Twelve Days of Christmas Happiness: Seventh Day

Twelve Days of Christmas Happiness: Seventh Day

Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.  ~Robert Brault

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Hello my friends, as we push through the holiday season and in our continuing attempts to make this a happy time for all of us today we start the 12 days of Christmas, but this countdown will have little related to Christmas and much related to making sure you have 12 happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

Tonight a couple of pieces both focusing on staying happy in the moment:

Living in the moment really does make you happier

TED talk – Want to be happier stay in the moment

Sixth Day

Fifth Day

Fourth Day

Third Day

Second Day

First Day

Other pieces you might enjoy!

Holiday Happiness: Fun Holiday Stories

Holiday Happiness: Overcoming Worry

Holiday Happiness: Family, Friends & Your Environment

Holiday Happiness: Resources for Overcoming Holiday Depression

Fun Friday: Funny Internet Memes

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The Reason for the Season

The Reason for the Season

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Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more. ~ H. Jackson Brown

Tonight my friends I am sharing with you a very difficult and special post.  This morning an old friend reached out to me to ask me to help with something she was doing.  You see her five year-old nephew has terminal liver cancer.  There’s nothing left for them to do but to keep him happy and comfortable.  He loves getting mail and so she was asking my help to see if they could get him a postcard from all 50 states.  I of course said yes, as my heart broke.  The idea of losing one of my nieces or nephews at five years-old is unimaginable to me.

So my friends, tonight I’m writing to ask you to help out as well.  This is exactly the type of thing I would love the Ministry of Happiness to be able to assist with.  So I’ve decided, to protect the family’s privacy to act as an aggregator for the postcards.  I would love it if this blog, if my readers, you my friends could help provide this little man with some joy in his life.  Help us, not only get him a card from every state, but also from as many countries as possible.  Show this young man that in this world and in this time where people seem so self-centered and uncaring, that people still have enough space in their hearts and in their lives to bring a young, ill child some joy and happiness.

So I’m asking two things:

  1.  The address is below, if you can, could you take some time to send a card.  A simple message, Happy New Year Miles from wherever your sending it from would be magnificent.
  2. Spread this post far and wide, it would be so amazing to send this little a thousand little lights of love in the form or notes and cards.

Address postcards, notes and cards to:

For Miles
c/o Rev Kane
PO Box 1253
San Bruno, CA 94066

This all has touched me so much, and broken my heart, please help out my friends and help Miles have some happy days. You’ll have my eternal gratitude. ~ Rev Kane

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Twelve Days of Christmas Happiness: Twelfth Day

Twelve Days of Christmas Happiness: Twelfth Day

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. ~ Marcel Proust

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Hello my friends, as we push through the holiday season and in our continuing attempts to make this a happy time for all of us today we start the 12 days of Christmas, but this countdown will have little related to Christmas and much related to making sure you have 12 happy days my friends ~ Rev Kane

Tonight a sweet little piece about happiness and gardening – Achieving Happiness in your Garden the Twelfth Secret

 

Other pieces you might enjoy!

Holiday Happiness: Fun Holiday Stories

Holiday Happiness: Overcoming Worry

Holiday Happiness: Family, Friends & Your Environment

Holiday Happiness: Resources for Overcoming Holiday Depression

Fun Friday: Funny Internet Memes

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A Holiday Six Pack

A Holiday Six Pack

holiday six packTalk to yourself like you would to someone you love. ~ Brene Brown

So tonight a smattering, a six pack if you will, of happiness related thoughts for your holiday season.

Self-care at Christmas

During the holiday season please my friends take care of yourself.  I know it’s that time of year, you’re out shopping for others, cooking for others, meeting family obligations, wrapping presents, sending out cards and generally trying to be good to others.  That is of course fantastic and the point of the season after all.  But it’s truly important that you don’t do that to the detriment of yourself.  It’s like they tell you on the airplane, put your own oxygen mask on first, before helping others.  You’re no good to others if you’re burned out and miserable.  So yes, do lots of things for others, but take the time to take care of yourself.  So, slip that spa appointment in there somewhere, or just take fifteen minutes to sit someplace quiet and sip a cup of coffee or tea.

Relax, be giving and kind

Part of that self care is to relax and not let the holiday madness get to you.  Do something that most others won’t be doing during the season.  Take your time, relax and be extra kind.  So hold the door open, let that person in traffic, don’t jump on your horn when you get cut off.  Take an extra breath whenever possible, smile more, say hello and wish people a happy holiday.  You’ll feel better and make others feel better as well.

Tips for Holiday Travel

This time of year many of us will be traveling, in fact it has been reported that this will be the busiest travel year in history.  The best advice I can give, some of which I talked about in my post, tips for holiday travel, is to not be in a hurry.  Force patience on yourself by giving yourself extra time to reach your destination.  Pick flights with longer layovers to avoid delays causing you to miss a flight.  Take those longer layovers and find out if there is something fun happening at your layover airport.  Give yourself extra time for everything, security will be slower, taxis and rideshares will take longer.  Don’t put yourself on a schedule that will also skyrocket your blood pressure.  The piece I linked to includes some advice on how to make holiday travel with children more tolerable as well.

Give a really great gift

I’ve always really tried to give good gifts.  An example, my mother and one of her neighbors have recently gotten interested in the stars they see just after sunset.  So, I bought her a telescope.  Giving good gifts is about thinking what people are interested and excited about and finding something that parallels this interest.  So this year, think about someone, really think about what they really love and find them a gift they will love.  It doesn’t have to be expensive, just something that will really make someone happy.  In this time of materialism and commerce, a thoughtful gift can really touch someone’s heart because it shows them that you really care about who they are.

Be grateful for the gifts you get and have

We have talked about gratitude so much on this blog because it’s really important to our well-being and happiness.  Truly being grateful for the gifts in your life, (people and even yes actual presents), will make you feel better about your life and generally happier.  Take just a few minutes every single day to think about how fortunate you truly are, no matter how bad the day might be going.

Have fun

Please have fun this holiday season, don’t get so hung up on your responsibilities and obligations that you forget to have a good time.  Make sure that throughout the holiday season you schedule some time to just enjoy yourself. If you live in the snow, go make a snowman or sledding, go ice skating or have a really nice dinner out.  Make positive use of those days off from work and have happy days my friends.  ~ Rev Kane

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Holiday Happiness: Resources for Fighting Holiday Depression

Holiday Happiness: Resources for Fighting Holiday Depression

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If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days. ~ Kris Carr

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

Hello friends, tonight we continue our posts on holiday depression with a collection of resources that I hope will help you cope if your mood starts to suffer during the holiday season.  Let me be clear, we are not talking about clinical depression.  Clinical depression is a disease that needs serious attention and treatment.  If you are feeling down and not bouncing back after the holiday season then maybe something more serious is going on.  At that point I’d check in with a medical professional and have a conversation.

Practical and Powerful Ways to Overcome Depression – I really love this piece, simple straightforward and sound advice.  Get outside, exercise, get sleep, eat better, ridiculously simple but also highly effective.

Nine effective treatments for overcoming mild depression – I like the way this piece starts out, recommendations for exercise, light therapy and some supplements.  The last couple recommendations are fairly heavy and seem more directed to more serious depression.

From WebMD, 10 Natural Depression Treatments – There is a definite pattern in the advice offered from various resources.  Get the basics right, eat, sleep, safety and security.

This time of year you may also be suffering from the most terribly acronymed issue ever, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).  So this piece is worth a quick read as well, you’ll definitely see some overlap between how to deal with both issues.

7 Tips for Treating SAD at Home

 

Other Posts You Might Enjoy!

The Art of Smiling and Being Positive

Happiness is Staying Positive

Twelve Days of Christmas – For People Who Don’t Like Christmas

Fear is Killing Your Happiness

 

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Holiday Happiness: Happiness Moment

Holiday Happiness: Happiness Moment

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The holidays are often a very stressful period for people so for the next 34 days (Thanksgiving through Christmas) we’re going to do a post a day, something happy and uplifting each day, perhaps an image, a poem, a quote, a moment of happiness or some bit of wisdom all in an effort to boost everyone’s happiness a little bit.  You can do your part by paying it forward, send these little bits of happiness on to others and ask that they do the same and as always, have a happy day my friends ~ Rev Kane

A happy little story today about a moment of happiness, on Halloween night I had a 18 month old Jedi Knight come knocking on my door.  The young Ben Kenobi scammed me out of an extra piece of candy.  He was adorable, and even helped me close my door and stood there waving, left me smiling all night.

These may also may you smile…

Happiness is Laughter: Funny Signs

Happiness quotes

The Art of Smiling and Being Positive

Happiness is Staying Positive

Twelve Days of Christmas – For People Who Don’t Like Christmas

 

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Holiday Happiness: You Need to Relax

Holiday Happiness: You Need to Relax

relax happinessYou have to relax when you’re shooting an arrow. You can’t be tense. And that just helps, in your day-to-day life. ~ Stephen Amell

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

So the holidays are rolling in full on us, nine or ten days to Christmas.  You can tell, everywhere you go there are bloody Christmas carols playing incessantly.  Even doing the laundry this morning meant an hour and a half of Christmas carols.  You can also tell by parking lots, any lot where there are shopping opportunities, the lots are full.  Not just full, but also full of people who have turned parking into a bloodsport.  Constantly now there are people in their cars just sitting on that “good spot” where someone is just beginning to load their car before leaving.  Now it doesn’t matter if that person is 10 seconds or 10 minutes from leaving, they are going to sit there and completely and totally muck up traffic in order to save from having to walk another 100 feet.

The other thing that happens this time of year is parking lot stalking.  You know, as you walk out to your car, they roll ever so slowly waiting for you to get to your car so they can institute their sitting and waiting maneuver.  Heck, sometimes they’ll even get on their horn if you don’t leave soon enough.  I’m not always such a nice person and occasionally this time of year I’ll claim a little revenge on parking lot stalkers.  What I do, is that I’ll come out of a store and purposefully walk up the wrong aisle in order to get stalkers to follow me, only to cross across aisles just to watch them punch and try to rip around the aisle to get to my spot, which of course, is another aisle over from the original aisle in the opposite direction.  Like I said, not always such a nice guy.

be happy, back to the basicsFor me this mean little game is a bit of relaxation in this season.  People get really worked up, stressed out, people are hurrying around, heck on “Black Friday” there is even violence at times.  All of this hurrying and stress just adds to the pressure and bad feelings people have this time of year.  This stress can be the trigger to that dip into the well that we talked about last night.  So what’s the solution, well for me it’s scheduling time during the holidays for no other purpose than to relax.  I’ve talked before about the importance and benefits of relaxation and let me be clear what I’m talking about during the holidays.  We do lots of “relaxing” things during the holiday.  We go caroling, or tree cutting as a family, we have cookie baking parties and go to work holiday parties.  All of this, whether we want to or not, whether we enjoy it or not because it’s an obligation or a tradition.  Often some of our traditions serve no other purpose than to make one person happy and re-create the holiday stress of years passed.

So pick an afternoon, a morning or an evening, just for a couple of hours one day during the holiday season and just relax.  Go do something you really love to do, go bowling, or for a hike, sneak off to a coffee shop and watch some Netflix or read a book.  Go get a massage, that has multiple benefits.  Whatever it is, make it something that reduces your stress and just makes you feel good.  It will save your sanity a bit, make the holidays more enjoyable, maybe prevent holiday depression and help you have a happier days my friend. ~ Rev Kane

 

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Holiday Happiness: Giving

Holiday Happiness: Giving

giving kindnessIt is in giving that we receive. ~ Francis of Assisi

 

The holidays are a very stressful time for everyone and an exceptionally hard time for some.  So, until the New Year I’ll be posting a Holiday Happiness post each day to try help folks out who are struggling.  As always you can reach out to me at Happinesskane@aol.com for a kind word or someone to listen. ~ Rev Kane

Tonight I want to talk about giving.  One of my favorite things this time of year is giving gifts.  In giving, without the expectation of receiving, we truly show our ability to be kind and care for others.  I especially like, trying to find a gift that really shows the person I know who they are by finding something that connects with them.

kindness happinessThis time of year we also generally try and reach out and give to others as well, whether it is volunteering for a charity, giving money, or even dropping some change in the Salvation Army kettle.  This time of year we are good about thinking about others, about being charitable, the challenge is to find that spirit in us the rest of the year as well.  Have a happy day my friends. ~ Rev Kane

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Holiday Happiness: Tips for Happiness

Holiday Happiness: Tips for Happiness

Hello my friends, as we push through the holiday season and in our continuing attempts to make this a happy time for all of us today we continue to provide you pieces to keep you positive this time of year. Rev Kane

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Whatever makes you happy,as long as it doesn’t hurt you or someone else,do it. Schedule pleasurable activities into your life with the same dedication, precision and priority you give less-than-pleasurable ones ~ Peter McWilliams

Tonight a really nicely written blog piece – Ten Rules for my Life

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Happiness, Exercise and Holiday Depression

Happiness, Exercise and Holiday Depression

01Jumping for joy is good exercise.  ~Author Unknown

We are now well within the so-called “holiday season” and it, at least according to every Norman Rockwell painting I’ve ever seen, is supposed to be a perfect time of family, friends and cocoa around the fireplace.  Unfortunately for some of us this is not always the case, in particular, although I love Thanksgiving, as evidenced by a previous post:

https://ministryofhappiness.wordpress.com/2010/11/25/why-thanksgiving-is-my-favorite-holiday/

I have no special affinity for Christmas.  The holiday season definitely brings its share of friends and family, parties and gatherings.  This can be wonderful, but it can also bring with it a level of stress as well.  Playing the host or hostess at parties, trying to figure out the perfect gift for a loved one or friend, renewing the old stresses of childhood at family gatherings, all of these things can be hard.

So, during the holiday season we have a tendency to do some things we don’t normally do.  We eat too much, and definitely too many sweets, we drink more than we normally do.  Additionally we are often traveling and all of this added together gets us out of our routines, particularly our exercise routine if we have one.

The holidays also bring something else to a lot of people, depression.  People can feel really alone during the holidays, particular people who have gone through a major life change in the last year.  That can often include the elderly, singles and people who do not have strong connections to family or friends.  It has even gotten its own term, holiday depression.  The link below can give you more information on the topic:

http://www.depression-guide.com/depression-holidays.htm

This brings us back around to exercise and happiness and the connection between the two in our lives.  At any time exercise has a long list of positive effects on our mood.  The list below comes from http://www.depression-guide.com/depression-and-exercise.htm  and shows all of the ways in which exercise can improve our mood and increase our happiness:

  • People have reported that, when they exercise, can think more clearly, feel happy, feel better about themselves, lose weight, develop strength, and enjoy a sense of well-being.
  • Exercise increased positive mood
  • they sleep better
  • have less nervousness and anxiety,
  • Exercise decreased negative mood
  • Exercise improved vigor
  • Exercise is effective in reducing stress, anger, fatigue
  • Many evidence proved that exercise plays a vital role in uplifting depression
  • Exercise improved the motivation and self-esteem in the person
  • Many people even report that they look and feel younger when they exercise regularly.
  • Exercise may help in increasing the feelings of coherence
  • Exercise increased the feelings of social integration
  • An exercise and depression study in which participants walked daily for even weeks found that the decrease in depressive mood and the improvement in vigor continued after five months.
  • Another exercise and depression study which compared exercise alone, medication alone, and exercise plus medication found lasting improvements after six months in participants who had exercised without medication.
  • When the participants continued to exercise the ongoing improvement was even greater. This study concluded that medication may produce quicker relief but exercise yields more long-term benefit.

For this reason having an exercise routine is always a benefit to our lives and can help us be happier individuals.  Given the stresses of the holidays it is even more important this time of year to continue or start an exercise program.  I can attest to the fact that the gym is pretty empty this time of year.  Besides if you are exercising you feel a lot less guilty about those cookies that you just ate, or that glass of egg nog you’re going to have tonight.  So, get out there, walk, jog, go to the gym, whatever it takes to burn a few calories, raise your heart-rate, burn off some cortisol and release some endorphins.  In the end you will feel better and probably live a longer, happier life.

I’m including a couple of resource articles on the various aspects of exercise and happiness for those who want to read a little more.  Happy Holidays!

Article on exercise and happiness from the psychological perspective:

http://www.exploringwomanhood.com/mindbodysoul/happiness-exercise.htm

It is exercise alone that supports the spirits, and keeps the mind in vigor.  ~Marcus Tullius Cicero

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