

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The green tunnel in PA

The green tunnel in PA

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OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

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Brassie Brook Shelter

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Getting fierce next to his first white blaze

Getting fierce next to his first white blaze

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Pausing in front of a pretty stream on our last day!

Pausing in front of a pretty stream on our last day!

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Reuniting in VT with hikers I met on the first day.

Reuniting in VT with hikers I met on the first day.

The boys arriving at Amicalola

The boys arriving at Amicalola

Rev Kane on his arrival at Amicalola Falls State Park

Rev Kane on his arrival at Amicalola Falls State Park

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Beaver Pond on the trail

Beaver Pond on the trail

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I've seen much worse that this on other hikers. It's the toe underneath not the nail that's black. Eventually the tip of my toe shriveled up and fell off.

I’ve seen much worse that this on other hikers. It’s the toe underneath not the nail that’s black. Eventually the tip of my toe shriveled up and fell off.

Some of my early and lovely calluses

Some of my early and lovely calluses

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Dawn at 5000 feet

Dawn at 5000 feet

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The AARP gang with our host Lumpy on the left at Standing Bear

I promised I'd leave him anonymous, but this is hiking bliss on top of Blood Mountain

I promised I’d leave him anonymous, but this is hiking bliss on top of Blood Mountain

The youngest hiker, Olivia and her mom. She's done 300 miles on the AT and she can't even walk yet.

The youngest hiker, Olivia and her mom. She’s done 300 miles on the AT and she can’t even walk yet.

Two adorable section hikers I met in the Shenandoah

Two adorable section hikers I met in the Shenandoah

 

Me and Mao at a shelter in the SNP

Me and Mao at a shelter in the SNP

Strawberries for lunch

Strawberries for lunch

Jedi and Shaggy relaxing

Jedi and Shaggy relaxing

The first two thru-hikers I met, traveling on the train to Atlanta

The first two thru-hikers I met, traveling on the train to Atlanta

Mad Hatter heading back to the trail

Mad Hatter heading back to the trail

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Petri and Ducky at Springer Mountain

Petri and Ducky at Springer Mountain

Rev with Hercules aka Vortex

Rev with Hercules aka Vortex

Rev Kane with fellow hiker and vet Mau.

Rev Kane with fellow hiker and vet Mau.

Modeling at the Shenandoah National Park AT exhibit

Modeling at the Shenandoah National Park AT exhibit

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Modeling the bear pole

Modeling the bear pole

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Rev Kane with some of his trail family

Rev Kane with some of his trail family

Rev Kane on his first day on the Appalachian Trail

Rev Kane on his first day on the Appalachian Trail

Me and Mighty Mouse

Me and Mighty Mouse

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You all ROCK!!!

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Safely on the porch at Mountain Harbour B&B

Safely on the porch at Mountain Harbour B&B

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The crew enjoying the day

The crew enjoying the day

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Miss Hattie

Miss Hattie

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Queen Diva at the Hiker's Ridge Ministry.

Queen Diva at the Hiker’s Ridge Ministry.

AT markers on Main Street in Hot Springs

AT markers on Main Street in Hot Springs

Lovely Tie at Laughing Heart Hostel

Lovely Tie at Laughing Heart Hostel

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At Hemlock Hollow

At Hemlock Hollow

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Lumpy's predecessor at Standing Bear, Rocket Man

Lumpy’s predecessor at Standing Bear, Rocket Man

The AARP gang with our host Lumpy on the left at Standing Bear

The AARP gang with our host Lumpy on the left at Standing Bear

Awesome, Backtrack, Rev Kan, and the Kingfisher

Awesome, Backtrack, Rev Kan, and the Kingfisher

Photo by Shaggy Hobo

Photo by Shaggy Hobo

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My air mattress savior

My air mattress savior

Rev Kane on Rocky Top

Rev Kane on Rocky Top

Photo by Shaggy Hobo

Photo by Shaggy Hobo

Me and Cliffhanger

Me and Cliffhanger

Me and the Mad Hatter

Me and the Mad Hatter

Backtrack, Shaggy Hobo and Rev Kane

Backtrack, Shaggy Hobo and Rev Kane

Me and Tough Cookie (she's back on the trail after appendicitis surgery 6 weeks ago)

Me and Tough Cookie (she’s back on the trail after appendicitis surgery 6 weeks ago)

Damn Yankee (grew up 20 minutes from me in NY) and Backtrack

Damn Yankee (grew up 20 minutes from me in NY) and Backtrack

Two utterly amazing and interesting folks, Patches and Airborne.

Two utterly amazing and interesting folks, Patches and Airborne.

The AARP gang, me, Backtrack, Kingfisher and Awesome

The AARP gang, me, Backtrack, Kingfisher and Awesome

The NC/GA Border

The NC/GA Border

First rough night on the AT

First rough night on the AT

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My first night on the trail

My first night on the trail

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Happiness is love and unconventional wisdom

Happiness is love and unconventional wisdom

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu

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Originally posted January, 2014

So tonight friends let’s talk about love.  Recently I saw something that I found quite interesting it was a piece discussing the difference between healthy and unhealthy love.

This was one of those brief pieces that tells us that healthy love is adult love, the kind of mature, in control and responsible love that you grow into like an old pair of shoes, dependable and comfortable.  They use the example of love like a grilled cheese sandwich and tomato soup on a rainy day.  Now that is a beautiful dose of conventional wisdom and if you are unique just like everyone else it will probably fit you like Cinderella’s proverbial slipper.

If you read our site closely you’ll see that this is The Church of Abnormal Acceptance and its Ministry of Happiness.  The name of the church was chosen carefully, we offer acceptance, over the internet as part of our services, the idea that no matter who you are, what you’re into we don’t care.  We only care about helping you be a happier person.  Why you might ask would we be so accepting?  In a word experience, in my time here on Earth I have noticed that average doesn’t exist, we’re all in our own way freaks in one way or another.  Hell some of us in three or four ways.  This observation is never as sharp as it is on the playa at the Burning Man Festival.  The beauty of Burning Man is that it provides a dissolution of normal, it no longer exists and the test is quite simple.  At Burning Man if you slowly rotate 360 degrees carefully observing all you see, I assure you, you will never be the biggest freak.  It drives home the idea that we’re all freaks and as such we had better be accepting of freaks, because just like the freaks we see, the freak we are needs to be loved and accepted for who we are inside and out.

So throw conventional wisdom on love, on acceptance, hell on most things out the window.  I’ll come back to the piece I referenced on healthy and unhealthy love.  Healthy, adult, mature, grilled cheese love might work for you; it might be exactly what you need in your life to be utterly fulfilled and happy.  However the freak in me needs a little more unhealthy love in his life, some jalapenos on his grilled cheese, some fresh basil and garlic in his tomato soup.  They described unhealthy love as being powerless with no boundaries, like a drug.  Well I like a little excitement in my love, a little insanity, maybe it’s not healthy, but neither are chocolate chip cookies and ice cream but they make me happy.  So find out what you need to be happy, and don’t let anyone else tell you it’s not what you need, find it, get it and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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Happiness is a fruit tree

Happiness is a fruit tree

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A life without love is like a tree without fruit ~ Kahlil Gibran

Originally published June, 2014

So tonight friends a piece about my garden, specifically my fruit trees.  You see I’m incredibly excited about the fact that I have plums ripening on the tree in the picture above.  To brag just a bit, I also have lemons ripening and seven, that’s right SEVEN golden delicious apples on the tree.  I have been a gardener since I was very young, my mother had me in the garden growing vegetables when I was about five years old.  I love vegetable gardening and seem to have an inherit knack for it, something that brings me great happiness.  There is nothing better than eating food you have grown and even more so, my absolute favorite, home grown tomatoes.

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My grandfather, pictured above, also played a pivotal role in my love of gardening.  He loved growing tomatoes and roses, a love he shared and passed on to me.  He was a brilliant teacher, the way he got me to help plant roses was by pointing out that the first thing you do when growing roses is to go fishing.  As a kid I loved to fish, so he had me absolutely hooked.  We would put the fish we caught in the hole to fertilize the roses.  As a result I’ve become pretty successful at growing both roses and tomatoes, a couple examples of my work below.

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As successful as me and my grandfather were, we had one huge failure that has always haunted me.  I must have been seven or eight years old when my grandfather said to me, hey, let’s plant an apple tree.  I was thoroughly excited, I love apples and was already into gardening so the idea of growing fruit was over the top wonderful.  We planted the tree and it grew a bit that summer.  The next summer it grew some more, by the third summer it sort of stopped growing.  The tree never flowered, never grew any fruit and was a horrible disappointment for a little kid who was trying ever so hard to be patient for his apples.

At various times in my life I’ve planted fruit trees in yards and pots and all of them fizzled out for one reason or another.  At my current home I nearly killed my lemon and mandarin trees by putting them in the ground and finally acquiesced and put them in pots where they have done much better.  Little tiny lemons are growing as we speak, my mandarins flowered by set no fruit.  I’ve also killed a peach and a pomegranate tree over the last couple of years.  But friends, my patience has paid off and now after a mere forty year wait, I will have plums, lemons AND FINALLY APPLES!!!

So the next time you have a piece of fruit my friends, think about my grandfather, our failed apple tree and my recent success, give a little smile and have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

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My COVID Times Diary – The Slow Motion Apocalypse

My COVID Times DiaryThe Slow Motion Apocalypse

The probability of apocalypse soon cannot be realistically estimated, but it is surely too high for any sane person to contemplate with equanimity.  ~ Noam Chomsky

I’ve thought about the apocalypse a lot in my life, for a time I was even the editor of a dystopian website.  One of the things that you always think about when you contemplate the apocalypse, is that it will be some disastrous event.  Basically that the apocalypse will happen quickly.  This is what we see in dystopian films, the asteroid coming to hit the Earth, the aliens arrive, a virus takes over and 28 days later has infected the entire world.

I have to admit almost six months into our COVID times lives I’m really starting to wonder if we’ve had it wrong all along.  Maybe the apocalypse isn’t like what happened in Pompeii,  maybe it’s a slow motion event, or series of events.  Which of course leads me to wonder are we living through the apocalypse right now?

At this moment, in the bay area, it especially feels this way.  Right now we are living in the middle of a pandemic that has killed almost 200,000 people and has made over five million people sick, many who will suffer long-term or life long impacts from having the disease.  In the bay area nearly one million acres have burned in the last couple of weeks. Which has meant that the skies have been smoke filled for that entire time.  Over the first two weeks of school our district has closed campuses 4 out of 8 days due to poor air quality.

Due to the coronavirus virus outbreak, we have had weekly unemployment filings of over a million people, all total this numbers over thirty million people on unemployment.  For the most recent financial quarter our economy saw the largest drop in quarterly GDP in the history of America.  And likely the worst is yet to come as evictions begin to pile up and the long-term economic implications of the virus sink into our economy in a real way.

The true slow motion apocalypse, climate change is here.  In the 80’s scientists first started putting out the warnings of the impacts of climate change.  Yes, that’s right, we’ve know about it, been warned about it now for forty years!  The models of climate change impact predicted arctic ice melting at a massive rate, higher intensity storms and more global infectious diseases.  These at one point were all theoretical concepts of what will happen some day.  That is no longer the case.  We have seen record losses of ice on the Greenland ice sheet.  We just this past week we watched a hurricane go from Category 1 to Category 4 in just a couple of days due to record high temperatures in the water of the Gulf of Mexico, we’re now frequently see this happen.  This short time span of extreme strengthening leaves people far less time to prepare for major hurricanes.  With Laura the coast got lucky that the potential horrific storm surge didn’t happen.  Trust me, within the next few years we are going to see a massive tragedy and high loss of life due to this pattern.  Finally, new and expanding ranges of existing diseases is obviously here.  Not just that a novel coronavirus has erupted, we were overdue for that.  But think about Zika Virus, about the range of yellow fever and malaria expanding.

I have gauged the level of public fear during the pandemic by the length of lines at the local gun store.  I live in one of the most liberal and gun averse areas of America.  But in April, I watched huge lines form daily outside of the gun store for weeks.  The lines began to abate as the deaths from COVID started to fall.  Then, as the rates started to bump back up, as bay area counties went on the statewide watch list, the lines started to grow again.

I wonder how the fear, the pressure, the stress and the actual impacts of the slow motion apocalypse will exacerbate our slow motion apocalypse.  I hope that the optimists are right.  I hope that a vaccine will be perfected in the next year, that it will be widely distributed and effective.  I hope that people will embrace it and that it will allow life to not just get back normal, but that the experience will spur people to a higher awareness.  That people will be kinder and more aware of the future and the implications of our actions.  But I also know that hope, is a four-letter word. I’m afraid that once we get past the pandemic, people will ignore the long-term thinking necessary to impact the larger issues.  That we will just return to selfish actions and short-term thinking and like the frog in the pot, sit their while the water is slowly warmed until we boil.  Let’s hope not for the sake of our children and grandchildren. ~ Michael A Kane

 

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Friends, joy, gratitude and transition

Friends, joy, gratitude and transition

Rev Kane and two truly wonderful friends on Thanksgiving

Rev Kane with some of his chosen family on Thanksgiving

Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs. The ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and who love you no matter what. ~ Unkown

Originally published, November 2014

So as many of you know I’m in significant life transition right now. Tonight I wanted to take a few minutes to lay out the last week of my life, what I’m grateful for and some of the struggles those close to me are having. In the last week I have finalized the sale of and move out from my home, traveled to Las Vegas for three days for Thanksgiving and moved into a friend’s house. It has been a whirlwind, up late three nights moving and cleaning only to hit Las Vegas and be up late three nights having fun. Not surprising I woke up in the throes of a cold this morning, my body’s way of saying time to rest.

I’m grateful I sold my house to a good friend, someone who will appreciate that home as much as I did. I’m grateful for the chosen family I got to spend Thanksgiving with, there is something about being with people who have known you for decades that is quite special, particularly when their partners are every bit as fabulous as they are. To celebrate Thanksgiving with them, and to get to play with them in Las Vegas for a couple of days was truly wonderful.

Returning to my new temporary home and a gathering of work friends, a lovely little bon voyage was wonderful. These friends have not known me for decades but I feel like some of them certainly will. I’m especially grateful to my friend Steve who has opened his home to me as I wrap up work and transition out of my current life, a supreme act of kindness and friendship.

So I have a lot to be thankful for, my impending journey is scary and wonderful and I can’t wait to begin. But it seems that the universe craves balance in all things. Simultaneously my granny is struggling with pneumonia in the hospital and two friends are struggling in their marriages. So as much as I’m grateful for in my life, I’m also trying to be there for them and give as much as I’m lucky to get from this life.

So friends, tonight I ask you to pause and reflect on the good things and also reach out a hand to those who may be struggling a bit. This time of year the world is especially hard for some folks, so reach out and give a little extra warmth and both give and have, a happy day ~ Rev Kane

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Finding Joy in the Lives of Children

Finding Joy in the Lives of Children

children, jjoyI threw my cup away when I saw a child drinking from his hands at the trough.                 ~ Diogenes

It was my birthday this past week and I had the good fortune of having some interaction with my nieces and nephews.  I have a running joke with a couple of my nieces where I claim I’m Batman, and they explain with great glee how incredibly wrong I am.  So for my birthday I got a box fully of Batman swag, mask, cape, cup, water bottle etc… It was awesome.  I also found out that one of my nephews has gotten into conspiracies around Area 51, so I relayed a story about my trip there and sent him a deck of cards from the Little Alien Inn, which they spell in quite a cutesy fashion.

The biggest joy though was getting a phone message from my littlest nephews and niece.  The first word my niece has ever said to me was, pizza.  Which is absolute proof that she is my niece.  I got to Skype with them yesterday and they had an amazing perspective on my age.  I turned 56, my brother is 41.  So I asked them how old they thought I was, they said 35.  I laughed and asked them how old their dad was they said, 43.  It was funny when they worked out the real numbers with some hints.  It made me laugh at their perception of age and time.

I love the way children view the world, I love the lack of cynicism.  I love the way they can laugh so easily and find humor in the silliest stuff.  It’s why I love spending time with kids, it’s a time to just be silly and free.  Time to not think about deeper things or care about the bigger issues of the world for a time.  Most of all I love the fact they still posses that absolute sense of awe and wonder about the world.  I still have that to, it is often overridden by responsibility and cynicism, but it’s still there and hanging with kids is one of the best ways to tap into it.

No deep thoughts or wisdom this evening, just a few words about the joy of children and the gratitude that I have in actually getting to experience that this week.  As always, have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Happy Images and Sayings

Happy Images and Sayings

01Today some images and sayings about happiness, enjoy ~ Rev Kane

Originally posted October, 2016

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